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The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Neeki Motabar
47 episodes
3 days ago

The patriarchy was built to outlive us. So I learned its rules, blindspots, loopholes, and lies so I could tear it apart from the inside out. If the system won’t burn down on its own, then we enter the building and light the match. 💋




"To learn the rules, you must play the game. To change the game, you must break the rules" - Anonymous


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The patriarchy was built to outlive us. So I learned its rules, blindspots, loopholes, and lies so I could tear it apart from the inside out. If the system won’t burn down on its own, then we enter the building and light the match. 💋




"To learn the rules, you must play the game. To change the game, you must break the rules" - Anonymous


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The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Girly law of power #27: Start being mean

Niceness is a scam. Being "nice" describes someone who is polite and pleasant to be around, focusing on surface-level interactions and social harmony. It's a performance. It's how the patriarchy grooms us for exploitation and disrespect, because the nice girl is taught to that being liked is more important than being respected.


Being mean is the opposite of that -- it's prioritizing being respected more than being liked. (& I don't mean acting like Regina George.)


In this episode, we discuss:

  • What it means to be mean
  • Why being mean is a form of self-protection & self-preservation
  • The 2 main reasons why people will use guilt, shame, and punishment to force you into being nice
  • An example of one of my fave historical baddies who was successfully mean


✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.


Love, Neeki xo

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🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com

🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon

💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays

💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off


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3 days ago
34 minutes 8 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
The big problem with the label "high value woman"

You're not a Pokemon or some kind of collectible, but the wrong type of people will see you as a commodity, something to collect.


🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com

🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon

💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays

💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off


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1 week ago
29 minutes 26 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Girly law of power #26: Stop being so available

We've been bamboozled into thinking that the more we're present and the more we prove ourselves, the more people will respect us. This is a load of crap. The truth is that the more people see you, the less they notice you. They'll take you for granted and respect you less. In this episode, we'll discuss:


  • The most valuable form of giving (that you're probably doing too much of)
  • Why we've been conditioned to think that more presence = more respect
  • How strategic absence relates to supply & demand, and how you can use this to your advantage
  • How to use absence, fantasy, and mystery to increase respect


✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.


Love, Neeki xo

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🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com

🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon

💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays

💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off


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2 weeks ago
29 minutes 10 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
I haven't been feeling like myself lately
Not gonna lie, editing this icked me out.

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2 weeks ago
21 minutes 5 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
The truth about online "divine femininity"

Being a woman is a gift, it's the highest form of being. Everything exists because of a woman, and we should celebrate and love ourselves unconditionally.


Lately, there’s been a wave of online “divine femininity” content that looks empowering at first… but it’s really patriarchy dressed up as spirituality. It tells women that to be “in our feminine” we need to sit back, receive, and let men lead, provide, and decide.


In this episode, I discuss:

  • Why “divine femininity” online is just old gender stereotypes repackaged
  • How it twists real spiritual and philosophical traditions
  • The difference between actual empowerment and limiting labels like “feminine” vs. “masculine”


If you’ve ever scrolled past those videos about “being in your feminine” and felt something was off, this episode is for you.


⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com

🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon

💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays

💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off


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3 weeks ago
39 minutes 41 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Girly law of power #25: Treat excuses as data, not truth

"People never do something just once" - Robert Greene


There's no such thing as an isolated incident, because people's actions are always part of a pattern of behaviour. However, the patriarchy made us believe the complete opposite, because accepting excuses keeps power where it is. The patriarchy is based on repetition: people repeat the same behaviours, institutions repeat the same patterns, cultures repeat the same stories.


The thing is, excuses are data, they reveal so much info!!! They're breadcrumbs people leave behind because they're not careful in covering their tracks...


In this episode, we'll discuss:

  • The reason why no one does something just once
  • A TEXTBOOK example of this (Chr*s Brown)
  • How accepting excuses creates a false reality
  • How this ties into people pleasing & other ways women have been conditioned
  • Common excuses used in relationships + the workplace, and the data you can gather from them


✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.


Love, Neeki xo


⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com

🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon

💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays

💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off


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1 month ago
45 minutes 37 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Why people pleasing traps you in mental poverty

People pleasing is rooted in superstitions like "If I give everything, then I'll finally be enough" and "If someone likes me, then I'll finally like myself." This way of thinking puts us in mental poverty, which keeps us trapped in survival mode. It's perfect for people who want to exploit our lack of boundaries, and it's harmful for us in every way.


⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com

🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon

💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays

💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off


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1 month ago
24 minutes 17 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
SURPRISE! Something to help your Sunday scaries 🫶
Surprise surprise! Here's a little bonus episode, a Q&A between Barbie & Ken. Play it in the background while you meal prep or have an existential crisis over the 40-hour work week. We discuss my ex coworkers discovering my podcast, getting dea*h wishes from haters, adjusting to life after quitting my job, drama & losing friends over my podcast, and some other silly things.

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1 month ago
58 minutes 16 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Girly law of power #24: Let go of the need to be liked

We're taught from a very young age that our social acceptance depends on being liked. However, the patriarchy assumes women will always want to be liked, so it relies on that desire to keep us compliant & constantly seeking social approval.


The thing is, most people don't even like themselves. So who cares if they don't like you. Besides, you're in a much better position to get what you want from the world when you don't give two hoots what others think.


In this episode, we get into:


  • The hidden reward/punishment system that keeps women stuck in a cycle of seeking validation
  • How being liked is a form of borrowed approval
  • Why letting go of the need to be liked removes one of the patriarchy's most effective control levers over women
  • How to leverage likeability to get what you want


Oh and enjoy the extremely unserious skit at the beginning of this episode.


✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.


Love, Neeki xo


⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com

🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon

💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays

💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off


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1 month ago
30 minutes 35 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Beware of "woke" men, they're dangerous

We tend to think that the alpha, macho men are dangerous because of their superiority complex (which is rooted in an inferiority complex). BUT what if I told you there's a category of men who are even more dangerous? They have a hidden agenda, a goal in mind, and they're clever enough to know how to push a woman's buttons. In this episode (whose topic you baddies voted on!), I get into why we need to be cautious of "woke" men (let's call them the deltas), especially romantically and professionally.


PS THE PATREON IS NOW LIVE!!! If you'd like to join our private community, complete monthly adventures on a specific patriarchy hack, get voting power on which girly law drops next, and unlock monthly bonus episodes, make sure to join here 🩷 (I've also opened up additional, limited spots to work with me 1:1!!!)


⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🖥️ Watch this episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com

💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays

💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off


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1 month ago
31 minutes 54 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Girly law of power #23: Stop competing with other women

Scarcity leads to competition which leads to dehumanization.


One of the gears that keeps the patriarchy turning is zero-sum thinking -- the belief that there's only a fixed amount of success, power, attention, or value to go around. So if someone else gets more, you must get less. This brainwashes us into believing in a scarcity mindset, which keeps us in the eternal rat race. Instead of seeing other women as allies, we perceive them as threats. Jealousy and envy oil the wheels of the patriarchy, and zero-sum thinking keeps those wheels turning on autopilot.


We'll discuss:

  • Why zero-sum thinking violates the very existence of the universe, which is rooted in abundance
  • Why women are conditioned to see other women as threats rather than allies
  • How rejecting artificial scarcity & having an abundance mindset are patriarchy hacks on an existential level
  • How to exit the plane of competition and enter the plane of creation


The opposite of competing isn't collaborating -- it's creating. As women, we already ARE creators. It's time to exit the rat race and get back in touch with the essence of our being.


✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.


Love, Neeki xo


PS THE PATREON IS NOW LIVE!!! If you'd like to join our private community, complete monthly adventures on a specific patriarchy hack, get voting power on which girly law drops next, and unlock monthly bonus episodes, make sure to join here 🩷 (I've also opened up additional, limited spots to work with me 1:1!!!)


⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🖥️ Watch this episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com

💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays

💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off


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1 month ago
30 minutes 50 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Is falling in love a patriarchal trap?

As little girls, many of us fantasize about falling in love and getting married. But boys don't do the same. Men don't romanticize falling in love, getting married, and being husbands in the way women do. It's not their life's goal to fall in love. They don't see marriage as an accomplishment. In this episode, we'll get into the truth behind "love."


I'll discuss what's really happening to our brains and hormones when we're "falling in love" (hint: it's a chemical reaction to push us to reproduce). Then we'll get into the social elements of falling in love, including the creation of marriage, and how love was weaponized as a tool to control women from the very start.


Btw here's the book The Female Brain by Dr. Louann Brizendine


⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com

🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon

💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays

💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off


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2 months ago
42 minutes 37 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Girly law of power #22: Use elicitation to bypass gatekeepers & egos

This one's crazy because we'll be discussing how to use an FBI-backed technique to get past the gatekeepers and the egos controlling the patriarchy. Because when we really boil it down, the patriarchy is just a bunch of insecure dudes who've institutionalized gatekeeping.


We'll discuss:

  • Why we can't simply ask for things outright
  • The mindset that keeps us stuck in limbo, asking for permission & waiting for opportunities
  • The art of elicitation and how to apply 5 of its techniques (there are 13 in total but 5 that are perfectly suited for our purposes)
  • How to elicit the answers we need without making the person defensive or suspicious


Btw here's Chase Hughes, the former military chief and expert on elicitation


✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.

Love, Neeki xo


⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com

🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon

💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays

💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off


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2 months ago
30 minutes 56 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Girly law of power #21: Stop giving the benefit of the doubt

If you're a sharp, clever woman but you find yourself being taken advantage of, this law is for you. While grace and forgiveness can be good things, giving most people the benefit of the doubt is a naive thing to do, especially as a woman. Because who benefits? Not you.


On top of that, we're often told that our intuition isn't reliable and we should focus on the cold, hard facts...which is idiotic because a gut feeling is the OUTCOME of empirical INPUTS that our brain has gathered unconsciously. So yeah, it's hard to explain why we have a gut feeling. But that doesn't make it any less valid.


In this episode, we'll discuss:

  • The surprising origin of "the benefit of the doubt"
  • How to unlearn the nice girl conditioning that fools us into blindly seeing the good in everyone
  • Why giving the benefit of the doubt is a way to avoid short-term discomfort while inviting long-term disrespect
  • How to stop giving the benefit of the doubt without coming off as a jerk


Btw here's the article I mentioned on short-term thinking


✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.

Love, Neeki xo


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2 months ago
44 minutes 56 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
8 types of anti-seducers: are you one of them?

Welcome to part 2 of my two-part series on 🌹seduction🌹


If you've ever felt frustrated that people don't seem to listen to you and take you seriously, or if you struggle with hyper-independence, self-sabotage, and masculine tendencies -- this is for you babe. This episode is all about 🥀anti-seduction🥀 and how it might be interfering with your ability to navigate and hack the patriarchy.


We discuss:

  • The 8 types of anti-seducers discuss in The Art of Seduction
  • What these 8 types look like for women
  • The wounded feminine side of each anti-seductress type
  • Some questions and reflections that serve as a starting place for you to reflect on your anti-seductive tendencies and begin to address them


Let's put our insecurities by the curb where they belong.


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3 months ago
36 minutes 5 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Girly law of power #20: Master the art of non-sexual seduction

WE HIT LAW 2️⃣0️⃣!!! To celebrate making it to this milestone, I’ve prepared a 2-part series for you on 🌹seduction🌹 If you're listening to this today, you're one of the OG baddies and I'm sosososo grateful for you ❤️ 

In this episode, I’m going to discuss how you can use the art of non-sexual seduction to grease people up (especially men), put them under your enchantment, and get what you want from them. Next week's episode will be about 🥀anti-seduction🥀

Because this is a special episode, we’re going to uno reverse the patriarchy onto the boys and dive into a patriarchy loophole that affects men. We’ll discuss:

  • 5 ways the patriarchy represses men
  • The seductress archetype from The Art of Seduction that’s best suited to exploit the patriarchy through non-sexual seduction
  • The 6 traits of this archetype mapped out to the 5 major ways the patriarchy represses men  
  • How to put this all together and use non-sexual seduction to exploit this and get what you want with your partner, coworker, boss, employees & everyone in between


✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.

Love, Neeki xo



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3 months ago
42 minutes 29 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
How morality has held women back for millennia

I'm back with Talia and we're discussing one of our fave topics: mOraLitY. In this chaotic convo we dive into:

  • What morality even is
  • How she's related to her evil, ugly step sisters (guilt, shame, and fear)
  • Why morality a tool used to control women and convince us that we need to be good girls
  • What to replace morality with
  • Sabrina Carpenter and Sexyy Red (the duo no one asked for) as examples of why it makes no sense to label things as "morally wrong/right"


🩷 Visit Talia's office hours on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠, ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠


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3 months ago
52 minutes 39 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Girly law of power #19: Treat your demons as your employees

We've been socialized to hide half of who we are. To repress traits that would help our success, like assertiveness, ambition, and self-prioritization. To be nice, agreeable, non-confrontational girls. To be the version of the woman who keeps the patriarchy alive. I say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!


In this episode, we discuss:

  • Why suppressing our demons actually makes us easy to manipulate
  • How most women are living as a version of themselves that they didn't create
  • Why the patriarchy is the real world embodiment of many men's demons


I know this episode is longer than usual, and that's because we're going to go through 5 common traits/emotions that most women suppress, including their job titles, job descriptions, and how you can flip the script & make them serve you. It's time to put these hoes on your payroll!


Btw here's the lifetraps quiz


✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.

Love, Neeki xo


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3 months ago
42 minutes 15 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
The ultimate patriarchy hack: being childfree (ft. "The Girl With The List" aka @z00mie)

I’m sure many of y’all know Abigail Porter aka @z00mie aka “The Girl With The List.” Abigail has built a following of over 1 million people with her content on destigmatizing the childfree lifestyle and educating women on what having kids is really like. 


🍒 Follow Abigail on TikTok and Instagram, and check out her upcoming merch line here

PS remember to take your birth control!!


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4 months ago
58 minutes 42 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Girly law of power #18: Refuse labels and become a shapeshifter

The woman no one can label is the woman no one can control, because you can't control what you can't define.


In this episode, we discuss:

  • How to avoid being like everyone else who dislikes themselves & try to conform
  • An example of a pop star who continues to use this law with crazy success (hint: she's in the 17th year of her career)
  • Why "I just want to be myself" and "I don't want to play games" are excuses for lazy, short sighted people
  • The psychological phenomenon behind being contradictory & how it can help you


✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.

Love, Neeki xo


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4 months ago
37 minutes 59 seconds

The Baddest Bitch in the Building

The patriarchy was built to outlive us. So I learned its rules, blindspots, loopholes, and lies so I could tear it apart from the inside out. If the system won’t burn down on its own, then we enter the building and light the match. 💋




"To learn the rules, you must play the game. To change the game, you must break the rules" - Anonymous


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