Ever feel like your texting style is running your love life? Think Keeley from Ted Lasso firing off twenty texts in a row, all emojis and urgency, versus Ted himself, who sends a goofy message and then goes on with his day. That’s the primary difference in the nervous system between anxious and secure attachment.
In this episode of The Attachment Trap Podcast, we delve into the Textual Tango, decoding the complex, often confusing, and sometimes panic-inducing world of dating texts. You’ll learn why three dots can feel like a cliffhanger, how your nervous system shapes the way you read “lol” vs. “haha,” and practical tools to text with calm, clarity, and confidence.
This episode is based on Chapter 9 of my book The Attachment Trap: Loving Without Losing Yourself. If you’re ready to take this deeper, visit https://emdrtim.com to grab the book or work with me one-on-one. Together, we can unravel anxious patterns and establish the secure connection you’ve been longing for.
Episode 9: The Textual Tango
Why your nervous system freaks out over three little dots…
Why dating texts trigger anxiety (and what to do).
How attachment styles show up in texting.
Sitcom stories: Friends, The Office, Ted Lasso.
The 10-Second Text Pause tool.
Reflection prompts from The Attachment Trap.