We’ve all become professionals at spotting red flags in dating. The late-night texts, the “I’m bad at commitment but let’s see where this goes,” the mysteriously empty apartment with three snakes but no furniture, we notice those instantly.
But here’s the thing: the opposite signs? The ones that actually point to someone being safe, steady, and worth your time? Those green flags? They tend to fly right under the radar. And that’s a problem, because calm love doesn’t always feel like love at first, especially if your nervous system is trained to expect chaos.
In this episode, we’re flipping the script. We’ll talk about why your body overlooks green flags, how actually to spot them in real life, and why the relationships that last are usually built on these quiet, steady signals.
And to bring it to life, we’ll look at some surprisingly powerful moments from Netflix’s Nobody Wants This. Not the dramatic, soap-opera kind of moments, but the ones that whisper safety:
A partner saying, “I want you to be you.”
Or simply, “I’m on your side.”
Or even reminding us that “love’s worth it, even if it doesn’t work out.”
These aren’t Instagram quotes. They’re nervous system anchors the kind of presence that helps you breathe easier, rest, and finally stop walking on eggshells.
So if you’ve spent years chasing the fireworks, maybe it’s time to notice the campfire because that’s what actually keeps you warm.
Join me for Episode 8 of The Attachment Trap Podcast: Green Flags, The Overlooked Signs of Someone Worth Getting to Know.