You know what’s worse than being ghosted? Realizing your nervous system has been trained to expect it and still feeling the pull toward the people who disappear. In Chapter 6 of my book, The Attachment Trap, I call this the ‘chemistry versus capacity’ trap. Chemistry is fireworks, hot, bright, unforgettable. But capacity? That’s the steady flame that doesn’t burn out when the night is over.

In this episode, we’re diving into breadcrumbing and ghosting those emotional haunted house rides that keep your survival brain hooked. We’ll explore why unpredictability feels magnetic, even when it should feel exhausting. And we’ll look at how your nervous system scans every text, every silence, and sometimes mistakes chaos for safety simply because it feels familiar.

We’ll even bring in romcom examples because movies like Materialists show us the difference between Harry’s flashy fireworks and John’s quiet campfire. One burns out. The other lasts.

So if you’ve ever caught yourself chasing the vanishing act or clinging to crumbs of attention, this episode is for you. Chapter 6 is all about learning how to rewire your system so you can stop chasing ghosts and start building love that actually feels like home. Don’t miss Episode 6 of The Attachment Trap Podcast: Breadcrumbs, Ghosts, and the Nervous System’s Rollercoaster. https://bit.ly/47zf3KB