Episode 3: Meet the Inner Crew Running Your Love Life
Based on Chapter 3 of The Attachment Trap: Loving Without Losing Yourself

Have you ever looked back at your dating history and thought, “Why do I keep choosing the same type of person in a slightly different outfit?” You’re not alone, and you’re not failing at love. You’re just following a script, your nervous system and inner parts have been running for years.

In this episode, we explore the hidden cast of characters inside you, like the Pleaser, the Fixer, the Guarded Over Achiever, and how they team up to create emotional loops that feel like love… but usually end in frustration.

To bring this to life, we swap Central Perk for the Ted Lasso universe and take a close look at Roy Kent and Keeley Jones, two people in love, but stuck in a loop. Roy’s Stoic Captain Part avoids vulnerability like it’s a red card, while Keeley’s Performer Part tries harder and harder to prove she’s enough. Sound familiar?

Here’s what we’ll unpack:

• Why “parts work” (IFS) can help you spot the internal voices guiding your dating life

• How your nervous system pulls you toward the familiar — even when the familiar is dysfunctional

• Why chemistry sometimes feels like fireworks, and sometimes like a five-alarm fire

• What to say to your protective parts when they want to overgive, overanalyze, or pull away

• Three simple tools to shift from reacting to repeating and start dating from Self

This episode is your invitation to stop blaming yourself and start listening inside. Because your parts aren’t sabotaging you, they’re trying to protect you, the only way they know how. And now? You get to choose a new way.

Because you’re not broken, you’re just protecting yourself. And protection doesn’t have to mean pushing love away.