Most men don’t hit rock bottom; they just drift. A few drinks after work, weekends on autopilot, telling themselves they’re 'fine'… until fine turns into stuck.
In episode 214 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox sits down with James Swanwick, former ESPN anchor, entrepreneur, and author of Clear: The Only Neuroscience-Based Method For High Achievers To Finally Break Free From Alcohol.
During this open conversation they talk about how easy it is for men to slide into mediocrity without even noticing.
They dig into:
Why 'socially acceptable drinking' quietly robs your energy, money, and relationships
The hidden cost of living at 6/10 when you could be at 9
How alcohol steals trust, not just from yourself, but from your family and business
What changes when you stop drifting and start living with clarity
This isn’t about waiting for rock bottom. It’s about recognising the drift and deciding to take the wheel back.
Connect with James:
Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/jamesswanwick
Wikipedia – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_Swanwick
Alcohol Free Lifestyle – www.alcoholfreelifestyle.com
Swanwick Sleep – www.swanwicksleep.com
Book (Clear) – https://www.amazon.com/CLEAR-Neuroscience-Based-Achievers-Drinking-Willpower/dp/B0DYPLB3HN
E-version - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1xIh6G6ZS8eF6YW3OQuWSEkE4ouHXa3oh/view
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Ben thought he was in control of alcohol, until every day started revolving around his next drink...
In episode 213 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox talks with Ben who, by his own account, was a normal bloke who looked like he had it all together on the outside, running a successful business and raising a family, but behind the scenes was starting to struggle, with drinking creeping further into his life and even shaping how he pictured his retirement.
Ben shares how drinking shifted from nights out with friends to solitary sessions at home, how the cycle crept in without him noticing, and what it took to finally break free.
His story moves from hiding bottles and making excuses to walking in nature, feeling present with his family, and seeing his future in a completely different light.
It’s a raw, relatable conversation about the messy middle of change, the doubt, the slips, the quiet wins, and the surprising freedom that comes when you finally stop negotiating with yourself over alcohol.
How drinking can quietly shift from social fun to a daily coping mechanism.
The small warning signs that signal it’s time for change.
Why being 'a normal bloke' on the outside can hide a deeper struggle.
The role of self-kindness in breaking long-standing habits.
Practical ways to replace alcohol with habits that actually help you unwind.
How life, work, and relationships can change in the first 8 months alcohol-free.
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Instagram: @thealcoholrethinkproject
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Willpower might get you started, but it rarely lasts...
In this week’s episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick is joined by listener-turned-guest Matthew, who got in touch after hitting his first sober anniversary.
This is a powerful, honest, and surprisingly relatable conversation about the messy (and meaningful) journey of quitting alcohol, from blackouts and panic attacks to the small wins that actually made the difference.
Get ready to hear about early cultural conditioning around alcohol to blackouts, hallucinations, chipped teeth, and panic attacks and why it all matters.
Matthew opens up about the moments that forced him to re-evaluate his drinking, and why this time, something felt different. Rather than another stretch of white-knuckling it with willpower, he’s found something more meaningful and sustainable.
Together, Patrick and Matthew explore what it really looks like to go from questioning your drinking to creating a life that genuinely feels better without it.
They talk about routines, brain chemistry, false beliefs, and the small wins that add up, from calmer mornings and clearer skin to more patience, creativity, and joy.
Whether you’re still trying to moderate, just starting out, or already alcohol-free, this episode is packed with insights, lived experience, and a reassuring reminder: you’re not alone, and change is possible.
Key Takeaways:
Matthews Music:
@itchylightswitch on Instagram
The Tunesmith Imaginary Themes on YouTube Imaginary Themes
Barcode Boy - Hungry Ghosts by Matthew Richards
The Normaltones Volume 1 on Soundcloud or YouTube Volume 1 by The Normaltones
Zptqvms on YouTube @zptqvms5933
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What if you didn’t need to hit rock bottom to rethink your relationship with alcohol?
In this week's episode of The Alcohol eThink podcast, Patrick explores the growing trend of people choosing to drink less, or not at all, not because they’ve 'got a problem,' but because they’re simply asking better questions.
You’ll hear how the sober-curious movement is gaining real traction in 2025, with nearly half of Americans planning to cut back and a wave of Gen Z and Millennials leading the charge.
From sober raves to supermarket trends, Patrick shares some surprising stats, personal reflections, and cultural shifts that show sobriety is no longer on the sidelines; it’s going mainstream.
You’ll also hear about a long list of high-profile men who’ve chosen to stop drinking, guys like Elton John, Tom Holland, Bradley Cooper, Ricky Gervais, and Colin Farrell, many of whom quit for reasons beyond addiction. They simply wanted to feel better, think clearer, and show up more fully in their lives.
Whether you’re sober, sober-curious, or still figuring it all out, this episode is a reminder that you don’t need a label. You just need the courage to get honest.
Some of the cool things discussed in this episode:
- The origins of the phrase 'sober-curious'
- Why more people are choosing not to drink in 2025 (and what the data says).
- The difference between sobriety, being sober-curious, California-sober and moderation.
- Why you don’t need a dramatic reason to take a break from alcohol.
- How social pressure still plays a role, but the tide is turning.
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Men, you do not have to suffer in silence.
There is help. There is hope. There is a way.
This is the message this week's episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast is spreading far and wide.
In this powerful and hard-hitting conversation, Patrick Fox is joined by mental health advocate, author, therapist, and motivational speaker, David Beeney, to explore the secret struggles many men keep buried, and what happens when you finally start talking about them.
David spent 36 years in a successful corporate career while silently battling panic attacks and anxiety. Not one person knew, not his family, his friends, or his colleagues. That silence almost cost him everything.
Together, Patrick and David dive into the reality of men’s mental health in the workplace, why so many guys put on a brave face, and how shame, humour, and distraction become armour.
They also reflect on the impact of losing a colleague and friend to suicide 20 years ago, and how it shaped both of their missions to help men open up, drop the mask, and ask for support.
This episode is about becoming comfortable with dropping the mask and getting honest with what’s actually going on for you.
Key takeaways:
- Why humour is often a mask for internal struggle
- The silent cost of hiding anxiety and panic attacks
- What’s really holding men back from speaking up
- How to spot signs that someone (including you) might be struggling
- The importance of self-compassion over self-criticism
- What changes when workplaces get mental health right
- Why being open is uncomfortable, and worth it
If you know someone who would benefit from hearing this conversation, please share and let them know why it might help them.
Connect with David:
Website: https://www.breakingthesilence.co.uk/
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Instagram: @thealcoholrethinkproject
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In this episode of The Alcohol Rethink Podcast, Patrick explores a common but overlooked belief many men hold when they stop drinking, the idea that sobriety will fix everything.
Drawing from personal experience and client stories, he reflects on why quitting alcohol is a powerful step, but not a magic solution. Patrick talks about the emotional ups and downs that can follow early sobriety, the expectations that often lead to frustration, and why it’s so important to see sobriety not as a quick fix, but as the foundation for something deeper.
Listeners will hear about what can happen when alcohol is no longer there to escape into, and how the real work, and opportunity, begins when we learn to face life fully. It’s a grounded, honest look at what it really means to live alcohol-free.
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So you’ve stopped drinking, now what?
In episode 208 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick shares what no one really talks about in early sobriety: the sneaky ways we trade one habit for another.
For him, it was swapping booze for bags of Haribo, biscuits, and secret chocolate runs. But it’s not just about sugar , it’s about how our brains crave comfort, familiarity, and quick hits of dopamine when we remove alcohol.
For many guys it can be zero beers, vaping, porn or even exercise.
Patrick helpss breaks down why this happens, how addiction isn't always what we think it is, and why being 'addicted' to alcohol doesn’t mean you're broken.
He dives into what’s really going on in the brain, what makes stopping drinking hard, and what makes it possible.
This episode is for any guy who’s wondered:
Why do I still feel the urge even after I’ve stopped drinking?
Am I just replacing one addiction with another?
Is this normal?
It’s honest, it’s hopeful, and it’s a reminder that slipping into new habits doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it means you're human.
Awesome takeaways from this episode:
Why the brain often swaps one addiction for another.
How to sit with discomfort instead of avoiding it.
Why sugar, coffee, or distractions often become the new “fix.”
What it really takes to break the cycle and build resilience.
Whether you're just starting out or deep in your alcohol-free journey, this one’s a must-listen.
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Ever find yourself thinking, 'Why do I keep doing this?
You made the promises, perhaps even a made plan, yet you find yourself back in that same cycle of drinking.
In this week's episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick speaks about something he sees come up often in his coaching and own life and that's The Frustration Trap
The cycle of being hard on yourself when drinking habits aren’t changing fast enough (or at all). He shares how this shows up for the men he works with, and in his own life, whether it’s on the football pitch, building a business, or getting his son ready for school.
You’ll hear how frustration can sneak in when we’re trying to create change, why it rarely works as motivation long term, and what to do instead.
There’s also a powerful moment from one of Patrick’s coaching clients celebrating six months alcohol-free, and the surprising advice that helped him most.
Some awesome takeaways from this week's show:
Why frustration often keeps you stuck (even if it feels like you’re taking action)
The real story behind your inner critic
How to respond to frustration with awareness instead of reaction
3 simple tools to break the frustration cycle
A reminder that being kind to yourself is far from weak, it’s essential
If you’ve ever felt fed up with yourself and your drinking and you want to break out of that rut, check out this episode and shifting how you see yourself and your drinking today.
Think different - feel different - do different.
Enjoy.
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In this week’s reflective episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick shares a personal moment from a recent night out in London that sparked some honest observations about alcohol, advertising, and the subtle ways we’re influenced.
From watching crowds spill out of pubs to reading headlines about potential restrictions on alcohol ads, Patrick explores how our beliefs around drinking are shaped, often without us even noticing.
He shares why he no longer feels like he’s missing out, how his relationship with alcohol has changed over the years, and why it’s so important to question what we’re being sold, literally and figuratively.
This isn’t a rant or a lecture, just some grounded thoughts, a few honest questions, and a reminder that change isn’t always loud… sometimes it’s just quietly noticing things differently.
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The landscape of men’s mental health is beginning to change, but there’s still a long way to go.
Men are notorious for trying to deal with things on their own, often afraid to reach out for help in case they’re seen as weak, soft, or not 'man enough.'
In this weeks powerful and heartfelt episode 205 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox sits down with Giancarlo Gaglione, founder of the Mental Health World Cup.
What begins as a conversation about a charity football tournament quickly opens into a raw, honest exploration of grief, vulnerability, and the importance of normalising conversations around mental health and suicide.
Giancarlo shares the moving story of how losing his younger brother in 2012 became the catalyst for building one of the UK’s most impactful mental health events.
He speaks openly about the pain of loss, the silence that often surrounds male mental health, and how sport, particularly football, has become a tool to bring men together and break down stigma.
This episode touches on topics some may find difficult, including suicidal thoughts, grief, and the challenges men face when asking for help. But it’s handled with care, compassion, and the belief that talking about these issues is not only important, it’s vital.
Key Takeaways:
Why being vulnerable is an act of bravery, not weakness
The evolution of societal attitudes toward suicide and mental health
The role football can play in opening up life-saving conversations
How Giancarlo turned personal tragedy into national impact
Signs someone might be silently struggling and how to respond
It’s a real, honest conversation that shows how powerful it can be just to open up. You don’t have to fix everything or have the perfect words, by starting to talk can make all the difference.
Find out more about Giancarlo and The Mental Health World-Cup here:
https://www.mentalhealthworldcup.org.uk/
Instagram: @mentalhealthworldcup
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What do Crocs, coaching, and quitting drinking have in common? More than you'd think...
In episode 204 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox, a life and sober coach for men, explores how the seemingly small stuff, like your opinion on someone’s shoes, can reveal the deeper belief systems driving your habits, including your relationship with alcohol.
Using everyday examples and coaching insights, Patrick unpacks how our brains use beliefs as shortcuts to interpret the world and how those beliefs often go unquestioned.
From identity-level thoughts like “I’m just a guy who likes a drink” to fear-based assumptions like “If I stop drinking, I’ll be miserable,” this episode invites listeners to pause, get curious, and realise: all beliefs are optional.
Cool takeaways you can expect to hear:
Why your beliefs, not alcohol, may be the real thing getting in your way
The difference between equivalence, cause-and-effect, and identity beliefs
How your brain filters reality through deletion, distortion, and generalisation
The power of suspending beliefs rather than fighting them
Why questioning what you believe about alcohol is the first step toward real change
If you're ready to take back control and feel more confident and self-assured in sobriety, this episode is a must-listen.
Work with Patrick:
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Connect with Patrick:
Website: patrickjfox.com
Instagram: @thealcoholrethinkproject
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The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.
Have you ever felt sad by the prospect of not drinking alcohol again?
If you have, you're not alone.
It's something that many men experience when rethinking alcohol, but isn't spoken about widely enough.
In episode 203 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox explores the often overlooked emotional side of quitting drinking, experiencing grief and saying goodbye to alcohol.
Not just the 'I’m done' kind of goodbye, but a deeper, more intentional letting go of alcohol and everything it once represented.
This episode includes a powerful message from a listener celebrating his one-year soberversary.
Patrick also explores why saying goodbye to alcohol isn’t just about changing habits, it’s about honouring loss, identity, and transition.
He shares how grief can show up unexpectedly, even months into sobriety and why that doesn’t mean you’re failing. In fact, it often means you’re doing the real work.
Patrick reflects on the role of ritual in humans, the stories our brains create, and how choosing to walk away from alcohol on your own terms is one of the most powerful things you can do.
This is a real, honest, and surprisingly uplifting episode about letting go… and moving toward what’s next.
Some awesome takeaways:
Saying goodbye to alcohol involves more than just not drinking.
Grief is a normal and often hidden part of the sobriety journey.
Old environments, holidays, and social settings can stir up feelings, not just cravings, but loss.
Rituals can help you process the end of a chapter and support your identity shift.
You're not weak for feeling like you're struggling, you're human, and that grief is a sign of growth.
Letting go with intention helps reclaim your power and clarity in sobriety.
Some cool ideas on how you can create your own ritual and say goodbye to alcohol in your life.
Work with Patrick:
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Connect with Patrick:
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Instagram: @thealcoholrethinkproject
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Welcome to episode 202 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, where Patrick Fox is joined by Amber Abila, a binge and overeating coach who helps people stop binge eating by changing how they think about food.
In this episode we discuss how habits form, why we often use food to cope (especially after quitting alcohol), and what it actually takes to feel in control again.
You'll also hear how binge eating, like drinking, is often just an attempt to deal with discomfort. Amber shares her story of going from obsessive dieting and bingeing to becoming someone who can eat mindfully, without fear or guilt.
Expect practical tools, honest insights, and plenty of parallels between food and alcohol habits, so if you’ve swapped wine for sugar or feel like you’re just bouncing from one coping strategy to another, this one’s for you.
Awesome Takeaways:
How binge eating and drinking often come from the same root causes
The power of seeing habits as just that, habits, not personal failings
Why scarcity mindset fuels overeating (and over-drinking)
The importance of slowing down and paying attention to what you're doing
Practical ways to build mindfulness into eating (or drinking) habits
Why learning to sit with discomfort is the key to long-term change
Connect with Amber;
Free gift! Get instant access to my guided audio to “Stop a Binge Before it Starts” HERE!
https://www.theconfidenteater.org/urge
For more tips to rewire your brain around food & stop binge eating for good:
Become a Confident Eater Podcast: https://www.theconfidenteater.org/podcast
Work with me in the Confident Eater Program: https://www.theconfidenteater.org/work-with-me
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theconfidenteater_/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@amberabila
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amber.abila.77/
Free Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/532434625387487/?mibextid=c7yyfP
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What if fear isn't the barrier you think it is, but the breakthrough you're ready for?
In episode 201 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox, life and sober coach for men, explores the 3 most common fears that hold men back from changing their relationship with alcohol.
From the fear of what others might think, to the fear of failure (or even success), to the fear of change itself.
Patrick breaks down how these mental blocks show up, and more importantly, how to move through them.
With real coaching examples, sharp reframes, and powerful mindset shifts, Patrick challenges listeners to start questioning the story fear is telling them.
Because more often than not, fear is a mile wide and an inch deep.
Changing your perspective of fear, has the potential to change your life.
Awesome takeaways in this episode:
Why fear of judgement is often rooted in your own beliefs about drinking
How to reframe 'I have a big drinking problem' into something that empowers rather than shames
What your fear of change is really trying to protect and how to work with it, not against it
The truth about your nervous system’s resistance and how to build new safety through sobriety
A reminder that you’re not broken, you’re just wired for survival
If you're ready to stop letting fear dictate your decisions and start rethinking alcohol for good, this episode is for you.
Work with Patrick:
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👉 Apply here
Connect with Patrick:
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Instagram: @thealcoholrethinkproject
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Welcome to this milestone 200th episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, where Patrick Fox welcomes renowned coach and author Rachel Hart for a powerful conversation on what truly drives our desire to drink.
Rachel shares her personal journey with alcohol, her struggle with black-and-white thinking, and the turning point that led her to radically shift how she viewed her relationship with drinking.
Rachel shares her groundbreaking framework of the eight Drink Archetypes - powerful identities that reflect the unconscious beliefs and needs driving our habits with alcohol.
From the Connector to the Escape Artist, Rachel explains how these archetypes reveal the emotional and psychological stories behind why we drink, and how to begin rewriting them.
This episode is packed with deep insights, personal reflections, and a fresh lens through which listeners can examine their own habits, without shame or self-judgment.
Rachel and Patrick unpack how beliefs shape behaviour, why shame keeps people stuck, and how curiosity, not control, is the key to change.
Whether you're exploring your own drinking or supporting someone else, this episode will leave you feeling seen, empowered, and better equipped to rethink your relationship with alcohol.
Connect with Rachel:
Website: https://rachelhart.com
The Drink Archetypes: https://rachelhart.com/drinkarchetypes/
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Do you hold back when it comes to giving yourself credit.. especially in sobriety or other areas of growth?
You’re not alone.
In this powerful episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick explores why so many men struggle to feel proud of themselves, even after making significant changes like stopping drinking.
Drawing on insights from his coaching work, Patrick unpacks the real reasons we downplay our progress, whether it’s fear of failure, childhood conditioning, cultural messaging, or perfectionism.
He reveals how suppressing pride can quietly sabotage long-term success, and why celebrating your wins isn’t just 'nice to do', it’s necessary for rewiring your brain and building lasting change.
Awesome topics you'll hear covered:
Where the fear of pride comes from
How comparison, imposter syndrome, and self-doubt keep men playing small
The neuroscience behind authentic pride, and how it supports sobriety
Why acknowledging progress is a key part of identity change
How to begin letting pride in, without guilt, shame, or fear
This episode is a call to stop shrinking, start celebrating, and own your evolution.
Because when you hold back pride, you hold back power.
Enjoy!
Buy Me A Coffee
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Ready to Stop Drinking? Start Here:
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👉 Join the challenge here
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Instagram: @thealcoholrethinkproject
What if what you think is helping you… is actually harming you?
We've been led to believe that alcohol is a solution to many of life's problems, but what if that's not true?
This week on The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick is joined by long-time broadcaster, author, holistic living expert, and founder of The Sober Club - Janey Lee Grace.
Together, they explore the often-unseen grip alcohol has on our lives, especially when it’s wrapped up in the illusion of self-care, success, or wellness.
Janey shares her story of waking up at 3am (and yes I see you nodding with that one), full of self-loathing, and how it took years, even as a wellness advocate, to truly see alcohol for what it was: the missing piece in her holistic lifestyle.
Get ready to hear how the messaging around alcohol keeps so many stuck in shame and denial, how seeking help is often met with minimisation or even dismissal (from the people we respect the most), and why you absolutely don’t need to hit 'rock bottom' to change your life.
You’ll also hear about the deeper work Janey now does beyond sobriety, particularly through Family Constellations, and why the journey of going alcohol-free is far more than a 30-day challenge, it’s a transformation at the soul level.
Some of the cool things they get into:
You don’t have to hit rock bottom to decide alcohol isn’t serving you.
Many people feel alone in their struggles, but they’re not.
The cultural programming around alcohol runs deep, and it keeps people stuck.
Sober life isn’t boring, it can be vibrant, creative, and expansive.
Removing alcohol often uncovers the real, authentic you, and why that’s a good thing.
There is incredible power in healing inherited beliefs and trauma.
Prepare to hear Janey’s honesty, humour, and deep understanding of what it means to truly live a purpose-led, alcohol-free life makes this a must-listen for anyone rethinking their relationship with drinking. 🔥🔥🔥
Connect with Janey Lee Grace:
Ready to Stop Drinking? Start Here:
The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide: - A simple guide featuring the top 3 podcast episodes, each with exercises to help you rethink alcohol for good.
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The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself.
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Why is it that real change feels easier to imagine after you've done the very thing you said you wouldn’t?
In episode 197 of The Alcohol Rethink Podcast, Patrick explores why it's so common to feel a surge of clarity after drinking, overeating, or falling into old habits, and why that moment holds incredible power for change if you use it right.
He shares practical ways to reflect without beating yourself up, highlighting the difference between simply thinking about drinking and feeling an urge to drink, and shares how to plan for triggers like sunny weather and barbecues as summer approaches.
Key Takeaways:
Why you often reflect on change after the event, not before, and why that's normal.
The crucial difference between a drinking thought and a drinking urge.
How to use post-action reflection for building awareness, not shame.
Why sunshine, holidays, and barbecues can spark old drinking thoughts, and how to plan ahead for them.
How learning to observe your thoughts without reacting can help you stay in control.
This episode will help you to rethink how you respond to the unexpected thoughts that pop up, and remind you that awareness, not perfection, is the real goal.
What could change for you if you learned to listen to your mind without making it mean something has gone wrong?
Ready to Stop Drinking? Start Here:
The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide: - A simple guide featuring the top 3 podcast episodes, each with exercises to help you rethink alcohol for good.
👉 Get your guide here
The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself.
👉 Join the challenge here
Work with Patrick:
Stop waiting and start creating a life free from alcohol
👉 Apply here
Connect with Patrick:
Website: patrickjfox.com
Instagram: @thealcoholrethinkproject
Facebook Group: The Alcohol ReThink Project
What really happens when you stop sedating yourself with alcohol?
In this powerful and thought-provoking episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick is joined once again by the brilliant William Porter, author of the bestselling Alcohol Explained series and Nicotine Explained.
Together, they unpack the subtle but significant ways alcohol sedates our bodies and minds, and why that sedation comes at a steep cost to our health, energy, emotional resilience, and enjoyment of life.
They explore what alcohol is really doing when it feels like it’s helping, how it impacts sleep, mood, and motivation, and why many people feel flat or bored when they stop drinking.
William also breaks down the craving cycle, social beliefs about alcohol, and what it takes to start feeling truly alive again.
Whether you're just starting to rethink your drinking or deep into your sober journey, this episode will challenge your assumptions and give you a fresh perspective on what alcohol really takes away, and what you stand to gain by leaving it behind.
Some of the awesome takeaways from this episode:
Why alcohol’s relaxing effect is a short-term illusion and how it actually sedates your energy and emotions
The truth about anhedonia (the flat, joyless feeling) in early sobriety
How cravings are really thought loops, not random urges
Why TV, socialising, or hobbies may feel “less fun” after quitting, and what to do about it
How alcohol subtly hijacks your life, from your evenings to your identity
The surprising truth about social anxiety, placebo effects, and what alcohol doesn’t really do
How to replace sedation with true coping tools and emotional regulation
As ever, Patrick & William will leave you thinking and understanding the reasons you drink in a whole new way.
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Ready to Stop Drinking? Start Here:
The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide: - A simple guide featuring the top 3 podcast episodes, each with exercises to help you rethink alcohol for good.
👉 Get your guide here
The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself.
👉 Join the challenge here
Work with Patrick:
Stop waiting and start creating a life free from alcohol
👉 Apply here
Connect with Patrick:
Website: patrickjfox.com
Instagram: @thealcoholrethinkproject
Facebook Group: The Alcohol ReThink Project
In this episode, I’m joined by fellow sobriety coach Adriana Cloud for a real and honest conversation about what it actually looks like to rethink alcohol, especially when you don’t fit into the typical boxes of being an “alcoholic” or a “normal drinker.”
Adriana shares her journey from being a daily drinker to choosing a life without alcohol, and how it didn’t happen overnight.
We talk about the constant back-and-forth so many people experience: the deals we make with ourselves, the fear of giving up alcohol completely, and the belief that life without it would be dull or grey.
Cool topics we explore:
- Why cutting back feels safer than stopping altogether
- The uncomfortable truths about how we use alcohol to avoid feelings
- What makes sobriety feel hard at first, and what changes over time
- The importance of gathering evidence that you can be okay without it
- How tools like hypnosis can help change patterns on a deeper level
Whether you're still negotiating with yourself or already on the path, this episode offers honest reflections, useful questions, and a reminder that it’s okay to take your time.
You don’t have to have it all figured out.
You just have to start where you are.
9 Questions To ReThink Alcohol:
1. Are you drinking because you enjoy it, or because you're trying to tolerate something?
2. What deals or rules have you made with yourself about drinking?
3. Do you really want the drink, or are you trying to avoid a feeling?
4. What do you believe alcohol gives you?
5. What do you believe a life without alcohol would look like?
6. What evidence can you start gathering that you’re okay without alcohol?
7. Why do you feel it’s only “acceptable” to be your full self when you’re drinking?
8. What were you really using alcohol for, and what are some new ways you could meet that need?
9. When you imagine a future version of yourself—10 years alcohol-free, what is that person like?
Connect with Adrianna
Website: adrianacloud.com
Ready to Stop Drinking? Start Here:
The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide: - A simple guide featuring the top 3 podcast episodes, each with exercises to help you rethink alcohol for good.
👉 Get your guide here
The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself.
👉 Join the challenge here
Work with Patrick:
Stop waiting and start creating a life free from alcohol
👉 Apply here
Connect with Patrick:
Website: patrickjfox.com
Instagram: @thealcoholrethinkproject
Facebook Group: The Alcohol ReThink Project
