Why is such a small word—“no”—so damn hard to say?
In this episode of The Air is Free, Sue and Frida get real about the emotional gymnastics so many of us do when we want to say no... but end up saying yes. From people-pleasing to over-committing, they unpack the cultural conditioning, guilt, and internal dialogue that keeps us stuck in the “yes trap.”
You’ll hear:
How to recognize when guilt is running your decisions
Simple ways to say no (without a TED Talk worth of excuses)
Why every “no” is a powerful “yes” to yourself
How horses model clear, judgment-free boundaries
A practical weekly challenge to build your “no” muscle
If you’re exhausted from doing too much or constantly putting yourself last, this episode is your invitation to set boundaries without apology.
🎧 Hosts: Sue Willoughby & Frida Karsberg
🐴 Bonus: What horses can teach us about saying no with calm confidence.
Chapters
00:00 The Challenge of Saying No
04:07 Understanding Boundaries and Guilt
07:08 The Impact of People-Pleasing
10:07 Learning from Horses: Healthy Boundaries
13:09 Assessing Requests: The Art of Saying No
15:59 Self-Care and Saying No
18:56 Taking Action: Practical Steps to Say No
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