In this engaging mailbag episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, hosts Ryan and Mike tackle pressing listener questions about parenting children with ADHD. How can parents help their prompt-dependent child become more independent with daily tasks? What are the pros and cons of homeschooling for a child who is thriving in school? And what types of screen time should be limited for kids, especially those with ADHD?
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[00:01:48] Prompt dependence and cause-effect thinking.
[00:05:06] ADHD medication decision-making.
[00:09:20] Homeschooling vs. traditional schooling.
[00:10:26] Expertise in Education Professionals.
[00:15:03] ADHD and bedtime challenges.
[00:19:36] Screen time limitations for children.
[00:22:31] Screen addiction and ADHD.
[00:24:14] Screen addiction in children.
[00:27:38] ADHD resources and support.
In this episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, hosts Ryan and Mike dive into their top six tips for a successful summer with ADHD children. How can parents create a structured environment that fosters executive functioning skills? What are the best strategies for managing screen time and ensuring face-to-face socialization? They also explore the importance of independent experiences away from home and the potential pitfalls of a "medication vacation" during the summer. Tune in to discover practical advice that could transform your child's summer experience!
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[00:00:58] Structure is critical for ADHD.
[00:04:38] Teen summer programs and jobs.
[00:09:28] Summer camp and executive function.
[00:10:02] Screen time and ADHD.
[00:14:18] Screen-free summer benefits.
[00:18:05] Outdoor play is essential.
[00:20:02] Utilizing community resources for kids.
[00:23:15] Extended school year misconceptions.
[00:27:12] Summer camps for ADHD children.
[00:30:08] Independent experiences away from home.
[00:34:40] Conditional relationships for ADHD kids.
[00:37:04] Professional advice disclaimer.
This episode features a real coaching call conducted by Ryan. He engages with Melissa, the mother of 10-year-old Jimmy, who faces challenges with ADHD and emotional regulation. They delve into the complexities of managing disrespectful language and impulsive behavior at home and school. How can parents effectively address everyday rudeness without escalating tensions? What strategies can help Jimmy navigate sibling dynamics and seek peer validation?
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[00:02:38] Disrespectful language at home.
[00:04:32] Communication and tone awareness.
[00:07:11] Emotional regulation in children.
[00:10:56] Assertiveness skills for siblings.
[00:14:05] Cause and effect in behavior.
[00:17:38] Understanding peer feedback dynamics.
[00:20:22] Social validation and perspective taking.
[00:23:16] ADHD Parenting Podcast insights.
In this bonus episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, Mike welcomes Dr. Alison Yeung, a family doctor from Ontario, Canada, who shares her insights on the alarming rise of screen addiction among children with ADHD. What are the hidden dangers of screens that parents might not be aware of? How can families navigate the challenges of technology while fostering healthier habits? Dr. Yeung discusses her four M's for managing screen time and the critical five R's for determining when a child is ready for a smartphone.
Find Dr. Yeung on Instagram @thesmartphoneeffectmd
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In this episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, hosts Ryan and Mike tackle pressing listener questions about managing ADHD in children. How can parents effectively communicate with grandparents about screen time limits? What strategies can help a withdrawn child reconnect with friends? They delve into the complexities of using declarative language and the importance of understanding time for kids with ADHD.
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[00:01:27] Screen time and grandparents' influence.
[00:04:43] Parental authority and screen time.
[00:08:38] Parenting strategies for screen time.
[00:10:54] Screen time and child development.
[00:13:28] Screen addiction in children.
[00:16:38] Negative attention stimulation disorder.
[00:20:37] Time blindness in children.
[00:25:28] Executive function delays in children.
[00:28:04] Understanding masking in children.
[00:30:41] The impact of masking narratives.
[00:34:00] Positive attributes in children.
[00:36:28] The normalcy of masking.
In this episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, hosts Ryan and Mike offer their top four tips for fathers of children with ADHD. They explore the critical understanding that ADHD is not a character flaw but a developmental delay—how can this knowledge transform a father's approach to parenting? They also discuss the importance of sharing daily routines and engaging in non-screen-based activities with kids.
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[00:01:09] ADHD is not a character flaw.
[00:03:36] ADHD as executive functioning delay.
[00:07:45] Tag teaming parenting responsibilities.
[00:10:40] Experiential parenting without screens.
[00:15:23] Parental authority and ADHD.
[00:17:06] ADHD and parental authority.
[00:20:53] Parental fear and authority.
In this episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, hosts Ryan and Mike tackle the complexities of sibling relationships in families with ADHD. How can parents effectively manage sibling conflict without escalating tensions? What strategies can help redirect negative attention-seeking behaviors? They explore the importance of creating structured environments and setting realistic expectations for sibling dynamics. Listen to discover practical tips and insights that can transform the way families navigate these challenges.
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[00:01:24] Sibling conflict and ADHD.
[00:03:44] ADHD and sibling dynamics.
[00:08:41] Sibling dynamics and ADHD expectations.
[00:10:06] Sibling dynamics with ADHD.
[00:13:40] Sibling relationships and conflict.
[00:16:16] Sibling relationships and ADHD.
[00:21:34] Shared experiences build sibling relationships.
[00:22:20] Question submission for podcast.
In this episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, hosts Ryan and Mike delve into the essential do's and don'ts for navigating the school environment with children who have ADHD. What are the pitfalls parents often fall into when dealing with teachers? How can parents foster self-advocacy skills in their children to promote independence? As they share their extensive experiences in education, they reveal why more accommodations might not always be better and how to avoid enabling learned helplessness. Tune in to discover practical strategies that can transform your approach to supporting your child's educational journey!
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[00:02:28] School partnership program benefits.
[00:03:32] Teacher-parent relationship dynamics.
[00:08:26] Teacher training on ADHD awareness.
[00:10:50] Teacher training on ADHD.
[00:14:25] Over-accommodating students in education.
[00:16:06] Accommodations and fading support.
[00:22:43] Homework and parent-child dynamics.
[00:23:49] Parenting for child independence.
[00:27:24] Teaching self-advocacy skills.
[00:30:37] Rethinking education for ADHD kids.
[00:33:40] 504 Plans and Consequences.
[00:38:05] ADHD and bullying perceptions.
[00:39:30] Collaborative approach in education.
Ryan & Mike tackle another batch of questions directly from parents like you! If you would like your question answered on a future episode, please leave and rating or review on Apple Podcasts. Grab a screen capture of your review and email it, along with your question to:
theadhdparentingpodcast@gmail.com
Please include your child's age and medication regimen if that is applicable to the question.
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[00:02:17] Self-awareness in ADHD.
[00:04:41] ADHD as a brain description.
[00:07:17] ADHD doesn't define your life.
[00:10:25] ADHD decision-making struggles.
[00:14:12] Anxiety and indecisiveness in children.
[00:17:40] Anxiety and decision-making skills.
[00:20:05] ADHD medication effectiveness and safety.
[00:23:45] ADHD and executive functioning skills.
[00:27:16] Recommended treatment for ADHD.
[00:30:27] Parenting and ADHD awareness.
[00:33:15] Healthy debate about screens.
In this episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, hosts Ryan and Michael dive deep into the complex issues of school refusal and anxiety, particularly in children with ADHD. Joined by expert Kristen McNeely, they explore the critical differences between school avoidance and school refusal—what triggers these behaviors, and how can parents effectively respond? Are well-meaning accommodations actually reinforcing anxiety? As they unravel the misconceptions surrounding anxiety management, listeners will discover actionable strategies to support their children and learn why collaboration with schools is essential. Listen to learn what steps can parents take to prevent school refusal from becoming a long-term issue.
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[00:01:15] School refusal and anxiety.
[00:05:01] ADHD and school refusal connection.
[00:08:35] Family accommodations for anxiety.
[00:12:14] Accommodating children's anxiety misconceptions.
[00:15:10] SPACE therapy for childhood anxiety.
[00:20:49] Home environment for school refusal.
[00:21:40] Competitive reinforcers and school avoidance.
[00:25:34] School refusal and virtual learning.
[00:30:25] Enlisting supporters for school refusal.
[00:32:22] School refusal is treatable.
[00:35:40] ADHD resources and support.
In this episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, hosts Ryan and Michael engage in a thought-provoking discussion with special guest Lenore Skenazy, founder of Let Grow. They explore the critical importance of free play and independence for children, particularly those with ADHD.
Find Let Grow @ www.letgrow.org
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[00:02:36] Importance of kids' independence.
[00:04:45] Importance of free play.
[00:09:12] Internal locus of control.
[00:12:18] Screen addiction and outdoor play.
[00:14:24] Letting go of parental control.
[00:20:38] Parenting children with ADHD independence.
[00:21:22] Parental fears and children's independence.
[00:26:06] ADHD parenting challenges.
[00:29:27] Let Grow Play Club concept.
[00:35:01] Feeling useful and competent.
[00:35:57] Independence as therapy for anxiety.
[00:41:06] Importance of free play.
[00:42:21] Kids' independence and free play.
[00:46:46] Kids' independence and responsibility.
[00:50:03] Let Grow experiences and anecdotes.
In this episode, Mike & Ryan discuss an insighful comment left by a parent on a video from Ryan's channel about moving kids from "prompt dependence" to independence.
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[00:02:30] Executive functioning skills development.
[00:05:30] Performance disorder, not attention disorder.
[00:09:38] Creating disability in children.
[00:10:42] Youth mental health crisis.
[00:15:40] The challenges of parenting.
[00:20:22] Outdoor play benefits for children.
[00:21:05] Outdoor play and mental health.
[00:24:27] Real world vs. virtual world.
[00:27:38] High expectations and empathy.
This episode gets into the critical topic of parent training as the recommended treatment for children with ADHD, and how this compares with executive function coaching.
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[00:00:50] Parent training for ADHD treatment.
[00:05:42] Time horizon in ADHD children.
[00:08:04] ADHD and therapy effectiveness.
[00:12:00] Parent training in executive functioning.
[00:14:28] Importance of outdoor play.
[00:18:48] Independence and quality of life.
[00:21:57] Effective parent training strategies.
[00:27:07] Executive functioning in parenting.
[00:28:41] Independence and executive functioning skills.
[00:30:29] Parenting challenges and screen addiction.
[00:34:25] Things worsen before they improve.
In this episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, hosts Ryan and Mike get into the often misunderstood concept of family accommodation. What happens when parents unintentionally reinforce their child's inflexibility and anxiety? Can accommodating behaviors actually make things worse for both the child and the family dynamic? As they explore practical strategies to reduce these accommodations, they pose critical questions: How can parents reclaim their authority without sacrificing connection? What role do supporters play in this transformative process?
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[00:02:28] Family accommodation and its effects.
[00:03:43] Family accommodation and ADHD behaviors.
[00:09:10] Family accommodation and emotional dysregulation.
[00:12:04] Authoritative parenting benefits.
[00:15:05] Enlisting supporters for children.
[00:19:49] Parenting strategies for ADHD children.
[00:21:12] Parenting shifts and control loss.
[00:24:12] Reducing family accommodation anxiety.
[00:27:45] Mailbag episode - questions welcome.
In this episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, hosts Ryan and Michael engage in a thought-provoking discussion with guest Emily Cherkin, the Screentime Consultant. They delve into the paradox of technology in education—does it truly enhance learning, or is it hindering essential skills? As schools increasingly rely on devices like Chromebooks, how can parents navigate the challenges of screen time and its impact on their children's social skills? What strategies can families employ to opt out of excessive tech use in schools? Tune in to discover the answers and empower your parenting journey!
Find Emily @ thescreentimeconsultant.com
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[00:00:11] Friction and learning in technology.
[00:06:16] Tech intentional vs. EdTech failure.
[00:08:39] Chromebook homework battles.
[00:11:45] Technology's impact on social skills.
[00:15:11] Skills before screens.
[00:19:40] Technology's role in education.
[00:21:43] Opting out of digital learning.
[00:24:30] Opting out of school screens.
[00:28:20] Navigating 504 plans and IEPs.
[00:30:45] Digital distractions in classrooms.
[00:35:40] Power in numbers for parents.
[00:38:10] Low demand parenting misconceptions.
[00:41:58] Unplug EdTech Toolkit.
In this episode, hosts Ryan and Michael engage in a thought-provoking discussion with Dr. Camilo Ortiz, the creator of Independence Therapy. They explore the alarming rise of anxiety in children and the surprising role of parental overprotection. What are the hidden dangers of micromanaging kids? Can fostering independence actually reduce anxiety? As they delve into the innovative approach of Independence Therapy, listeners will discover how discomfort, risk, and the "4 D's" can empower children.
Find Dr. Ortiz @ www.drcamiloortiz.com
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[00:03:57] Kids' independence and anxiety.
[00:06:09] Overprotection and child anxiety.
[00:09:25] Risks of child independence.
[00:12:39] Permissive parenting and anxiety.
[00:16:35] Mega doses of independence.
[00:22:32] Independence and grit in children.
[00:23:32] Getting out of comfort zones.
[00:28:22] Reducing family accommodation in ADHD.
[00:32:19] Pseudoscience in neurodiverse parenting.
[00:36:10] Eliminating demands parenting consequences.
[00:39:03] National licensure for telehealth.
Ryan and Mike discuss the critical topic of prioritizing long-term goals for children with ADHD. They explore the challenges of time blindness and the importance of fostering self-awareness and accountability in young adults. Are parents inadvertently over-accommodating their children, and how does this impact their future independence? What practical strategies can parents implement to ensure their kids develop essential executive functioning skills?
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[00:00:39] Long-term goals for ADHD children.
[00:03:48] ADHD and self-awareness challenges.
[00:08:25] Accountability in IEPs.
[00:10:25] IEPs and long-term accountability.
[00:15:01] Feel-good parenting on social media.
[00:19:10] Social media and parenting narratives.
[00:20:35] ABA vilification and misconceptions.
[00:24:33] Anti-science movement in mental health.
[00:27:36] Expectations for children with ADHD.
[00:30:53] Cultivating flexibility in children.
[00:34:15] Realistic future conversations with teens.
[00:36:49] Executive functions and success.
Ryan and Michael discuss their top tips for a successful school year for children with ADHD. They cover the importance of not tainting the parent-child relationship over homework, the benefits of enlisting supporters, and the significance of letting children communicate with their teachers independently. They also touch on the impact of written agendas, setting limits on Chromebook usage, and the value of realistic IEP goals. The guys emphasize the need for a good relationship with teachers and offer insights on navigating school challenges.
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[00:02:08] Do not toxify homework relationship.
[00:04:09] Homework strategies for ADHD children.
[00:08:17] Kids' Homework Communication with Teachers.
[00:11:47] Learned helplessness and self-advocacy.
[00:15:03] Importance of school activities.
[00:17:43] Therapy oversaturation in children.
[00:19:41] Kids are anti-fragile.
[00:22:08] Incorporating agendas for homework.
[00:26:02] Managing homework distractions.
[00:29:27] Teacher training challenges.
[00:32:20] Executive functioning challenges in schools.
[00:36:53] Unstructured play at school.
[00:39:16] Non-sporty kids and alternative activities.
[00:42:29] Maintaining positive teacher relationships.
[00:45:36] ADHD kids and accountability.
[00:48:57] Resiliency and dealing with challenges.
[00:50:47] Negative teacher talk repercussions.
[12:45:22] Mental health conditions.
The ADHD Guys welcome their very first guest on the podcast, Dr. Katie Davis, to discuss the difference between diagnoses, labels, and educational classifications. They get into the confusion surrounding these terms and explore the impact of social media on parenting kids with ADHD.
Find Katie @ www.drkatiedavis.com and her Substack
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[00:01:49] Substack and maternity leave project.
[00:04:28] Difference between diagnosis and label.
[00:09:50] Educational Classifications and Stigma.
[00:14:10] Misdiagnosis and treatment implications.
[00:15:29] Social media pressure on parents.
[00:19:55] Labels and confusion in diagnosis.
[00:24:51] Sensory processing disorder label.
[00:29:29] Oppositional Defiance Disorder in ADHD.
[00:31:29] ADHD as a evolving spectrum.
[00:36:42] Self-diagnosing through online communities.
[00:39:07] Benefits of authoritative parenting.
[00:41:57] ADHD resources and services.
In this episode, Ryan and Michael dive into concerning trends in parenting social media, uncovering misinformation and pseudoscience that may be impacting families. They discuss topics like the rise of ADHD influencers, the dangers of self-diagnosing, and the controversial idea that screens help kids self-regulate.
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[00:02:40] Self-diagnosing social contagion of PDA.
[00:06:20] Pathological Demand Avoidance.
[00:07:20] Self-diagnosing children with PDA.
[00:10:50] Fear mongering in parenting.
[00:16:20] Planned Ignoring for Better Behavior.
[00:17:20] Sensory-seeking behaviors in children.
[00:21:56] Misunderstandings about ADHD.
[00:24:17] Neurodiverse affirming.
[00:30:04] Lived experience vs. education.
[00:31:53] Kids do well if they can.
[00:36:50] Parental authority and discipline.
[00:37:43] Warped social relationships and parenting.
