Download: The ANT Catcher Worksheet Have you ever felt like your mind was invaded by a constant stream of tiny, negative whispers? Like there's an army of ants crawling through your head, each one carrying a toxic message that you're not good enough, you can't handle it, or you're going to fail? In this powerful episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric reveal the hidden enemy that might be sabotaging your recovery without you even knowing it. They introduce you to ANTs – Automatic Negative Thoughts – those lightning-fast, barely noticeable thoughts that create a vicious cycle of pain, triggers, and destructive behaviors. Drawing from cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), one of the most research-backed therapeutic approaches available, the hosts break down the critical connection between your thoughts, feelings, and actions. They explain how changing just one corner of this triangle can transform your entire emotional experience. But here's the game-changer: most of us try to change our behaviors through pure willpower, completely missing the thoughts that are actually driving the whole cycle. These automatic thoughts happen so fast they're almost subconscious, yet they have the power to hijack your entire day – and your recovery. Duane and Eric don't just identify the problem; they give you practical tools to fight back. They introduce the concept of "metacognition" – thinking about your thinking – and show you how to become a scientist of your own mind. By learning to spot these mental ants, you create psychological distance from them and stop seeing them as the absolute truth. The episode includes a 24-hour mission designed to help you become an "ant hunter," complete with specific steps for catching and labeling these thoughts without judgment. You'll learn why physically writing down these thoughts is so powerful and how this simple practice can be the foundation for lasting change. Whether you're in recovery, supporting someone who is, or just tired of being controlled by negative self-talk, this episode offers hope and practical strategies. The hosts provide a free worksheet to help you track your progress and emphasize the importance of being gentle with yourself as you discover these hidden patterns. This isn't about positive thinking or willpower – it's about awareness, understanding, and gradually taking back control of your mental landscape one thought at a time. Key Topics • ANTs Explained: What automatic negative thoughts are and how they operate below conscious awareness  • The CBT Triangle: How thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are interconnected and influence each other  • Metacognition Techniques: Learning to observe your thoughts rather than being controlled by them  • The Ant Spotting Exercise: Practical 24-hour mission to catch and label negative thoughts  • Why Willpower Fails: Understanding why behavior change without addressing thoughts doesn't work  • Writing vs. Thinking: The power of physically recording your thoughts for lasting change  • Self-Compassion in Recovery: Being gentle with yourself while developing awareness Key Timestamps • [00:01:00] - Introduction to the "mental infestation" concept and ANTs metaphor • [00:03:00] - Real examples of how automatic negative thoughts trigger destructive behaviors • [00:06:00] - Introduction to CBT and the thoughts-feelings-behaviors triangle • [00:07:00] - Dr. Aaron Beck's research and the science behind automatic negative thoughts • [00:09:00] - The concept of "defusion" - separating yourself from your thoughts • [00:12:00] - The 24-hour ANT spotting mission explained step-by-step • [00:14:00] - Practical tips for tracking thoughts and the importance of writing them down See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Melody Glenn, an addiction and emergency medicine physician with a flair for creative writing, joins Duane to share insights from her upcoming book, "Mother of Methadone: A Doctor's Quest, a Forgotten History, and a Modern Day Crisis." Together, they unpack the legacy of Dr. Marie Nyswander, a trailblazer in methadone maintenance who reshaped addiction treatment. Dr. Glenn offers a candid perspective on her own journey in addiction medicine, revealing the transformative power of medications like methadone and buprenorphine. Despite their proven effectiveness, these treatments are met with skepticism, reflecting the broader challenge of integrating addiction medicine into mainstream healthcare. Our discussion takes a deep dive into the multifaceted nature of addiction, beyond mere physical dependence. We explore how methadone and buprenorphine provide a lifeline for individuals, helping them reclaim stability and repair relationships. The conversation also challenges the stigma of addiction, advocating for harm reduction strategies that prioritize individual empowerment over punitive measures. By recognizing people as experts of their own lives, we highlight the inefficacy of traditional abstinence-only models and underscore the importance of supportive systems for recovery. Dr. Glenn's insights serve as a powerful reminder of the need for compassionate, informed approaches in tackling substance use disorders. In this episode, you will hear:Dr. Melody Glenn previews her book, "Mother of Methadone," on Dr. Marie Nyswander's methadone work.Examining methadone and buprenorphine's impact on opioid disorder despite skepticism and stigma.Advocating for harm reduction over abstinence-only models, focusing on patient empowerment.Recognition of addiction as a treatable condition to combat stigma.Trauma's role in addiction and the need for supportive recovery systems.Barriers in addiction medicine, pushing for compassionate healthcare integration. Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: Article Dr. Melody Glenn https://www.drmelodyglenn.com/ NovusMindfulLife.com https://www.theaddictedmind.com/community  Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this exciting episode of Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the fascinating world of the Johari Window, a powerful tool for enhancing self-awareness and understanding in relationships. They explore how this simple yet profound model can illuminate the various aspects of ourselves—what we know, what we don't know, and what others see in us. From discussing how to navigate personal blind spots to the significance of revealing hidden strengths, this episode is packed with insights on improving communication, recovery, and personal growth. Whether you're on a quest for self-discovery or aiming to deepen your connections with others, this episode offers valuable strategies to expand your open area, embracing both the visible and hidden parts of your identity. Download: The Johari Window Worksheet Key Topics:The basics and importance of the Johari Window in self-awareness.Strategies for exploring and expanding the open area of the Johari Window.The role of recovery communities in identifying and addressing blind spots.The impact of self-awareness on personal growth and recovery.How to safely navigate the hidden and unknown areas of ourselves.Key Moments:- [00:00:00] Introduction to the episode and significance of the Johari Window.- [00:01:34] Explanation of how self-awareness affects decision-making and relationships.- [00:02:46] The Johari Window as a tool for recovery and growth.- [00:03:46] Detailed breakdown of each quadrant in the Johari Window.- [00:07:29] Discussing the hidden area and its impact on personal and relational dynamics.- [00:11:03] Exploration of the unknown quadrant and its mysteries.- [00:14:06] Conclusion and resources for applying the Johari Window to one's life. Follow and Review: If you haven’t yet, we’d love for you to follow us. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review,” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second, and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy, please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center NovusMindfulLife.com We want to hear from you. Please leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind Disclaimer See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Facing the relentless grip of meth addiction and the imminent threat of prison, Dr. Adi Jaffe's life seemed destined for darkness. Yet, from this adversity emerged a transformative story of resilience and redemption. Dr. Jaffe now stands as a guiding light for those grappling with addiction, demonstrating that recovery is a deeply personal journey. His candid reflections on childhood struggles with social anxiety and the turning points in his life illuminate the complex tapestry of experiences that fuel addiction. Through the Ignited Recovery program, Dr. Jaffe offers a beacon of hope, redefining success in recovery by focusing on fulfillment beyond mere abstinence. Traditional recovery methods, like the 12-step program, often fall short in addressing the psychological intricacies of addiction. As Dr. Jaffe recounts, facing personal crises, such as the stark reality of potential prison time, can catalyze profound change. By challenging the limitations of fear-based sobriety and exploring the depths of trauma and mental health disorders, he advocates for a recovery path that embraces psychological insights. His narrative encourages a departure from conventional sobriety narratives, emphasizing the need for a broader understanding of recovery that accommodates individual complexities. In this episode, you will hear:Dr. Adi Jaffe's transformative journey from meth addiction and potential prison time to earning a PhD in psychology.The deeply personal nature of addiction and the importance of individualized recovery paths.Challenges faced in traditional recovery programs and the limitations of fear-based sobriety.The pivotal moment of honesty with his father that marked the beginning of true accountability and change.Emphasis on recovery beyond mere abstinence, focusing on improved relationships and life satisfaction.The role of technology and platforms like Ignited in personalizing addiction recovery and making it more accessible.Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: https://www.adijaffe.com/bio NovusMindfulLife.com https://www.theaddictedmind.com/community  Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if everything you've been told about overcoming your struggles is backwards? What if the very act of fighting your anxiety, depression, addiction, or trauma is actually making it worse? In this powerful episode, Duane and Eric dive into one of the most revolutionary concepts in recovery and mental health: creative hopelessness. This isn't about giving up on your life or your future. It's about giving up on something that's been sabotaging you all along - the belief that you need to control how you feel to have a good life. If you've tried therapy after therapy, read every self-help book, downloaded every meditation app, and still find yourself stuck in the same painful cycles, this episode is for you. You'll discover why your best efforts to feel better might be keeping you trapped, and learn a radically different approach that could change everything. Drawing from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Duane and Eric explore the "DOTS" framework - the four main ways we try to control our internal experiences (Distraction, Opting out, Thinking, and Substances/self-harm). They'll walk you through the five steps of creative hopelessness and show you how to shift from an exhausting control agenda to a liberating acceptance agenda. This isn't about becoming passive or giving up hope. It's about redirecting your precious energy from fighting an unwinnable war with your own mind toward building the meaningful life you actually want. You'll learn why the goal isn't to feel better, but to live better - and how that shift can transform everything. Download: Worksheet Creative Hopelessness Whether you're struggling with addiction, anxiety, depression, or trauma, this episode offers a compassionate, research-backed approach that honors your pain while opening the door to genuine freedom. It's time to stop drowning in your own rescue attempts and discover what's possible when you let go of the struggle. Key Topics • Creative Hopelessness Explained: What it means to give up the agenda of emotional control without giving up on life • The DOTS Framework: Four common control strategies (Distraction, Opting out, Thinking, Substances/self-harm) • The Five-Step Process: How to work through your own creative hopelessness journey • The Control vs. Acceptance Agenda: Why fighting your feelings often makes them stronger • Psychological Flexibility: Learning to stay present while taking values-based action • The Paradox of Recovery: Why letting go of control can lead to greater freedom • Practical Application: Moving from "feeling better" to "living better" Timestamps [00:01:00] - The drowning metaphor: Why fighting might be pulling you under [00:05:00] - Defining creative hopelessness and the agenda of emotional control [00:11:00] - Introduction to the DOTS framework for identifying control strategies [00:15:00] - The five steps of the creative hopelessness process [00:19:00] - The beautiful paradox: Opening the door to acceptance [00:22:00] - Shifting from "feeling better" to "living better" [00:24:00] - Resources and next steps for listeners Download: Worksheet Creative Hopelessness Join our Deep Dive in our TAM+ community, where we discuss this episode in depth. Register Here: https://theaddictedmind.com/deepdive Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second, and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: If you live in California, Idaho, Florida, Virginia or Texas and are looking for counseling or therapy, please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center NovusMindfulLife.com Disclaimer See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Join us for an inspiring conversation with Richard Taite, a leading figure in addiction treatment who has transformed his own life and countless others. Richard takes us through his 25-year battle with addiction, highlighting moments of despair like homelessness, and his eventual breakthrough with therapist Margie Fetting. His journey underscores the power of resilience and the pivotal role of personalized, honest treatment in achieving 22 years of sobriety. Richard also shares his passion for creating an inclusive treatment center that extends compassionate care to everyone, regardless of their financial standing. Driven by a sincere desire to help ordinary people, he reveals how his facility combines high-quality care with truthful communication, ensuring every client is treated with love and respect. This episode delves into the importance of building trust and a supportive environment, where individuals are empowered to work towards a fulfilling life free from addiction. In this episode, you will hear:Richard Taite's inspiring 25-year battle with addiction and his breakthrough to achieve 22 years of sobrietyThe pivotal role of personalized and honest treatment in addiction recoveryCreation of an inclusive and affordable treatment center for individuals from all walks of lifeImportance of the trans-theoretical model of behavior change in sustaining long-term sobrietyBuilding a life of equal or greater value than the one lost to addiction for lasting recoveryThe significance of therapy, resilience, and compassionate care in the journey to sobriety Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: Website: https://carraratreatment.com/ + https://www.cliffsidemalibu.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtaite/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RichardTaiteOfficial  NovusMindfulLife.com https://www.theaddictedmind.com/community  Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever feel like your emotions are on a wild rollercoaster, swinging between overwhelming highs and numbing lows? If so, you’re not alone. In this episode of The Addiction Mind Plus, hosts Eric and Duane Osterlind dive into a crucial concept for anyone in addiction recovery: the Window of Tolerance. The Window of Tolerance refers to the emotional sweet spot where you can handle life's challenges without being overwhelmed or shutting down. Outside of this window, you might feel intense anxiety or emotional numbness—both of which can drive addictive behaviors. But don’t worry, understanding and managing this window can help you stay balanced. Join Eric and Duane as they explore:What the Window of Tolerance is and why it mattersHow to recognize when you’re inside or outside of this windowPractical strategies to expand your Window of Tolerance and maintain emotional balanceIf you've ever struggled with feeling too much or too little, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable tips to help you find your emotional equilibrium. Download: Window of Tolerance Worksheet Join Our Deep Dive in our community, where we discuss this episode in depth. Register Here: https://theaddictedmind.com/deepdive Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: If you live in California, Idaho, Florida, Virginia or Texas and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center NovusMindfulLife.com We want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind Disclaimer See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Addiction is not a new problem in the workplace. In fact, about 70% of folks that are using illicit drugs are employed in the workplace, either full-time or part-time. However, this is not a comfortable topic for people to talk about obviously due to the stigma around it.  How do we then bridge that gap and break the silence so people get the help they need, and for total recovery to take place? On today's episode, Duane speaks with Cheryl Brown-Merriwether, HR professional and recovery support professional, about the innovations in the workplace as well as addiction and recovery from a workplace perspective and a human relations perspective.  Cheryl holds a number of certifications with several years of experience working with clinical professionals in addiction and recovery support services. Through educational programs, Cheryl is committed to helping people in the workplace understand addiction, substance use disorder, and recovery. Cheryl hopes to reduce the stigma and change the whole perspective around addiction and recovery in the workplace.    In this episode, you will hear:What’s changing in the workplaceHow to break the stigma of recoveryThe benefits of external partnershipWorking with people who struggled with addictionThe importance of connecting at all three levels of the workplaceHow to extend the workforce and empower the frontlinersAbout the International Center of Addiction and Recovery EducationSubscribe and Review Have you subscribed to our podcast? We’d love for you to subscribe if you haven’t yet.  We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on ⁠Apple Podcasts⁠. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: ICARE International Center for Addiction and Recovery Education ⁠NovusMindfulLife.com⁠ Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at⁠ https://emeraldcitypro.com⁠ Let them know we sent you. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Stop Feeling Stuck: The Power of Goals and Habit Formation Podcast Episode Summary Today's episode dives into the essential topics of goal setting and habit formation, especially focusing on how they can help break the cycle of addiction, anxiety, and depression. Duane Osterlind and Eric Osterlind guide us through understanding the critical role of setting realistic goals and forming positive habits to steer our lives in the direction we desire. They highlight the importance of reflection in goal setting, using SMART goals as a tool for clarity and action. Moreover, they discuss the difference between goals and habits and how they interplay to create lasting change. By sharing personal experiences and practical advice, the hosts emphasize the power of small steps and the learning opportunities in setbacks. This episode is a treasure trove of insights for anyone looking to transform their life and achieve their dreams. Free Download: Stop Feeling Stuck: The Power of Goals and Habit Formation Worksheet Key Topics:The importance of goal setting and habit formation in overcoming addiction and improving mental health.Reflection and the role of SMART goals in making goals clear and achievable.The difference between goals (where you want to go) and habits (the automatic behaviors that get you there).Strategies for setting effective goals and forming positive habits.Embracing setbacks as opportunities for growth and the power of sharing goals with supportive communities. Timestamps[00:00:00] Introduction to goal setting and habit formation.[00:02:00] The connection between lack of direction and the cycle of addiction.[00:04:07] Discussion on the power of habits and their automatic nature.[00:07:00] Explaining SMART goals and their benefits.[00:09:34] Distinguishing between goals and habits.[00:14:09] The significance of setbacks and learning from failures.[00:17:43] Summary and closing thoughts. Free Download: Stop Feeling Stuck: The Power of Goals and Habit Formation Worksheet Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center NovusMindfulLife.com We want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind Disclaimer See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On today’s episode, Duane talks with Justin B. Long about his journey through childhood trauma and how he tried to escape it through alcoholism. We discuss the traps of toxic masculinity, the idea that, as men, we can't share our feelings. We can't be vulnerable. We should be stoic at all times. In the episode, you’ll learn how that idea prevents us from being able to heal from our past wounds. Justin shares his story of hope and healing for everyone else out there who's struggling with the same issues.  Justin is the author of The Righteous Rage of a Ten-Year-Old Boy: A Journey of Self-Discovery. In his book, he talks about uncovering our deeper feelings by addressing childhood events and traumas and changing how our emotions are tied to those memories. Justin has poured his deepest, darkest secrets into the book. As he pointed out, the more sunshine gets on those secrets, the less power they have over him.   As he was trying to recover from alcoholism in his mid-30's, Justin had to go back to the beginning of time to understand what drove him to alcoholism. Justin grew up with two very emotionally dysfunctional parents: his dad was a workaholic and a rageaholic and his mom was deep into extreme religiosity and hoped that God would solve her emotional challenges. He found himself in the wrong place at the wrong time. His parents didn't have any emotional tools to support him or help him. Therefore, he grew up in an unhealthy environment. The way his dad treated him taught him that he was a failure no matter what he did.  Feeling unworthy, uncomfortable, and untrusting, Justin turned to books as a way to escape reality. Then, as he got older, he discovered alcohol. It made him feel good about himself and he felt accepted for the first time in his life. So, alcohol became his tool to feel good about himself. Justin didn’t realize that it wasn’t a solution or that it was just a band-aid. However, like all external things, it had diminishing returns over time. It worked less and less until it stopped working altogether. In this episode, you will hear:Justin’s childhood traumaWhat it was like to not know how to handle his feelings How covering up feelings of shame and guilt through drinking became a cycleHow he changed his perspective from being a failure to being okayHow a recovery meeting became the first pinprick that showed him realityWhat his righteous rage looked like and how letting it go allowed him to achieve true freedomWhat happens when your pain is greater than your fearWhy it’s okay to feel your feelingsJustin’s motivation to put his book out thereKey Quotes: [09:21] - "My biggest problem that made me decide I had to quit drinking was that the more I got drunk around other people, the more I misbehaved and just couldn't seem to control myself." [13:15] - “Everything that I thought I knew about myself to be true was not true. And I get to rewrite that story." [16:12] - "In your formative years, you take everything from around you, and you believe that to be true." [18:33] - “True freedom comes in moving past that and letting go of that rage, even if it's justified.” [21:02] - “The pain has to get greater than the fear. And that's how it was for me. It hurt bad enough that I was willing to step into the fear." [22:14] - “I'm trying to learn how to feel the feelings and be okay with them. And sometimes it hurts, but I've learned that that's okay, too. It's part of it.” [25:17] - “The more sunshine gets on those secrets, the less power they have over me.” Supporting Resources: ⁠The Righteous Rage of a Ten-Year-Old Boy: A Journey of Self-Discovery⁠ Episode Credits Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on ⁠Apple Podcasts⁠. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: ⁠NovusMindfulLife.com⁠ ⁠https://www.theaddictedmind.com/community⁠  Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at ⁠https://emeraldcitypro.com⁠ Let them know we sent you. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We have to work and deal with our internal and early trauma. This can be more difficult to see and process without a reliable, trustworthy “other” in our lives. Sometimes it even takes an expert who can walk us through that journey in order for us to get to that safe space for healing and recovery. Today, Duane talks with Andrew Susskind about his book, It's Not About the Sex: Moving from Isolation to Intimacy after Sexual Addiction. They go into depth about attachment, emotional regulation, the need for reliable people to heal your traumatic wounds, and how we can do that when we're in recovery and still struggling with internal chaos.   Andrew is a licensed clinical social worker, a Somatic Experiencing practitioner, a Brainspotting practitioner, and a certified group psychotherapist. The book is Andrew's passion project where he wrote about themes that have been on his mind for three decades now. Since then, so much has changed in the mental health field as well as the addiction and trauma world. Andrew’s book reflects many of those changes.  Andrew not only leans on the experiences of his clients but on his personal experience as well. In 1994, Andrew went to his first SCA meeting, which stands for Sexual Compulsives Anonymous. In the therapy room, he noticed that people were learning how to stop their addictive behaviors. However, that's just the starting gate. His book covers some themes and different areas of healing that can happen beyond stopping destructive behavior. In this episode, you will hear:Somatic Experiencing and BrainspottingThe mechanism behind our nervous system regulationThe concept of upregulation vs. downregulationWhy it’s not just about sexHaving reliable relationships as a platform for healing Key Quotes: [06:57] - “Somatic Experiencing and Brainspotting are both trauma healing modalities that focus on Nervous System regulation.” [07:40] - “One of the keys to regulating the nervous system is knowing when we're dysregulated.” [08:29] - “Someone who feels most comfortable in their skin feels calm, peaceful, grounded, and hopefully feels resourceful, resilient, and buoyant.” [11:51] - “Even though it looks like compulsive sexual behavior, on the surface, once we scratch the surface, it's really about broken-heartedness.” [14:20] - “When someone is trying to regulate themselves, it's actually an attempt to feel better.” [17:49] - “If you scratch the surface on anyone who's sexually compulsive, you're going to find some kind of avoidant attachment within that.” [23:08] - “If we're connected within and to one another, and to something greater than ourselves, that's going to create a platform for healing.” Subscribe and Review Have you subscribed to our podcast? We’d love for you to subscribe if you haven’t yet.  We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review,” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second, and it helps spread the word about the podcast. If you really enjoyed this episode, we’ve created a PDF that has all of the key information for you from the episode. Just fill in your information below to download it. Supporting Resources: www.westsidetherapist.com It’s Not About the Sex: Moving from Isolation to Intimacy after Sexual Addiction by Andrew Susskind www.Brainspotting.com Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at ⁠https://emeraldcitypro.com⁠ Let them know we sent you. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Unlock True Happiness: How to Focus on What Really Matters and The Power of Caring About The Right Things

Join us on a transformative journey as we sit down with Dr. Jeff McNairy, the Chief Medical Officer at Rythmia, who shares his compelling shift from traditional mental health practices to the world of alternative therapies. Inspired by Gerard Powell's remarkable healing journey, Dr. McNairy unveils the promising potential of integrating Western psychology with indigenous medicine. We explore how ayahuasca, a powerful plant medicine, offers a new perspective on addiction and trauma recovery, providing hope for those who have found conventional treatments lacking in addressing the root causes of their struggles. Our conversation delves into the complex relationship between trauma, subconscious memories, and healing methods. Dr. McNairy and I discuss the resurgence of interest in regressive trauma work through modern therapeutic approaches like EMDR and hypnotherapy, and the role psychedelics like ayahuasca play in accessing deep-seated emotions. Highlighting the importance of intentionality, setting, and aftercare, we consider how these therapies can foster personal growth and healthier relationships, particularly for recent trauma victims, including veterans. In this episode, you will hear: Exploration of integrating Western psychology with indigenous medicine for trauma and addiction recovery. Dr. Jeff McNairy's transition from traditional mental health practices to alternative therapies, inspired by Gerard Powell's healing journey. The role of ayahuasca in accessing deep-seated emotions and its effectiveness for recent trauma, particularly in veterans. Discussion on modern therapeutic approaches like EMDR, hypnotherapy, and their relationship with regressive trauma work. Importance of intentionality, setting, and aftercare in the use of psychedelics like ayahuasca for personal growth and healing. Insight into the transformative work at Rhythmia and its long-term positive impact on mental health recovery. Interested in finding out more about Rythmia? About Ayahuasca Guide The content on The Addicted Mind is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of a qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health condition. To support our work, this site uses affiliate links. We may earn a commission from qualifying purchases made through these links, at no additional cost to you. Thank you for supporting the podcast. Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: NovusMindfulLife.com https://www.theaddictedmind.com/community  Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if I told you that up to 90% of people with alcohol use disorder relapse within the first four years? Before you let that statistic discourage you, here's the game-changer: having a solid relapse prevention plan can dramatically shift those odds in your favor. In this powerful episode, Duane and Eric dive deep into one of recovery's most crucial yet overlooked tools – the relapse prevention plan. They're not talking about planning to fail; they're talking about planning to succeed when life throws its inevitable curveballs. ⁠DOWNLOAD THE WORKSHEET⁠ You'll discover why your healthiest moments are actually the perfect time to prepare for your most vulnerable ones. Think of it as creating a "survival kit for your sobriety" – a personalized roadmap that helps you identify warning signs before they become danger zones and navigate triggering situations with confidence rather than chaos. The hosts share practical strategies for building your support network, recognizing your unique triggers (hint: they're not always what you think), and developing immediate response plans that actually work when cravings hit. They'll also tackle the shame that keeps so many people from reaching out for help and show you how to transform potential relapses from failures into powerful growth opportunities. Whether you're thriving in recovery right now or struggling to get back on track, this episode offers hope, practical tools, and the reminder that recovery is a journey of progress, not perfection. Plus, they've created a downloadable worksheet to help you build your own personalized plan – because having a plan isn't pessimistic, it's empowering. ⁠DOWNLOAD THE WORKSHEET⁠ Key Topics:Why relapse rates are so high and how planning changes everything The best time to create your relapse prevention plan (spoiler: it's not when you're struggling) Identifying your personal warning signs and triggers Building an immediate response strategy for cravings and difficult moments Creating and practicing with your support network before you need them Transforming relapse from failure to growth opportunity Making your plan accessible and keeping it updated as you grow If you live in California, Idaho, Virginia, or Florida and are looking for counseling or therapy, please visit Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NovusMindfulLife.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We want to hear from you. Please leave us a message or ask us a question: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer⁠⁠⁠ See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Gerard Bradbury's life was once a tumultuous storm of anxiety and alcoholism, but today it stands as a beacon of hope and resilience. Gerard joins us to reveal his deeply personal journey chronicled in his memoir, "Tripping Over Myself: A Journey from Addiction and Anxiety to Awareness and Peace." His first brush with alcohol at just 12 years old set off a chain of events that nearly ended his life, but Gerard found his way through the darkness, guided by the support of his family and a newfound commitment to sobriety. Listeners will find themselves on the edge of their seats as Gerard recounts the grim realities of his addiction. From a night when he was turned away from a hospital with a faint chance of survival, to the heartbreak of cirrhosis and the relentless pull of alcohol, Gerard's raw honesty exposes the heavy toll of his self-destructive path. Yet, amid this adversity, he speaks with gratitude about his family's unwavering support and reflects on the miracle of survival. His story sheds light on the lack of support systems during his youth, while also serving as a testimony to the strength of the human spirit. In this episode, you will hear:Gerard Bradbury's transformative journey from addiction and anxiety to sobriety and peace.Early life challenges including childhood anxiety and bullying contributing to his struggles.First encounter with alcohol at age 12 as a temporary escape from emotional pain.Harrowing experiences of alcohol addiction, including life-threatening medical emergencies.The pivotal role of family support in Gerard's path to recovery.Breaking the silence around addiction as a crucial step in healing.Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on ⁠Apple Podcasts⁠. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: ⁠https://www.trippingovermyself.com/⁠ ⁠Buy Gerard's Book! ⁠ ⁠NovusMindfulLife.com⁠ ⁠https://www.theaddictedmind.com/community⁠  Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at ⁠https://emeraldcitypro.com⁠ Let them know we sent you.   See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you feel like you're constantly on high alert, waiting for the next shoe to drop? Like your body is braced for impact even when there's no real danger around you? You're exhausted, on edge, and maybe you find yourself reaching for something—anything—to make it stop. A drink, a pill, a behavior that gives you just a moment of peace. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. And more importantly, you're not broken. ⁠DOWNLOAD THE WORKSHEET⁠ In this eye-opening episode of The Addicted Mind, host Duane Ostlund reveals the hidden connection between past trauma and present-day addiction. Drawing from groundbreaking research by experts like Dr. Bessel van der Kolk and Dr. Bruce Perry, Duane explains how trauma literally rewires our brains, keeping us stuck in survival mode long after the danger has passed. You'll discover why your brain's alarm system (the amygdala) won't shut off, how chronic stress floods your body with harmful hormones, and why substances become a desperate attempt at self-medication rather than a moral failing. This isn't about willpower—it's about biology. But here's the hope: there's a way out. Duane shares the surprising antidote to this cycle—and it's not what you might expect. Instead of running from uncomfortable feelings, the path to healing involves gently turning inward and learning to embrace your nervous system. Through practical techniques like body scanning and interoception (awareness of your body's internal signals), you can begin to retrain your brain. You'll learn to shift from asking "What's wrong with me?" to "What happened to me?"—a simple question that changes everything. This episode offers both scientific understanding and practical hope for anyone who feels trapped in cycles of addiction, chronic stress, or emotional numbness. Whether you're struggling yourself or supporting someone who is, you'll gain valuable insights into the body-mind connection and discover that healing truly is possible. ⁠DOWNLOAD THE WORKSHEET⁠ If you live in California, Idaho, Virginia, or Florida and are looking for counseling or therapy, please visit Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NovusMindfulLife.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We want to hear from you. Please leave us a message or ask us a question: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer⁠⁠ See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duane is joined by Beau Williams, the author of "One Year With My Soulmate." We discuss the deeply personal and emotional process of navigating life after such profound loss. Beau courageously opens up about his late partner Melanie's struggles with unresolved trauma and dependency on Adderall, and her search for healing through breathwork and self-discovery. This conversation sheds light on the complexities of love and loss and the resilience required to find purpose amidst the chaos. Through sleepless nights in America and a transformative move to Bali, we explore how practices like HIIT fitness, ice baths, and journaling became crucial components of self-healing. Beau's story is a testament to the human spirit's ability to transform pain into purpose, as he embraced a new mission to help others struggling with trauma and addiction. Our dialogue touches on the emotional toll of grief, the struggle to maintain personal growth, and the importance of self-care, highlighting the impact of eliminating alcohol and the power of breathwork in clearing negative energies. In this episode, you will hear:Personal journey of grief and transformation after losing a soulmate to suicideBeau Williams shares insights from his book "One Year With My Soulmate"Exploration of unresolved trauma, addiction, and healing practicesRole of breathwork, HIIT fitness, and journaling in self-healingImportance of spiritual connections and reframing loss as a learning experienceChallenges and rewards of embracing a wellness-focused lifestyleFollow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on ⁠Apple Podcasts⁠. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: ⁠https://www.sunflowersignals.com/⁠ ⁠NovusMindfulLife.com⁠ ⁠https://www.theaddictedmind.com/community⁠  Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at ⁠https://emeraldcitypro.com⁠ Let them know we sent you. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if I told you that up to 90% of people with alcohol use disorder relapse within the first four years? Before you let that statistic discourage you, here's the game-changer: having a solid relapse prevention plan can dramatically shift those odds in your favor. In this powerful episode, Duane and Eric dive deep into one of recovery's most crucial yet overlooked tools – the relapse prevention plan. They're not talking about planning to fail; they're talking about planning to succeed when life throws its inevitable curveballs. DOWNLOAD THE WORKSHEET You'll discover why your healthiest moments are actually the perfect time to prepare for your most vulnerable ones. Think of it as creating a "survival kit for your sobriety" – a personalized roadmap that helps you identify warning signs before they become danger zones and navigate triggering situations with confidence rather than chaos. The hosts share practical strategies for building your support network, recognizing your unique triggers (hint: they're not always what you think), and developing immediate response plans that actually work when cravings hit. They'll also tackle the shame that keeps so many people from reaching out for help and show you how to transform potential relapses from failures into powerful growth opportunities. Whether you're thriving in recovery right now or struggling to get back on track, this episode offers hope, practical tools, and the reminder that recovery is a journey of progress, not perfection. Plus, they've created a downloadable worksheet to help you build your own personalized plan – because having a plan isn't pessimistic, it's empowering. DOWNLOAD THE WORKSHEET Key Topics: Why relapse rates are so high and how planning changes everything  The best time to create your relapse prevention plan (spoiler: it's not when you're struggling)  Identifying your personal warning signs and triggers  Building an immediate response strategy for cravings and difficult moments  Creating and practicing with your support network before you need them  Transforming relapse from failure to growth opportunity  Making your plan accessible and keeping it updated as you grow If you live in California, Idaho, Virginia, or Florida and are looking for counseling or therapy, please visit Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NovusMindfulLife.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We want to hear from you. Please leave us a message or ask us a question: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Gerard Bradbury's life was once a tumultuous storm of anxiety and alcoholism, but today it stands as a beacon of hope and resilience. Gerard joins us to reveal his deeply personal journey chronicled in his memoir, "Tripping Over Myself: A Journey from Addiction and Anxiety to Awareness and Peace." His first brush with alcohol at just 12 years old set off a chain of events that nearly ended his life, but Gerard found his way through the darkness, guided by the support of his family and a newfound commitment to sobriety. Listeners will find themselves on the edge of their seats as Gerard recounts the grim realities of his addiction. From a night when he was turned away from a hospital with a faint chance of survival, to the heartbreak of cirrhosis and the relentless pull of alcohol, Gerard's raw honesty exposes the heavy toll of his self-destructive path. Yet, amid this adversity, he speaks with gratitude about his family's unwavering support and reflects on the miracle of survival. His story sheds light on the lack of support systems during his youth, while also serving as a testimony to the strength of the human spirit. In this episode, you will hear: Gerard Bradbury's transformative journey from addiction and anxiety to sobriety and peace. Early life challenges including childhood anxiety and bullying contributing to his struggles. First encounter with alcohol at age 12 as a temporary escape from emotional pain. Harrowing experiences of alcohol addiction, including life-threatening medical emergencies. The pivotal role of family support in Gerard's path to recovery. Breaking the silence around addiction as a crucial step in healing. Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: https://www.trippingovermyself.com/ Buy Gerard's Book! NovusMindfulLife.com https://www.theaddictedmind.com/community  Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you feel like you're constantly on high alert, waiting for the next shoe to drop? Like your body is braced for impact even when there's no real danger around you? You're exhausted, on edge, and maybe you find yourself reaching for something—anything—to make it stop. A drink, a pill, a behavior that gives you just a moment of peace. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. And more importantly, you're not broken. DOWNLOAD THE WORKSHEET In this eye-opening episode of The Addicted Mind, host Duane Ostlund reveals the hidden connection between past trauma and present-day addiction. Drawing from groundbreaking research by experts like Dr. Bessel van der Kolk and Dr. Bruce Perry, Duane explains how trauma literally rewires our brains, keeping us stuck in survival mode long after the danger has passed. You'll discover why your brain's alarm system (the amygdala) won't shut off, how chronic stress floods your body with harmful hormones, and why substances become a desperate attempt at self-medication rather than a moral failing. This isn't about willpower—it's about biology. But here's the hope: there's a way out. Duane shares the surprising antidote to this cycle—and it's not what you might expect. Instead of running from uncomfortable feelings, the path to healing involves gently turning inward and learning to embrace your nervous system. Through practical techniques like body scanning and interoception (awareness of your body's internal signals), you can begin to retrain your brain. You'll learn to shift from asking "What's wrong with me?" to "What happened to me?"—a simple question that changes everything. This episode offers both scientific understanding and practical hope for anyone who feels trapped in cycles of addiction, chronic stress, or emotional numbness. Whether you're struggling yourself or supporting someone who is, you'll gain valuable insights into the body-mind connection and discover that healing truly is possible. DOWNLOAD THE WORKSHEET If you live in California, Idaho, Virginia, or Florida and are looking for counseling or therapy, please visit Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NovusMindfulLife.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We want to hear from you. Please leave us a message or ask us a question: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.