We live in a patriarchal society—and the thing about patriarchy? It eats its own children. It protects abusers, and punishes survivors. It teaches us to be quiet, to endure, and to blame ourselves when things go wrong.

In this episode, we sit down with Njeri Migwi founder Usikimye to unpack how deeply this system runs—from the way we silence survivors, to how we excuse violent men as “good guys who made a mistake.”