Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S2] EPISODE 36: PULL BACK THE CURTAINS In this special Heritage Day edition, the conversation turns inward. For the first time in a while, we are joined by my wife, Lilly not just as a guest, but as a partner who lives the very realities this podcast speaks about. Together, we open up about the weight and beauty of marriage: the fights that once felt familiar, the lessons learned through patience, and the slow but powerful healing that comes when both husband and wife choose not to give up. This episode isn’t polished perfection, it’s raw, honest, and sometimes even a little awkward. We reflect on how faith, vulnerability, and even disagreements have shaped our marriage. There’s laughter, confession, and a lot of learning, but at the heart of it all is a desire to do better, not just talk better. As we remind each other, small improvements, even 2% shifts, can make a world of difference in how a husband shows up for his wife, and how a wife nurtures her husband with her words. Whether you’re a husband striving to grow, a wife longing to better understand your man, or a couple navigating the everyday weight of love, this conversation will resonate. It’s a reminder that marriage is not about arriving at perfection but about failing forward together, with grace, curiosity, and patience. Pull up a chair, you’re not just listening to a podcast, you’re sitting with family. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets and other resources [S2] EPISODE 35: HUSBAND PREPARATION Marriage has a way of waking us up to realities we never imagined. Many of us stepped into it unprepared, thinking love and good intentions would be enough, only to collide with the weightiness of responsibility, our hidden wounds, and the expectations we never knew we carried. In this episode, four husbands sit down to have the kind of raw, unfiltered conversation every man needs: about the struggles we didn’t anticipate, the fears we never admitted, and the slow realisation that being a husband requires more than just showing up. We talk about the baggage we brought into marriage, fatherlessness, trauma, detachment, and the unspoken pressure to “just figure it out.” We open up about the moments that humbled us: when conflict revealed our lack of capacity, when our wives’ strength challenged our fragile egos, and when our unresolved past showed up in our homes. These are not polished stories; they are scars carried into manhood that still ache. But in the telling, there is healing. This is a podcast by husbands, for husbands. Not to give you a five-step formula, but to remind you that you are not alone in your confusion, your failures, or your longing to grow. We are men in process, imperfect, often overwhelmed, but committed to failing forward together. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re the only one struggling, this conversation is for you. Pull up a chair, listen in, and let’s walk this journey of husbandhood side by side. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #HusbandPodcast #marriagematters #husbandlife #realmenrealtalk #marriagepodcast #christianmarriage #marriagejourney #MenInMarriage #marriagestruggles #marriagehealing #faithfulhusbands #marriagegrowth #marriagereality #mensupportingmen #MarriageReflections #marriageconversations #menoffaith #MarriageAndFaith #MarriageCommunity #marriagechallenges #marriagehelp #Husbandhood #marriagesupport #marriagewisdom #failingforward

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets and other resources [S2] EPISODE 34: THE MAN IN THE MIRRIOR In this episode, we dive deep into one of the greatest battles men face: lust. But not in the way you might think. We go beyond the surface to uncover the hidden longings, unmet desires, and unresolved wounds that quietly shape how we live, love, and lead in our marriages. These aren’t just struggles with the flesh, they are echoes of deeper cravings for acceptance, power, validation, and freedom. And left unchecked, they can quietly sabotage the very relationships we long to protect. We get raw and real about the masks men wear, the silent wars we fight in our private thoughts, and the ways we often create illusions to escape unmet needs. Whether it’s the lust for validation that drives us to please people, the lust for power that makes us reckless with money, or the lust for freedom that tempts us to rebel against commitment, these inner battles demand courage, self-awareness, and honesty. This is not just about naming the problem but about learning to recognise where it comes from and how it shows up in our everyday choices as husbands. This conversation is not for perfect men, it’s for men like us who are wrestling, stumbling, and still choosing to fight for healthier marriages. If you’ve ever felt the weight of secret battles you couldn’t put into words, this episode will give you language, perspective, and hope. It’s a call to curiosity instead of judgment, to courage instead of denial, and to building marriages that are conscious, patient, and rooted in love. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #husbands #marriagepodcast #healthymarriages #manhoodmatters #realtalkformen #LustAndMarriage #faithandmarriage #marriagewisdom #marriagegrowth #husbandlife #marriagematters #marriagecounseling #AuthenticMarriage #menoffaith #HusbandJourney #strongmarriages #marriagestruggles #marriagehelp #marriageconversations #marriageandfaith #marriagehealing #marriagerestoration #loveandmarriagehuntsville #buildingmarriage

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets and other resources [S2] EPISODE 33: COMMITMENT IS A DAILY CHOICE Marriage is more than a title, it’s a daily decision to show up, to love, and to choose each other through the highs and lows. In this episode of That Husband Podcast, we sit down with Una Rams, not just as the artist you know, but as a husband and father who opens up about the weight and wonder of love, responsibility, and choosing family. His story is not about perfection, but about the courage it takes to embrace vulnerability, to redefine strength, and to pursue love that is intentional and enduring. Together, we talk about the conscious decision to step into fatherhood, the raw reality of what safety looks like for men in marriage, and the power of walking alongside, not ahead or behind, your partner. From the magic and chaos of childbirth to the sacred responsibility of raising children, Una shares moments that shaped his journey and challenged him to love without the baggage of the past. This isn’t theory, it’s the real, unpolished beauty of marriage lived out in daily choices. What emerges is a picture of love that isn’t built on fairy tales, but on respect, faith, and resilience. This episode will challenge husbands to reimagine what it means to protect, to partner, and to grow together. It’s a conversation for every man who knows marriage isn’t about arriving perfect, but about failing forward, learning daily, and holding on to the hope that when we choose love, fully and freely, we choose life. #RealMenLove #HusbandPodcast #marriagetalks #marriagematters #husbandgoals #lovewithoutfear #marriagewisdom #LoveLikeAMan #LoveHerRight #marriagegodsway #marriagejourney #intentionallove #faithfullove #husbandswholead #husbandlife #MarriageCourage #strongmarriage #LoveBoldly #marriagestrength #HusbandWisdom

Marriage is never just about two people, it’s also about the families and histories that stand behind them. But what happens when those families refuse to stand with you? In this episode we dive into the raw and often painful reality of marrying without your family’s blessing. From the quiet heartbreak of parents who withhold support, to the courage it takes to lead your own household when the crowd is against you, this conversation is both transparent and necessary. As husbands, we know the weight of stepping into marriage: the decision to expose our defects, the challenge of accountability, and the risk of walking a road that isn’t always cheered on. Kutlwano Ditsele opens up about how he faced the lonely, frightening possibility of starting a marriage without his father’s approval, and the deep conviction that carried him forward anyway. It’s a story of faith, resilience, and the costly beauty of choosing your wife, even when it means losing other affirmations. This isn’t just theory, it’s the lived reality for many men. And in telling this story, we’re reminded that marriage is a sacred covenant, not a popularity contest. Family blessing is valuable, but it is not the foundation, God’s call and your commitment are. So if you’ve ever wrestled with the tension between honouring your parents and leading your new family, this episode will help you reflect, find courage, and know you’re not alone. #thathusbandpodcast #christianmarriage #marriagematters #husbandlife #MarriageWithoutBlessing #FamilyApproval #godlymarriage #marriagejourney #faithandmarriage #husbandtalks #marriagestruggles #marriagepodcast #LoveAndFaith #marriagewisdom #BuildingMarriage #marriagegodsway #MarriageDecisions #marriagecounsellor #marriageandfamily #marriagesupport #marriagestories #MarriageCommunity #MarriageAccountability #MarriageWithPurpose #marriageinchrist

Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources [S2] EPISODE 31: GOD’S WORK vs GOD’S DAUGHTER Marriage isn’t just about love stories and Instagram moments, it’s about the daily choice to show up, sacrifice, and sometimes die to self for the sake of the one you vowed to cherish. In this episode, we sit down with Allan.P to talk about what husbandhood really looks like when the butterflies fade, the fights get real, and life throws both joy and hardship our way. His story reminds us that being a husband isn’t about perfection, it’s about persistence, humility, and faithfulness when it’s easier to walk away. From the early years of marriage to raising kids and navigating the pressures of work, dreams, and ministry, Allan.P opens up about the hidden battles husbands face, the pride, the fatigue, the temptation to drift, and the weight of responsibility. Yet woven through his story is a testimony of grace: a wife who fuels his ambition, a faith that reshapes his perspective, and a vision of marriage that sees “death to self” not as loss but as the soil where love and legacy grow. This conversation isn’t just for men who think they’ve figured it out, it’s for husbands still stumbling forward, husbands carrying unseen frustrations, and husbands who need to be reminded that they’re not alone. If you’ve ever wrestled with ego, with balance, with choosing your wife over your comfort, then this episode will speak to you. Because at the end of the day, being a husband is less about having it all together, and more about being willing to learn, to sacrifice, and to keep choosing love, day after day. #thathusbandpodcast #HusbandTalks #marriagematters #husbandlife #FaithfulHusbands #marriagegodsway #marriagejourney #HusbandAndWife #christianhusbands #realmarriage #marriagegrowth #marriagepodcast #HusbandsUnite #Husbandhood #marriagestruggles #marriagewisdom #HusbandsSupportHusbands #loveandmarriagehuntsville #HusbandEncouragement #MarriageSacrifice #healthymarriage #marriageinchrist #MarriageLegacy #dietoself #MarriageFaith

BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Visit www.thathusband.com [S2] EPISODE 30: MAKING THINGS RIGHT ”Nine years ago, a single phone call during Bible Study changed everything. My then-girlfriend’s trembling voice told me she was pregnant. In that moment, the future we had imagined shifted completely. What followed wasn’t just a test of faith, it was a test of love, responsibility, and resilience. Her family cut ties. My reputation in the church felt shattered. And yet, in the middle of the shock and shame, I knew one thing: I couldn’t run. I had to stay.” This episode isn’t about a perfect love story. It’s about two people who stumbled hard and then chose to stand together anyway. We talk about navigating estrangement, the weight of cultural expectations, the sting of disappointing those who believed in us, and the slow, grace-filled process of rebuilding trust, with our families, our faith community, and ourselves. Along the way, we unpack how fatherhood began not in the maternity ward, but in a decision to take responsibility, even when it was costly. For husbands, future husbands, and any man who’s ever faced the gap between who he wanted to be and what actually happened, this conversation is for you. It’s about how God’s grace can take a mess and turn it into a marriage, a family, and a testimony. It’s about what we’ve learned over nine years of parenting, persevering, and leaning on each other when winter came. And it’s a reminder that even the most unexpected beginnings can lead to stories worth telling. #thathusbandpodcast #christianmarriage #HusbandsForHusbands #fatherhoodjourney #youngparents #marriageandfaith #RealMarriageStories #biblicalmanhood #christianhusbands #marriagepodcast #husbandlife #christianfatherhood #marriagetestimony #faithinmarriage #godlyhusband #marriagestruggles #christianpodcast #marriagerestoration #loveandresponsibility #GraceInMarriage #marriagegodsway #faithandfamily #HusbandAndWife #christianrelationships #FromMessToMarriage

BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here -https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband Support the vision and join the community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 29: ALTAR OF AMBITION In this episode, we sit down with Ezekiel Nkotsoe, seven months into marriage and already confronted with the question most men never dare to ask: ”Am I idolizing success at the expense of my wife?” Ezekiel shares how his obsession with performance, numbers, and being “the best” collided head-on with the quiet but holy demands of marriage. What began as a journey to build wealth and legacy was slowly revealed as a quest for validation, rooted in childhood trauma and masked as ambition. As husbands, we often say we’re grinding “for the family,” but how many Christmases can you miss before you’ve actually started grinding away from them? Ezekiel opens up about the difficult conversations with his wife, his coach, and God, uncovering the subtle lies we believe about ambition, provision, and masculinity. He reminds us that spiritual, emotional, and physical presence matters more than the car you pull into the driveway. And sometimes, the most godly ambition is learning to be content, to be present, and to serve the family God has placed in front of you. This episode is not just for the high performers or sales guys in Jozi, it’s for every husband trying to reconcile his grind with his calling. Whether you’re newly married, seasoned, or still considering what kind of man you want to be, this conversation is a sacred space for honest reflection. Because at the end of the day, no amount of ambition can hold your hand when you’re old, only the woman you chose to love well can do that. #thathusbandpodcast #ChristianHusbands #MarriageMatters #godlymarriage #husbandswholead #FaithAndAmbition #MarriageOverMoney #contentmentinchrist #menofgod #christianmanhood #MarriageIsWork #BlackLoveMatters #generationalwealth #AmbitionWithPurpose #FaithfulNotFamous #HusbandsSupportingHusbands #ModernMarriageTalks #HustleAndHoliness #EmotionalProvision #GodlyMasculinity #KingdomMen #christcenteredmarriage #marriagepodcast #RealTalkForHusbands #marriageandfaith

BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here -https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband Support the vision and join the community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 28: DON’T LEAVE DEBT BEHIND What happens when the baton is passed to us and we’re not ready to carry it? In this conversation with the incredibly grounded and eloquent Caskey Ndaba, we talk about what it means to become the uncles, the fathers, the leaders we once looked up to. From drafting a will to defining a family vision, we wrestle with the reality of death, not in fear, but in wisdom. Caskey reminds us that masculinity is less about the muscle and more about the mind, and that real manhood means planning, preparing, and protecting. Mr. Ndaba opens up about walking from Diepsloot to Centurion to restart his life after losing everything, including his home and career. He shares how his divorce and later, the tragic loss of his children’s mother, shaped his journey as a father and a husband. These are not just stories, they are scars with purpose. His vulnerability, wrapped in clarity and determination, reminds us that being a husband is not about perfection but about showing up, again and again, even when it hurts. We don’t just talk policies and funeral plans, we go deeper into the fears, insecurities, and silence that often keep men from leading well. Whether you’re a newlywed, a father of three, or a man trying to fix the brokenness you inherited, this episode offers both a mirror and a map. Because in the end, being a husband isn’t just about loving your family, it’s about leaving them ready when you’re no longer here. Let’s talk legacy, leadership, and love—because silence is no longer an option. #thathusbandpodcast #failingforward #legacybuilding #husbandswholead #fatherhoodmatters #BlackMenLead #purposedrivenmen #masculinityredefined #ManhoodJourney #menoffaith #VisionForFamily #DeathPreparedness #WillAndTestament #lifeinsurancematters #financialfitness #ModernHusband #healingfromloss #breakinggenerationalcycles #BePresentDad #ManUpMovement #authenticmanhood #griefandgrace #RealMenPlan #LeadershipInMarriage #intentionalliving

BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here -https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband Support the vision and join the community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 27: CALLED TO BE PRESENT, NOT PERFECT! This week we sit down with Sbu Dube, for a heartfelt conversation where he opens up about the sacred moment he chose to love not just his wife, but her child too. He shares the weighty but beautiful decision of stepping into marriage with intention, not as a rescue plan, but as a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church. With honesty and humility, he reminds us that becoming a husband isn’t about perfection, but instead, it’s about presence, sacrifice, and a willingness to grow. Together, we explore the quiet fears that fathers often carry, the pressure to get marriage “right,” and how grace makes space for dreams to flourish in the home. Sbu’s story takes us through his upbringing in a family that modeled long-term commitment, the lessons he gleaned from watching his father provide with silent strength, and how he carries those values into raising his own children. From changing nappies with trembling hands to the sacred joy of baptising his daughter, Sbu reveals that fatherhood isn’t just a title, it’s a calling, and sometimes, it starts the moment you say ”I do.” Whether you’re in the thick of raising young children, navigating a busy work-life balance, or wrestling with the tension between dreams and duty, this episode will remind you that you’re not alone. It’s a call to stay home, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually. Because being a husband and father is less about doing everything right, and more about being right there when it matters most. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #HusbandsWhoLead #christianmarriage #blacklovestories #IntentionalFatherhood #modernmarriage #StepdadLove #marriagegodsway #PresentFathers #fathersmatter #faithandfamily #biblicalmanhood #marriagewisdom #lovelikechrist #parentingwithpurpose #husbandgoals #menoffaith #StayAtHomeDadVibes #marriageconversations #legacybuilding #fatherhoodjourney #godlymarriages #dadlifeunfiltered #christcenteredmarriage #marriagematters

BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here -https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband Support the vision and join the community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 26: BE THE HUSBAND YOU ENVISIONED What does it mean to be a husband in a world that’s constantly shifting its standards? In this episode, we sit with Tshepo Hlongwane, not just to talk about marriage, but to reflect on the weight and wonder of this sacred calling. From the lessons of mentorship, the quiet strength found in friendship with your spouse, to the spiritual responsibility of protecting your family, not just from physical harm but from the subtle spiritual battles, we leave no stone unturned. This is a conversation about choosing to show up even when it’s hard, about repentance before repair, and about seeing your wife as a friend before a role. We dive into the real stuff. What happens when you’re called to lead but feel underqualified? When your personal wiring clashes with your spouse’s? When your dreams won’t let you rest? This episode unpacks how men can steward their marriages, their emotions, and their faith without letting shame or culture dictate the pace. Through laughter, conviction, and layered storytelling, this isn’t just theory, it’s lived experience. Blaque & Tshepo, wrestle with the everyday decisions that shape the men they become at home. If you’re a husband who’s ever asked, ”Am I doing enough? Am I becoming who God called me to be?”, this episode is for you. Whether you’re newlywed, ten years deep, or just dreaming of what kind of husband you want to be, this conversation will meet you where you are. And it will push you, gently, intentionally, toward growth, friendship, and spiritual clarity. This is not just a podcast, it’s a mirror, it’s a map, and it’s a call to step up. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #ChristianHusband #FaithfulMen #KingdomMarriage #MarriageMatters #GodlyManhood #HusbandLife #LeadWithLove #MenOfFaith #HusbandGoals #MarriageGodsWay #SpiritualLeadership #BiblicalManhood #ProtectAndProvide #MenWhoPray #HusbandsWhoLead #RealMenRealTalk #MarriageConversations #MentorshipMatters #FriendshipInMarriage #ChristCenteredMarriage #HusbandGrowth #PurposeDrivenMarriage #ModernManOfGod #StepUpHusbands

BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up! https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband Support the vision and join the community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 25: FROM PAIN TO PROMISE In this episode, we sit with Alvin Fredericks of  @thetruedadventurer  a husband, father, and faithful follower of Christ, who walks us through a raw, heartbreaking, and ultimately redemptive journey through multiple pregnancy losses, depression, spiritual wrestling, and healing. This isn’t just a story about grief, it’s a story about carrying unbearable weight silently, about standing at the edge of faith and finding God even when you feel abandoned. It’s a rare glimpse into what miscarriage and loss feel like for a husband, one who is expected to be strong, while silently fracturing on the inside. What do you do when you’ve done all the “right” things, but life still knocks the breath out of you? What does it mean to reflect Christ to your wife when you yourself are crumbling? Alvin opens up about being forgotten in the grief, misunderstood by the church, and pushed to the brink of ending it all. But he also shares the power of faithful friends, fatherly love, and how God used an unexpected encounter to plant the seed of hope again. This episode is not about easy answers, it’s about honest questions, deep pain, and a real Saviour. If you’re a husband walking through loss, or standing beside someone who is, this episode will move you. It’s for the men who feel unseen in their suffering. It’s for the ones who keep showing up despite the weight. And it’s for anyone who needs a reminder that even in deep suffering, God is not absent, He is forming something eternal. This is not just an episode; it’s a lifeline. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #christianmarriage #faithinsuffering #husbandswholead #MarriageAfterLoss #miscarriageawareness #MenAndGrief #christianhusbands #fatherhoodjourney #infantlosssupport #biblicalmanhood #HopeInHeartbreak #GodInTheStorm #marriageministry #faithoverfeelings #healingtogether #christiantestimony #MenWithFeelings #HusbandPerspective #JesusInThePain #RealMarriageTalk #failingforward #christianpodcast #griefandgrace #christcenteredmarriage

BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here -https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband Support the vision and join the community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 24: YOUNG, MARRIED & FIGURING IT OUT What happens when your faith, finances, and fatherhood all collide? In this honest and soul-stirring episode, we sit down with Shaun Mahlangu, a husband, father of three, and creative content creator, who opens up about the raw reality of becoming a husband at 22 and navigating life, love, and fatherhood with nothing but a dream, a prayer, and a patient wife. From counting coins, trying to buy a ”kota” to losing jobs, feeling like a failure, and watching the light fade from his wife’s eyes, Shaun doesn’t hold back. This isn’t just a story; it’s a mirror for every man who’s ever wondered, “Am I enough?” Shaun shares how being a broke husband nearly broke him, and what it took to climb out of depression, insecurity, and envy. We discuss retrenchment and redefining masculinity through the lens of failure and faith. You’ll hear what it’s like to cry in the car before work, battle anxiety silently, and still choose to show up every day for your wife, your kids, and your calling. More than that, you’ll hear how God shows up with grace for every child born, every prayer whispered, and every husband willing to keep failing forward. If you’ve ever felt crushed under the weight of expectations or afraid to dream with empty pockets, this episode is for you. It’s a love letter to resilient wives, a tribute to cycle-breaking fathers, and a reminder to all men: your brokenness doesn’t disqualify you, it may just be the very place where God rebuilds you. Don’t miss this deeply reflective, personal, and hope-filled conversation. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandTalks #failingforward #youngmarriage #BlackLoveStories #christianmarriage #HusbandsInTheMaking #fathersmatter #MenCryToo #MarriageInRealLife #realmenrealtalk #FaithfulFathers #GraceInTheMess #menandmentalhealth #VulnerableMen #cyclebreakers #BlackHusbandsMatter #marriagetestimony #godstiming #loveandstruggle #marriagepodcast #menwholead #DadLifeUnfiltered #FromBrokenToBuilt #GodsEconomy

BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here - https://thathusband.kit.com/63905de2db Join That Husband’s Corner, our mailing list, and community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 23: MARRIAGE IDOLATRY What happens when a man decides to rewrite his story of marriage? In this raw and heartfelt episode, Justin Henry sits across the table to unpack the emotional weight of growing up in a father-absent home, idolising marriage, and healing through it. He shares how he once tried to outrun the pain with career ambition and dating cycles, but ultimately discovered that God’s grace and the hard work of real love are what make a husband. This is not just another love story, it’s a story of redemption, restoration, and choosing to be present. Together, we talk about the pressures men face, from churches that rush young people into marriage, to mothers who ask, “So when are you getting married?”, to societal metrics that equate manhood with money. Justin reflects on what it’s like to try, fail, and try again with wisdom. If you’ve ever made marriage an idol, rushed into love, or felt unprepared for the weight of being a husband, this one’s for you. We don’t hold back in this one! Whether you’re married, divorced, dating, or single by design, this conversation will challenge you. Because at the core, this isn’t just about marriage, it’s about what kind of human you’re becoming. Hit play, and don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandsWhoLead #MarriageRedefined #FaithAndMarriage #ModernHusbands #RealTalkMen #GodlyMarriage #BlackMenHealing #FatherWound #MenAndMentalHealth #MarriageJourney #RedefiningManhood #PurposefulMarriage #LoveAfterLoss #HealingThroughMarriage #PremaritalCounseling #MarriageMatters #ChristCenteredMarriage #MarriageIsMinistry #MenWithVision #ChristianHusbands #DoMarriageWell #ManhoodRestored #MarriageAndFaith #BetterHusbandsBetterHomes

BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here - https://thathusband.kit.com/63905de2db Join That Husband’s Corner, our mailing list, and community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 22: FRIEND-ZONE IN MARRIAGE ”Marriage isn’t hard—what’s hard is pretending to love someone you don’t even like.” In this episode, we unpack what it truly means for a husband to be friends with his wife. Our guest, Tebogo Mphohle opens up about how friendship in marriage isn’t just a bonus, it’s a lifeline. He reflects on the moments where being friends with his wife quite literally saved their relationship. Without that foundation of mutual admiration, laughter, and understanding, many couples, especially men, drift emotionally while still sharing a home. The cost is intimacy being lost, and eventually, so is the marriage. What makes this episode special is how unashamedly it weaves faith, family legacy, and vulnerability. Tebogo speaks about growing up in a home where love was modeled not just privately but publicly, and how that shaped his vision of marriage. Yet even with a beautiful template, he found himself in a toxic relationship before meeting his wife. The contrast was jarring but redemptive. It was only when he was truly seen, truly safe, and truly befriended that his heart began to heal. What followed wasn’t just romance, it was renewal. If you’re a husband wondering why things feel dry, distant, or just… dull, maybe what’s missing isn’t a new date night strategy or more counselling sessions. Maybe what’s missing is friendship. Real, intentional, ”you’re my day-one” type of friendship. And as you’ll hear in this episode: you don’t have to fake it till you make it, you can choose to like her, again and again. Tune in, be challenged, and rediscover the power of being her friend. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #marriagetalk #husbandlife #thathusbandpodcast #faithfulhusbands #marriageadvice #RealMarriageConvos #christianmarriage #HusbandWisdom #leadwithlove #marriagematters #FriendshipInMarriage #godlymarriages #StrongMarriageStrongFamily #modernmarriage #MarriedMenTalk #BeHerFriend #MarriageIsMinistry #BlackLoveMatters #SouthAfricanHusbands #MarriageGoalsDaily #husbandswholead #marriageunfiltered #christcenteredmarriage #MarriageRealTalk #HusbandsOfInstagram

BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here - https://thathusband.kit.com/63905de2db Join That Husband’s Corner, our mailing list, and community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 21: OUR CONVICTION & FAMILY VISION In this soul-stirring episode of That Husband Podcast, Blaque Nubon sits down with Pastor and friend Sihle Xulu for a conversation that feels less like an interview and more like a mirror—reflecting the quiet weight many husbands carry but rarely speak of. From moving provinces with nothing but conviction, to rebuilding a marriage that once felt beyond repair, Sihle opens up about the unseen cost of calling, and the holy tension of wanting to lead well without losing the people who matter most. This isn’t just about ministry or marriage, it’s about the sacred in-between. The moments when your wife says, “I don’t like you right now,” but you still have to show up. The quiet wrestle of asking your family to follow you again—another city, another job, another dream, and wondering if this time, it’s really God or just ambition. It’s about learning to hold your calling and your family with both hands and choosing to stay when it would be easier to escape. For every man who’s ever felt torn between purpose and presence, this conversation is an anchor. It’s a tender reminder that you don’t have to perform your way through pain. That true strength is often hidden in confession, and healing begins the moment we say, “This is hard… but we’re still here.” Press play, this one might change how you see your story. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #christianhusbands #marriagematters #MenInMinistry #FaithAndFamily #faithandfamily #TheCostOfCalling #christianmarriage #HusbandsWhoLead #PurposeAndPresence #GodFirstFamilyNext #CalledToLove #ModernMarriageRealTalk #GospelCenteredMarriage #realtalkformen #MarriedAndCalled #PastorsWhoStruggleToo #HoldingBothHands #FaithInHardSeasons #MarriageIsMinistry #FromBrokenToBetter #sacrificeandlove #HusbandsInTheFight #MinistryAndMarriage #StillHereStillFighting

Join That Husband’s Corner, our mailing list, and community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband Join That Husband’s Corner, our mailing list, and community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 20: BREAKING THE IN-LAW STIGMA What happens when culture, marriage, and modern masculinity collide? In this deeply personal episode, we sit down with Ayanda Buthelezi to unpack the often misunderstood practice of ”Ukukotiza.” In this traditional Nguni custom, a new bride spends time with her in-laws to learn the rhythms, responsibilities, and expectations of married life. But this is not just about tradition—it’s about identity, manhood, and the sacred in-between space where a wife is not just joining a family but shaping one. As husbands, we often stand silently at the edge of this process. But what if our silence is costing us something? Ayanda opens up about how Ukukotiza has evolved—how some families still treat it as a rite of passage with dignity, while others risk turning it into exploitation. We reflect honestly on what it means for a man to guide, protect, and honour this season, not as a controller, but as a covering. It’s about more than chores—it’s about culture, character, and covenant. Whether you grew up watching ”Ukukotiza” from the side lines or are navigating it with your new wife today, this episode invites you to rethink your role as a husband in a culturally rich but emotionally complex tradition. This isn’t just a conversation about our wives—it’s about us, too. About how we honour her, honour our elders, and honour God in how we merge culture and covenant. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #Ukukotiza #MakotiDiaries #MarriageCulture #NguniTraditions #ModernMakoti #thathusbandpodcast #HusbandsInCulture #FaithAndTradition #marriagetalks #SouthAfricanMarriage #ChristianHusbands #CulturalConversation #ManhoodAndMarriage #MakotiJourney #MarriageRoles #UbuntuInMarriage #CulturalRites #AfricanMarriageTraditions #MenWhoLeadWell #loveandculture #BridgingGenerations #biblicalmanhood #HonouringHer #marriagewisdom #AyandaButheleziConversation

BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here - https://thathusband.kit.com/63905de2db Join That Husband’s Corner, our mailing list, and community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 19: DIVINE PLOT TWIST Sitting across from Blaque Nubon is Kevin Makhubo—a husband, father, and man of God, who opens up about his journey from rejecting the idea of marriage to becoming a husband defined by love and sacrifice. His reflections are not polished soundbites but raw truths, soaked in years of wrestling with God, unlearning broken definitions of masculinity, and submitting to a higher calling. Kevin’s story is not just inspiring; it is deeply confronting for any man who has wondered if he has what it takes to be a present, intentional, and loving husband. What makes this conversation especially rich is Kevin’s transparency about his relationship with his absent father. At 23, he chose to forgive a man who had wounded him not with violence, but with silence and absence. That act of forgiveness, rooted in obedience to God, unlocked a freedom that shaped the kind of husband and father Kevin would become. It’s a testimony that manhood is not inherited, it’s forged. Kevin chose to become the man he never had, breaking generational pain with courageous vulnerability and relentless faith. His reconciliation with his father wasn’t about receiving closure, it was about releasing the burden so he could walk into marriage whole. The episode also dives into the sacred messiness of marriage, how passion, playfulness, purpose, and pain coexist in a lifelong covenant. Kevin’s reflections on sex, spontaneity, spiritual alignment, and shared purpose with his wife are refreshingly honest and disarmingly insightful. This isn’t a highlight reel of a perfect marriage, it’s a living, breathing example of two people choosing each other every day, even when it costs them. His encouragement about the power of brotherhood, the importance of accountability, and the freedom that comes from open conversations, especially about sex and finances, makes this episode a gift for any man who wants to grow, not just as a husband, but as a whole person. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #christianmarriage #godlymarriages #MarriageWithPurpose #KingdomCouples #HusbandsWhoLead #marriagetestimony #LoveAndSacrifice #marriagegodsway #PurposeDrivenMarriage #faithfulhusbands #healingformen #MenWhoPray #breakinggenerationalcycles #VulnerableManhood #GodlyMasculinity #HusbandInProcess #failingforward #MenNeedBrotherhood #PurposeOverPride #RedemptiveLove #frompaintopurpose #GodRewritesStories #ObedienceOverComfort #graceinmarriage

BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here - https://thathusband.kit.com/63905de2db Join That Husband’s Corner, our mailing list, and community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 18: IT’S NOT MAGIC, IT’S MAINTENANCE In this deeply personal episode, we sit down with Drs. Jerry and Gugu Gule, a couple whose love story spans more than 43 years of marriage. From a chance encounter in a university book queue to decades of shared life, the Gules offer a rare glimpse into a covenant marked by friendship, faith, and fierce commitment. Their story is not just about longevity—it’s about intentional love, expressed through the small, ordinary moments that become extraordinary in hindsight. They show us that behind every lasting marriage are difficult conversations, the willingness to say “I’m sorry,” and the sacred act of wiping away each other’s tears—even when you’ve been the cause of them. What makes this episode especially profound is the vulnerability and humility with which the Gules reflect on their journey. Dr. Jerry shares the painful memory of missing a key moment in their second child’s birth due to work, a regret that still weighs heavily on him. Dr. Gugu opens up about the ways in which her early life shaped a guarded, assertive posture and how Christ slowly transformed her heart toward gentleness and forgiveness. They describe how prayer, humour, and a shared commitment to reconciliation helped them navigate heartbreak, misunderstandings, and evolving needs across different seasons of marriage. Together, they model a kind of love that is deeply sacrificial, wholly authentic, and refreshingly unpretentious. This episode is more than just a conversation—it’s a testament. A reminder that marriage, at its best, is not built on grand romantic gestures, but on the slow, steady accumulation of mutual service, grace, and laughter. For every husband and wife wondering if it’s still possible to love and be loved for a lifetime, the Gules offer hope and a blueprint. And in a world that often tells us to walk away when things get hard, this story gently insists: stay, listen, forgive, and grow together. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #MarriageThatLasts #RealMarriageStories #FaithAndMarriage #BlackLoveMatters #MarriedForLife #MarriageBlueprint #IntentionalLove #StayingPower #GritAndGrace #LoveInTheOrdinary #MarriageTestimony #ChristCenteredMarriage #PrayerfulLove #HumbleLove #MarriageGrowth #LifelongLove #SacrificialLove #MarriageVowsLived #HopeForMarriage #ForgiveGrowRepeat #LegacyOfLove #MarriedNotPerfect #EverydayMarriage #GraceInMarriage

BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here - https://thathusband.kit.com/63905de2db Join That Husband’s Corner, our mailing list, and community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 17: In this episode, we sit down with the incredibly thoughtful and grounded Bonko Khoza — not just as an actor, but as a husband, father, and man who continues to wrestle honestly with what it means to show up for the people he loves. This is a conversation between husbands for husbands, where we strip back the performances and talk real about legacy, failure, oneness, sacrifice, and the quiet strength it takes to stay committed — not just to our wives, but to the kind of men we aspire to be. We talk about the gift and weight of fatherhood, the long road of partnership, and how black men are redefining marriage not as an institution of performance, but of purpose. Bonko shares deeply about how his wife has been both his safety and mirror, and how navigating change within marriage requires humility, introspection, and a kind of teamwork that often goes unseen. This episode isn’t about perfection — it’s about persistence, vulnerability, and learning to love from a place of truth, not tradition. If you’re a husband, or hope to be one, this episode is a love letter to the sacred and messy middle of marriage. It’s for those who grew up without examples and those who carry the legacy of good men. It’s for the ones trying to break cycles, build homes, and do the work of becoming. As always, this space is for us — to know better so we can do better. Welcome back to That Husband Podcast. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #BonkoKhoza #BlackMenInLove #marriagematters #HusbandsForHusbands #modernmarriage #BlackLoveMatters #fatherhoodjourney #husbandgoals #authenticmanhood #creativecouples #marriagewisdom #VulnerableConversations #sacredmasculinity #faithandfamily #emotionalintelligence #LoveAndLegacy #CommitmentOverComfort #healthymasculinity #buildingtogether #MarriageIsWork #OnenessInMarriage #blackfathersmatter #LoveIsLabor #marriageiswork