Perfectionism is exhausting, to tell you the truth.
I mean, being goal-driven to do everything to the best of your ability is a great quality to have, but it becomes unhealthy when being an overachiever starts to drain you and makes you feel burnt out for no good reason.
And so in this episode I am going to tell you all about what perfectionism even is, my experiences as a perfectionist, and how I have made efforts to manage it and not let it take over my life, so hopefully there might be something in here to help you if you have similar experiences, and if not, then welcome to my world! I’m happy to teach you all about it.
Today we are talking about that confusing and kinda soul-crushing moment when someone disappears without a word or explanation. And we call this Ghosting.
We are unpacking the initial feelings and response to getting ghosted, why people do it, and how to cope.
A lack of emotional maturity and the inability to communicate is a reflection of who the "ghoster" is.
This week, I’m recording from a whole new environment… literally. I travelled 5 hours to my university campus, swapped my laptop screen for a real-life classroom, met my lecturers and peers in person, and followed a set schedule. It was a total shift from my usual online routine. In this episode, I’m reflecting on the differences between online and on-campus university life. What works, what doesn’t, and how each one shapes the way we learn.
Breakups are one of the most transitional moments in life where we are thrown from a comfortable routine and forced to relearn how to embrace independence.
In this episode I share my experiences and advice on breakups: how to cope, what NOT to do, how to know when you are ready to move on, and all about the emotional impacts.
Join me for a light-hearted talk about breakups and how to process everything that hits us when we go through them.
It could be risky to talk about this topic, but it's one I've been thinking about for a while now.
Cheaters.
We hear the word cheater and immediately think so little of the person at fault. But today's episode is a lesson for not only you, but also myself, which is to not be so quick to judge when you hear someone has cheated.
As a society, we need to dive deeper, and think about whether the act was avoidable, was it justifiable, and can it be forgiven?
Switching up the vibe with an energetic and hilarious guest on this week's Talk About It podcast, as we dive into the wildest revenge stories people have pulled on their ex. From petty pranks to huge paybacks, we break down what is inconvenient, annoying and just plain evil.
Tune in for some laughs, shocking stories and maybe a little bit of inspiration for your next breakup... (you didn't hear that from me).
In conclusion of Taylor Swift's world-famous, record-breaking Eras Tour, I've decided to take a trip down memory lane and revisit my experiences of the nostalgic and magical concert.
We also Talk About Taylor's quiet generosity, and the significant contributions she has made to various organisations over the years.
Happy 2025! This episode embarks the second year of Talk About It, and we're kicking off with an insightful rant.
Recently I have discovered a new angle to look at friendships and the cause of people constantly running away. Long story short: they're not running from you and all of the incredible things you have to offer; they're running from themselves and their inability to appreciate you in the way you deserve.
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Professional bonds are necessary for productivity in the workplace (in my opinion), but not everyone, including my past self, understands that you do not have to be best friends with your coworkers. There is a difference between being friends and being "friendly".
Welcome to the first listener Q&A on the Talk About It podcast. This episode gives Scarlett an exciting opportunity to interact with listeners and answer your most asked questions. Get involved!
19 is an extremely pivotal time in your life where you experience newfound independence and make crucial life choices.
Who we are vs who people want us to be: Our independent journey is inevitably complex. A lot of the time, the media influences our choices and can promote changing to please others and meet their expectations. When you’re 19 and fresh into adulthood, it is important to know that even when you think you’ve met society’s expectations, they will always come out with more, making it impossible to keep up. The moral is, just be yourself and follow your own path.
Hobbies + interests + passions: As we step into adulthood there is a lot of room for openness to explore new interests. However, because this is a time where most people focus on their career path, we often get lost in pursuing an interest that is “impactful” rather than personally fulfilling. It can be so easy to lose sight of what highlights your personal happiness. Find comfort in knowing that you can experiment with so many hobbies and passions without committing for life.
New connections: Communication gets wonky when you no longer see your old friends everyday. It can be so difficult to keep up with everyone and foster your relationships when you keep meeting new people. Because the more people you know, the more people you have to make time for. Your circle is expanding and it can be tricky to be available to everyone 24/7.
Huge life decisions: Will you go to university? Take a gap year? Head straight into the workforce? Work for a few years and pursue uni when you’re older?
Healthy habits: Making huge decisions and having newfound independence is very anxiety inducing because of the pressure to be successful. Even though work and your social life can seem more important, don’t forget about sleep, diet, mental health, and exercise.
Fear of making the wrong decision: It’s totally normal to feel overwhelmed by the variety of choices and opportunities that exist when you’re 19. Remember that the nature of fear stems from uncertainty of the future. However right now in the present there are no decisions currently set in stone. So there’s heaps of room of change and trial and error. Resilience is key for understanding that setbacks is an essential part of the growth journey.
Red flags come in many different forms which makes them tricky to identify. Whilst some can be subconscious, others can be harmful and extremely toxic. In this episode, we talk all about identifying the warning signs and how to address them.
Reminder: You are worth protecting your peace and standing up for your rights.
This episode slightly diverts from the serious content that we usually hear. Instead, I am embracing my current feelings of bitterness and irritation to complain about all of my biggest pet peeves, so that I can leave these feelings behind.
If you click on this episode, prepare to feel just as annoyed as I do when I talk about slow walkers, loud slurpers, flaky friends, people who are constantly negative, and more :/
Enjoy xxx -Scar
We all want answers and we seek apologies when someone hurts us, right? It is insufferable when that "why" question circles our mind every day. But it's time to move on without that closure because you won't get it!
Today I have talked about ways to move on with your life without the closure you deserve. Because it IS possible.
If you don't start today, you never will.
We all experience a lack of motivation at times so today I'd like to share my key tips for maintaining a motivated mindset. We Talk About setting small goals, taking breaks, rewarding yourself and making life easier overall.
If you do not get out of bed today and start working towards the life that you want, then you never will! "Oh but I'll do it tomorrow" "I'll start next week". No you won't!
Write your lists, set your goals and stick to a routine. Start as earlier as possible, babe!
You got this. Remember that the road to success is built on consistency.
It is no secret that adulthood comes with many changes such as our values evolving, fulfilling careers and creating a life independently. The question is: which friends will continue to support you when your values no longer align?
In today's episode, we take a look at the characteristics of a true friend, and distinguish them from fun friends.
Have a think: Who is supporting you emotionally? Who are you proud of seeing in your life 10 years down the line? And last one... who is going to help you to grow?
I have been working up the courage to film an episode addressing mental health because I wanted to make sure I went about it in the right way. I would like this podcast to be a safe and comfortable space for you all, so today I have decided to share some personal stories, experiences and tips for managing mental burdens.
Your feelings are valid, your thoughts are valid and I am proud of you.
Being an adult still feels so new to me. My current position in life made me think about how all of the different conversations, teachings and experiences have gotten me to this exact place that I am today. So for this episode, I have been inspired to discuss my own life lessons and a few that I have learned along the way from other influential people in my life.
Take everything with a grain of salt. We are all shaped by different experiences.
Recently I have had a lot of time to reflect on what I know after being thrown into the real world, compared to what I knew as a school student. I have decided to share with you my insights, tips and opinions on high school and tell you all about the things I wish I knew when I was still in it.
Some relevant topics include the pressure to make high school the "best years of your life", what a healthy relationship looks like, life skills I wish they taught us, career flexibility, and more.
Remember, you are on your own journey.