We don’t shut down because we don’t care. We shut down because we don’t feel safe.This isn’t just a “man thing” — it’s a human thing. In this episode, we explore the subtle, often unseen patterns that cause us to pull away from the people we love most. From unspoken fears to survival strategies masked as silence, this conversation unpacks what’s really happening beneath emotional disconnection.If you’ve ever felt confused by your partner’s withdrawal — or your own — this may help you name the thing beneath the thing.🔥 READY TO STOP DRIFTING? → Take The 7-Day Reset for High-Performing Men: https://www.stumurray.com/7-day-reset Seven questions that separate the men who change from the men who stay stuck. Most won't finish it.ABOUT STU MURRAY & BROTHRI help high-performing men break free from the performance prison that's left them successful on the outside but hollow within. This channel is your roadmap from isolation to brotherhood, from achievement to fulfillment, from doing to being.🔺Key Timestamps00:00 - Introduction & Why This Conversation Matters 04:29 - Wounds Are Created in Relationships – So Is Healing 07:21 - The Victim Identity & Its Hidden Costs 10:01 - Choosing to Heal: Safety, Inner Work & Frustration 16:14 - The Power of Self-Responsibility & Training the Mind 27:00 - Parenting Your Inner Child & Rewriting Your Story 30:00 - Healing From Trauma & Reclaiming Connection 32:11 - Anger, Feminism & the Need for Balance 35:20 - What Feminism Got Right — And Missed 38:09 - Unsafe Masculinity, Nervous Systems & Walls 44:20 - Why Motherhood is Still Undervalued 47:09 - Creating Safe Masculine Structures for Feminine Softness 50:07 - The River & The Banks: Structure, Flow & Harmony 53:00 - Heart-Centered Advice to Women Holding Anger 55:15 - You Must Heal In Relationship – But It Starts With You 57:10 - From Walls to Bridges: Receiving Love Again 01:00:00 - Brotherhood, Vulnerability & Witnessing the Real You 01:06:14 - Closing Reflections: Healing is a Shared Journey