We explore how grief moves like a spiral through life, how it reshapes identity and marriage, and why presence matters more than platitudes. Alexandra Carroll shares her story, reframes the stages, and offers practical tools for self-kindness, attunement, and meaning. • stages as observations, not a rigid program • grief as spiral with triggers across the year • why each person grieves differently • words to avoid and what to say instead • talk less, listen more as core support • setting a p...