
Welcome back to Soul Kink Therapy. In this deeply moving episode, I sit down with Liv Wickedly, who bravely offers her victim mindset—specifically the pattern of waiting to be rescued—onto the altar for transformation.
Liv shares her journey into conscious kink and ethical non-monogamy after leaving a heteronormative marriage, including the burnout experienced in a toxic dynamic where she first explored dominance.
Using the powerful modality of Internal Family Systems (IFS), often called "parts work," within a therapeutic kink container, we embark on a journey inward.
Liv meets several distinct parts of herself: Genevieve, the playful protector deflecting seriousness; Little Liv, the inner child burdened by the fear of getting in trouble; Grayson, the suave protector who keeps things fun but distant; and Lori, an embodiment of ancestral weight and exhaustion.
Through gentle dialogue and somatic awareness, we witness a profound healing conversation and integration, reframing these parts not as problems, but as valuable protectors with wisdom to share.
This session beautifully illustrates how IFS can clean out our inner "home," allowing us to step more fully into reclaiming confidence and conscious power.
00:00 - 04:15 - Intro: Soul Kink Therapy with Liv Wickedly04:15 - 08:30 - Liv's Journey: Kink, ENM, and Burnout08:30 - 11:15 - Offering to the Altar: Releasing the Victim Mindset11:15 - 14:20 - Somatic Exploration: What Does Being Rescued Feel Like?14:20 - 18:05 - Meeting a Protector: Genevieve the Water Dragon18:05 - 24:10 - Meeting the Inner Child: Little Liv & Fear of Getting in Trouble24:10 - 31:00 - Meeting Another Protector: Grayson the Suave Vampire31:00 - 38:55 - Meeting an Ancestral Part: Lori (Young Mother)38:55 - 46:30 - Healing the Inner Child: A Conversation Between Lori & Little Liv46:30 - 51:10 - Integration: Reframing Parts as Protectors & Gifts51:10 - 53:30 - The Dom as a Portal & Accessing Protector Energy53:30 - 56:47 - How to Find Liv Wickedly & Final Thoughts