Episode Summary In this podcast Perry answers REAL questions that you've submitted to perrynoble.com/ask about singleness, sex and dating! Perry answered the following questions in this month's episode: "As we strive to follow God's will for our life, is there one man or woman that is specifically for you? As per God's perfect will for your life? Did he create that husband to be just for me?" - Jenny "So if it's not a sin for husband to lustfully look at his wife, is it sinful for a boyfriend to lustfully look at his girlfriend?" - Grant "If he is a Godly man, and is passively pursuing me should I just give up or give him the benefit of the doubt that he just doesn't know he is being passive? I mean, men can be a little oblivious right!?" - Karlee "What do good physical and emotional boundaries look like in a dating relationship?" - Jaxson "Hey Pastor Perry, I am a single guy in ministry. I hear a lot of people saying to wait on God to bring someone into my life. But I also hear lots of other people say that the only way I'll find the right one is by asking a girl out and getting to know her. Both of which I understand. How do you manage the tension of waiting on God while still trying to get to get to know somebody? And a follow up question to that is, if I am asking someone out, does that mean I'm not waiting on God? Thanks!" - Matt "Pastor P. You speak a lot to staying inside the circle and how to do everything to stay inside the circle and how not to step outside the circle, but what should someone do when the other person has stepped outside the circle and been unfaithful?" - TJ "I dated a girl earlier this year and felt like we connected on multiple levels. I shared with her that I struggle with pornography. A few weeks after that, she ended the relationship stating she couldn't bear to stay with me. I feel like I'm taking the necessary steps to battle and overcome this, but I don't know how to approach that subject with a Christian woman. I want to find someone to be transparent with. What should I do?" - Jared "I was engaged to a non-believer that canceled our wedding 24 hours before. 2 months later he got saved and baptized. We have not dated for a year and now he is trying to come back into my life. Since God makes all things new now that he is saved and lives for Jesus is it ok to try the relationship again? (Pastor P thank you for what you do and your sermons have really changed my life!)" - Amanda "I'm 21 years old, I have begun to feel as though I will never be married. I have never been in a relationship, never been pursued, never even been on a date. I often feel unloved, unwanted, and unworthy. How do I overcome my fears of inadequacy and being alone?" - Hannah Episode Resources Perry is writing a book on being single, relationships and dating scheduled to release later in 2016 and he would LOVE to know what questions you have as a single person, or wish you would've asked before you got married. Just send in your question at perrynoble.com/ask and he may answer it in his book! Episode Quotes The person you marry is ultimately “the one”. — Perry Noble If you cross the line (lusting) in your mind, you will eventually cross that line in reality. Thoughts lead to actions. — Perry Noble If you win the battle for your mind you will ultimately win the battle for one another’s heart. — Perry Noble Girls: it’s okay to sit down and define what being pursued looks like to you. — Perry Noble If a couple will focus on pursuing Jesus, rather than pursuing the “lines”, you’re relationship will be exponentially better. — Perry Noble If you’re pursuing the “lines” then you are limiting the potential of your relationship. — Perry Noble You won’t know if you’re “better together” if y’all are always in bed together. — …