Episode Summary In this podcast Perry answers REAL questions that you've submitted to perrynoble.com/ask about singleness, sex and dating! In this month's episode, Perry answered the following questions: "When is the appropriate age to start accepting Godly pursuits from guys?" - Karis "Why were Old Testament heroes such as Solomon, David, Abraham and Jacob allowed to have more than one wife?" - Kyle "How important is "chemistry" in dating and looking for a future spouse? For example- if you like and respect a guy a whole lot but just don't have that "spark."" - Alex "Hey Pastor P! I'm very much attracted to and have a lot of admiration for a girl that I do youth ministry with. We are close friends. Every time people are around us, they wonder why we aren't dating. I confronted her once, but she is only interested in friendship #friendzone. I'm an interesting guy and I believe I would make a great husband, but most Christian girls tend to want the "bad boys". My question is, why do Christian guys always seem to finish last?" - Joshua "In a relationship, how can you tell when to keep fighting and when to just let it go and break up?" - Carly "I am learning to put down my ideals of what a godly man looks like. For example: maybe he isn't the up front Christian leader, maybe he also is the silent man who communicates his love for God by doing actions. So I want to ask you: What are the different ways that men show they love God? How can I know when a man's first priority is God (even if it isn't something he would be quick to talk about.)?" - Karla "What about those of us who struggle with homosexuality, but don't want to be single the rest of our lives? How do we cope?" - Christina "I'm a 28 year old female in love with Jesus. I'm a leader at my church and am passionate about growing Gods kingdom. The problem I have is finding my male equal. That guy- passionately in love with Jesus, capable of being my spiritual "head"- seems nonexistent around here. I've never found it attractive for a man to have a previous marriage and/or kids. I feel those are things I want to experience for the first time with my husband. All my life people have told me I'm picky but I just feel I'm searching for Gods best for me. After all, I don't have that baggage. I have a job, a house, I'm an independent woman. I want the same things in my partner. What do you think? Should I ask God to open my heart and mind to something I've never thought I wanted- to be less picky? Or am I right in being so selective?" - Kayla "Is there EVER grounds for divorce aside from abuse and infidelity?" Kim Episode Resources Perry is writing a book on being single, relationships and dating scheduled to release later in 2016 and he would LOVE to know what questions you have as a single person, or wish you would've asked before you got married. Just send in your question at perrynoble.com/ask and he may answer it in his book! Episode Quotes Marriage is not about the sparks, marriage is about continually making the effort to love each other every day. — Perry Noble Girls - don’t pick a guy you need to fix. You are not the Holy Spirit, you can’t fix him. And sometimes God won’t fix him because there’s a compromising girl in the way. — Perry Noble Guys - If she says she just wants to be friends, just be a good friend. — Perry Noble Fighting is natural in a relationship. The problem is believing that marriage will make the fighting stop. — Perry Noble If you’re always fighting, figure out why you’re fighting, and if the majority of your relationship is fighting, you should throw in the towel. — Perry Noble Marriage is a magnifier of who you really are. — Perry Noble If the majority of your relationship is fighting, then it’s not worth it. — Perry Noble Girls - Let the criteri…