In this unfiltered episode of Shadow Work, WTF?, Caitlin and support coach Lurinda dive into the messy truth about self-trust in coaching. What started as a completely unplanned chat becomes the perfect demonstration of their message: true coaching happens when you trust yourself enough to loosen your grip on the rigid roadmap. They explore why so many coaches hide behind over-planning and scripts, and how building genuine self-trust creates the breakthrough moments your clients are actually paying for.
This episode is for you if:
You panic at the thought of coaching without a bulletproof plan
You talk over clients because silence feels like you're failing
You secretly worry your clients will discover you don't have all the answers
What we'll cover:
The dead giveaways you're coaching from fear instead of trust
How your relationship with yourself mirrors your coaching effectiveness
Why the simplest trust-building practices create the biggest client transformations
Key Points and Timestamps:
01:19:00 - Trust Under Pressure
Lurinda's real-time anxiety about "getting it right" perfectly illustrates the trust challenges we all face.
05:47:00 - The Planning Paradox
Why obsessive session planning actually blocks your intuition and limits client breakthroughs.
20:00:00 - Self-Trust Red Flags
The telltale signs you've lost trust: fast talking, constant interrupting, and that frantic energy clients can feel.
33:10:00 - Personal Trust Laboratory
Lurinda shares how relationship challenges became her testing ground for deeper self-trust.
40:12:00 - The Magic of Messing Up
Why owning your mistakes actually builds more trust than pretending to be perfect.
48:48:00 - The Liberation of Reality
The relief that comes when you finally stop fighting where you actually are (spoiler: it's the only place transformation happens).
Resources Mentioned:
Shadow Alchemy Certification: shadowalchemycoaching.com
Follow Lurinda: @perspectivebylurinda
Shadow Alchemy Coaching Academy: @shadowalchemycoachingacademy
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