In this vulnerable episode of Shadow Work, WTF?, Caitlin shares her recent breakthrough around righteousness – a protective pattern she developed after narcissistic abuse that eventually became a barrier to authentic connection. She walks through her process of recognising, understanding and integrating this shadow without abandoning her core strength of conviction.

This episode is for you if:

• You find yourself getting defensive or combative when others disagree with you
• You've been told you're "always have to be right" in discussions
• You struggle to allow others to have different opinions without it feeling threatening

What we'll cover:

• How righteousness often develops as protection after gaslighting or emotional abuse
• Why both cognitive understanding AND bodily release are essential for integration
• The process of honouring protective parts while transforming how they manifest

If you've ever struggled with black-and-white thinking, found yourself dying on every hill in an argument, or noticed a pattern of righteousness in your interactions, this episode offers a roadmap for understanding the deeper "why" behind these behaviours – and how to begin shifting them without abandoning your core values.

Key Points and Timestamps:

09:10:00 - The Shadow Emerges

• The contradiction between Caitlin’s strength (emotional safety) and weakness (inflexibility with opinions).

18:09:00 - Meeting the Protector

• Connecting with the part that developed righteousness as protection after abusive relationships.

29:26:00 - Resourceful vs Unresourceful Patterns

• How protective mechanisms that once saved us can later create disconnection.

45:22:00 - The Partner Conversation

• The vulnerable conversation that triggered deeper awareness and processing.

54:05:00 - Recap of the Shadow Alchemy Process

• Key components: awareness, body connection, gift recognition, and integration.

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