On this episode I talk about being in a situation with a person who provides the bare minimum to you spiritually but enjoys the benefits of your company and enjoying you sexually. Knowing and understanding that, people are doing what we allow them to do, because we are not properly communicating our standards or expectations. How do we get to a point that someone is coming over our houses all the time for sex but still has yet to plan a date with you? Or even worse, you are ubering or wasting gas to go over his house, where there is no flowers waiting for you, no meal prepared, just a bed that he made or may not have made, that he wants you to lay in with him. There is more to do, than just lay up with someone.
On this episode I talk about how it pays for you to take things slow and really get to know someone. Dating for a week and then it turning into sex and then hanging out at your place or their place is not dating. That’s just laying up. I give my opinion on what I feel like dating should look like, how to be intentional with the questions you’re asking and how to not waste your time or have someone save you for later.
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On this episode I talk about so many different things. Settling, knowing your worth, being exhausted trying to make a relationship work and spreading yourself thin. This was a really good episode. I’m also going on tour and would love to see yall there here are some links for what I have going on!
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Happy muvas day to every woman, mother or not. Todays episode I honor a few different dynamics of mothers, sisters and daughters and what it means to be a mother. Today is also my first show of the year on Mothers day and in NY how ironic for it to be today of all days? I am so excited, you can still get tickets to join us using the link below. Enjoy.
https://citywinery.com/new-york-city/events/maui-the-writer-pfd9al
On this episode of who do you love I talk about nurturing other relationships outside of our romantic ones. I challenge you to prioritize the things that are important to you and that you enjoy doing with the same enthusiasm used to plan a date with your man. We neglect so many aspects of who we are to show up for other people, we stop spending time with friends and family or even self development things like working out or our hobbies. How can you incorporate both things in your life so neither has to be neglected ? Lets talk.
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This episode I talk about seeking validation from our friends and partners. Making our own decisions and being comfortable with the choices that we make. It is so easy to get caught up in how we think other people are viewing us or their perceptions of us. Making choices you are happy with unapologetically. I have a mothers day poetry show coming up in New York and have also included the ticket link.
https://citywinery.com/new-york-city/ticket-selection?eventId=maui-the-writer-pfd9al
Are you entertaining transactional relationships by overextending yourself, people pleasing or associating your worth with being needed? Some people love of for what we do not who we are and what we can offer that benefits them . The quote goes “judge a man by his patience when he has nothing and his attitude when he has everything” People tolerate more when they need someone it’s not until they are in the position where they feel they don’t need someone or can no longer benefit that they show their true colors .
The poem in the beginning is called
“you ain’t never loved nothing”.
This episode I talk about letting go, being uncomfortable, celebrating yourself and all that you have. I had a conversation yesterday where I mentioned this, but this has always been a theme in my life. Not celebrating myself or my journey just always focusing on what I need to do next or be better at. Look around, you so far from where you started. Honor that. Appreciate that. Thank God for it.
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Today I talk about Ramadan and fasting. Fasting from social media and people. Starting a 30 day self care challenge. Prioritizing your time so you can take care of yourself and not make excuses for all the stuff you need to be doing. How would you feel if you realized the biggest distractions In your life were the people you are around? Are you not able to juggle it all, are you being a follower or are you just not prioritizing your time correctly?
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It’s been a while and I have missed all of you. I have still been going to therapy and now back to working on my psychology degree. Being a mom of 3 has been dragging me by the hair but I’m doing my best!
On this episode I touch on a few topics
Forgiveness
Being mindful of who you take advice from and tell your business to
Being mindful of when you are wasting your advice on people who are committed to their own narratives.
Building a relationship with God and fasting from things.
On this episode we talk about pacing yourself when dated to give yourself time to see exactly who someone is. It is no benefit to us to move fast when taking our time could not only lead to the same results but more than likely better results.
Pacing your love because not everyone deserves it and sometimes we have so much of it to give too much of our love to people who are only there to use us up.
Taking your time when your dating and getting to know someone and asking yourself what is being invested in this dating phase
Is it just quality time?
Conversation?
Romance?
Is it consideration and thoughtfulness
Is it being intentional ?
What have they communicated that they are looking for or what their intentions are when with dating?
On this episode we talk about a few things and one of those things are the reason behind why it is easier for some of us women to give more grace to the men in our lives who have betrayed us but not to the women in our lives who we have built friendships with? Granted I do understand that there are complex situations, but in the scenarios where a conversation could have been had why did that not happen?
Thinking about the relationships that you have with women in your life is there anything that reminds you of the relationship that you have with your mother or other women in your life ?
How did they make you feel? Do you miss them and if you do what do you miss? What would have been an ideal outcome of the situation ?
If you’re tuned into this episode know that I miss you and am so happy and grateful that you all have been patient with me. But as I said, write down a few things that you do without blaming someone. Because there is always going to be someone who mishandled you, but I want you to focus on the emotions that you felt instead and how it has shaped you.
Also when I say “Why do you do the things you do without blaming other people” doesn’t mean that I’m not saying don’t hold people accountable or that they don’t deserve blame . I’m just saying for this specific thing I want you to do, I do not want you to involve those people.
Compassion, Not judging, creating and communicating real boundaries. These are a few points I talk about.
On this episode we have our special guest AJ McQueen. I ask him about growing up in St. Louis, mental health, relationships, his inner child, therapy and what does self care mean to him. The episode was really great and he dropped so many gems that people would be able to take away when it comes to how to show up for themselves, be confident and give themselves grace. Check out his music and tour dates below. My personal favorite song is Love Jones.
WATCH THE FULL VIDEO HERE https://youtu.be/zwQKyr7cl3U
TOUR TICKETS - AJTHEGREAT.COM/TOUR
APPLE MUSIC - https://music.apple.com/us/artist/aj-mcqueen/540889165
SPOTIFY - https://open.spotify.com/artist/5yQzq87Fu3ZTADxVWwWoj7?si=zXp1_iaeQHmvTHaw9b05-Q
