Christine and her husband went to a kinky viking party (as one does,) and had a very HOT time. "How attached are you to these nipple hairs?" If you have an amazing or appalling story to share, DO NOT KEEP IT TO YOURSELF. Write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love with the subject line: After Action Report. Maybe we'll get back to you!

It's the 1000th episode of the Savage Lovecast. We started in 2006, when George W. Bush was President. And look at us now! We packed this show with as many quick questions as we could. (One minute or less.) And Dan answered as quickly as he could. And! We invited long time friends of the show to pop on and answer some questions as well: Ezra Klein, Esther Perel, Mistress Matisse, Mike Pesca, Therapy Jeff, Doc Barak, Joan Price, Dan's Producer Nancy, and Dan's husband Terry. The gang's all here! You'll get an inside look at how the show is made, and how Dan has evolved over these many years. Some of the questions asked and answered: What is up with "Yahtzee?" Does "pegging" come from pirates? Does blood make for good lube? Who listens to all the calls that come in? Do you get a weird feeling when you dig in your bellybutton? Happy New Year and thanks for listening everyone! Your resolution? Get on the show. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. Have we mentioned that we've been doing this for 20 years?

Her needs were simple. She wanted to wear a trench coat with nothing underneath and to pretend to be a high-end escort for her boyfriend. He gladly obliged and their session was full of surprises.... If you have a dirty little story you would like to share of your first time doing something unspeakably hot, writer it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love with subject line: After Action Report. Fill our inbox.

"Who will buy my smelly panties?" A woman realizes that it would be a waste to just wash them. A married man in an open relationship wishes his wife would be as affectionate as his lovers. On the Magnum, it's everybody's favorite guy who knows things about sports...Mike Pesca! (Host and creator of The Gist, the longest running daily news and analysis podcast, and the author of Upon Further Review: The Greatest What-Ifs In Sports History.) Dan and Mike go over the particulars of the steamy Canadian show "Heated Rivalry" to determine how closely it hews to the sport called "hockey." And, a gay man is tempted to sleep with guys who are in monogamous relationships. He wants to be a "gay's gay"- a good upstanding gay. Not some home-wrecking gay. But he also would very much like to sleep with these lads...will Dan advise him to listen to the angel or the devil on his shoulder? This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app where the open-minded can meet the like-minded. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. This episode is brought to you by Mars Men- supplements that support healthy levels of testosterone. For a limited time, Lovecast listeners get 60% off for life AND 2 free gifts when you use the code Savage at MenGoToMars.com. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From ethical non-monogamy to unethical non-monogamy, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

The scene: it's a secret threeway, upstairs at the party. 2 men, one woman, 2 minutes, one orgasm. To hear more salacious deets, tune in. We've heard of speed dating...but this is a whole other level. Do you have a tale to tell? Write it up and send it in: Q@Savage.Love Do you have a comment for this show? Record it and send it in to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064

A married woman and her husband agreed to open the marriage up, with clear rules and boundaries. Guess what! He flagrantly broke the rules. Now, she is considering sleeping with someone else as a form of revenge. Too toxic? A divorced woman is still very good friends with her husband. She's so close with him, that her boyfriends break up with her over it. Are they just jealous or is she part of the problem? On the Magnum, it's a "What You Got?" with Dr. Alicia Walker who recently published a study about infidelity. She is a sociologist who digs into the sexual lives people keep under wraps: infidelity, kink, secret same-sex behavior, and other closeted practices. She and Dan talk about the stigma against cheating, and the conditions under which it can be the moral choice. And, what is the actual difference between porn and prostitution? Sex work is sex work right? Q@Savage.Love. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Aura Frames, the best digital picture frame, and the best gift EVER. For a limited time, visit AuraFrames.com and get $35 off Aura’s best-selling Carver Mat frames by using promo code SAVAGE at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Mars Men- supplements that support healthy levels of testosterone. For a limited time, Lovecast listeners get 60% off for life AND 2 free gifts when you use the code Savage at MenGoToMars.com. Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy for 1/2 off! That's just $24 from Dec 1-31.  Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, world traveller, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From pegging, to negging, cross-dressing to cuckolding and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy for 1/2 off! That’s just $24 from Dec 1-31.  A recent widow grapples with a surge in her libido. A gay man has been a top for all of his sexual life. Now that's he's a dating a man who wants to top him every now and again, can he learn to like it? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Kelly Foster Lundquist, Author of "Beard." 20 years after her divorce from her closeted gay husband, Lundquist writes about her experience as a "beard." She and Dan discuss how unfair and damaging the closet can be. After 10 glorious days, a straight man got dumped and then ghosted. Which hurts more? Ouch Q@Savage.Love. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Beducated, the leading platform for pleasure-based sex education for adults. Go to Beducated.com and use the code SAVAGE for 50% a yearly pass.  This episode is brought to you by Hims, providing affordable access to ED treatment, online. Start your free online visit today at Hims.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From beards to bondage to bisexuality, and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, in these darkest of dark times.

Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy for 1/2 off! That’s just $24 from Dec 1-31. ⁠  It was her first time pegging a man, though she'd dreamed of it for years. Dream fulfilled. How did it go? What did he wear? Who brought the gear? All of your (and Dan's) nosey questions are answered. Do you have a tale to tell? Write it up and send it in: Q@Savage.Love Do you have a comment for this show? Record it and send it in to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064

Hear the harrowing tale of the masochist lad who walked into the dungeon and ended up getting flogged...a lot. Did he like it? Would he do it again? Listen and find out. Do you have a tale to tell? Write it up and send it in: Q@Savage.Love Do you have a comment for this show? Record it and send it in to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064 It's the Magnum Gift sale Dec 1–31! Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy at 50% off, just $24! Savage.love/gift. Who is Dan Savage? Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

It's the Magnum Gift sale Dec 1–31! Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy at 50% off, just $24! Savage.love/gift. Listen in on Dan's conversation with a woman who learned that her husband had an affair early in their relationship. It turns out she's been chatting with the other woman for a year without knowing it was her! She lives up the street! Dan advises her on whether to broach the subject with her husband's ex-lover. A woman loves receiving anal sex so much, that she comes immediately and then needs her husband to get outta there. How can she prolong both of their pleasure? On the Magnum, Mpox cases are on the rise worldwide. Dan brings on queer sexual health teacher Dr. Carlton Thomas to give us the scoop. He was a clear and steady source of information during the first Mpox outbreak, and he's here guide us today. Finally, a middle-aged straight man who "broad"casts his feminist allyship on social media has a gaggle of younger women he's collected from his comments section who all expressed interest in him. He *may* want to try to commit to one of them, but doesn't want to make mistakes from his past. If he chooses just one, how can he "not get bored and fuck it all up?" 206-302-2064 Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by Overload by Maxxm: supplements that leave a lasting impression in the bedroom. For a discount go to maxxm.com/savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

Meet Chrissy, a bisexual woman and self-identified pervert, who went to a sex club for the first time. What happened there? Well, let's just say you may feel...shocked. Want to tell your tale? Write us at Q@Savage.Love Want to hear more from Dan Savage? Listen to the Savage Lovecast @Savage.Love. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

We know you're struggling. So we brought in the most soothing human on the planet-Therapy Jeff- to offer tips on how to get through Thanksgiving with your nasty family. In short, don't take the bait, find your family buddy, and if you are alone on the holiday, get yourself to a gay bar. Also, a woman who considers herself bad in bed wonders how she can find a "sex teacher." And, a woman wonders if she has her sub drink her pee while she is on SSRIs, will he ingest her meds? "Gobble" it up! Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Carafem, an abortion and reproductive healthcare provider that offers both in person care in Atlanta, Chicago, Washington DC and telehealth options for abortion pills by mail in 20 states. Carafem’s team of licensed medical professionals provide personalized abortion care options focused on your needs, preferences, and values. Visit Carafem.org to learn more. This episode is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app where the open-minded can meet the like-minded. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play.

On this weeks After Action Report, Dan spoke with Milo, a trans man who tried nipple torture after getting top surgery. This is a joyful tale of sexual recovery. We hope you enjoy it. We would very much like to hear about YOUR freaky funtimes. Write about your new sexual experience and send it to Q@Savage.Love with the subject line "After Action Report." We'll get in touch! Do you like this? Yeah you do. There's more of this sort of thing at the Savage Lovecast, Dan Savage's advice show. Listen up at Savage.Love or wherever you get your podcasts

She dated her neighbor for a while, until it became clear that she couldn’t enjoy sex with him because his giant, massive, gargantuan penis was too big for her. Now that she is starting to date other men, should she tell them the history of her friendly neighbor 5 doors down? A woman has enjoyed friends-with-benefits relationship with a man where all they do is cuddle and have sex. No outings with friends. No movies. No hikes. Now that he is beginning to get serious with another woman, can they maintain this friendship *without* the benefits? On the Magnum, a very miserable woman considers doing sex work after applying for hundreds of jobs with no results. Dan brings on Ashley Bloomberg- a sex researcher who recently published a paper on the reasons sex workers in Las Vegas pursued their careers. The difference between doing sex work under duress vs. doing sex work out of genuine desire is stark. And, it’s the nightmare scenario: A queer, polyamorous woman dating a trans woman has a 14 year-old son who has gone full conservative Christian on her. The lad thinks that sex outside of marriage is an unforgivable sin. What is going on with him, and how can the caller bring him to a more kind and reasonable mindset? Call with your questions, or you will be banished to the lake of fire. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Hims, providing affordable access to ED treatment, online. Start your free online visit today at Hims.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Aura Frames, the best digital picture frame, and the best gift EVER. For a limited time, visit AuraFrames.com and get $45 off Aura’s best-selling Carver Mat frames by using promo code SAVAGE at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

For this After Action Report, Dan chats with Ember, a life-long sneeze fetishist. She gets turned on when her lovers sneeze, and thus, stocks up on imported sneezing powder. And although she prefers being a sneezing dom, she also delved into submission and share the details. Hear about her journey. We would very much like to hear about YOUR journey. Write about your new sexual experience and send it to Q@Savage.Love with the subject line "After Action Report." We'll get in touch! Do you like this? Yeah you do. There's more of this sort of thing at the Savage Lovecast, Dan Savage's advice show. Listen up at Savage.Love or wherever you get your podcasts

A mother's challenge: her 12 year-old son's lesbian friend (who isn't out to her parents,) said that she was into gooning. Right in front of her! The mom wants to be an ally, but also would like them to back off on the oversharing. Sometimes on a sex advice podcast, you have to call a veterinarian. A man's new girlfriend, (a professed "animal lover,") lets the cat hump her leg to completion. He thinks this is kind of gross. Dan brings on a veterinarian from Seattle's Urban Animal to confirm if it is indeed "gross." On the Magnum, we all know that LENGTH DOES NOT MATTER. But what about... girth? Sex researcher Dr. Debby Herbenick is on to talk about the physiology of female pleasure. Also, she and Dan discuss the continuing bewildering popularity of choking. A woman has a fantastic, indulgent, skilled lover. She is loud but non-verbal when she comes. He wants to know exactly when she is going over the falls. How can she let him know without having to say "NOW!" You should ask Dan a question NOW! Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Erika Lust.com -the world’s leading platform for ethical, cinematic adult films. Right now, my listeners get 45% off your subscription when you enter the code SAVAGE45 at erikalust.com. That’s Erika Lust with a k! Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ForiaWellness.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by Carafem, an abortion and reproductive healthcare provider that offers both in person care in Atlanta, Chicago, Washington DC and telehealth options for abortion pills by mail in 20 states. Carafem’s team of licensed medical professionals provide personalized abortion care options focused on your needs, preferences, and values. Visit Carafem.org to learn more. Subscribe to the Magnum⁠ for the full interviews, chats with Dan, and more! Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to pegging, gay rights to gooning and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

After Action Report #3 Squirting Kira This week, meet a woman who finally, after YEARS of persistence, has learned how to squirt. Practice makes perfect, and now she has mastered the messy art. Hear all about how she got there, what she plans for her squirting future, and "Is female ejaculate actually pee?" Kira ends the controversy definitively. Have you gotten out of (or into) your comfort zone? Write us at Q@Savage.Love with the subject line: After Action Report, and we might get back to you. Do you like this? Yeah you do. There's more of this sort of thing at the Savage Lovecast, Dan Savage's advice show. Listen up at Savage.Love or wherever you get your podcasts

A woman's bisexual husband has been getting "gayer and gayer" to the point where he is only interested in her if she acts like a dude. Her friend is worried about her. How can this marriage work? Are there any straight leather daddies out there who aren't misogynistic creeps? This caller is NOT HAPPY. On the Magnum, it's a "What You Got" with psychology professor Dr. Justin Mogilski. His study on people who maintain friendships with their exes was misinterpreted and misused. He and Dan talk about why the myths persist, and about his new study looking at the ingredients that make open relationships work. And, a newly out femme lesbian loves her long, detailed, luscious nails. But for obvious reasons, she thinks she should probably trim a couple of them. Will people notice? Rrrrwwwworrrr! Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage Subscribe to Magnum⁠ for the full interviews, chats with Dan, and more! Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to pegging and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

On this week's After Action Report, a trans man made his way to his first furry party. He doesn't have a full suit yet, just paws, ears and a tail. For those in full fur suits, you might be wondering: How do they, you know...do it? You'll have to listen for this detail. Do YOU have a.. ahem...tail...to share of a new sexual experience? Write us at Q@Savage.Love with the subject line: After Action Report, and we might get back to you. Do you like this? Yeah you do. There's more of this sort of thing at the Savage Lovecast, Dan Savage's advice show. Listen up at Savage.Love or wherever you get your podcasts. Call the Lovecast: 206-302-2064 Send a prerecorded question to: Q@Savage.Love

A woman's lefty friend berated her for enjoying drag, saying it's like blackface for trans women. The caller loves drag and had never thought about this before. Is it true? A straight man loves the idea of seeing a naked woman walking around her house. He wonders if others would love to see him naked, you know, just kickin' it at home. On the Magnum, let the swooning begin! Actor Ben Palacios from Palm Royale is charming, talented and easy on the eyes. He relays his tales of kissing Ricky Martin, and making a fool of himself in front of Carol Burnett. Dan and Ben share their first boyfriend experiences, and advise a straight couple who are arguing over the man's ball scratching habit. Also, should a straight man take poppers before his proctology exam? And dating new divorcees: Bad idea, or not a problem? Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Hims, providing affordable access to ED treatment, online. Start your free online visit today at ⁠Hims.com/Savage⁠. This episode is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app where the open-minded can meet the like-minded. Download Feeld on the⁠ App Store⁠ or ⁠Google Play⁠. This episode is brought to you by Erika Lust.com -the world’s leading platform for ethical, cinematic adult films. Right now, my listeners get 45% off your subscription when you enter the code SAVAGE45 at ⁠erikalust.com⁠. That’s Erika Lust with a k! Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project as well as the ⁠Hump! Film Festival⁠. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.