My book publishes Oct 31. You can get it at a discount + free bonuses:
1. How To Brainwash Yourself course that pulls mind control principles from my cult experience for positive identity transformation.
2. An advance copy of Anima: 5 Aspects of the Feminine Unconscious. My next book (to publish 2026) on female psychology.
3. My entire premium meditation library from MindValley/Insight Timer.
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ORGSM, A Memoir is my true story of being in a female-led cult where I learned deep truths about f***ing and mindf***ing.
It's already the #1 New Release in the Psych/Human Sxuality, Memoirs/Deceptions, and Cults categories; & already top 5 bestseller.
I connected with Sascha over a post he made of “why women in their 40’s are the unhappiest ever.” Whether that’s true or not, it’s food for important conversation about modern dating and relationships.
Sascha Haert is a coach for women. Tbh, I used to have a lot of judgement of men who coach women (and of women who only coach men). But he has a lot of great insight on: Why successful women hardly find love, what’s important in the bedroom, why women resent men so much these days, how woman makes space for a man in life, what kind of woman do men want in a relationships, and exploring: do women understand the power they hold?
We’re two men commenting on the plight of women, so take it with some salt. However, Sascha has a lot of knowledge from the many women he’s helped.
00:00 Women in their 40s are the unhappiest ever
02:13 Getting lost trying to become a masculine woman
06:51 How to be a good father to a daughter
07:59 Woman making space for a man in life
12:07 Why women resent men so much
15:03 Be yourself in order to be liked
19:02 How Sascha became a coach for women
29:00 Fathers shape daughters’ relation to relationship
31:00 Sexual liberation of women
33:35 Open relationships yes or no
46:26 Sascha’s work
48:50 There’s too much competition between sexes
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Working with horses is the most profound thing I've done in many years. Most recently I've been training with Sergio Faerman.
Sergio is a former semi-pro MMA fighter, horse therapy trainer, and “gaucho” (Latin American tradition of cowboy). He and I first met training MMA, and I’ve been training in horse riding with him.We discuss why men need to learn horseriding, how horses teach you to be a healthy leader (horses teach you how to be balanced in dominance and empathy), what therapy with horses looks like, how horses can show you your trauma, and more.Connect with Sergio on IG (English or Spanish) https://www.instagram.com/sergiofaerman/We MAY run a retreat together next year with horses. If you’re interested, shoot me a message.00:00 Intro05:15 Horses can talk09:27 The story about natives11:45 Horses teach you how to be a healthy leader24:40 The connection between horses and girls36:00 Horses show you your traumas42:08 Electromagnetic field carries information45:40 Finding your life purpose is everything48:52 Truly connecting with creation52:00 Do horses have alpha males in herd?56:00 Testosterone can be dangerous01:01:01 Sergio’s work with horses
Justin Nault is a nutrition therapist. We have a fascinating discussion on metabolic health, hormones, nutrition, and the mind.Justin on IG: @justinnaultofficialHis supplement company: iamclovis.com00:00 Guest Introduction: Who Is Justin?00:56 Justin's Music Career and Body Dysmorphia01:33 Journey Into Health and Wellness04:10 Plant Medicine and Life Changes04:46 Nutrition and the Paleo Diet05:42 Savannah's Story and the Birth of a New Mission08:55 The Problem with Seed Oils12:32 Understanding Human Metabolism19:28 Training Methodologies and Health24:48 Cultural and Psychological Aspects of Health27:45 The Harmful Goggins Mentality28:49 Small Wins and Building Momentum29:48 Critique of Plant Medicine and Avoidance Pattern31:22 Personal Journey and Recovery Insights32:43 Nutrition and Recovery Tips35:04 Balancing Self-Love and Ambition37:38 The Importance of Individualized Advice41:48 Good vs. Evil and Integrating the Shadow49:08 The Complexity of Critical Thinking50:24 Connecting and Offering Guidance
Netflix’s Adolescence has sparked much debate around masculinity. Is it feminist propaganda? Or an important awakening around the “manosphere”?
I analyze the series from the perspective of the male collective unconscious: What the show got right, what it got wrong, and how it fits in with modern culture, including Andrew Tate, redpill, the manosphere, Jordan Peterson, Joe Rogan, and more.
00:00 Introduction to Adolescence on Netflix
00:45 Personal Reactions and Empathy
01:29 Two Major Psychological Themes
04:01 Incel Psychology
08:35 Personal Reflections on Adolescence
19:46 The Red Pill and Manosphere
23:14 Propaganda and Cultural Implications
28:22 Self Esteem vs. Respect
28:54 The Secondary Father (Joseph Camp)
29:12 The Hero's Journey and Male Psychology
30:51 The Role of the Secondary Father in Development
32:23 Personal Experience with Secondary Fathers
34:52 The Impact of Parental Approval
39:33 The Struggle with Male Anger and Pain
42:00 The Influence of Modern Masculine Role Models
52:58 The Need for Striving for Excellence
56:28 Final Thoughts and Conclusion
Why do women like possessive men? Miiska returns to the podcast to discuss dating and relationships. Plus, his major life changes: his new found fame and recent death of his father. Miiska Van Renterghem is Finland’s #1 men’s coach and personal development podcaster. He’s also a good buddy and former client of mine.
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00:00 Miiska’s story of becoming masculine
03:45 Shifting from liberal to more conservative
07:10 The importance of relaxation
09:20 Why are women sexually more vulnerable than men
14:24 Guys are more insecure when having little sexual experience
18:20 Women with relationship trauma
21:26 Being responsible with one night stands
26:58 Open relationships
30:42 How to deal with losing a father
51:55 Are all your affairs in order?
Lucilla was once Denmark's top female pickup artist. Now she's a worldwide midwife (and the wife of Andreas from last episode). We discuss her unusual Journey as a woman in the early pickup community, her approach to developing confidence, social skills, and authenticity.
00:00 - Pickup, coaching
02:00 - Social skills, dating in teens
05:20 - Is dating easier for guys or girls?
06:30 - Who needs love when you have the game
07:40 - The game or manipulations
17:30 - Authenticity is next level of the game
24:25 - What you look for in dating?
32:30 - Does pickup change your perspective of men
39:05 - What you want, need and get
44:00 - From pickup to relationship
53:00 - Children and social skills
57:40 - Practice what you're bad at
For many men, their introduction to personal development was the infamous “pickup community”. My friend “Worldwide Psychologist” Andreas and I speak on our experiences, good and bad, and how it led to deeper understandings in self-discovery. We also cover why we replay childhood relations, installing values into your kids, and why staying connected to yourself is important.
00:00 Discovering who you are
04:00 Discovering yourself through forums
06:45 Pick up community
08:00 Benefits of tinder
11:50 Healthy pickup coaching
13:00 Childhood trauma and healing
17:15 You have to abandon the game
21:15 Consistency and intensity pay off
25:55 Why is staying connected to yourself important
28:55 Installing values into your kids
34:50 What you emphasize is what your kids will aim to
40:45 Have more trust in yourself
45:55 You thrive during a process
46:40 Persistency in intensity
Higher consciousness through sex?
If you've ever felt in an altered state from falling in love, taking MDMA, or really great sex, then you may have experienced what Timothy Leary called the “Neurosomatic Circuit”—the state of consciousness that comes with a deep connection between mind and body, typically through sustaining sexual arousal.
This episode covers how sexual arousal can be used to enhance your emotional state, via lessons I learned intensively studying sexuality in my early 20s. Such as, why men need control of their urges, sexual dysfunctions and healing, how chronic tension effects on body, and tips on sustaining sexual arousal.
00:00 - Intro
02:00 - Arousal and consciousness
09:35 - Announcements
11:30 - 8 circuit model of consciousness
29:30 - Connection between mind and body
50:00 - Truth carries the most sensation
56:20 - Sustaining sexual arousal
01:03:15 - Anxiety and arousal
01:04:30 - Chronic tension effects on body
01:08:30 - Higher consciousness through sex
My friends Kris and Lily came back from a breakup to coming back together and now happily married with two kids. In order to do so, they both had to drastically change themselves and their reality.
We discuss major turning points in a romantic relationship, balancing ideologies in a relationship, and some key (and possibly taboo) principles about how men and women can find deep harmony together.
If you’re having relationship issues and you want to fix it, apply to Lead Your Family— small group program for men in committed relationships: https://www.ruwando.com/LYF Kris and Lily run a business together helping expats relocate to Thailand. https://cnxlocal.com/
00:00 - From Modern to Traditional Relationship
06:50 - Turning points in a romantic relationship
15:00 - Why are rituals important for a relationship?
27:00 - Leaving your principles for a greater goal
37:00 - Learning how to surrender to your partner
43:00 - Balancing Ideologies in Relationships
49:00 - Shift in relationship dynamics
01:03:00 - Christian values of family and community
01:14:00 - Passing on your values to your kids
"A man's beauty represents inner functional truths: his face shows what he can do." (Albert Camus)
Trauma (inhibitions to normal function) shows up in out nonverbal communication— facial expressions and posture. We can read one's emotions through their resting faces and micro-expressions. Here's how to read, and modify yours from trauma to ease and confidence.
00:00 - Intro
01:40 - Body language - first impressions
06:05 - A man's looks demonstrate what he can do
11:05 - How to understand trauma
18:40 - Your face mirrors your feelings
22:37 - Left side of face vs right
32:15 - The four circuits of consciousness
44:30 - Why you should have good physical awareness
49:25 - Tips on how to not contract
52:10 - The Inner Smile exercise
56:50 - Welcoming all the sensations
58:50 - How to control your tension
Why do you get nervous? Do you “choke” in important moments? i.e. Meeting someone you’re attracted to, public speaking, conflict or competition?
How to “conquer your inner weakness” really comes down to how to change your stress response.
The episode breaks down how to change your stress response. We’ll start with the biologically process of acute stress, and how to “practice right emotions” so the next time you’re faced with an important moment— in business, love, or life— you’ll have a winning response, rather than a self-sabotaging one.
00:00 - Intro
01:46 - Announcements
10:50 - Why do you get nervous?
15:55 - Steroid hormone stress
22:40 - Understanding your physiology
36:00 - Emotional distress vs. chronic stress
39:45 - The winner vs. the loser effect
45:45 - Practice right emotional response
1:05:00 - Why breathing calms your brain
1:08:50 - Recap
Mrs. Meepagala rejoins the pod after 100 episodes. (She was on ep100 before we had kids).
We speak on power dynamics and imbalance in relationships, mother and father figure differences, the beauty of surrendered woman, and our personal experiences with “trad” gender roles.
If you’re a man in a committed relationship that’s not going the way you want, you may want to join my small group program:
00:00 - Intro
00:43 - Motherhood and work during baby years
05:27 - Challenging part of becoming a parent
07:10 - Why is family support important during pregnancy?
10:55 - Beauty of surrendered woman
13:20 - Do young women understand hormonal cycle?
15:41 - Nuclear family and masculine values
20:45 - Power of surrendered state
33:48 - Intrinsic motivation vs proving yourself
38:14 - Choosing motherhood or entrepreneurship
44:10 - Male vs female competition and confidence
52:11 - Mother and father figure differences
59:28 - Finding ways to relax when parenting
1:03:28 - Power dynamics and imbalance in relationships
A few months ago the Economist wrote an article on the political gender gap— how men are becoming more conservative, and women more liberal. While this seems like a recipe for conflict, in many ways this is a return to human nature.
This episode covers the evolutionary roots behind political leanings, the reasons for recent cultural shifts, and some fascinating studies about how your political leading may reveal itself in a brain scan.
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00:00 - Intro: Cultural shift to left
3:20 - New Course: Lead Your Family
5:50 - Biological difference between liberal and conservative
14:40 - Biology behind liberal brain
18:15 - Karl Marx and Nietzsche
30:22 - Why is there a political gender gap?
37:17 - Why are young men more conservative?
01:02:59 - How to balance the polarities
01:14:57 - Are you truly worthy of respect?
01:26:12 - Are you making the right decisions?
01:30:24 - Recap
Marine heals PTSD with brain mapping and plant medicine.
Brain-mapping is a relatively new technology that trains a person to recreate neural patterns.
Veteran marine Luke Jensen speaks on how he healed his PTSD through brain-mapping and plant medicine and how these modalities can help people with unwanted emotional patterns like anxiety and depression.
We discuss the Marine Corps, PTSD psychological vs spiritual side, post-war rituals, war and the concept of nationality, Germanic paganism and more.
Check out Luke's work: https://www.tiwazawakening.com/
00:00 - Intro
00:03 - Recalling marine journey
08:05 - Marine corps and legal issues
15:40 - (Afghanistan) war and corruption
19:37 - War and the concept of nationality
25:38 - War zone and politics
32:53 - After war psychological crisis
34:20 - PTSD as modern phenomenon
44:39 - What is brain mapping?
53:50 - Brain mapping and plant medicine
58:05 - Stress response and brain mapping
Almost all internal conflict can be described as the Heart vs. Mind Dilemma— Your thoughts want one thing and your feelings want another. The episode covers how to solve this dilemma: When to listen to your head over your heart? When to listen to your heart over your mind? How do you calibrate your intuition?
00:00 - Heart vs. Mind Dilemma
01:35 - Announcements
04:13 - Distortions of the head and heart
06:05 - Why logic kills creativity
08:50 - Should we follow our heart or mind?
14:00 - When to listen to your heart over your mind
16:08 - When you shouldn't listen to your feelings
24:41 - Do you empower your heart?
30:59 - Is your intuition calibrated?
36:38 - Synergy of heart and mind
46:05 - Recap
The desire for dominance is within all men. A man has to be connected to his dominance in order to be a useful lover, father, leader, teammate. But how does a dominant man act? What does it mean to be dominant in relationships, without being a jerk?
This episode covers the psychology behind informal power dynamics, how to be a more dominant male, the real importance of dominance in relationships, how a dominant man takes responsibility, why a dominant man makes woman feel safe, why a dominant male takes risks, how handling tension is a sign of dominance, signs of a dominant man (in relationships), and deep down why dominance is within all men.
00:00 Importance of Dominance in Relationships
04:31 Dominance and Approval
08:14 What does it mean to be dominant in relationships?
13:57 How to be the dominant person in relationships?
15:15 Dominant man takes responsibility
16:40 Handling tension is a sign of dominance
19:08 How does a dominant man act?
There is power in the masculine dark side— The thoughts, feelings, and instincts that don't fit in society's morality. But what is your dark side? How do you integrate the dark side in a healthy constructive way?
Jung's “shadow” is the part of your psyche that you dissociated from, and therefore put it in the “dark”. Uncovering the dark masculine and shadow work requires looking at deep impulses and shame, to bring that part of your power back into the light.
00:00 - The power of masculine dark side
00:39 - What is your dark side?
4:53 - Understanding the male psyche
5:55 - Masculine personality archetypes
8:39 - Results of early childhood experience
10:00 - Morals and personality
13:25 - Why are women attracted to men's dark side?
14:55 - How to integrate your dark side?
17:14 - Dealing with shame and embarrassment
18:58 - Validating and expressing emotions
19:50 - Integrating aggressive side of men
How powerful is language manipulation? I originally invited Joshua Lisec on to discuss writing, but we ended up speaking about his most recent book, Unhumans: The Secret History of Communist Revolutions.
We discuss how philosophy shapes a society, the evolution of Marxism in society, soft vs hard power, dangers of far right and far left, and some interesting history nuggets of communist propaganda in the Americas.
Joshua authored over 90 books, mostly ghostwriting famous titles you’ve definitely heard of.
Joshua is a conservative who speaks straight and some of what he says may not jive with your beliefs. But in the current political climate, I feel it’s especially important to 1) recognize the workings of ANY ideology on a population, 2) listen to intelligent people that you do not agree with.
00:00 - Intro: self-publishing vs. traditional
01:34 - Evolution of Marxism in society
16:12 - How powerful is language manipulation?
22:51 - Does end justify the means?
31:08 - Soft vs. hard power
40:30 - Moral values, Christianity and society
47:18 - How to battle an ideology?
48:47 - Far right and far left
57:10 - What is the future of publishing?
Is there a difference between Western vs. Eastern dating culture?
Last time Hans Comyn was on the podcast he shared a controversial opinion that ruffled some listeners’ feathers— that Western men are better off dating non-Western women.
We discuss this point of view and some key questions such as:
Why is dating different in East vs West?
Are men attracted to traditional women?
Is choice of women related to standards? Or culturization? Or some other unconscious factor?
Dating in a a small town vs city?
Is success more important than failure?
Hans’ “Gentlemen’s Guide”: https://t.ly/YMpBD
Hans on meeting foreign women: https://t.ly/HnX0x
00:00 - Why you should date non western women
3:53 - Is choice of women related to standards?
7:48 - Harder is always better - or not?
11:22 - Balancing masculine and feminine in relationships
19:06 - Why is west and east dating culture different?
25:52 - Women want to surrender to men
29:58 - Are men attracted to traditional women?
34:18 - Importance of female and male spaces
37:59 - Western vs eastern dating culture
44:45 - Beauty of slow seduction
51:36 - Is success more important than failure?
01:01:19 - Responsibility before entitlement
