When couples start therapy they often tell me they want to communicate better, have tools for how to communicate, want the relationship to be more peaceful, and want a level of respect and kindness.
Do you relate?
I know I want a peaceful relationship with respect and kindness. What wonderful goals for these couples.
In this episode, we cover 3 reasons you’re having conflicts.
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A cheat sheet of loving phrases.
In this podcast, I cover sweet-nothing examples. I give you a list of 21 sweet nothings you could try to see if they work for you.
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If you and your partner want to improve your communication in 2024, here are 4 common sticking points that you will need to overcome.
January is a time of New Year resolutions, commitments to do better, and learning something new.
Here are 4 things to consider if you and your partner want to improve your communication in 2024.
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If you are wondering if you and your partner are compatible, or if you should break up, Alexandra has questions to consider to help you decide if you want to continue in your relationship.
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If you are looking for a sustainable, long-term relationship, this is the episode for you. Dr. Gottman reviews how to find safety and security in a love relationship.
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If you are looking for a sustainable, long-term relationship, this is the episode for you. Dr. Gottman reviews how to find safety and security in a love relationship.
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After being sleep-deprived, I was reminded about how important sleep is to a happy, healthy and harmonious relationship.
At risk of sharing overly simplistic suggestions, in this podcast we are talking about the importance of good sleep hygiene and the impact on a relationship.
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Tanner and Anne found themselves disconnected and hopeless as Tanner struggled with chronic pain. In this episode, they share how Tanner healed from his pain, and how their relationship healed too. Both Social Workers, Tanner and Anne share a unique perspective how pain impacts not only the person suffering but also the relationship.
In this episode we cover:
- Relationship healing
- Structural pain vs. somatic pain
- Mind-body concerns
- How understanding led to healing
- Communication as a couple
- Overcoming hardship as a couple
Website: https://www.painpsychotherapy.ca/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/painpsychotherapy/
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Have you tried to raise an issue to your partner and rather than hear you, they whine, make excuses, or worse – they turn the issue on you?
Maybe you are the person who responds in these ways, and you don’t know why you do this.
In this podcast I will cover the common reasons people are defensive, and how to overcome it.
In this podcast we discuss:
- 5 reasons people are defensive
- The role of criticism
- What to do if you’re defensive
- Tools to change defensiveness
- Tools to decrease the chances your partner is defensive
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Do you and your partner struggle to communicate? Have you ever experienced…
- Things you thought were small issues turn into a blowout fight.
- Your partner tells you they feel criticized.
- You see your partner walk away in conflict and it makes you upset.
- You’re unsure what is going wrong and why you are fighting so much with the person you love.
In this episode, we are going to cover what Drs. John and Julie Gottman studied relationships and identified what they call the Four Horsemen of conflict discussions. When these communications styles make up the majority of interactions, the relationship breaks down. When couples come to me for communication issues, most of the time these four communication patterns are dominating their communication and their relationship.
https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/communication-cures
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This authentic conversation about struggles, triumphs and the courage to be selfish with herself left me compelled to be more vulnerable and braver in so many areas of my life.
If you are looking for a story about overcoming incredible odds to overcome challenges, breaking multi-generational cycles and healing this is the podcast for you.
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Yesterday I sat down at the dinner table with my husband, and we ate in silence. We were both tired, it had been a long day, and I thought “what if this is what our relationship was like?”. I would probably feel lonely, disconnected, and bored.
I can imagine over a series of silent dinner eating, I might feel like we are drifting apart. Or I might even get mad on the inside that he wasn’t talking to me (even though I could have initiated the dialogue).
I have clients tell me that at first the silence was like an ache in their chest, but over time the ache hardened into awall. They stopped caring that they weren’t connected, instead they built a wall between them and their partner and shut down their emotional connection.
If you have had many moments in silence, are feeling disconnected, and want to rekindle the connection between you and your partner, here are some practical tools to help you do that.
1. Use conversation starters to help you have great connections.
2. Think/talk about what is going right.
We have gone over two tools to help improve your emotional connection. Look, you can’t start and keep a fire going without fuel and a spark. In your relationship, you need a spark of willingness to take action, and the fuel is both partners engaging repeatedly in actions/beliefs that will fuel the relationship.
Connection isn’t a one-and-done process. It needs to be consistently worked on over the course of the relationship to keep the connection alive.
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The episode is a deep dive into how understanding your instincts (and your partners, too) can help you increase connection and reduce conflict in your relationship.
In this episode we discuss:
- Different types of instincts
- Your spiritual makeup
- Energetic systems
- The different ways people take action
- How a deeper understanding of yourself can improve your relationship
Website: drveronica.com
Relationship Mistake Quiz: https://quiz.drveronica.com/sf/4187cf4e
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If you and your partner have felt disconnected, are getting stuck on conflict, or just want to rekindle the spark in your relationship, this episode is for you.
Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill cover how to use the Connection Codes framework to help couples connect emotionally, and even overcome conflict in as little as 4 minutes.
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Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill spent the first 30 years of their marriage living in disconnect. Their first sexual experience sent them into years of avoidance and pain. Dr. Glenn was so determined to find out what went wrong that he went back to school & became a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Clinical Sexologist. But, it wasn't until he dug deep into emotional regulation where he discovered the source of all of their disconnect. From there, Dr Glenn & Phyllis created The Connection Codes which is a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically using their 4-minute tool.
Now, they are authors, speakers, and have Connection Coders in over 50 countries who are living in peace in their relationships.
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After working as a couple’s therapist for the last 10+ years, I know that one of the hardest skills to master in a relationship is listening. And as a person, I too can be guilt of being a poor listener. Maybe I pick up my phone when someone is talking, jump in when someone is talking and tell them a related story about myself before they are done, or try to solve my partner's (or friend’s problem), when they haven’t asked for advice.
This podcast is all about gaining the skills to help you become a better listener. That way you can increase connection with your partner, help them feel seen and heard, and feel more like you are tackling issues as a team.
Here are 6 skills you can practice to become a better listener.
1. Demonstrate you’re listening
2. Be mindful of your face
3. Accept the speakers perspective as valid
4. Express support as you listen
5. Ask open-ended questions
6. Ask if they want problem-solving or just to share
Click here to get the Emotional Validation Cheat Sheet
https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/emotional-validation-cheat-sheet
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Discovery how stress can impact your relationship and how you can calm your stress.
In this podcast we discuss the role of stress in the body, how to take care of yourself, and simple activities to promote stress recovery.
Dr. Doni Wilson is a Naturopathic Doctor, certified professional midwife, certified nutrition specialist, and bestselling author of Master Your Stress, Reset Your Health. For more than 22 years, she has helped thousands of patients overcome health challenges and achieve wellness by using specific strategies that address the whole body and ultimately resolve the underlying causes of distress. Dr. Doni suffered from migraines for over 20 years, and in the process of solving them, she developed her Stress Recovery Protocol. Dr. Doni brings awareness to the impact of stress on our health and how it is possible to recover from burnout and become resilient to stress in the media and at public and professional events. You can find her blog, podcast, called How Humans Heal, and her Self C.A.R.E.TM program at DoctorDoni.com.
Dr. Doni Wilson’s website: DoctorDoni.com
Podcast: How Humans Heal
If you aren’t feeling as loved, appreciated, or valued as you would like in your relationship this episode is for you.
In this episode, Ricky talks about how to make people feel valued and happy, what it takes to feel more like a team, and what makes relationships work.
Book women are superior to men: https://drrickyarenson.com/book/
Website: https://drrickyarenson.com/
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If you and your partner are feeling more like roommates than lovers, and you want to reconnect, listen to this podcast.
In this podcast, we discuss how to talk so that your partner wants to meet your needs, how to create uncompromising intimacy in your relationship, and what gets in the way of being physically intimate in relationships.
Alexandra Stockwell’s website: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/
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Have you ever wished to be heard, that you felt safe to bring up difficult topics, or maybe you just wanted you and your partner to be good role models for your kids when it comes to how to fight?
If you have, this episode is for you.
In this episode, we cover a sensitive topic that comes up in relationships. We cover 3 essential skills for managing conflict.
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Have you ever found yourself behaving in the same way as one of your parents? Or Maybe you find yourself acting as if you are back in your family home even though you are a grown adult who has created a life of their own?
If you relate to either of these, this podcast is all about breaking cycles and living with intention.
In this podcast we discuss:
- What cycles are
- How to become aware of your patterns
- How to collaborate with your partner
- How agreements can help you and your partner make changes
- How win-win solutions can help
- Why expressing needs are important
Kara’s website: https://www.karahoppe.com/
Baby Bomb Book: https://www.karahoppe.com/the-book
Kara Hoppe, MA, MFT, is a psychotherapist, teacher, feminist, and mother. She has spent more than a decade as an inclusive therapist working with individuals and couples toward healing and growing, and toward becoming grounded, integrated people with better access to their own instincts, wisdom, and creativity. Hoppe also offers virtual retreats for parents and expectant couples, based on her book Baby Bomb: A Relationship Survival Guide for New Parents, a 2021 INDIES finalist. Her work has been featured in The Atlantic, Parents Magazine, Fatherly, and YourTango, among other publications. She lives with her husband and two children in Pioneertown, CA, and sees clients in private practice via telehealth.
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