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RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
NLP master life coach, Betrayal Recovery Coach, FDN-P
145 episodes
5 days ago
Are you a wife who has discovered her husband is a porn or sex addict and you’re feeling overwhelmed and worried about the future? Are you a couple navigating recovery trying to rebuild trust and connection after betrayal but struggling to navigate the triggers and emotions that come up? Hi I’m Kylene, a betrayed partner in recovery, and Patrick, a former sex addict in recovery. In 2021, we found ourselves lost, overwhelmed and scared, having no idea if our relationship would survive or if we could heal as individuals. Thankfully, we got connected to powerful recovery tools quickly and began doing healing work both individually, and together. Now, we are 4 years in recovery and we have moved from lack of trust, to deep trust. From triggers and rumination every day to few and far between. From having a completely destroyed relationship, to creating a new, beautiful and happy relationship with 2 new, healed people. Kylene works as a betrayal recovery coach to help women move from trauma to transformation and Patrick runs several recovery groups locally for men guiding them from addiction to sobriety to deep recovery. In this podcast you will find vulnerable stories, real life application, tools, resources, mindset work, and everything you need to step into FULL recovery whether you are the spouse who has been betrayed, the addict working to get into deep recovery, or a couple wanting to reconcile the relationship. Let’s do this together! Next steps: If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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Are you a wife who has discovered her husband is a porn or sex addict and you’re feeling overwhelmed and worried about the future? Are you a couple navigating recovery trying to rebuild trust and connection after betrayal but struggling to navigate the triggers and emotions that come up? Hi I’m Kylene, a betrayed partner in recovery, and Patrick, a former sex addict in recovery. In 2021, we found ourselves lost, overwhelmed and scared, having no idea if our relationship would survive or if we could heal as individuals. Thankfully, we got connected to powerful recovery tools quickly and began doing healing work both individually, and together. Now, we are 4 years in recovery and we have moved from lack of trust, to deep trust. From triggers and rumination every day to few and far between. From having a completely destroyed relationship, to creating a new, beautiful and happy relationship with 2 new, healed people. Kylene works as a betrayal recovery coach to help women move from trauma to transformation and Patrick runs several recovery groups locally for men guiding them from addiction to sobriety to deep recovery. In this podcast you will find vulnerable stories, real life application, tools, resources, mindset work, and everything you need to step into FULL recovery whether you are the spouse who has been betrayed, the addict working to get into deep recovery, or a couple wanting to reconcile the relationship. Let’s do this together! Next steps: If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
142 - Protecting your Child's Innocence with Age Appropriate Sex Talks
We live in a sex saturated world. It's an unfortunate reality that children are getting exposed to inappropriate materials earlier and earlier. As parents, it's our job to guide our children and protect them to the best of our ability.   One of the best ways we can do this is by having open and honest conversations with them around sex, sexuality and pornography early, and often. But how can we do this in age appropriate ways?   In this episode we are sharing specific concepts and ideas to communicate to your children as well as navigating which types of topics and conversations to have at which ages..   We also mentioned several podcast episodes and resources and those are listed below!   "Where Modesty Culture Goes Wrong: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000731965520   "How to talk to your Kids about sex" https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000668310201     Books: *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.*   God made all of me: https://amzn.to/4p2msHN    Good pictures bad pictures Jr: https://amzn.to/4p5Mdac   Good pictures bad pictures: https://amzn.to/4qSSQhw   How to talk to your kids about sex: https://amzn.to/3XiNkHx   The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: https://amzn.to/47PjQ90   Education:   The parent training course from pure desire: https://puredesire.org/shop/parent-training-course-equipping-parents-to-have-conversations-with-their-kids-about-sex/     Kristen Miele’s Sed Ed Reclaimed: https://www.sexedreclaimed  
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5 days ago
1 hour 1 minute

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
141 - 4 Myths in the Recovery Community
This week we are discussing 4 myths (that we think keep people stuck) in the recovery community.  Patrick and I deeply believe in our mission to bring education and awareness around recovery because we know the freedom in your life that it can bring.    That being said, there are several beliefs in the recovery and faith communities that we see keeping people from reaching their full potential in life.    4 myths we discuss today: 1. Your suffering is holy 2. Anyone who wants to lead a recovery group should (even if they aren't in recovery) 3. Addiction is permanent  4. Women can't have autonomy in marriage   In contrast to the above, we believe in: 1. Personal responsibility and boundaries 2. Lead by example 3. Addiction is reversible and you can achieve full freedom from it 4. Men and women are equal in marriage some we both lead each other in different areas   Additional episodes you may like based on todays’ content:   Sobriety vs Recovery:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000684064277     Forgiveness: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000629370575   We hope this episode is encouraging and shines a light on the possibilities of true health.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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1 week ago
57 minutes

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
140 - Connection and Healing After Betrayal
In today’s episode, Kylene opens up about her personal healing journey—sharing some of her painful experiences with the church, moments of struggle in her faith, and how finding a safe and supportive community became a crucial part of her recovery. She also explores the importance of connection—connection to self, to others, and to God—and why cultivating these three areas is essential for betrayed partners on the path to healing.   Episodes/Topics mentioned in today's episode: Self worth vs Self confidence: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000708437532   Intrusive Thoughts:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000652006011   Kylene's story of divorce: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000643643605     If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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2 weeks ago
40 minutes

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
139 - Inside the mind of successfully recovered porn addicts
What is it that makes some people successful in sex or porn addiction recovery? There are several key commitments/mindsets/beliefs that all individuals who get into recovery share and we are breaking them down in today's episode.    1. They want recovery (intrinsic motivation) 2. They commit to honesty no matter the cost 3. They are willing to get uncomfortable to the point of sacrifice 4. They Understand it's a long term commitment  5. If married, they own it and take responsibility for the impact    We notice that everyone who recovers shares these ways of thinking and behaving. If you are a betrayed partner, these are good landmarks to look out for when you are wondering if recovery is real.   You may also want to listen to previous episodes:   Sobriety vs Recovery (ep 96): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000684064277   Choosing your Identity in Recovery (ep 7): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000606456712   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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3 weeks ago
45 minutes

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
138 - Where Modesty Culture Goes Wrong
Modesty is a good thing right? But what if the messaging around modesty keeps individuals stuck and instead of protecting people, actually causes harm?   In today’s episode Kylene and Patrick discuss why they think that the pornography culture and modesty culture have the same end impact —> that is,  communicating that humans are objects.   We know this is a sticky topic and one that involves deeply rooted faith culture, personal conviction and more. We encourage you to listen to this episode with open hearts.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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1 month ago
1 hour

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
137 - Learning to Trust Yourself and Making the Tough Decisions
Today's guest is Kaija Dawn, a relationship coach specializing in sacred intimacy, nervous system regulation, and relationship energetics.    She shares her personal story and together she and Kylene discuss making difficult choices, learning to trust yourself through the process, and feeling vs intellectualizing decisions.    You can find Kaia on Instagram @iamkaijadawn and her podcast: The Woman Behind it All Listen to the episode where she interviewed Kylene here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/041-repair-boundaries-and-healing-after-betrayal-in/id1770275741?i=1000726891473   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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1 month ago
43 minutes

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
136 - Redefining Milestones: Rings and Anniversaries after Betrayal
After discovery, a betrayed partner is left trying to make sense of a reality that suddenly feels upside down. Moments and symbols once filled with joy -like wedding photos, anniversaries, rings - can now feel heavy and confusing. In today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick share their personal approach to some of these difficult moments. They explore the emotions these events bring up from both perspectives, and reflect on the different choices other couples may make as they move through their own recovery journeys.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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1 month ago
59 minutes

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
135 - Navigating Sobriety: Expect the Unexpected
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick share several experiences to anticipate as you navigate initial sobriety from porn or sex addiction patterns including: Dreams and Intrusive Thoughts Uncomfortable Emotions Nocturnal Emissions Alternative coping mechanisms or behaviors  They discuss the importance of choice through sobriety, how deep recovery means living a life making conscious choices vs falling into the belief that life just happens to you.   They also share some basic techniques to help in the moment of stress in order to feel more grounded, become more present, and step into conscious choice.   They mentioned the Intrusive Thoughts Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000652006011   and the Faster Scale which they discuss in more detail in this episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000658758308   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune  
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1 month ago
52 minutes

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
134 - Facing Life's Hard Moments After Betrayal
Content Warning: Today's episode is discussing some of traumatic events that have happened in our society lately and that are all over the news leading to a heavier episode. Please be aware of where you are in your recovery if this episode is appropriate for you.   Things we discuss: The impact of national violence and how it impacts us individually  How societal change starts individually  The importance of connection and community for mental health, grieving and healing Our personal faith and how it impacts our views on how we love others Kylene's health scares and how they impact her view of the world and her life   While this episode is heavier than most, we hope it also helps you feel seen, encouraged, and loved.  
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2 months ago
47 minutes

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
133 - When Both Are Hurting: The Complex Layers of Recovery
Life and recovery are rarely simple. Sometimes, unique dynamics add even more layers to an already complex journey. In this episode, Kylene and Patrick explore three challenging scenarios that can complicate the recovery process:   What if the betrayed partner has also struggled with addiction but in another form? What if the betrayed partner has also had an affair in the past?  What if the betrayed partner has looked at porn?    Together, they unpack why personal responsibility matters, how choosing individual health impacts the relationship, and the importance of showing empathy for the pain we may have caused—whether intentional or not—even when we’ve been hurt ourselves. These are tough conversations, and one episode can’t cover every nuance. We encourage you to seek guidance from trusted professionals who can support you in your unique situation.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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2 months ago
53 minutes

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
132 - The Reality of Grief After Betrayal
As much as we wish it were, healing isn't always linear. There are ups and downs, and moments where we are living happily in the present and are reminded of the past.    In today's episode Kylene and Patrick share about grief, how confusing it can feel for the betrayed partner, and how important it is to recognize that healing doesn't mean we forget what happened.   It's normal for thoughts, emotions or memories to come up years later, and it's important to create safety with each other in order to have connecting conversations together.     If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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2 months ago
54 minutes

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
131 - The Importance of Boundaries after Betrayal
Boundaries aren't just helpful for the hurt spouse, they are crucial for the recovering spouse as well. They can create structure, offer safety and give the betrayed partner the information they need in order to make decisions about the future of the relationship.   There are many individuals that struggle with the idea of boundaries. In today's episode, we offer some reframes around what boundaries mean and how to think about them in order to feel confident using your voice.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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2 months ago
52 minutes 9 seconds

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
130 - Compliance vs Proactivity How to Help your Betrayed Partner Feel Safe and Heal
In this episode, Kylene and Patrick explore the difference between compliance—“just checking the boxes”, and true proactivity, where personal responsibility becomes the driving force of recovery. They share why compliance alone can feel hollow, often leaving betrayed partners frustrated as they wait for their spouse to engage in recovery with equal energy and commitment. Together, they unpack why consistency matters, and how the power of repetition creates the foundation for lasting, meaningful healing.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune  
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2 months ago
50 minutes 26 seconds

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
129 - Healthy Sexuality after Betrayal and Infidelity
In today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss healthy sexuality after betrayal, addiction and infidelity.  What is healthy sexuality? Why is consent so important and what does that look like?    They share thoughts on what plays into our beliefs around sexuality and their own personal experiences around healing.   They mention the Raabsmiths book: “Building True Intimacy” which you can see here: https://raabsmithteam.com   Kylene and Patrick share more on reconnecting sexually after betray in these previous episodes as well: Sex Through Recovery - Year 1 - Ep 54: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000649141817   Establishing True Intimacy - Ep 55: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000649843594   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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3 months ago
1 hour 7 minutes 14 seconds

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
128 - BONUS: Is Attraction the same as Lusting?
In today’s brief episode, Kylene and Patrick continue the conversation from last time, where they explored the difference between finding someone attractive and feeling sexual arousal in recovery. This time, they share key resources that have influenced their understanding of healthy sexuality and reinforce the empowering truth that we can take ownership of our thoughts, behaviors, and responses. With this mindset, recovery becomes a pathway to navigating the world with greater confidence, clarity, and self-control.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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3 months ago
28 minutes 44 seconds

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
127 -Noticing vs. Arousal: When is attraction too much?
In today's episode Kylene and Patrick answer a question about a recovering addict being attracted to women in yoga pants. When is noticing someone is attractive a threat to the betrayed partner or to their own sobriety/recovery?   They discuss objectification vs humanizing and how seeing someone as a whole human being makes a difference. They share how being able to walk in the world feeling free no matter what you see or are exposed to, is the goal - and an attainable one- through recovery.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune  
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3 months ago
56 minutes 37 seconds

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
126 - What Betrayed Partners Need Most from the Addict who Hurt Them
In this episode, Kylene and Patrick explore five essential things a betrayed partner needs from their spouse in order to truly heal. They unpack each element with depth and honesty, including: Taking full responsibility without minimizing or making excuses Creating safety—especially by addressing power dynamics and physical presence Making her feel seen, chosen, and prioritized Recovering for yourself, not just to save the relationship Demonstrating long-term consistency and follow-through Patrick shares personal insights and real-life experiences as they walk through each step. Together, they explain why these actions are not just helpful—but crucial— after betrayal. If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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3 months ago
59 minutes 19 seconds

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
125 - BONUS: Parenting and Divorce - Patrick's Perspective
In this short episode. Patrick reflects on his divorce, and parenting through that time. He shares his perspective and lived experience of divorce after infidelity, and starting over with almost nothing while also realizing that it was the healthiest choice in his particular circumstances.   If you would like to listen to the previous episode that we refer to around children and divorce you can go to episode #123 or click here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000717502361   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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3 months ago
24 minutes 47 seconds

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
124 - Conquer Intrusive Thoughts after Betrayal and Infidelity
Today, Kylene walks through what steps can help us navigate triggers and calm ruminating thoughts after betrayal. She discusses:   1. Why safety is the foundation that has to be laid first  and what that looks and feels like 2. How subconscious processing is what really moves the needle when we have sticky triggers 3. The importance of identifying core wounds to really resolve the root of the recurring thoughts   Previous episodes mentioned: 5 practical ways to create safety after discovering your spouse is a porn or sx addictvt: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000715418229 Intrusive Thoughts and Recovery - Calming you mind with less work: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000652006011 If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune  
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3 months ago
48 minutes 5 seconds

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
123 - Children, Reconciliation & Divorce After Betrayal - Is There a "Right Answer?"
In today's episode, Carly and Kylene are discussing things to consider when navigating betrayal, reconciliation, divorce and children. We understand that this is a complex conversation and this episode is not saying there is one right or wrong answer - rather, we are sharing some thoughts and perspectives that we hope may be helpful.   They discuss Carly's personal experience and thoughts around her parents divorce, the importance of bringing children into age appropriate communication, and why honesty is so important.   You can learn more about Carly and her work here: https://www.carlyinfocus.com   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune  
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4 months ago
58 minutes 7 seconds

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery
Are you a wife who has discovered her husband is a porn or sex addict and you’re feeling overwhelmed and worried about the future? Are you a couple navigating recovery trying to rebuild trust and connection after betrayal but struggling to navigate the triggers and emotions that come up? Hi I’m Kylene, a betrayed partner in recovery, and Patrick, a former sex addict in recovery. In 2021, we found ourselves lost, overwhelmed and scared, having no idea if our relationship would survive or if we could heal as individuals. Thankfully, we got connected to powerful recovery tools quickly and began doing healing work both individually, and together. Now, we are 4 years in recovery and we have moved from lack of trust, to deep trust. From triggers and rumination every day to few and far between. From having a completely destroyed relationship, to creating a new, beautiful and happy relationship with 2 new, healed people. Kylene works as a betrayal recovery coach to help women move from trauma to transformation and Patrick runs several recovery groups locally for men guiding them from addiction to sobriety to deep recovery. In this podcast you will find vulnerable stories, real life application, tools, resources, mindset work, and everything you need to step into FULL recovery whether you are the spouse who has been betrayed, the addict working to get into deep recovery, or a couple wanting to reconcile the relationship. Let’s do this together! Next steps: If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune