If you've been told to "wait for rock bottom" or use "tough love" with someone struggling with addiction, this episode will change everything you thought you knew. Master Addiction Counselor Amber Hollingsworth reveals why the most common advice given to families is not just ineffective—it's dangerous. Discover the proven "Invisible Intervention" method that's helping thousands of families support their loved ones without enabling, confrontation, or becoming the bad guy.
🎙️ ABOUT THIS EPISODE
You're exhausted. You've tried everything. Ultimatums, confrontations, begging, threatening, and nothing works. Your loved one keeps using despite losing jobs, relationships, health, and freedom. Everyone says "let them hit rock bottom" but you're watching them die. What if there's a better way?
In this raw and revelatory conversation, Amber Hollingsworth (LMAC, Master Licensed Addiction Counselor with 20+ years experience) dismantles the most harmful myths in addiction recovery and shares practical strategies that actually work. If you're a family member, spouse, parent, or friend of someone with addiction—this is the episode you've been searching for.
👤 GUEST EXPERT: AMBER HOLLINGSWORTH
Amber is a Master Licensed Addiction Counselor (LMAC) and Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) who has dedicated over two decades to helping individuals and families navigate the complexities of addiction. She's the creator of the revolutionary "Put the Shovel Down" method and founder of Family Recovery Academy, where she's helped thousands of families worldwide. With over 1,000 educational videos on YouTube and a unique perspective shaped by growing up in a family affected by addiction, Amber brings both professional expertise and deep personal understanding to this conversation.
🔑 WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
- Why "waiting for rock bottom" is the most dangerous myth in addiction recovery—and what the research actually shows about motivation and consequences
- The critical difference between natural consequences and punishment (this one distinction changes everything about how you approach helping your loved one)
- How to help high-functioning addicts who maintain jobs, relationships, and appearances while slowly destroying themselves internally
- The "Invisible Intervention" technique—a step-by-step method to build influence and support
⏱️ KEY TIMESTAMPS
00:00 - Why Everything You Know About Helping Addicts Is Wrong
01:14 - The Rock Bottom Myth: Why Waiting Is Dangerous
03:10 - Consequences vs. Punishment: The Game-Changing Difference
07:00 - High-Functioning Addicts: The Hidden Crisis
12:08 - The Invisible Intervention Method Explained Step-by-Step
14:20 - It's Not Codependency—It's Betrayal Trauma
20:04 - Decoding the Sorry Cycle and Manipulation Tactics
24:11 - Setting Boundaries That Actually Stick
27:35 - The Compassionate Response to Relapse
30:00 - Understanding Triggers Without Enabling
36:48 - Addiction and Trauma: Exploring the Real Connection
39:22 - Can Someone Overcome Addiction Alone?
43:53 - Taking Your Power Back: Action Steps to Start Today
🔗 CONNECT WITH AMBER
YouTube: Put The Shovel Down (1,000+ free educational videos) https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCT8PE1v0xFR9zLXOijxM6hg
Website: Family Recovery Academy - https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online
Programs: Invisible Intervention Training, Family Support Courses
🆘 CRISIS RESOURCES
If you or someone you love is in crisis:
- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (call or text)
- SAMHSA National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
- Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
⚠️ DISCLAIMER
This podcast provides educational information and personal experiences for informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of qualified healthcare providers regarding substance use disorders, mental health concerns, or medical conditions. If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency, call 911 immediately.
The feelings you're running from aren't trying to destroy you—they're trying to SAVE you. In this raw, unfiltered episode, Jason sits down with Duane (15 years sober) who reveals the shocking truth about why "positive thinking" and spiritual bypassing are actually keeping people stuck in addiction and relapse.
This isn't another motivational speech. This is actionable wisdom from someone who worked in a BAR for over a decade after getting sober—serving alcohol every single day—and was never once tempted to drink.
KEY TOPICS COVERED:
- Why resistance to emotions creates MORE suffering than the emotions themselves
- The "spiritual bypassing" trap that 99% of addicts fall into (and how to escape)
- Duane's life-changing "pool moment" after 6 months of daily prayer
- How to rewire your brain in 21 days using neuroscience (Dr. Caroline Leaf's method)
- The simple "I am aware" technique that creates instant emotional freedom
- Why working in a bar for 10 years AFTER getting sober was possible
- The difference between "sounding pretty" and actually feeling your feelings
- Teal Swan's shadow work and emotional experiencing techniques
- Matt Kahn's "Whatever arises, love that" philosophy explained
- The Appreciation Game practice for shifting emotional states
- Eckhart Tolle's teachings on present moment awareness applied to recovery
- How to use prayer as a neuroplasticity tool
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:
"I worked in a bar for over a decade serving liquor every day and was never tempted to drink. The obsession was completely removed." - Duane
"There's a very big difference between sounding pretty and feeling the feelings. The sounding pretty is the spiritual bypass." - Duane
"If I have one foot in the past and one foot in the future, I'm pissing all over today." - Recovery Wisdom
"We have 60,000 thoughts a day - that's 60,000 opportunities to practice being our best self." - Duane
DUANE'S MIRACLE "POOL MOMENT":
For 6 months, Duane said this prayer with every step he took: "God, relieve me of this obsession." Working as a landscaper, cleaning pools, he repeated this prayer hundreds of times daily. Then one day by a pool, he fell to his knees crying—not from pain, but from realizing he hadn't thought about drinking in TWO WEEKS. The obsession was gone. This is the power of surrender combined with neuroscience.
UNDERSTANDING SPIRITUAL BYPASSING:
Spiritual bypassing is using spiritual concepts to avoid psychological work. In recovery this looks like:
- "Just think positive" instead of processing grief
- "Everything happens for a reason" to avoid accountability
- "Good vibes only" while suppressing real emotions
- Excessive meditation to escape uncomfortable feelings
- Using spiritual texts to intellectualize instead of feel
THE ANTIDOTE: Practice saying "I am AWARE of anger" instead of "I AM angry." This creates observer consciousness, allowing you to learn from emotions rather than be controlled by them.
ACTIONABLE PRACTICES YOU CAN START TODAY:
1. The "I Am Aware" Technique - Create space between you and your emotions
2. The Prayer Walk - Repeat a powerful prayer with every step for 21-90 days
3. The Appreciation Game - Spend 5 minutes listing everything you appreciate
4. The 21-Day Thought Detox - Rewire one toxic pattern using Dr. Leaf's process
WHO THIS EPISODE IS FOR:
✓ Anyone struggling with addiction, alcoholism, or substance abuse
✓ People in early sobriety or recovery feeling stuck
✓ Those dealing with anxiety, depression, or emotional regulation
✓ Anyone who's relapsed and doesn't know why
✓ Loved ones trying to understand addiction and recovery
✓ People using "positive thinking" to avoid real emotions
This episode combines spiritual wisdom with neuroscience to provide ACTIONABLE HOPE for your recovery journey. Whether you're struggling with alcohol, drugs, behavioral addictions, or just feeling stuck in life,
In this raw and transformative episode of "Recovered Addict: A Journey Within," hosts Duane Yardman-Frank and Jason Rigby dive deep into the spiritual roots of addiction, revealing it not as a moral failing but as a profound cry for connection. They challenge traditional recovery narratives by spotlighting the spiritual void that fuels addictive cycles, regardless of the substance or behavior.
Drawing heavily on the profound teachings of spiritual teacher Matt Kahn, Duane and Jason explore how radical self-acceptance and spiritual awakening can pave the path to true freedom beyond mere sobriety.
Key Discussion Points:
The Spiritual Void: Understand addiction as a "God-sized hole" within, an insatiable hunger that external achievements, pleasures, or distractions can never truly fill.
Consummatory vs. Intrinsic Reward: Discover the two brain reward systems and how addiction traps individuals in the cycle of "consummatory reward," while spiritual development offers "intrinsic reward" and lasting purpose.
Matt Kahn's Core Mantra: "Whatever Arises, Love That": Learn how this powerful mantra is an invitation to meet excruciating cravings, shame, guilt, and emotional pain with radical acceptance and unconditional love, transforming internal struggle into a spiritual path.
The Ego as "WAR" (Worry, Anticipation, Regret): Explore Matt Kahn's acronym for ego and how this "war in the mind" manifests in addiction, driving constant seeking of external validation and temporary relief.
Integrating the Ego for Freedom: Discover how the ego is not an adversary to be eradicated but an integral part of the human form that, when integrated with spirit, can empower individuals to say "no" to destructive patterns and play for "higher stakes". The Ganesh and mouse analogy beautifully illustrates this serving relationship between ego and divinity.
The Gifts of Space and Time: Learn how cultivating inner spaciousness and making peace with the present moment can unravel deep-seated trauma and align you with your higher self, offering a "window of grace" for healing.
Innate Worthiness: Reframe recovery not as a battle to become worthy, but as realizing the profound truth that you always were worthy, just as God sees you, regardless of past actions. This understanding allows for the healing of core unworthiness that fuels addictive behaviors.
Actionable Takeaways:
Confront suffering directly rather than evading or suppressing it, seeing it as a path to service and rebirth.
Practice mindfulness and sense perceptions to exit the "mind chatter" of worry and honor the present moment.
Embrace the mantra "Whatever Arises, Love That" for radical acceptance of all emotions, including cravings and shame.
Recognize that love is not bound by time or space and can bend dimensions, connecting you to infinite abundance and higher purpose.
Connect with Us: If you're interested in transforming your life and embarking on a long-term recovery journey, delve deeper into these tools.
https://recoveredaddictpodcast.com/
Dr. Dallas Bragg joins us to discuss the "silent epidemic" of crystal meth addiction among gay men and his revolutionary guilt-free approach to recovery. From his own journey through homelessness and incarceration to developing the 4-phase "alchemy" recovery program, Dr. Bragg offers hope and practical tools for lasting sobriety.
What You'll Learn:
Key Topics Covered:
Free Resources: Get Dr. Bragg's free 30-day recovery course and weekly newsletter at drdallasbragg.com
Perfect for anyone seeking to understand addiction recovery, especially within the LGBTQ+ community, or looking for alternatives to traditional treatment approaches.
This episode provides actionable hope for anyone affected by addiction, whether personally or through a loved one. Dr. Bragg's approach offers a compassionate alternative to traditional treatment methods.
Guest Resources:
Dr. Dallas Bragg's Website: https://www.drdallasbragg.com/
Free 30-Day Recovery Course "Reframing Relapse":https://www.drdallasbragg.com/offers/e7c2Eo22/checkout
The Aftermath Podcast:https://www.buzzsprout.com/2330781
Weekly Newsletter with Journal Prompts:https://www.drdallasbragg.com/newsletters/blog
Upcoming Masterclass Registration:https://www.drdallasbragg.com/masterclass
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988SAMHSA National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741LGBT National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564Trevor Project Crisis Support: 1-866-488-7386
SMART Recovery: https://www.smartrecovery.org/Crystal Meth Anonymous: https://www.crystalmeth.org/LGBT Addiction Recovery Resources: https://www.lgbtmap.org/file/understanding-issues-facing-lgbt-people-substance-abuse.pdf
Crisis & Support Resources:Educational Resources:
🚨 WHAT IF the voice telling you "you're not recovered enough" is actually the biggest lie keeping you stuck?
Meet Mallary Tenore Tarpley, journalism professor and author of the groundbreaking book "SLIP" - who just shattered the recovery world with one explosive discovery. After surveying over 700 people across 44 states and 37 countries, she found that 85% of people with eating disorders live in what she calls "the middle place" - a space the recovery industry has been completely ignoring.
Her revolutionary research reveals why the "full recovery or failure" mindset keeps people trapped in shame cycles, and introduces the life-changing "middle place" framework that validates the REAL recovery experience most of us actually live.
🔥 KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Mallary's personal journey began at age 12 when anorexia entered her life less than a year after losing her mother to cancer. After 17 months in residential treatment and five hospitalizations, she discovered that traditional recovery narratives were failing millions of people living in the gray space between sickness and "perfect" recovery.
This isn't just another recovery story - it's a data-driven investigation that gives permission to be human in your healing journey. Whether you're struggling with anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, food addiction, or any addiction, this conversation offers a roadmap to freedom from perfectionist recovery expectations.
📚 GET THE BOOK: "SLIP: Life in the Middle of Eating Disorder Recovery"
⚠️ MEDICAL DISCLAIMER: This content is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional medical advice. Always consult qualified healthcare providers for eating disorder treatment.
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Two recovered addicts reveal how Jesus's teachings became their roadmap out of addiction hell and into lasting freedom.
In this powerful episode of Recovered Addict Podcast, hosts Jason Rigby and Duane Yardman-Frank share their raw, unfiltered journey of how faith-based recovery transformed their lives. This isn't your typical religious content – it's honest conversation about addiction, recovery, and finding hope through Jesus's practical teachings.
🔑 KEY RECOVERY INSIGHTS COVERED:
💡 PRACTICAL TAKEAWAYS FOR YOUR RECOVERY:Learn specific prayers, mantras, and spiritual practices that work in early sobriety. Discover how concepts like radical acceptance, surrender, and forgiveness aren't just religious ideas – they're proven recovery tools that create lasting transformation.
👥 ABOUT THE HOSTS:Jason Rigby and Duane Yardman-Frank are both in long-term recovery and passionate advocates for faith-based healing. They combine personal experience with spiritual wisdom, having studied teachings from A Course in Miracles, Jordan Peterson, and biblical recovery principles.
🎯 EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:
🔍 PERFECT FOR:Anyone struggling with addiction, family members of addicts, people exploring faith-based recovery, those interested in biblical approaches to mental health, individuals seeking actionable hope for healing, and anyone curious about how spirituality intersects with addiction recovery.
⚠️ DISCLAIMER:This content is for educational and inspirational purposes only. Always seek professional medical advice, licensed therapy, or addiction specialist guidance for substance use disorders. If you're in crisis, call 911 or contact SAMHSA's National Helpline: 1-800-662-4357.
🔗 CONNECT WITH US:Website: RecoveredAddictPodcast.comInstagram: @RecoveredAddictPodcastYouTube: Recovered Addict Podcast
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What if your addiction isn't your weakness, but your calling? This episode reveals why you're not broken - you're being forged into a hero.🐉 YOUR ADDICTION IS THE DRAGON YOU WERE BORN TO SLAY 🐉This isn't just another recovery podcast. This is your initiation into the hero's journey.Hosts Jason Rigby and Duane Yardman-Frank reveal the shocking truth: Your addiction isn't happening TO you - it's happening FOR you.
🔥 WHAT YOU'LL DISCOVER:- Why addiction is your spiritual calling (not your curse)- The "Dragon Sketch" exercise that changes everything- How to stop being the victim and become the hero of your story- Ancient biblical wisdom meets modern psychology (Jordan Peterson, Carl Jung, Joseph Campbell)- The sacred mantra that breaks addiction's power: "I see you, but I am not you"- Why your suffering is actually your superpower in disguise- How to transform your pain into purpose and awaken heroes in others
💎 FEATURED WISDOM:- Jordan Peterson's "12 Rules for Life" - Carl Jung's Shadow Work- Joseph Campbell's Hero's Journey- Biblical archetypes and recovery
🎯 PERFECT FOR:- Anyone struggling with addiction (or supporting someone who is)- People ready to transform their victim story into a hero story- Fans of Jordan Peterson, Carl Jung, and Joseph Campbell- Those seeking spiritual approaches to recovery- Anyone who wants to turn their greatest challenge into their greatest strength
⚔️ THE HERO'S TOOLKIT:This episode gives you practical tools including the Dragon Sketch exercise, truth-telling protocols, community building strategies, and mantras for present-moment power.
🌟 GUEST HIGHLIGHT:Duane Yardman-Frank shares his raw, 15-year transformation from rock bottom to helping thousands slay their dragons. His story proves that your addiction can become your greatest gift to humanity.
💪 YOUR DRAGON IS WAITING:Stop running from your dragon. Start training to slay it. The world doesn't need another victim story - it needs YOUR hero story.Ready to answer the call to adventure? Your sacred recovery story starts now.
🔗 CONNECT WITH US:Website: https://recoveredaddictpodcast.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recoveredaddictpodcast/Join our Dragon Slayer community and share your transformation!#AddictionRecovery #HeroJourney #JordanPeterson #CarlJung #JosephCampbell #SpiritualRecovery #PersonalTransformation #ShadowWork #AddictionHelp #RecoveryStory #MentalHealth #SelfImprovement #DragonSlayer #HeroicRecovery
Beating Addiction with the Law of Attraction
Struggling with addiction? Discover how the Law of Attraction can transform your recovery journey in this powerful episode of The Last Relapse podcast. Hosts Jason Rigby and Duane Yardman-Frank dive deep into five tough-love truths inspired by Abraham-Hicks’ teachings that can help you beat addiction and reclaim your inner power.
Hear Duane’s powerful story of how Abraham-Hicks’ teachings shaped his life from a young age, and learn why you’re not doomed or broken, but a powerful creator who’s been focused in the wrong direction. As Esther Hicks says, “You are the only one who creates in your experience—no one else. Everything that comes to you comes by the power of your thought.”
In this episode, you’ll explore:
How to shift from victim to creator mindset
Why the universe responds to your vibration, not just your prayers
Connecting with your Inner Being for unshakable strength
Climbing the emotional scale from despair to hope
Taking radical responsibility for lasting freedom
This isn’t fluffy recovery talk—it’s a wake-up call to rewrite your story. Whether you’re new to the Law of Attraction or a seasoned practitioner, this episode offers actionable insights for overcoming addiction, spiritual growth, and self-empowerment.
Tune in now and start your journey to lasting sobriety and inner peace. Subscribe for more empowering content on addiction recovery and spiritual transformation!
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What does it truly mean to be recovered from addiction, not just perpetually "in recovery"? Is lasting freedom, a complete rebirth, an achievable reality rather than a lifelong battle?
In this powerful and deeply transformational episode of the Recovered Addict podcast, hosts Duane Yardman-Frank and Jason Rigby challenge the conventional labels and timelines associated with healing. After a decade of dedicated work, Duane shares his profound shift in perspective: why the identity of being "in recovery" no longer resonates, and how full biological, spiritual, and emotional restoration is not only possible but is the pathway to a life of genuine thriving.
Join Duane and Jason as they meticulously unpack the journey from the initial chaos of addiction to embodying a new, empowered identity as a fully RECOVERED individual. This isn't merely about survival or maintenance; it's about a complete personal transformation, a reclaiming of your intrinsic power as a creator of your life, moving decisively beyond the victim narrative.
In this episode, you'll discover the three crucial phases of this transformation:
Phase 1: Stabilizing the Biological Chaos: Dive into the foundational steps essential for calming the physical storm addiction leaves behind. Learn about the non-negotiable power of total abstinence and the critical role of fueling your body with a nutrient-dense diet to rebuild cellular health and restore physical equilibrium. This stage is about laying a solid biological groundwork for deeper healing.
Phase 2: Psychological Reframing & Embracing a Creator Identity: This is where the mental battleground shifts. Understand how to consciously move from a disempowering victim mentality to embracing your inherent power as the architect of your reality. We explore actionable, life-altering tools such as the consistent practice of daily journaling for emotional processing and clarity, alongside the profound impact of gratitude prayers in reshaping your mental landscape and fostering robust mental health.
Phase 3: Spiritual Mastery & Living Fully in the Present Moment: Ascend to a new level of awareness, inner peace, and spiritual connection. This phase focuses on learning to live deeply and authentically in the present moment, a space where, as Jason Rigby powerfully states, "In the present moment, there is no addiction." It's about discovering a renewed life purpose, mindfully creating order out of past chaos, and connecting with your higher self.
Memorable Insights You Won't Want to Miss:
This episode is an essential listen for anyone on a sobriety journey who yearns for something more than just daily management of their condition. It is for those who are ready to embrace the possibility of a full rebirth, a complete personal transformation that leads to a new life defined by unshakeable inner peace, expansive spiritual growth, and authentic, lasting freedom.
If you've ever felt confined or limited by the "in recovery" label, or if you're seeking a path to a deeper, more holistic form of healing, this conversation will illuminate the way.
Tune in to Recovered Addict and explore how you, too, can transcend old identities and step into the fullness of a life completely reclaimed.
Keywords for discoverability: addiction recovery, recovered addict, mental health, spiritual growth, sobriety journey, personal transformation, inner peace, healing journey, new identity, addiction freedom, biological healing, psychological healing, spiritual mastery, abstinence, nutrient-dense diet, creator mindset, overcoming addiction, self-help, motivation, inspiration.
Are you struggling with addiction recovery, battling relapse, or feeling trapped by shame? This powerful episode of the Recovered Addict Podcast will show you how making amends and practicing forgiveness can transform your life and break the chains of guilt, fear, and self-hate.
Hosts Jason Rigby and Duane Yardman-Frank share raw, personal stories and brutal truths that most recovery programs won’t tell you.
If you’re ready to face the wreckage of your past and rebuild your future, this is your wake-up call.
🎙️ In this episode, we uncover:
Why sobriety doesn’t fix your life—it exposes the wreckage.
How relapse is not failure, but a critical part of most recovery journeys (85% relapse rate).
Why toxic support systems can sabotage your sobriety (and how to build a true recovery tribe).
How the stigma of addiction can be deadlier than addiction itself—and how to overcome judgment and reclaim your self-worth.
How making real amends ignites spiritual healing, radical forgiveness, and lasting transformation.
Key Topics Covered:
Addiction Recovery Strategies
Overcoming Relapse Shame
Making Amends and Building Bridges
Breaking the Stigma Around Addiction
Healing Emotional Trauma in Sobriety
Finding Purpose and Meaning in Recovery
Spiritual Growth through Forgiveness
Highlights from the Episode:
Duane's near-death blackout experience and ambulance ride to survival.
Jason's insights from surviving homelessness and three helicopter crashes.
Powerful metaphors: fighting the "dragon" of addiction, confronting the cross of suffering, and the solo desert journey.
Actionable steps: How to build a real support network, break free from judgment, and forgive yourself to heal.
Why This Episode Matters:Addiction recovery isn't about pretending everything gets better overnight — it's about confronting brutal truths with courage and finding the real freedom that comes after forgiveness.
This episode isn’t for the faint of heart — it’s for warriors ready to fight for their lives.
If you're tired of fake positivity and ready for real solutions, this conversation will hit home.
🎯 Related Episodes to Watch Next:
The Surprising Truth About Relapse and How to Bounce Back Stronger
Finding Purpose in Recovery: How to Create a Life Worth Living
From Isolation to Connection: Building a Recovery Support Community
✨ FREE Resource:
🆓 Download our Free Guide to Making Amends and jumpstart your healing journey.
📩 Want to connect with Jason and Duane?
Share your story or get support by emailing: jason@higherdensityliving.com
Notable Quotes:
"Sobriety doesn't hand you a new life. It forces you to rebuild from the ashes." – Jason Rigby
"Relapse isn't failure. It's the rule, not the exception." – Duane Yardman-Frank
"You don’t go where you’re tolerated. You go where you’re celebrated." – Duane Yardman-Frank
💬 If this episode resonates with you:
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You are NOT alone. Recovery is possible. Let's walk this path together.
Episode Title How Max Stephens Turned a Broken Childhood Into a Superpower for Healing and Success
Brief Summary
In this episode of 'Recovered Addict', host Jason Rigby interviews Max Stephens about his journey from a childhood marked by family addiction to becoming a successful personal coach for high-profile clients. Max shares how he transformed his traumatic experiences into wisdom and success, offering hope and practical advice for those looking to break free from their own cycles of dysfunction.
Join host Jason Rigby as he interviews Max Stephens, a personal strategist who has turned his painful past of family addiction into a platform for success. Max grew up in a home marked by his father’s addiction, experiencing first-hand the childhood trauma that comes with living with an addicted parent. Despite these challenges, Max has not only overcome his own demons but has also built a career coaching some of the world’s most influential figures in business and entertainment.
In this candid conversation, Max delves into his early realization of his father’s struggles, his role as a parental figure to his own father due to codependency issues, and how these experiences shaped his attachment styles and relationships. He discusses his journey towards self-forgiveness and setting healthy boundaries, emphasizing the importance of breaking generational cycles of addiction and dysfunction.
Key topics include:
The impact of growing up with an addicted parent on mental health
Codependency and self-blame in relationships affected by addiction
Survival mindset and its effects on personal relationships and financial management
The role of meditation in healing from childhood trauma
Forgiving and moving forward from past trauma caused by family members
Setting boundaries and asserting one’s worth in recovery
Max’s story is a beacon of hope for anyone facing similar challenges in their family dynamics or personal recovery journey from trauma related to substance abuse.
Introduction and Background (00:01 - 00:47)
First Signs of Dysfunction at Home (00:47 - 02:37)
Impactful Childhood Experiences (02:37 - 05:23)
Codependency and Self-Blame (05:23 - 07:29)
Survival Mentality and Financial Struggles (07:29 - 10:44)
Impact on Relationships and Attachment Styles (10:44 - 14:40)
Awareness of Family Dysfunction (14:40 - 19:16)
Avoiding Addiction Himself (19:16 - 21:31)
Relationships and Personal Development Obsession (21:31 - 24:55)
Trust Issues and People-Pleasing (24:55 - 29:51)
Role Reversal and Emotional Growth (29:51 - 33:31)
Strengths from Adversity (33:31 - 35:05)
Meditation and Internal Focus (35:05 - 39:03)
Unlearning Core Beliefs (39:03 - 46:30)
Forgiveness and Healing (46:30 - 01:05:08)
Setting Boundaries (01:05:08 - 01:09:17)
Message for Those in Addiction Cycles (01:09:17 - 01:13:28)
Closing and Contact Information (01:13:28 - 01:15:15)
"I thought if my dad loved me more, he would have gotten better." - Max Stephens
"Meditation saved my life; it helped me shift my focus from external achievements to internal healing." - Max Stephens
"Forgiveness is an insight that others’ actions are about their struggles, not about me." - Max Stephens
Max Stephens' Website: maxstephenscoaching.com
Recovered Addict podcast Website: recoveredaddictpodcast.com
Want more stories of resilience and recovery? Don't miss an episode—subscribe to the Recovered Addict podcast today! And for personalized guidance on your own journey, visit Max Stephens' website at maxstephenscoaching.com for a free call.
Jason Rigby sits down with Ian Fee, a former high-flying entrepreneur whose life once revolved around alcohol—calling it his "superpower" for business and leadership. In this raw and riveting episode, Ian shares how his wild, booze-fueled days in the competitive finance world spiraled into chaos, costing him marriages, health, and nearly his family. Now sober since 2017, Ian reveals the gritty truth of his journey, from the darkest moments in rehab to losing 84 pounds and rebuilding his life with gratitude and vulnerability. This is a story of redemption, resilience, and real talk for anyone battling addiction or seeking a better version of themselves.
Alcohol as a Superpower—and a Wrecking Ball
How Ian used booze as a social lubricant to grow his finance business and bond with teams.
The tipping point: When “work hard, play hard” turned into dysfunction and damage.
The Darkest Hour at Shick Shadel
Ian’s brutal aversion therapy experience: Vomiting for hours and facing his lowest point.
The wake-up call: “Unless you’re right, nothing will be right.”
Breaking the Generational Cycle
Growing up with social alcoholism—from his dad’s beer at age one to bartending at 13.
Becoming “the one” in his family to stop the pattern and lead with sobriety.
Sobriety’s Surprises
Losing 84 pounds and reclaiming time: Life outside the drinking bubble.
The power of vulnerability: What his kids’ honest letters taught him about himself.
Gratitude Over Entitlement
Why daily gratitude—down to coffee smells and bunny rabbits—keeps Ian grounded.
Advice for the sober curious: Stack small wins and ask, “Is booze helping or hurting?”
Title: Author, Entrepreneur, Sober Since 2017
Bio: Ian Fee turned his wild ride with alcohol into a powerful story of transformation. Once a leader in the cutthroat world of automotive finance, Ian’s life was a blur of happy hours, strip clubs, and 30-drink golf days—until it all crashed. Sober since 2017, he’s lost 84 pounds, rebuilt his family ties, and now inspires others through his book, Wild Ride to Sobriety: A Transformation from Oblivion, and his platform, MakeItGreat.me. Splitting time between Seattle, WA, and Phoenix, AZ, Ian’s all about gratitude, personal growth, and being “the one” to break cycles.
Synopsis: Ian Fee’s memoir strips bare his journey from alcoholism’s grip to a life of clarity and purpose. With raw stories, family letters, and photos, it’s a no-preach roadmap for anyone ready to ditch the bottle and reclaim their potential.
Where to Buy: Amazon – Kindle (free with Unlimited) or paperback (~$10).
Booze-Fueled Business: Ian turned happy hours into dealmakers—until the wives hated him.
Rehab Reality Check: Three days of vomiting at Shick Shadel flipped his view on alcohol forever.
Kids’ Letters Hit Hard: “What kind of dick dad was I?”—the mask came off.
84 Pounds Lighter: Late-night tacos swapped for clarity and health.
Gratitude Shift: From chasing carrots to cherishing palm trees and coffee whiffs.
Buy the Book: Grab Wild Ride to Sobriety on Amazon.
Visit Ian’s Site: MakeItGreat.me for motivation and sober inspiration.
In this heartfelt and inspiring episode, host Jason Rigby sits down with Tara Sundem, a neonatal nurse practitioner with over 30 years of experience and the visionary behind Hushabye Nursery. Tara shares her journey of founding a revolutionary care facility in Phoenix, Arizona, dedicated to supporting infants born with Neonatal Abstinence Syndrome (NAS) due to prenatal opioid exposure. This episode dives deep into the realities of NAS, the innovative Eat, Sleep, Console (ESC) model, and the power of compassionate, family-centered care in breaking cycles of addiction and trauma.
Tara’s Journey to Hushabye Nursery
How Tara’s 30-year career in neonatal care led her to focus on NAS babies.
The eye-opening moment in a small hospital that sparked a mission to do better for substance-exposed newborns.
Understanding Neonatal Abstinence Syndrome (NAS)
What NAS looks like through a newborn’s eyes: the pain, withdrawal symptoms, and critical first weeks.
National average withdrawal period (22 days) vs. Hushabye’s reduced 8-day timeline.
The Hushabye Nursery Difference
Introduction to the Eat, Sleep, Console (ESC) model and its drastic reduction in morphine use (8% vs. 95% in traditional NICUs).
The family-centered approach: private rooms, 24/7 caregiver support, and fostering parental bonding.
Breaking Stigmas Around Addiction and Motherhood
Common misconceptions about mothers with substance use disorders and the truth about their love for their babies.
How society can shift from judgment to compassion through understanding the science of addiction.
Success Stories and Impact
A powerful story of a mother’s recovery journey, from homelessness to reunification with her baby in under three months.
How Hushabye Nursery builds community partnerships to ensure long-term family success.
Challenges and Dreams for the Future
The need for policy changes, like automatic care pathways for pregnant and parenting families with substance use.
Tara’s vision: expanding Hushabye Nursery to serve more families prenatally and beyond.
Title: Co-Founder and Executive Director, Hushabye Nursery
Email: tara.sundem@hushabyenursery.org
Bio: Tara Sundem is a neonatal nurse practitioner with over three decades of experience caring for newborns. After witnessing the unmet needs of babies born with NAS and their families, she co-founded Hushabye Nursery in Phoenix, Arizona. Her mission is to provide compassionate, evidence-based care that heals infants and empowers families to break the cycle of addiction and trauma.
Mission: “To embrace substance-exposed babies and their caregivers with compassionate, evidence-based care that positively changes the course of their entire lives.”
Founded: By Tara Sundem, Hushabye Nursery addresses the opioid crisis’s impact on newborns and families.
Services:
Prenatal and postpartum support groups.
Inpatient nursery care using the ESC model.
Outpatient therapies for ongoing family support. Stats:
Reduces morphine use to 8% (vs. 95% in NICUs).
Cuts hospital stays from 22 days to 8 days on average.
Licensed as a Level 1 Sub-Acute facility by the Arizona Department of Health and accredited by CARF International.
The Reality of NAS: Tara describes withdrawal as “the worst flu and migraine times a hundred” for a newborn, emphasizing the need for a quiet, nurturing environment.
A Turning Point: A mother’s decision to never return after a nurse’s harsh words inspired Tara to create a better way.
Hope in Action: A homeless mother’s journey to breastfeeding and reunification showcases Hushabye’s transformative impact.
Call to Action: Tara urges listeners to share this episode and support Hushabye Nursery to amplify hope and healing.
Donate: Visit HushabyeNursery.org to contribute—over 50% of their budget relies on fundraising.
Spread the Word: Share this podcast episode and follow @hushabye.nursery on social media.
Learn More: Explore educational resources on their website to support substance-exposed babies in your community.
Beat Relapse: The Untold Truth of Addiction Recovery
In this raw episode of Recovery Rising, hosts Jason Rigby and Duane Yardman-Frank tackle the gritty reality of relapse in addiction recovery. No sugarcoating—just honest talk about triggers, emotional chaos, and the steps to bounce back stronger. Duane opens up about his own relapse journey, proving it’s not failure—it’s a wake-up call. Together, they share practical tools, spiritual insights, and real stories to help you beat relapse and build lasting sobriety.
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In this powerful episode of Recovered Addict Podcast, Duane Yardman-Frank and Jason Rigby dive deep into the pervasive issue of judgment in recovery. They explore why individuals recovering from addiction often struggle with intense judgment of themselves and others, and how this destructive pattern hinders true healing. Discover the evolutionary psychology behind judgment, how it functions as a defense mechanism fueled by self-hatred, and, most importantly, gain actionable strategies to cultivate compassion and break free from this cycle. This episode is essential for anyone on the path to recovering from addiction and seeking lasting inner peace.
Key Takeaways:
Share this episode with someone struggling with addiction or judgment. Your share could be the turning point in their journey!Visit our website at to learn more about our services and resources for overcoming addiction.https://recoveredaddictpodcast.com/
In this powerful episode,Jason Rigby andDuane Yardman-Frank dive deep into theaddiction to negative thinking, how it fuels self-destruction, and how to break free. They explore thepsychology of obsessive thoughts, the neuroscience of addiction, and practical tools to rewire the mind for lasting recovery. Whether you're struggling with substance addiction, food addiction, or the hidden addiction to negativity itself, this conversation providesreal-world insights, spiritual wisdom, and actionable strategies to shift your mindset, reclaim your power, and step into a life of freedom.
🚀 If you're ready to break the cycle and start living in abundance, this episode is for you!
✅Addiction Isn’t Just About Substances: Negative thinking itself can be an addiction that feeds anxiety, depression, and self-sabotage.
✅The Brain Is Wired for Survival, Not Happiness: Evolutionary psychology explains why our minds default to worst-case scenarios.
✅Your Thoughts Shape Your Reality: 98-99% of daily thoughts are repetitive and unnecessary—shifting them is key to transformation.
✅Break the Cycle with Physical Action: Engage inpattern interrupts like movement, breathwork, and timed thinking exercises.
✅Reframe the Narrative: Challenge worst-case scenarios withpositive ‘what ifs’ and redirect mental energy toward empowerment.
✅Protect Your Mental Space: Limit exposure to triggers—whether it’s toxic environments, social media, or negative people.
✅Use the Power of Mantras & Affirmations: Simple phrases like “I choose peace” can rewire neural pathways over time.
✅Accountability is Non-Negotiable: Surround yourself with people who call you out and lift you up in recovery.
🔹[00:00] – Introduction: The Addiction to Negative Thinking
🔹[02:30] – Why Do We Obsess Over Worst-Case Scenarios?
🔹[06:00] – The Neuroscience of Addiction: Why the Brain Craves Negativity
🔹[12:30] – Negative Thought Spirals: How One Small Fear Becomes a Mental Disaster
🔹[18:00] – The Power of Awareness: Catching Addictive Thoughts in Real-Time
🔹[22:45] – Interrupting the Cycle: Physical Techniques to Shift Your Mindset
🔹[28:30] – The 3-Minute Timer Trick: A Mind Hack for Letting Go of Negative Thoughts
🔹[34:00] – Reframing Your Reality: How to Stop Feeding the Fear
🔹[40:00] – Energy is Your Most Valuable Currency—Protect It
🔹[46:00] – The Role of Accountability: You Can’t Heal in Isolation
🔹[50:00] – Final Thoughts: The Path to Freedom Starts Now
🔥 Key Takeaways:⏳ Timestamps & Topics Covered:🚀 Final Thought:
If you’re struggling with negative thinking and self-sabotage,you are not alone. Every thought is a choice, and with practice, you can break free from the addiction to negativity.
Hitplay now and start your journey to a new mindset! 🎧🔥
In this raw and transformative episode, Jason Rigby and Duane Yardman-Frank tackle the unexpected challenges of recovery—especially the “beast” of narcissism. They explore how addiction patterns like control, self-centeredness, and unresolved trauma can sabotage relationships. Through personal anecdotes and hard-hitting truths, they reveal actionable steps for growing into emotionally aware, accountable, and loving individuals in recovery. Whether you're in the early stages or years into your journey, this episode offers wisdom, humor, and hope for anyone ready to take their recovery to the next level.
Key Takeaways:
The Narcissism Trap in Recovery: Why unresolved patterns of self-centeredness persist after addiction.
The Role of Relationships in Recovery: How early sobriety tests our ability to connect authentically.
The Importance of Vulnerability: Why being genuine fosters trust and love in relationships.
Breaking Patterns of Control: Learning to surrender and let go without manipulation.
From Victim to Creator: Shifting focus from past wounds to building a thriving future.
Practical Tools for Healing: Tips on self-awareness, communication, and being a better partner.
Timestamps:
0:00–2:30 — Introduction: Recovery stories and life lessons from Jason and Duane.
2:31–6:45 — Narcissism as the “Game of Thrones” dragon that destroys relationships.
6:46–11:30 — Vulnerability as a superpower: Reclaiming connection and trust.
11:31–18:15 — Healing isn’t an excuse: Why your trauma doesn’t justify bad behavior.
18:16–25:00 — Emotional accountability: Turning your recovery into a growth journey.
25:01–35:30 — Practical tips: The “no tiger in the room” mantra and scripting better behaviors.
35:31–44:59 — Relationships are sacred: Choosing love over hedonism and control.
45:00–End — Closing thoughts: The future-focused mindset for a healthier recovery. Resources Mentioned:
Book: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
Podcast Website: https://www.recoveredcourse.com
Have burning questions about addiction, recovery, and finding your way back to yourself? You're not alone. In this powerful listener Q&A, Jason Rigby and Duane Yardman-Frank, who have personally navigated the challenging journey of recovery, tackle your most pressing questions about addiction's grip and the path to freedom. They address common struggles like loneliness, shame, and the overwhelming feeling of not knowing where to start.
This isn't just a conversation; it's a community. Drawing from their own experiences and insights, Jason and Duane offer real-world answers to questions on everything from the power of thoughts in recovery to the importance of spirituality and community support. They delve into practical strategies for shifting focus from self-centeredness to serving others, taking responsibility for relationships, and navigating the often-confusing process of seeking help.
Whether you're struggling with addiction yourself, supporting a loved one, or simply seeking to understand this complex issue, this Q&A offers valuable insights and hope. Discover how to break free from denial, reclaim your buried dreams, and find your true self amidst the challenges of addiction. Tune in for a candid and compassionate conversation that will leave you feeling empowered and equipped to take the next step on your journey.
https://recoveredaddictpodcast.com/
Welcome back to the show! Today, we're diving deep into a topic that affects millions: addiction. But we're not just talking about recovery; we're exploring a powerful, transformative path to freedom through spirituality.
About "Reclaim Your Life: A Spiritual Journey Out of Addiction"
Key Takeaways from the Course
Special Offer
Join Duane as he shares his incredible journey from rock bottom to speaking on stage to 100's of people. This episode is filled with raw emotion, spiritual insights, and practical tools for anyone seeking recovery or wanting to support someone who is.
In this episode, you'll discover:
Don't miss this inspiring story of transformation and hope!
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