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Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Paul Ollinger
304 episodes
18 hours ago
Comedian Paul Ollinger wants you to be happy but let’s not go crazy here, okay? In his new show, Reasonably Happy: the Skeptic’s Guide to Achievable Contentment (fka Crazy Money), Paul will help you find authentic fulfillment through candid conversations with comedians, authors, celebrities, and other remarkable guests who share their failures and foibles, anxiety and addiction, and their grand vision of life that keeps them pushing forward.
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Comedian Paul Ollinger wants you to be happy but let’s not go crazy here, okay? In his new show, Reasonably Happy: the Skeptic’s Guide to Achievable Contentment (fka Crazy Money), Paul will help you find authentic fulfillment through candid conversations with comedians, authors, celebrities, and other remarkable guests who share their failures and foibles, anxiety and addiction, and their grand vision of life that keeps them pushing forward.
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Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Confronting Mortality with Thad Reichley
Imagine being told you have a terminal illness. Would it change the way you approach each day? Two years ago, Thad Reichley went to the doctor because he had the flu. When initial attempts to address his symptoms were unsuccessful, additional procedures revealed the presence of three dozen tumors in the lining around his lungs. He was diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic melanoma. There is no known cure for the disease. A father, husband, educator, and pro-level endurance athlete, Thad’s “job” over the past 24 months has been to fight cancer and stay alive. In addition to his treatments' side effects (fever, vomiting, inflammation of the eyes, and savage bouts of colitis), Thad has learned to navigate the negative “you are not enough" voices in his head. He’s also come to change his expectations about what makes a good day. “Sometimes” he says, that while trying to carpe every diem, “just walking the dog has to be enough.” Thad and I know each other through his wife, Leigh, who was my colleague on the sales team at Facebook in LA. She’s a very funny, very committed person who, as you will hear, is no stranger to cancer. I am grateful to Thad for sharing his story and hope it inspires YOU to go to the doctor if you haven’t been in a while. As importantly, I hope that it reminds you to cherish and protect your health and loved ones for as long as you have them. Here’s how Thad sums it all up: 1. Go to the doctor 2. Listen to your wife 3. Hug your kids, and 4. Tell the people in your life you love them. Prior to his diagnosis, Thad spent two decades as an educator, both as a teacher and an administrator at well-known schools like Crossroads in Santa Monica and Mark Day School in Marin County. He earned his BA at the University of Washington, Master's degrees from both UCLA and Brown University, and his doctorate from the University of Southern California. ✍️Please rate and review Reasonably Happy (https://ratethispodcast.com/paulopod) ✍️ 👊Get Paul’s Substack newsletter (http://words.paulollinger.com) 👊
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18 hours ago
1 hour 4 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Walking Away from Fame and Money with Rachel Heck
Rachel Heck was a golf prodigy who qualified for the US Women’s Open at age 15 and made the cut. As a freshman in high school, she committed to play at Stanford University, where she went on to win both individual and team national championships and became Nike Golf’’s very first NIL sponsored athlete. But when the time came to turn pro, Rachel decided that a life on the road and in the spotlight wasn’t for her. Instead, she earned and accepted her commission as an officer in the U.S. Air Force Reserve. I was very pleased to speak with Rachel, not just because she is a young woman of exceptional talent and character, but because she is also the daughter of my Rhodes College friends, Stacy and Robert Heck. She and I discuss her journey (so far), particular: -Struggling with perfection -The true definition of success -The importance of motherhood -How her dad “Pavlov’ed” her and her sisters into loving golf -The importance of role models, including: Condolleezza Rice (her academic advisor), Annika Sörrenstam, and Stanford Coach Anne Walker -Her favorite (and second favorite) golf course! ✍️Please rate and review Reasonably Happy (⁠https://ratethispodcast.com/paulopod⁠) ✍️ 👊Get Paul’s Substack newsletter (⁠http://words.paulollinger.com⁠) 👊
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1 week ago
57 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Family, Politics & The American Dream with Raj Goyle | Reasonably Happy
Raj Goyle is running for Comptroller of New York state, and he wants your support. He’s got mine because I think Raj is what America is all about. A first-generation Indian-American, Duke undergrad and Harvard Law grad, Raj was the co-founder of Bodhala, a legal spend analytics and management platform which he and team sold to Onit. As the leader of Phone Free New York, Raj led a bi-partisan effort to get phones out of the classroom across New York state. And now he wants to take his immense talent and experience to Albany for the most important position (Comptroller!) you’ve never thought about. As you’ll hear, there’s plenty that Raj and I disagree about. But he’s the kind of person we need more of in government: a smart, driven leader who wants to make government work for citizens. Among lots of other things, Raj and I discuss: -Zohran Mamdani, the NYC mayoral candidate whom Raj supports and I DO NOT -What a comptroller does -Money, happiness, and public service -What it was like for his parents–both doctors–to emigrate to the U.S. -How Jimmy Carter helped shaped his belief in ethical capitalism and an accountable government AI’s impact on the economy and what we can do about it ✍️Please rate my podcast (https://ratethispodcast.com/paulopod) ✍️ 🗳️Learn more about Raj (https://rajgoyle.com/) 🗳️ 👊Get Paul’s Substack newsletter (http://words.paulollinger.com) 👊
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2 weeks ago
52 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Stoic Street Smarts w/ Ed Latimore
Ed Latimore grew up in the projects of Pittsburgh where poverty, drugs, and gun violence were the rule of the streets. But he escaped and went on to become a professional boxer and earn a degree in Physics. I spoke to Ed about his new memoir, Hard Lessons From the Hurt Business: Boxing and the Art of Life in which he shares stories about discipline, sobriety, and self-mastery. Ed and I talk bout how emotional control can outpower ego, how true masculinity is rooted in accountability, and why forgiveness is the ultimate form of strength. He also discloses that he (loves and) likes his wife! Thanks to Rob Henderson for bringing Ed to my attention. ✍️Please leave us a rating here ✍️ 🥊Learn more about Ed here 🥊 👊Get Paul’s Substack newsletter here 👊
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3 weeks ago
1 hour 9 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Soul on Fire w/ John O’Leary (Encore episode)
John O’Leary’s life story has just been made into a movie called Soul On Fire, starring William H. Macy and John Corbett. When John was 9 years old, he played with fire and got burned. Like really, really burned, over 100% of his body, 87% of which were third-degree burns. Doctors gave him less than 1% chance of living and told his parents he would not survive. Yet thanks to the amazing support of his family, the community, and medical care providers, he got through it. His journey back took years, required dozens of surgeries, and cost him all of his fingers. Today, John is a world-renowned inspirational speaker who addresses large audiences around the globe. John is also the author of the best-seller On Fire!: 7 Choices to Ignite a Radically Inspired Life and In Awe: Rediscover Your Childlike Wonder Unleash Inspiration, Meaning, and Joy. He hosts the Live Inspired podcast. John and I have a lot in common. We were both one of six kids in a big, Catholic family and raised by amazing parents who were married for over 50 years and whose humility and grace inspire us to this day. We’re both husbands and dads, and both want our audiences to be radically aware of the value of their lives and the opportunity to make every day count. In this conversation, we discuss the importance of: Living in the moment Gratitude Family Courage Friends who will fight for you Finding your Talents “Saying Yes to being used for good.” ✍🏾Please leave us a rating: https://ratethispodcast.com/crazymoney. ✍🏾 👊Get Paul’s Substack newsletter: https://substack.com/@paulollinger 👊 Watch the trailer for Soul On Fire: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CslVGLETWps
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4 weeks ago
52 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Why You Will Never Feel Rich w/ Daniel Crosby
Acclaimed psychologist, behavioral finance expert, and author, Dr. Daniel Crosby, PhD* joins me this week to discuss his new book The Soul of Wealth: 50 Reflections on Money and Meaning. We cover the fun, non-obvious aspects of money and emotions, such as how comparison drives us crazy and why our bias toward action —doing something when things are going wrong — often leads to worse investment results. He offers small tips (like giving your savings account a name) that will help you save more and spend less. Daniel shares lessons from his (Mormon) mission to the Philippines, and we both reflect on how our frugal parents informed who we are today, in almost entirely (but not 100%) good ways. From the dangers of debt and overconfidence to escaping the toxic loop of “I’ll be happy when…,” we cover a lot of ground and have lots of laughs along the way. Listening to these two money-talkers with great hair will improve your life! Read Paul’s Substack: https://words.paulollinger.com/ Listen to Daniel’s podcast, Standard Deviations: https://www.standarddeviationspod.com/episodes *don’t forget the “PhD” part or he gets very mad.😁
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1 month ago
58 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Why Two Parents Are Better Than One w/ Melissa Kearney (Encore)
Melissa Kearney is the author of The Two-Parent Privilege: How Americans Stopped Getting Married and Started Falling Behind. Her book confronts the politically controversial fact that children raised in two-parent homes have better personal and professional outcomes (ON AVERAGE) than those raised in single-parent homes. Specifically, two-parent homes produce children who are more likely to graduate from high school and college, more likely to stay out of jail, to achieve stable employment, high earnings, and eventually to get married themselves, thus replicating the same advantages they had for their children. For pointing this out, Kearney was excoriated by academic colleagues who accused her of having a right-wing political agenda, which is preposterous considering that she had spent the 20 years prior to writing her book researching social policy, poverty, and inequality. Melissa is the Gilbert F. Schaefer Professor of Economics at the Unversity of NotreDame. She holds a BA in Economics from Princeton and a PhD in Economics from MIT. This is an encore episode from 2023. Follow Paul and read his work here. Learn more about Melissa Kearney here.
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1 month ago
42 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Giving Away Half-a-Billion Dollars w/ Craigslist founder, Craig Newmark
If you had hundreds of millions of dollars, how would you use it? Craigslist founder Craig Newmark faces this exact “problem”—and he’s working hard to give his fortune away to nonprofits tackling some of society’s most urgent challenges. In this week’s episode, Craig and I discuss the early days of Craigslist, its radical “revenue-minimization” strategy, and how its simple tools changed the classified ads game in the late ’90s. He told me how Sunday school values shaped his approach to business, why he demoted himself to customer service rep, and what he learned by hiring a CEO to run the company he built. Our conversation explores the art of giving money away strategically: from supporting veterans and military families to investing in cybersecurity and protecting democracy. We also get personal - talking favorite TV shows, the pros and cons of AI, and the big question: how much is enough? Listen now. Read Paul’s Substack here⁠: https://words.paulollinger.com/ Learn more about Craig’s philanthropic endeavors ⁠here⁠: https://craignewmarkphilanthropies.org/ Please rate, review, and share this great episode!
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1 month ago
42 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Laughing at Death w/ John Kenney
What happens when you mix grief, comedy, and a brutally honest take on life’s hardest moments? You get John Kenney’s new book, I See You’ve Called in Dead. In this episode, I (i.e., me–Paul–the host) sit down with John Kenney—award-winning author and longtime New Yorker contributor—for a candid and sometimes very funny conversation about writing, death, and living imperfectly, a topic we all know something about. I first learned of John 20 years ago when someone gave me a copy of his book Truth in Advertising and said, “this author is smart, wicked funny, and a little dark - you’ll love it.” I did. So I was thrilled to get the chance to talk to him about the new book and to hear a first-hand account of his journey from Ogilvy & Mather copywriter to getting published in the New Yorker and eventually becoming an award-winning novelist. One of six boys in a big Irish family, John dedicates the book to his late brother, a firefighter who died of pancreatic cancer, potentially related to his work at Ground Zero, starting the afternoon of 9/11/01. I just re-listened to this conversation, and I am grateful to John for being so open about his career, his family, and his admiration for the father who became a widower far too soon. I hope you enjoy it as much as i did. . Learn more about John: https://www.instagram.com/johnkenneywriter/?hl=enFollow Paul: https://words.paulollinger.com/
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1 month ago
54 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Rise of Populism w/ Brad Todd
Political strategist, author, and CNN commentator Brad Todd joins Paul Ollinger for a no-BS and eye-opening conversation about what’s really happening in American politics. From growing up in East Tennessee to advising senators, governors, and big-time campaigns, Brad’s been in the trenches for decades — and he’s got the stories to prove it. Paul and Brad dig into the rise of populism, how the Republican Party has changed, and the real challenges facing Democrats in 2025. Brad gives unfiltered takes on Donald Trump’s second term, what a post-Trump GOP might look like, and why primaries and caucuses shape the country’s future. You’ll also hear what Supreme Court Justice Amy Coney Barrett was like at Rhodes College (where both Paul and Brad went to school), some high-stakes dog track bets, and why politics is still a young person’s game. It’s part insider scoop, part history lesson, part comedy — the kind of conversation that’ll make you think, laugh, and maybe even yell at your screen. If you want the truth about U.S. politics without the cable news noise, this is it.
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2 months ago
50 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
From Prison to Oprah
What happens when a suburban soccer mom falls into heroin addiction, commits felonies, and ends up in prison—only to climb back out and become a four-time New York Times bestselling author? In this unforgettable episode, Paul sits down with Lara Love Hardin, author of The Many Lives of Mama Love, a mind-blowing memoir of crippling dependence, incarceration, and survival. Oprah, who picked ‘Mama Love’ for her official book club, described it as "a powerful exploration of redemption, joy, and the human capacity for change.” With unflinching honesty and unexpected humor, Lara shares her journey from PTA meetings to jailhouse shot-caller. In just a few years, she went from stealing from her neighbors to support her narcotic habit to ghostwriting best-sellers for global heroes like Bishop Desmond Tutu. Her story isn’t just about addiction or recovery—it’s about resilience, forgiveness, and how second chances can rewrite a life. If you’ve ever wondered whether transformation is truly possible, this conversation will make you believe in the messy, complicated, and inspiring fight to begin again. Learn more about the work Lara does to help women newly-released from prison get back on their feet: The Gemma Project https://www.thegemmaproject.org/ Subscribe to Paul’s Substack here: https://words.paulollinger.com/
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2 months ago
58 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Would you vote for Jesus?
📬 Subscribe to Paul’s Substack: https://words.paulollinger.com/ 📖 Learn more about Jonathan Rauch: https://jonathanrauch.typepad.com/ What happens when someone who grew up Jewish, gay, and atheist finds deep inspiration in the teachings of Jesus? In this fascinating conversation, Jonathan Rauch returns to the podcast to talk about his new book 'Cross-Purposes: Christianity’s Broken Bargain with Democracy'. Jonathan explains why the decline of organized religion has left a dangerous void in civic life—one now filled by hyper-partisan politics and fear-driven culture wars—and why he believes America needs a renewal of non-political Christianity rooted in courage, forgiveness, and love. We dive into his evolving relationship with faith, his hope for a less fearful, more compassionate citizenry, and the surprising ways music has shaped his worldview—including the life-changing moment he first heard Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band in third grade. Jonathan is a Yale grad, senior fellow at the Brookings Institution, award-winning author, and one of the most thoughtful public intellectuals of our time.
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2 months ago
47 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Tribalism is Dumb (w/Andrew Heaton)
Andrew Heaton is the author of the new book Tribalism Is Dumb and the host of The Political Orphanage podcast. He sits down with Paul to unpack where tribalism comes from, how it is tearing us apart, and how we might fix it. With wit, warmth, and some surprisingly deep evolutionary psychology, Andrew explains how our ancient brains are wired to seek belonging—even if that means choosing teams over Truth. They cover everything from Dunbar’s number to the loneliness epidemic, from the comedy club to Capitol Hilll, and why political identity has become a poor substitute for real community. Whether you're center-left, center-right, or just tired of the noise, this conversation offers a refreshing dose of nuance, laughs, and insight into how we got here and where we could go. If you've ever felt politically homeless—or curious why shouting on Twitter feels like the new religion, this conversation is for you! Don’t miss the part where Andrew suggests that Paul change the name of his podcast to “Drinking Liberal Tears with Paul.” (It’s not going to happen, but just think of how popular it would be if we did!) Subscribe to Paul’s Substack: http://words.paulollinger.com Follow Andrew at https://mightyheaton.com/ 
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3 months ago
1 hour 7 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Puck CEO, Sarah Personette
This week, Paul sits down with Sarah Personette, CEO of Puck, the fast-growing news outlet the New York Times described as “Vanity Fair for the Substack era.” From her ambition to become a CEO at age seven to her senior roles at Facebook, Universal-McCann, and Twitter – which ended after Elon Musk bought the company, Sarah unpacks what it takes to lead teams through uncertainty, disruption, and reinvention. She explains Puck’s blend of high-caliber journalism with modern distribution, and how to survive the oncoming AI onslaught. Sarah speaks candidly about navigating career transitions, modeling work-life balance, leading global teams, and raising children with intention while running billion-dollar operations. Whether you're a founder, a parent, or just starting out, her mantra—“Stay calm, stay focused, stay classy”—is a playbook for thriving in today’s chaotic world. It’s a raw, funny, deeply human look at the future of media, work, and purpose-driven leadership. Also, don’t miss Paul gushing with ‘80s nostalgia about the movie About Last Night starring Demi Moore and Rob Lowe. (Don’t worry - it’s relevant) Learn more about Puck here: https://puck.news/ Subscribe to Paul’s Substack here: http://words.paulollinger.com Watch About Last Night: https://www.amazon.com/About-Last-Night-Rob-Lowe/dp/B000I8HIM2
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3 months ago
1 hour

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Weapons Grade Gorgeous w/ Mehran Khaghani | Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Paul sits down with comedian and actor Mehran Khaghani and gets deep into the psyche of a man who was brought to America from Iran as a 3 year old who discovered himself after years of addiction and psychedelics only to emerge on the other side as one of the funniest comedians working today and starring in the hit Off Broadway Steven Soderbergh show "The Fears".
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4 months ago
1 hour 21 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
How Victimhood and Narcissism Hold Us Back (w/ Scott Barry Kaufman)
Scott Barry Kaufman is a cognitive scientist and best-selling author of the book Rise Above: Overcome a Victim Mindset, Empower Yourself, and Realize Your Full Potential. Scott’s writing dives deep into the psychology of the victim mindset, narcissism, and the impact of performative vulnerability on social media. Having overcome childhood misdiagnoses that placed him in special ed classes and bullying peers, Scott went on to earn a PhD from Yale. He shares this deeply personal story of as a teachable moment to discuss mental health, cancel culture, psychological flexibility, and what truly helps us grow as humans. Thought-provoking, funny, and brutally honest—this is a must-watch for anyone navigating identity, trauma, or the modern self-help world. Scott’s other books include Transcend: The New Science of Self-Actualization and Choose Growth: A Workbook for Transcending Trauma, Fear, and Self-Doubt. Read Paul’s Substack here: http://words.PaulOllinger.com Learn more about Scott’s academic on his website and his magic and mind-reading on https://www.theamazingdrscott.show/
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4 months ago
51 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Legacy, Loss, and Being Jewish Now | Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Zibby Owens is an author, publisher, and bookstore owner. She opens up about her writing journey, legacy, loss, and identity as the daughter of Blackstone founder Stephen A. Schwarzman. Zibby shares how grief, motherhood, October 7th, and why it’s okay–great even–to marry the tennis pro! She shares how resilience shaped her path, from launching a award-winning podcast and starting her own publishing house to writing memoirs and novels. She reflects on growing up in privilege, breaking free from societal expectations, and using her platform to speak out about antisemitism in a world that is increasingly dangerous for Jews. Zibby’s story is a masterclass in reinvention, purpose, and creative freedom. Read Paul’s Substack: https://words.paulollinger.com/ Learn more about Zibby here - https://www.zibbyowens.com/
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4 months ago
45 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Jeffery Toobin on Presidential Power | Reasonably Happy Podcast
CNN legal analyst and bestselling author Jeffrey Toobin breaks down the hidden power of presidential pardons — and how they reveal the true character of American presidents. From Trump’s transactional pardons to the controversial case of Hunter Biden, Toobin offers sharp analysis, historical insight, and headline-worthy commentary. He discusses why Gerald Ford’s Nixon pardon was unnecessary, how the January 6th pardons expose Trump’s political strategy, and why public cynicism is fueled by elite immunity. Plus, Toobin opens up about his career, love for golf, admiration for Jim Gaffigan, and his obsession with Evel Knievel’s wardrobe. This episode delivers sharp wit, surprising revelations, and crucial context for anyone interested in politics, justice, or power. Follow Paul: https://www.instagram.com/paul_ollinger/?hl=en Check out Jeffery's book: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Pardon/Jeffrey-Toobin/9781668084946
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4 months ago
1 hour

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
A Poet’s Wild Past w/ Edward Hirsch
Acclaimed poet and Guggenheim Foundation president Edward Hirsch joins us in an unforgettable episode to discuss his powerful memoir My Childhood in Pieces: A Stand-Up Comedy and a Skokie Elegy. Hirsch reflects on his chaotic upbringing in 1950s Jewish Chicago, his complicated relationships with his parents, and the wild characters who shaped his life. He opens up about the tragic loss of his son Gabriel, how grief became poetry, and why humor and heartbreak often walk hand in hand. From poetic craft and emotional truth to the role of art in a distracted world, this is a raw, funny, and deeply moving conversation about identity, creativity, and resilience. Follow Paul on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paul_ollinger/?hl=en Check out "My Childhood" in Pieces: https://edwardhirsch.com/ Audio excerpted with permission of Penguin Random House Audio from MY CHILDHOOD IN PIECES by Edward Hirsch, read by the author. © Edward Hirsch ℗ 2025 Penguin Random House, LLC. All rights reserved.
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4 months ago
52 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Has Affirmative Action FAILED? | Richard Kahlenberg & Paul Ollinger
Has affirmative action failed in America?? In this eye-opening conversation, Richard Kahlenberg—author of Class Matters and a longtime education and housing policy scholar—explains why race-based affirmative action has failed America's working class and what can be done to fix it. A self-described “liberal maverick,” Kahlenberg dives into his controversial role in the Supreme Court case against Harvard, arguing that socioeconomic-based admissions would promote both racial equity and fairness without alienating the working-class voters Democrats are rapidly losing. From Harvard's legacy advantages and billionaire endowments to MLK’s and RFK’s forgotten views on class over race, this episode challenges elite institutions, political orthodoxy, and the future of education in America. Check out al of Richard's books and appearances: https://www.richardkahlenberg.org/ Get Paul's book: https://www.paulollinger.com/the-book
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5 months ago
54 minutes

Reasonably Happy with Paul Ollinger
Comedian Paul Ollinger wants you to be happy but let’s not go crazy here, okay? In his new show, Reasonably Happy: the Skeptic’s Guide to Achievable Contentment (fka Crazy Money), Paul will help you find authentic fulfillment through candid conversations with comedians, authors, celebrities, and other remarkable guests who share their failures and foibles, anxiety and addiction, and their grand vision of life that keeps them pushing forward.