In this episode of The Re-Mind Podcast, Dr Ashleigh Moreland and David Masterton explore one of the most surprising takeaways from the recent Childhood Trauma Conference in Melbourne: parents who “get it wrong” 50% of the time—but repair and respond—raise kids with more secure attachment than parents who almost always get it “right.”
Ash and Dave unpack what this means for parenting, leadership, and relationships, showing why attunement matters more than perfection.
In this episode:
Fascinating new research on parent-child interactions and attachment
Why constant hypervigilance and prediction can be harmful
The difference between reacting, ignoring, and responding with attunement
Why conflict isn’t a sign of failure—it’s a sign of safety
Parenting examples: from donuts for breakfast to teenage pushback
How to circle back, repair, and build trust (even years later)
This conversation takes the pressure off perfection and reminds us that mistakes aren’t the problem—how we repair and reconnect is what counts.
Reflection prompts:
Do you put pressure on yourself to always “get it right”?
How do you usually respond when your child (or partner) is upset?
What might it look like to value repair over prediction in your relationships?
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The Re-Mind Podcast shares general information about mental health, well-being, healing, and spiritual growth. This episode is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice or therapy. If you need support, please reach out to a qualified professional.
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