External validation seeking can lead to low self-esteem.

Our children look to their adults, teachers and their peers to confirm for them how they rank within their community bubble - answering questions such as “how do I fit in?”, “how good am I compared to others?”, “am I popular?”, “am I clever?”. School is so full of judgment!

We've been conditioned to constantly look for approval and seek validation in the form of compliments and acknowledgements for our achievements - we feed off other people telling us how wonderful we are - but what if our children don’t receive that validation in any noticeable areas of their life? Thy don’t get good grades, all they’re not invited to be in the school play or sports team, or they don’t have a pack of friends to hang out with…… The consequence is a really low sense of self-worth that can affect them long into adulthood.

Don’t worry though - if your child is suffering with low self-esteem due to lack of external validation you can help them look within for this validation. In this episode we discuss how to encourage your children to find the space and time to reflect on their own efforts, and form their own opinions about their achievements, which will result in building their own self-belief and self-confidence?

This is an incredibly powerful skill to learn and will radically impact on their future.