Raising Boys Building Men/Parenting Solutions For Moms And Boys
Heidi Allsop - Life and Parenting Coach for Moms of Boys
45 episodes
1 day ago
Raising Boys, Building Men: The Go-To Parenting Podcast for Moms Raising Sons from Middle School to Manhood
Are you a mom caught in the whirlwind of raising sons? Do you find yourself:
• Wishing the arguments would just... stop?
• Frustrated by the constant battle with screens, schoolwork, and indifference?
• Longing for those simpler days when you could just enjoy your boy?
• Searching for a parenting approach that actually works?
Look no further! ”Raising Boys, Building Men” is your lifeline in ups and downs of boy-mom life.
In each episode, you’ll discover:
• Practical, same-day solutions to your most pressing parenting challenges
• Confidence boosters to become the mom your teenager needs
• Strategies to nurture good men while nurturing yourself and your relationships
My mission? To help you raise a resilient, happy son, take care of yourself, and have a blast doing it!
Ready to trade worry for fun? Conflict for connection? Short-term fixes for lifelong bonds? You’re in the right place, my friend.
Hey there! I’m Heidi – mom to 5 incredible sons, wife, social worker, and certified life coach. With three decades of boy-raising under my belt, I’ve tried every parenting trick in the book. But it wasn’t until I discovered that effective parenting doesn’t have to be complicated or miserable that everything changed. Now, I’m here to share those game-changing insights with you.
If you’re ready to:
• Become the mom you’ve always dreamed of being
• Raise sons who’ll thrive in this world
• Actually enjoy this wild ride of parenting
Then this podcast is your new secret weapon.
So, pop in those earbuds, and let’s transform your parenting journey together. It’s time to raise boys, build men, and have an absolute blast along the way!
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Raising Boys, Building Men: The Go-To Parenting Podcast for Moms Raising Sons from Middle School to Manhood
Are you a mom caught in the whirlwind of raising sons? Do you find yourself:
• Wishing the arguments would just... stop?
• Frustrated by the constant battle with screens, schoolwork, and indifference?
• Longing for those simpler days when you could just enjoy your boy?
• Searching for a parenting approach that actually works?
Look no further! ”Raising Boys, Building Men” is your lifeline in ups and downs of boy-mom life.
In each episode, you’ll discover:
• Practical, same-day solutions to your most pressing parenting challenges
• Confidence boosters to become the mom your teenager needs
• Strategies to nurture good men while nurturing yourself and your relationships
My mission? To help you raise a resilient, happy son, take care of yourself, and have a blast doing it!
Ready to trade worry for fun? Conflict for connection? Short-term fixes for lifelong bonds? You’re in the right place, my friend.
Hey there! I’m Heidi – mom to 5 incredible sons, wife, social worker, and certified life coach. With three decades of boy-raising under my belt, I’ve tried every parenting trick in the book. But it wasn’t until I discovered that effective parenting doesn’t have to be complicated or miserable that everything changed. Now, I’m here to share those game-changing insights with you.
If you’re ready to:
• Become the mom you’ve always dreamed of being
• Raise sons who’ll thrive in this world
• Actually enjoy this wild ride of parenting
Then this podcast is your new secret weapon.
So, pop in those earbuds, and let’s transform your parenting journey together. It’s time to raise boys, build men, and have an absolute blast along the way!
This episode gives you three practical ways to teach your teenage son that kindness is actually strength, not weakness, even when his world tells him otherwise.
Listen if: You're struggling with a son who's becoming mean to siblings or friends, or you want to prevent your kind boy from hardening as he navigates high school social pressures.
Key takeaways:
Model kindness in your own conversations - Pay attention to how you talk about teachers, coaches, and neighbors in front of your son because he's learning from every word
Celebrate kindness like you celebrate wins - Point out acts of kindness you see and praise them specifically so your son learns to value character over status
Show him that his heroes are kind people - Help him see that true strength comes from choosing kindness, not from being the loudest or most aggressive
Golden quote: "The most confident kids that come through my house are also the kindest kids... confidence and kindness go hand in hand."
Want more conversations like this?
Join our private Facebook community for moms raising teenage boys. We talk about real-life challenges, share strategies, and lift each other up—because you don’t have to do this alone.
👉 Join “Raising Boys, Building Men” on Facebook
For Additional Support:
Visit our website Raisingboysbuildingmen.com HERE
Schedule a FREE Relationship Reconnection Call with Me HERE
Follow us on Instagram HERE
Grab 8 tips to connect with your son today HERE
If you've ever caught yourself wishing for "just one more day" with that sweet little boy who called you "mommy" - you're not alone. That quiet sadness you carry? It's universal, it's normal, and it doesn't make you ungrateful. But living there will rob you of the beautiful relationship you can have with your teenager today.
Today we're diving deep into that ache you feel when you hold a little one and miss your own boy's chubby hands. I'm talking about the homesickness for who your son used to be while you're trying to embrace who he's becoming. This episode gives you permission to feel that grief AND practical ways to stay present with the amazing young man in front of you right now.
Today is tomorrow's reminiscence. Don't miss it while longing for yesterday.
Want more conversations like this?
Join our private Facebook community for moms raising teenage boys. We talk about real-life challenges, share strategies, and lift each other up—because you don’t have to do this alone.
👉 Join “Raising Boys, Building Men” on Facebook
For Additional Support:
Visit our website Raisingboysbuildingmen.com HERE
Schedule a FREE Relationship Reconnection Call with Me HERE
Follow us on Instagram HERE
Grab 8 tips to connect with your son today HERE
If you're tired of walking on eggshells around your teenage son or feeling like every conversation turns into a power struggle, this episode is for you. You don't need to be naturally funny - you just need to be a little less serious. Your son is gauging your reaction to his struggles, and humor can be the bridge that keeps you connected through the tough moments.
Discover why humor isn't just "nice to have" - it's a neuroscience-backed parenting superpower that can transform your relationship with your teenage son. I'm sharing real stories from our family (yes, including multiple car incidents!), the science behind why laughter works, and practical one-liners you can use this week to break tension and build connection.
Want more conversations like this?
Join our private Facebook community for moms raising teenage boys. We talk about real-life challenges, share strategies, and lift each other up—because you don’t have to do this alone.
👉 Join “Raising Boys, Building Men” on Facebook
Additional Support:
Visit our website Raisingboysbuildingmen.com HERE
Schedule a FREE Relationship Reconnection Call with Me HERE
Follow us on Instagram HERE
Grab 8 tips to connect with your son today HERE
If you're questioning whether you know anything at all because your son argues with literally everything you say - from room cleaning to what time it is - you're not alone. This isn't about disrespect or failure. It's developmental, it's normal, and most importantly, it's fixable.
Today we're diving deep into the nitty-gritty of that argue-about-everything phase that hits around age 14. I'm sharing the science behind why your son challenges YOU more than dad, plus four practical strategies you can use TODAY to stop those circular arguments that leave you both frustrated.
Want more conversations like this?
Join our private Facebook community for moms raising teenage boys. We talk about real-life challenges, share strategies, and lift each other up—because you don’t have to do this alone.
👉 Join “Raising Boys, Building Men” on Facebook
Additional Support:
Visit our website Raisingboysbuildingmen.com HERE
Schedule a FREE Relationship Reconnection Call with Me HERE
Follow us on Instagram HERE
Grab Your FREE BRIDGE METHOD (how to bounce back after conflict) PDF HERE
If you're exhausted from the constant self-criticism. The guilt. The comparison to "perfect" moms. This episode gives you permission to stop beating yourself up and start building on what you're already doing well.
You will discover the game-changing "gap vs. gain" mindset that transforms how you see yourself as a mom. Learn why your brain is wired to focus on what's wrong, plus three simple strategies to parent from your strengths instead of your struggles.
Today's episode will help you:
Understand why focusing on deficits keeps you stuck
Learn the 3-win daily practice that builds confidence
Identify your top parenting strengths (and how to use them)
Shift from measuring yourself against perfection to celebrating progress
Create momentum in your relationship with your son
Connect With Us:
Website: raisingboysbuildingmen.com
Join our private Facebook group: Raising Boys, Building Men HERE
Instagram: @heidiallsopcoaching
If you're exhausted from breaking up fights, tired of being the family referee, and wondering if your boys will ever actually like each other - this episode is your lifeline. You're not failing as a mom. Your kids aren't broken. This is normal, and it gets better.
In todays episode you'll walk away knowing exactly how to respond with wisdom instead of weariness, create more connection in your home, and stop parenting from panic so you can start parenting from peace. Most importantly, you'll have hope that this phase won't last forever.
Free Resources:
Join our Private Facebook Groups HERE
How to Survive and Thrive this Summer Download HERE
Connect with us:
Website: Raisingboysbuildingmen.com
Instagram: @heidiallsopcoaching
If you're tired of the guilt, confusion, and that aching feeling that something is breaking between you and your son after every argument, this episode is for you. Those explosive moments aren't really about the chores or curfew - there's so much more happening underneath.
Today we're breaking the exhausting cycle of daily arguments with your teenage son. I'm sharing my simple 3-step framework that works even when your teen isn't calm - because we can't count on them to stay levelheaded, but we can control ourselves.
Learn why anger is just the tip of the iceberg and discover what's really driving those heated exchanges. I'll teach you exactly how to pause the panic, recognize your choices, and respond instead of react - keeping your connection intact while still being the parent.
Key Takeaways:
Why anger is a secondary emotion and what's really underneath
The 3-step framework to break the argument cycle
How to stay in your thinking brain when tensions rise
Why connection and control rarely coexist
Resources Mentioned:
Join our Private Facebook Group HERE - Real Moms, Real Talk, Powerful Tools
Download the FREE Bridge Method HERE - Recover & Reconnect After Arguments
Connect With Me:
Raisingboysbuildingmen.com
Instagram: @heidiallsopcoaching
If you're lying awake wondering where you went wrong or feeling like you're failing because your son barely speaks to you anymore, this episode will be your lifeline. You're not alone, you're not failing, and most importantly - this phase doesn't last forever when you know how to navigate it.
This episode introduces the three-step roadmap to move from feeling isolated and rejected by your teenage son to building a strong, connected relationship that lasts into adulthood. We'll break down why that cuddly boy suddenly went quiet, how to stop taking his distance personally, and practical ways to reconnect without trying to "fix" him.
This Episode Help You:
Stop the spiral of self-blame when your son pulls away
Get specific strategies for one-word-answer conversations
Learn to be his guide instead of trying to be his hero
Create simple daily connection points that actually work with moody teenagers
Download Your FREE "8 Tips to Connect" HERE
Connect with me:
Website: Raisingboysbuildingmen.com
Join our Private Facebook Group: Raising Boys Building Men
Instagram: @heidiallsopcoaching
As a mom raising boys, you're constantly wondering if you're doing enough, doing it right, or if your influence will last. In today's heartwarming Father's Day tribute, Heidi sits down with her dad, Larry Rigby, to explore the timeless wisdom passed down through generations.
This conversation spans three generations of parenting wisdom, from the Greatest Generation to today's digital challenges. You'll gain perspective on the long game of parenting and understand that your steady presence and example are shaping the future for generations to come.
If You Are:
Overwhelmed by parenting advice? Learn to focus on the few things that make lasting impact
Struggling with a difficult teenager? Discover the 80/20 rule that will change your perspective
Worried about raising good men? Understand the key attributes that define real manhood
Need practical strategies? Get the "Eugene technique," "start over" method, and other tested approaches
Feeling discouraged? Receive encouragement that you're already halfway there just by being a mother
Connect With Us
Website: Raisingboysbuildingmen.com
Private Facebook Group: Raising Boys Building Men
Instagram: @heidiallsopcoaching
Grab This FREE Download: 8 Tips to Connect Today
If you've ever watched your son sit home alone on Friday nights, wondered why he doesn't have friends, or felt that pit in your stomach when he seems lonely and disconnected - this episode is for YOU. You're not alone in this worry.
Learn how to create genuine safety at home (not just asking 50 questions)
Discover why your own social story might be driving your panic
Get practical tools to support your son without trying to "fix" everything
Transform from anxious rescuer to confident anchor
Ready to dive deeper? Join our private Facebook community HERE where moms just like you share real struggles and celebrate wins together.
Connect with us:
Website: raisingboysbuildingmen.com
Instagram: @heidiallsopcoaching
Facebook: Raising Boys Building Men Community
What's in Today's Episode
This isn't about another parenting strategy or technique. Today we're diving deep into the one thing that will transform your entire parenting experience: discovering your powerful WHY. I share the emotional story of bringing home my fifth son and the crushing moment that led to my breakthrough understanding of what really matters in raising boys.
Why This Matters to You (Mom of Boys)
If you've ever found yourself checking missing assignments for the third time in a week, lying awake at 3 AM worried about your son's future, or feeling like this parenting journey will never get easier - this episode is for you. When you lose sight of WHY you show up every day, parenting feels frustrating and endless.
Your WHY becomes the fuel that carries you through those 3 AM worries and multiple attempts at important conversations. I'll guide you through powerful questions to help you identify your own specific WHY - the anchor that will give meaning to every challenge and transform your daily parenting experience from depleting to purposeful.
Connect with me:
Private Facebook Group: HERE
Instagram: HERE
Website: raisingboysbuildingmen.com
Summer break promises family memories but often delivers chaos, empty refrigerators and endless screen time battles. With teenage boys shutting off their executive functioning and living purely from their primitive brains (seeking pleasure, avoiding pain, staying efficient), it's no wonder we feel overwhelmed! Understanding what's happening in your son's brain will help you navigate this season with more patience and connection.
Todays episode gives practical strategies that will help you:
Manage your expectations (without lowering your standards)
Create a collaborative outline your son will actually buy into
Find the balance between structure and flexibility
Transform from survival mode to connection mode
Teach your son essential life skills while building his confidence
Get your FREE "6 Tips to Survive and Thrive This Summer" HERE
Connect With Me:
Join our private Facebook group: Raising Boys, Building Men HERE
Website: Raisingboysbuildingmen.com
Instagram: @heidiallsopcoaching
Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your son feeling frustrated and disconnected? In this episode, I'm diving into the critical communication mistake I see moms make with their teenage sons (and honestly, I catch myself making it too!).
In this episode you'll walk away with practical strategies to shift from talking AT your son to talking WITH him, helping you rebuild connection even during the busiest times of year. I'll show you how to replace lectures with conversations and get your son to actually open up to you again.
Connect with me:
Join our private Facebook community
Download my free guide: 5 Simple Ways to Rebuild Trust After an Argument
Visit our website: Raisingboysbuildingmen.com
As moms of boys, we often see symptoms of anxiety but don't know how to help without overparenting. You might notice your son having stomach aches, resistance to social situations, or trouble at school—all potential signs of anxiety that's going unaddressed.
In this eye-opening conversation, I'm joined by Dr. Robin Graham, author of "You, Me and Anxiety - Take Action Over Anxiety to Enjoy Being You". She shares her personal journey with anxiety and how she helped her son navigate his own anxiety struggles. We dive into practical strategies like the powerful Five C's journaling method and discuss how to create a safe space for our boys to talk about mental health.
About Dr. Robin Graham:
Dr. Robin Graham is a clinical pharmacist, author of "You, Me and Anxiety," and mom of three who has lived with anxiety her entire life. After watching her son develop anxiety at age 12, she became passionate about helping others—especially young people—understand and manage anxiety. Robin brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her mission of helping girls and women overcome anxiety to become all they're meant to be.
Take Action Now:
Find more resources from Dr. Robin at therobyngraham.com
Grab her book "You, Me and Anxiety: Take Action Over Anxiety to Enjoy Being You" on Amazon today!
Additional support:
Join our private Facebook group Raising boys, building men HERE
Visit our website Raisingboysbuildingmen.com HERE
Grab 8 tips to connect with your son today HERE
As a mom of boys, you put so much pressure on yourself to be the perfect mother, especially on days meant to celebrate you. When reality doesn't match your expectations, the disappointment can be crushing. You deserve to enjoy these special days without the emotional rollercoaster.
Join me today as I share my not-so-perfect Mother's Day story (involving a black eye and two feuding brothers) and the three powerful mindset shifts that helped me navigate the disappointment when celebrations go sideways.
This episode gives you permission to feel disappointed while providing concrete strategies to move forward. You'll learn how to communicate your expectations clearly, give yourself grace during challenging moments, and remember that difficult phases don't last forever. Most importantly, you'll be reminded that you're doing better than you think!
Connect with me in our private Facebook group: HERE
Schedule a free coaching call: HERE
Visit our Website: Raisingboysbuildingmen.com
As a mom of teenage boys, you're probably feeling the pressure build in your relationship. Misunderstandings, school situations, and daily life challenges create tension that needs release. This episode gives you permission to prioritize fun and shows you how these moments actually strengthen your connection during the hard teenage years.
You'll walk away with practical ideas to create enjoyable moments that don't require a ton of planning or money. These simple strategies help you reconnect with your son when everything feels like it's falling apart.
⭐ Get "5 Things Your Son Desperately Wants You to Know"
⭐ Join our private Facebook group: Raising Boys, Building Men
⭐ Follow on Instagram: @raisingboysbuildingmen
⭐ Visit our Website: Raisingboysbuildingmen.com
As moms of teenage boys, we often find ourselves walking a tightrope between wanting to fix everything and giving them space to grow. Whether your son is exploding with anger or retreating into silence, this episode gives you the tools to meet him where he is emotionally without compromising your boundaries.
Master coach Molly Claire joins us to dive deep into navigating the emotional world of teenage boys! We explore why some boys express emotions through anger while others remain silent, how moms can create a safe space for emotional connection, and the power of asking the right questions. Molly shares practical strategies to move from parenting in fear to parenting with confidence.
Want more: Grab my free download, "5 Things Your Teen Son Desperately Wants You To Know"
Come join our private Facebook Group Here
Let's Connect:
Website: Raisingboysbuildingmen.com
Instagram: @heidiallsopcoaching
Facebook: heidiallsopcoaching
As moms of teenage boys, worry often feels like love. But that anxiety is zapping your energy, causing you to over parent, and creating disconnection with your son. When you find yourself spiraling at 2 AM about his future or hovering over his every move, you're not alone – but there is a better way forward.
In this powerful episode, I break down how worry impacts your relationship with your teenage son and share five transformative questions that will shift you from anxiety to intentional parenting. No empty advice to "just stop worrying" here – instead, I offer practical tools to help you move through worry and come out stronger on the other side.
Want more: Grab my free download, "5 Things Your Teen Son Desperately Wants You To Know"
Come join our private Facebook Group Here
Let's Connect:
Website: Raisingboysbuildingmen.com
Instagram: @heidiallsopcoaching
Facebook: heidiallsopcoaching
Feeling lost in the teenage wilderness? Wondering if your son's behavior is "normal"? You're not alone. These books offer more than advice – they're your roadmap through the complex terrain of raising teenage boys.
In this powerful episode, I'm diving deep into five transformative books that will completely change how you understand and connect with your teenage son. These aren't just any books – they're scientifically-backed resources from neuroscientists and psychologists who specialize in adolescent boys' development.
Want more: Grab my free download, "5 Things Your Teen Son Desperately Wants You To Know"
Come join our private Facebook Group Here
Let's Connect:
Website: Raisingboysbuildingmen.com
Instagram: @heidiallsopcoaching
Facebook: heidiallsopcoaching
In today's episode of Raising Boys, Building Men, we're breaking down failure – what it really means and how loosening our grip on it allows our sons to learn crucial life lessons.
This episode gives you permission to let go of the heavy meaning you've attached to "failure" and provides practical tactics to support your son through struggles while maintaining your connection. You'll learn how to be his safe place while still allowing him to develop the resilience muscles he'll need for adulthood.
"Imagine believing that the hard things now are really what are building him into the strong man that he's becoming."
Ready for more support? Join our Facebook community at Raising Boys, Building Men
Download our free guide, "What Your Teenage Son Desperately Wants You to Know" in the link below:
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Raising Boys Building Men/Parenting Solutions For Moms And Boys
Raising Boys, Building Men: The Go-To Parenting Podcast for Moms Raising Sons from Middle School to Manhood
Are you a mom caught in the whirlwind of raising sons? Do you find yourself:
• Wishing the arguments would just... stop?
• Frustrated by the constant battle with screens, schoolwork, and indifference?
• Longing for those simpler days when you could just enjoy your boy?
• Searching for a parenting approach that actually works?
Look no further! ”Raising Boys, Building Men” is your lifeline in ups and downs of boy-mom life.
In each episode, you’ll discover:
• Practical, same-day solutions to your most pressing parenting challenges
• Confidence boosters to become the mom your teenager needs
• Strategies to nurture good men while nurturing yourself and your relationships
My mission? To help you raise a resilient, happy son, take care of yourself, and have a blast doing it!
Ready to trade worry for fun? Conflict for connection? Short-term fixes for lifelong bonds? You’re in the right place, my friend.
Hey there! I’m Heidi – mom to 5 incredible sons, wife, social worker, and certified life coach. With three decades of boy-raising under my belt, I’ve tried every parenting trick in the book. But it wasn’t until I discovered that effective parenting doesn’t have to be complicated or miserable that everything changed. Now, I’m here to share those game-changing insights with you.
If you’re ready to:
• Become the mom you’ve always dreamed of being
• Raise sons who’ll thrive in this world
• Actually enjoy this wild ride of parenting
Then this podcast is your new secret weapon.
So, pop in those earbuds, and let’s transform your parenting journey together. It’s time to raise boys, build men, and have an absolute blast along the way!
