I shared a post appreciating my husband on my WhatsApp status and had a question asked by one of my contacts thus: "how did you know you love him or wanted to marry him? I'm still wondering how people make that decision". I thought it'll be useful to send a quick audio note sharing my answer, so I did. Then I thought it'll be great sharing it with others, so here you go.

My answer is this: I found a quality in him whilst we were friends that mattered to me more than anything else I may have fantasised about in a marriage partner. That quality was stability amid my busy self. I have the tendencies to come with so many ideas and chase all of them at the same time. He had that quality of stopping me in my tracks and making me reflect on what I was doing. I realised that if I ever wanted to get married, that will be something that I will need a lot. So even whilst friends, without catching feelings I made a logical decision that if he ever asked me to marry him, the answer will be yes. Of course, he was a Christian and came from a family with a great example of a husband and a father, thus those also aided the decision. However, what stood out the most to me was that quality of strength and stability I recognized in him.