In this episode of Pleasure Principles, host Avik Chakraborty and conscious relationship coach LaShawn McCrary explore why emotional alignment, deep conversations, and self-love should come before the proposal and the ring. They discuss the difference between chemistry and compatibility, how self-love lays the foundation for lasting intimacy, and the fears couples often avoid addressing before engagement. LaShawn also offers practical insights on creating safe spaces for men’s vulnerability and how couples can revisit skipped conversations without breaking trust. This conversation uncovers what truly matters before saying “yes.” About the Guest   LaShawn McCrary is a conscious relationship coach, intuitive guide, and author of I’m Not an Option and the Before We Go Any Further workbook. She helps individuals and couples build soul-level alignment, emotional intimacy, and radical self-truth. Her work empowers people to show up authentically in relationships and make decisions rooted in clarity and love. Key Takeaways   True alignment begins with self—if you’re not authentic with yourself, you can’t align with your partner. Chemistry and compatibility are not enough; relationships are tested in moments of difference. Self-love is non-negotiable—it sets boundaries and prevents others from defining you. Couples often avoid difficult conversations due to fear of loss, but avoiding them creates bigger problems later. Men need safe spaces to express vulnerability without judgment; women can help by reframing strength and openness. Before engagement, the key question to ask is: Why am I marrying this person? Saying “I’m not ready” with honesty can protect the relationship rather than end it.   Connect with the Guest   Website: beforewegoanyfurther.comBooks: I’m Not an Option and Before We Go Any Further workbook Want to be a guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life? DM on PM – Send me a message on PodMatch DM Me Here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/avik Disclaimer: This video is for educational and informational purposes only. The views expressed are the personal opinions of the guest and do not reflect the views of the host or Healthy Mind By Avik™️. We do not intend to harm, defame, or discredit any person, organization, brand, product, country, or profession mentioned. All third-party media used remain the property of their respective owners and are used under fair use for informational purposes. By watching, you acknowledge and accept this disclaimer. CHECK PODCAST SHOWS & BE A GUEST: Explore all 19 podcasts: Healthy Mind Network Subscribe to Newsletter: Healthy Mind Substack Join Community: Healthy Mind Community OUR SERVICES Business Podcast Management Individual Podcast Management Share Your Story With the World STAY TUNED AND FOLLOW US! Medium YouTube Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Page LinkedIn Twitter Pinterest SHARE YOUR REVIEW Leave a Google Review Share a Video Testimonial #podmatch #healthymind #pleasureprinciples #menshealth #confidence #sexualhealth #HealthyMindByAvik #wellness #masculinity #mindset #mentalhealthawareness #selfcare #growthmindset #wellnesspodcast #healthandwellness #fyp #podcastinglife #inspiration