We're no longer pivoting this year.

In this episode, we unpack why we often feel the need to pivot, why our needs being met can either lead us to success and creativity, or keep us right where we are. By breaking down Maslow's Hierarchy of needs, this episode discusses the importance of identifying what you need to reclaim your purpose.

By exiting survival mode we no longer resist purpose. Here' to focusing on thriving this year.

The patterns that we practice are often at hand in building our story. And, in order for our story to change, we have to change our pattern! In this episode, I'm joined by my friend Farida Labaran (Cardiac Surgery RN), and we unpack the patterns that have kept us stagnant in romantic relationships, friendships, and our own personal journey, and dive into how we narrate our life's stories. As you join us in conversation, I invite you to think about:

• What patterns you've allowed yourself to adapt due to unhealed hurt?
• What or whose voice are you inviting to narrate your story?

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P.S. Please excuse the friendly dog chatter (barking) in the background! Totally unexpected razzle dazzle in this episode.

How do you know when you're truly living in fullness and fruitfulness? Do you find yourself shrinking back or hiding the bits of you that make you excellent? In this short but sweet solo episode, I reflect on my recent homecoming to London (after almost 4 years, being awakened to the fullness of self, reasons we shrink instead of thrive, and differentiating escape versus pivoting. Journey with me to uncover:

- giving ourselves permission to escape (especially when things at home are not fruitful.
- challenging every insecurity that prevents us from living in fullness
- daring greatly to pay attention to areas that need healing, growing, and radical honesty.

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How do you know when you are genuinely ready for a healthy relationship? Are you more or less willing to compromise your values as you age? How do you define, identify, and express your needs in a relationship in order for it to be successful? In this episode, I'm joined by my friends, Tope Ajala and Makando Mutanda, for an intimate and reflective conversation on readiness. 

Join us to discover: 

• Why we self-sabotage (potentially healthy) relationships. 
• How to apply grace and when to sacrifice in order to relate to and serve your partner. 
• Identifying the core values that enable us to be less flexible with what we require from our partners and in relationships. 
• Understanding how our experiences, traumas, and history of relationships greatly impact how we want to be pursued and how we also pursue. 

And finally, 

• The reckoning of readiness with practical ways to gauge what you need, and release yourself or your partner when you are beyond your window of tolerance.

Romantic relationships are beautiful but extremely complex, as two individuals with different perspectives strive to understand themselves, and one another. Oftentimes, the more we understand ourselves, the less willing we are to budge when it comes to our needs being met within these relationships. However, that comes with the readiness of doing the deep work to get to a place of self-awareness and willingness to sacrifice.

Have you ever felt as though you've failed after an unsuccessful relationship? Often, we tell ourselves a relationship is only successful if we achieve marriage -- forgetting the importance of setting achievable goals (in everything), and failing to realize we only have control over 50% of our relationships. In Part 2 of "The Intricacies of Success", I'm joined by Claud Williams, founder of Dream Nation. In this episode, Claud shares the fortright realitiy of defining success in purpose and romantic relationships. He challenges us to think deeply about how we show up, for ourselves and others; and assume accountability where we fall short of achieving our goals. Grab a drink, and let's get into it! Keep up with Claud Williams on Instagram: @claud_williams_ Join us on Instagram: @joyubani_ & @pivotandthrive Thanks for listening!

Has your peception or definition of success changed over time? Or maybe you allow others to define it for you? How do you measure if you are truly successful in your career and your romantic and platonic relationships? After a very sudden shift in my work, I gave myself much needed room to reconsider my definition success -- specifically within my career, and now, it's no longer solely defined by making a (very specifc) income. Grab a drink and join me and Debra Chosen for an intimate conversation as we think through our experiences in career, work, and family life and rediscover how it all impacts our version of success and view of self. Find out what has suddenly become our new and refined indicator of success. Keep up with my guest, Debra Chosen: Podcast: Trusting the Process Social: @DebraChosen

Within career development, relationships (friendships and romantic), self-advocacy is arguably the most important skill, or confidence hack, to master if you want your needs met. So often do we sit beyond our window of tolerance when our needs are not being met, and instead choose to cope with the discomfort that prohibits us from actualizing our full potential and thriving. Consider for a moment what would happen if we actively choose to be our own advocate and approach everything with audacity. In this episode, I reflect on my experiences within my job(s) where advocating was necessary. I am joined by my good friend, Nkechi, who is an Associate Director of Human Resources, and blogger/influencer over at @corporate_curly, where we discuss: identifying your needs; resources and support managers/directors should provide within a work place; and acknowledging quitting as a form of self-advocacy. For Part 1 of this episode visit this podcast page.

This week I'm joined by my friends Solange Noel Sanji, Tayo Adesina, and Seyi Famuyiwa for a powerful and thought-provoking episode on letting go. Join me to discover: - [ ] Why we have difficulties letting go of our perception of (former) self, - [ ] Why letting go can feel like failure - [ ] How not letting go (can be) a form of control - [ ] and How to discern when to persist (instead of let go). As we talk over drinks, Solange shares her raw and honest process with letting go of limiting beliefs after heartbreak. Tayo shares what practical release is within his marriage and inner-most thoughts. And Seyi walks us through finding strength to release, and responding to you inner child who is fearful of the unknown gap between letting go and receiving, once we have opened our hands. Connect with me + the Pivot & Thrive community: http://instagram.com/joyubani_/ http://instagram.com/pivotandthrive/ Connect with my friends: Solange: https://www.instagram.com/iseesolange/ Tayo: https://www.instagram.com/trash_gxng/ Seyi: https://www.instagram.com/thedailyseyi/

"How much do you have in your bank account? How much do you make? Are we splitting bills, dinner, mortgage evenly?" These and so many more financial questions we should (or avoid) asking while dating, thriving as a single individual, or with family members. In this episode, I sit down with my some of my older siblings (who have each helped improve my relationship with money), and discuss the heart of financial growth: alignment. We offer practical steps and questions you should ask yourself, your partner, your friends, and maybe your co-workers. Grab a drink, open up your excel spreadsheet (to get your budget together), and let's get into it.

Juggling multiple pursuits, and feeling as though I was struggling to fit into my "I-can-do-it-all" persona, I recently had a hard realization that I was experiencing burn out. I took a much needed vacation where I completely unplugged and with clear mind, had the opportunity for self-reflection, rest, and complete peace. I asked myself hard questions, and was joined (virtually) by a few close friends where we talked through and identified what we need to function at our very best (in the midst of juggling multiple pursuits...well). Join me for this thought-filled, and reflective episode unpacking the very essence of rest, burn out, and thriving in the midst of it all.

Hi friends! I'm so excited to share this intimate conversation I had with 3 of my closest friends, on friendship. In this episode we share our hearts on what it means to be a good friend; demanding genuine friendships from those around us; and cultivating consistent honesty even and especially when it feels uncomfortable. So, grab a drink and sit with us xoxo Guests: Chinelo (@c.chinelo.e), Winnie (@winnthemovement), & Nkiru (@shehermegreat).

Checking in! I finally gave myself a moment of down time, so naturally, I'm spending it with you. Checking in, and sharing valuable lessons I'm learning so far this year (based on my personal experiences). Grab a drink, join me for a personal reflection conversation, and take what you need from it.

In this episode, I sit down with my friend, Seyi, and get to the heart of envy and comparison....and how these enemies of the heart often work against our process. Likely something we've all experienced, Seyi and I get into what envy and comparison may look like in relationships, career, and even finances. We share our real struggles, lessons, and thoughts on addressing these heart enemies in friendships (while preserving the relationship), how to release the idea that we are deserving of the next blessing, and how to truly sit in a place of celebration when other around us are thriving in excellence.

With the current state of affairs with COVID-19, a lot of use are newly navigating work from home and discovering what we can do with our time indoors. In this soundbite, I'm sharing 6 tips that have worked for me in creating structure in my day. If you're looking for new content to listen to while practicing social distancing, check out some of my favorites below: Trusting the Process https://open.spotify.com/episode/6X94551hXM8lu16BhTBnhb The Big Picture Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/1YfB40TX2SkE6s1r9sc5fD Myleik Teele https://open.spotify.com/show/35OT0U2iULq2bxjvLtr7eL Faith & Life with Susan Deborahs https://open.spotify.com/show/1xEqOVo5jpcyLbz9AycKPM Preach it Sis https://open.spotify.com/show/6BD96LLH9K3aqIT6BlmsSW?si=0HYXGFVATKGIZARq00495A The Save Spend Invest https://open.spotify.com/show/1HQ12UI9SH6vpxUL2PQxNP ---- Have more tips or video content you'd like to share? Be sure to join the conversation by connecting with us over on social media: instagram.com/joyubani_ or emailing us at hello@joyubani.com

The Art Of Self - Advocacy by Joy Ubani

On Valentine's Day, my sweet friends and I gathered for a girl's night in! In this episode I'm inviting you into the home & hearts of some of my closest friends for an intimate conversation on love, hurt, and experiences that allowed us to release and finally forgive. Special guests: Winnie @winnthemovement, Nkiru, @shemehergreat. References: The Meaning of Marriage, by Timothy Keller