In this episode of Perspective, I explore a wildly misunderstood question: What makes a friendship (or a community) feel safe? (Like, actually safe… not just comfortable or coddling).
I talk about how today’s hot cultural trends result in “unsafe” social dynamics—the woke, DEI, “don’t offend anybody” movement and its “anti-woke” backlash are two extremes that lead to bad results.
I also tell a personal story that helps to highlight a variable of social “unsafety” in friendships.
(For the record, I’m putting the word “unsafe” in quotes here because I’m not talking about objective, physical safety in this episode—I’m talking about the subjective experience of feeling socially safe (NOT CODDLED) in friend groups or communities).
Finally, I (try to) land on a single quality that DOES actually cause (or help to create) that experience of social safety.
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