Dive into the world of fun, dance, and self-discovery with my buddy Tom. From our serendipitous meeting at the closig party for Output in Brooklyn to our reflections on the evolving meaning of fun, this episode explores how two bros try to find balance between the wellness and party scenes:
Tom Winkler
EPISODE OUTLINE:
Evolution of Fun
- What fun meant during childhood
- Transition from bar star culture to dance scene in New York City
- The importance of filling up one's cup and the dullness when it's not filled
- The joy of connecting and cracking people open on the dance floor
- Shifting perspective on cringe and embracing the willingness to try
Insecurity and Seeking Inclusion
- Finding armor in being part of an in-group at parties
- The toxic nature of seeking acceptance through external validation
- The experience of ROBOT HEART at Burning Man and the desire for belonging
- Using charisma to empower others and create acceptance
The Impact of Fun on Confidence
- Confidence as the “willingness to try”
- The connection between confidence and pushing boundaries
- Dealing with discouragement and rejection in the moment
- Pivoting out of uncomfortable situations and finding alternative solutions
Building Community and Intentional Spaces
- The creation of Mantra and the intention behind it
- Filling the void of meaningful spaces for connection and wellness
- Transitioning from New York City to San Diego and the desire to create change
- Overcoming rejection and doubts in hosting events
