What’s really behind your child’s procrastination, meltdowns, or avoidance? It might not be defiance—it could be a gap in self-regulation skills.

In this episode of #overpoweringemotions Dr. Caroline breaks down how to support kids and teens in building the tools they need to follow through on goals—whether it’s brushing teeth or studying for a test. She emphasizes the need for a framework to develop goal-directed behavior and executive skills.

You’ll learn strategies in developing self-regulation, including making expectations clear and concrete, using backward planning, and coach kids with self-talk strategies that actually work.

She also discusses the importance of proactive planning, reflection, and promoting supported autonomy to help children develop independence and self-regulation

Perfect for anyone looking to foster independence, build resilience, and stop the constant nagging cycle.

📌 Homework Ideas:

Goal: Build kids’ self-regulation framework with visual and practical tools.

• Create a visual checklist using backward planning. Pick one daily routine (e.g., getting ready in the morning). Work backwards with your child and take photos of each step. Turn it into a visual schedule they can follow.

• Use “I Can” statements. Together with your child, reframe expectations as personal action steps:

· I can pack my bag by 8:00

· I can double check my work before handing it in

· I can take three breaths when I feel overwhelmed

• Create proactive plans with children for potential obstacles or challenges, a “Plan B” flowchart:

What will I do if…

· I forget a step?

· My brother annoys me?

· I feel frustrated halfway through?

Practice role-playing a few scenarios to prepare for tricky moments.

• Help children develop self-coaching phrases for motivation and persistence.

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