Today Dr. Caroline breaks down the difference between self-regulation and self-control—and why confusing the two leads to ineffective strategies.
She explores how self-control is tied to social connection, modeling, and co-regulation. Learn what actually helps kids build emotional regulation that lasts.
A must-listen for anyone wanting to support kids through stress, frustration, and big feelings.
Homework Ideas
Narrate Your Own Regulation:
Start talking out loud when you're managing frustration or stress. (“I’m feeling overwhelmed, so I’m going to pause and take a few deep breaths.”)
Spot and Praise the Pause:
Catch kids using restraint (no matter how small) and acknowledge it. (“I noticed you stopped before yelling—great job catching yourself!”)
Build Predictable Routines:
Identify one part of the day that often brings stress. Create a simple visual schedule or routine to reduce unpredictability and set kids up for success.
Model Emotional Vocabulary:
Teach kids words for their emotions. Practice using phrases like “frustrated Fred showed up again—what do we want to do with him?”
Create a Co-Regulation Plan:
Work with kids to come up with ways you can support them during tricky moments. What helps them feel safe enough to pause?
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