In a world that constantly pushes us to hustle, compete, and stay "on," embracing your feminine energy is about coming back to your softness, sensuality, and self-worth. It’s not about being weak or passive—it’s about being in tune with your body, your intuition, your beauty, and your emotional strength.
In this episode, we’re talking about how to tap into your feminine energy—what it looks like, how it feels, and simple ways to bring more of it into your everyday life. If you’ve been in your head too much, operating in go-go-go mode, or just craving more softness, sensuality, and joy—this episode’s for you.
Falling in love and building a relationship is beautiful, but that doesn’t mean you should lose yourself in the process. The strongest relationships are built on two whole, fulfilled individuals coming together, not one person revolving their life around the other.
In this episode, we’re discussing how to keep your independence while still being in a happy, healthy, connected relationship. From maintaining your hobbies and friendships to having your own voice, freedom, and financial independence, here’s how to stay you while growing with someone else.
You’ve been on a few dates, you think you like him, but there’s just something that makes you wonder… Is he really into me, or am I just hoping he is? Maybe he texts inconsistently, takes forever to make plans, or seems interested one day and distant the next. So, how do you know if he’s truly into you—or just keeping you around as an option?
In this episode, we’re breaking down the signs that a guy is genuinely interested vs. the red flags that indicate he’s just not that into you. Plus, we’ll talk about what you can do if you’re stuck in that uncertain phase, so you don’t waste your time on the wrong person.
We’ve all heard the saying “the grass is greener on the other side,” but here’s the truth: the grass is greener where you water it. In life, love, and everything in between, what you put in is what you get out.
In this episode, we’re talking about how to stop comparing your life to others and start focusing on your own garden. Whether it’s your relationship, your personal goals, your sex life, or your self-growth—when you give it energy, love, and attention, it flourishes.
Let’s get real—compromise is part of every healthy relationship, but that doesn’t mean you should settle. There’s a big difference between making space for someone else’s needs and completely giving up your own. So how do you strike the balance?
In this episode, we’re talking about how to compromise without losing who you are. From relationships to career choices to life goals, it’s about knowing what truly matters to you—and what’s flexible. Let’s dive into how to navigate give-and-take while still honoring your standards, values, and self-worth.
The date’s wrapping up. The conversation flowed, there was chemistry, and then… he leans in or asks if he can kiss you. What do you do? Is kissing on the first date too much, or is it the perfect way to see if there’s a spark?
In this episode, we’re talking all about the first date kiss—when to go for it, when to hold off, how to handle it if he asks, and how to trust your instincts without overthinking it.
Nobody is perfect—even the guy you really like is bound to have something that drives you crazy. Maybe he chews gum like a cow, is constantly late, or wears way too much cologne. The question is: Can you live with it, or is it something that needs to be addressed?
In this episode, we’re breaking down how to handle annoying habits in a relationship—when to let things go, when to speak up, and how to bring it up without causing unnecessary tension. Because the little things can add up, but they don’t have to be dealbreakers.
Dating can be exciting, nerve-wracking, and, let’s be honest, a little awkward if the conversation doesn’t flow. So what do you talk about to keep things engaging, fun, and effortless? You want to leave the date feeling like you got to know each other—not like you were interviewing for a job or sitting through a therapy session. In this episode, we’re breaking down the best conversation topics for a date—what to bring up, what to avoid, and how to make sure you both leave wanting more. Whether you’re new to dating or just need a refresher, we’ve got you covered.
Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com
Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel
Books:
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker
Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
You’re dating someone who checks a lot of the boxes—they’re kind, attractive, successful—but something just feels off. Maybe it’s the chemistry, the excitement, or that spark you can’t quite put your finger on. So what do you do? In this episode, we’re talking about what to do when something feels "missing" in a relationship. Do you communicate and give it a chance, or do you walk away? How do you figure out if this is something that can be fixed—or if it’s a dealbreaker? Let’s break it down.
Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com
Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel
Books:
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker
Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
First dates can be exciting, but having your radar up is also important. While you’re getting to know someone, it’s important to observe their behavior and notice if anything feels… off. Red flags on a first date don’t always scream “run,” but they do offer clues about how someone might act in a relationship. This episode is all about the subtle (and not-so-subtle) warning signs that could signal this person isn’t right for you. From how they treat waitstaff to excessive negativity about their ex, we’re breaking down what to watch for so you can date smarter and save yourself time, energy, and heartache.
Website:www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com
Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel
Books:
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker
Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
You’re thinking about him. You pick up your phone. You start typing… but then you hesitate. Should you text first? Or should you wait for him to reach out? You don’t want to seem too eager, but you also don’t want to play games. In this episode, we’re breaking down the rules (or lack of rules) when it comes to texting first. When is it okay? When should you hold back? And how do you text in a way that keeps the energy balanced?
Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com
Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel
Books:
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker
Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
Love is great, and passion is exciting, but at the end of the day, friendship is what truly sustains a relationship. You can be wildly in love with someone, but if you don’t genuinely like them, the relationship won’t stand the test of time. In this episode, we’re breaking down why friendship is the foundation of a strong relationship—how it builds trust, deepens intimacy, and makes love last. If you want a relationship that’s not just romantic, but also fun, supportive, and fulfilling, this one’s for you.
Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com
Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel
Books:
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker
Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you build. Feeling truly secure in who you are comes from self-awareness, self-love, and taking action to improve the areas of your life that need it. So, how do you get there? In this episode, we’re breaking down what it means to be secure in yourself—from building strong self-esteem and setting personal goals to making sure your lifestyle, career, and mindset align with the person you want to be. If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt or insecurity, this is your guide to becoming your most confident, secure self.
Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com
Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel
Books:
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker
Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
We get it—he’s hot, the chemistry is insane, and he’s an amazing kisser. But before you jump into bed, ask yourself: Is he actually interested in you, or is he just looking for a convenient hookup? In this episode, we’re breaking down how to spot the signs of a guy who’s only in it for sex, how to set boundaries, and how to make sure you’re getting what you want out of dating. Whether you’re looking for a relationship or just want to avoid getting played, we’ll help you navigate the difference between a real connection and a booty call.
Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com
Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel
Books:
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker
Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
We’ve all been there—checking our phones, rereading the last message, wondering why he hasn’t texted back yet. But here’s the truth: sitting around waiting for his text isn’t just frustrating—it’s a waste of your time and energy. In this episode, we’re talking about how to shift your focus away from your phone and back onto you. From staying busy and investing in yourself to setting healthy communication expectations, we’re covering everything you need to break the habit of waiting around and start living your best life.
Website:www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com
Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel
Books:
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker
Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
Dating should be fun, exciting, and full of potential—but sometimes, we sabotage ourselves without even realizing it. Whether it’s texting too much, overanalyzing every interaction, or ignoring red flags, small missteps can add up and get in the way of building a real connection. And let’s be honest, dating can already be challenging enough—you don’t need to make it harder on yourself. The good news is most dating mistakes are completely avoidable. In this episode, we’re breaking down the most common pitfalls that can derail a great connection and how to steer clear of them. Whether you’re new to dating or looking to refine your approach, we’ve got you covered.
Website:www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com
Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel
Books:
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker
Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
Dating a man with kids is a completely different experience than dating someone without them. His priorities, schedule, and lifestyle will always revolve around his children, as they should. If you’re considering a relationship with a father, you need to manage your expectations and understand what comes with it—both the challenges and the rewards. In this episode, we’re breaking down everything you need to know before dating a man with kids. From understanding where you fit into his life to navigating potential complications with an ex, we’ll help you decide if this is the right path for you.
Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com
Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel
Books:
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker
Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
We’ve all had that nightmare scenario—you run out for a quick errand in your worst sweats, messy hair, no makeup… and then boom—you run into your ex. Even worse? He’s with someone new, and you’re standing there looking like you just rolled out of bed. This episode is all about why looking presentable isn’t just about him—it’s about you. When you look good, you feel good, and that confidence changes how you carry yourself. Whether you’re running errands or heading to brunch, we’re talking about how to always feel put together, effortlessly stylish, and ready for whatever (or whoever) comes your way.
Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com
Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel
Books:
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker
Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
You’ve moved on, life is good, and then suddenly—your ex reaches out. Maybe they lost a job, a loved one, or are just going through a rough patch. The question is: What do you do? Do you offer support, ignore them, or set clear boundaries? In this episode, we’re talking about how to navigate this tricky situation. The answer isn’t always black and white—it depends on the circumstances of your breakup, your current relationship status, and what they’re asking of you.
Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com
Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel
Books:
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker
Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
What does the best version of you look like? How does she feel? How does she carry herself? Becoming the woman of your dreams isn’t about chasing perfection—it’s about stepping into the life you truly want and becoming the most confident, fulfilled version of yourself. In this episode, we’re breaking down how to build yourself up, prioritize self-care, cultivate confidence, and create a life that feels aligned with who you really are. If you’ve ever felt stuck or unsure of how to level up, this is your sign to take action.
Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com
Connect on Instagram/Facebook: @janisandcarlyspindel
Books:
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker
Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography