We often think change starts with action. “I’ll start running,” “I’ll start eating better,” “I’ll try to be more confident.” But real change begins with identity.

If you want to build a new habit, stop telling yourself you want to do it and start telling yourself you are the kind of person who does it.

Want to run? You are a runner from day one.

Want to write? You are a writer the moment you sit down.

Want to lead with empathy? You are already that kind of leader every time you choose to listen.

When your identity changes, your actions follow naturally. You stop negotiating with yourself because this is simply who you are now.

So next time you want to start something new, do not focus on the finish line. Focus on becoming the kind of person who shows up for it, one small choice at a time.