In this episode, I’m unpacking something I’ve been seeing everywhere lately: the rush to slap a diagnosis on our kids when it might actually just be temperament. Don’t get me wrong—diagnoses can be life-changing and absolutely necessary. But not every shy kid is “on the spectrum,” not every focused moment is “ADHD hyperfocus,” and not every earworm means your brain is broken. I’m breaking down the four classic temperaments, what research says about temperament vs. personality, and how parenting mismatches (your temperament vs. your child’s) can make things look “off” when they’re really not. This one is part rant, part reality check, and 100% a call to give our kids room to be who they are—without rushing to pathologize them.
Timestamps:
(00:01:02) Temperament-based Understanding of Children's Behaviors
(00:13:19) Innate Traits vs. Environmental Influence in Children
(00:19:39) Understanding Children's Temperamental Traits for Parenting
(00:20:49) Mood Mismatch Impacts on Parent-Child Interactions
(00:21:18) Temperament Clash: Parent-Child Relationship Dynamics
(00:27:21) Temperament Alignment for Parent-Child Harmony
(00:40:29) Temperament Balancing for Social Harmony and Connection
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