In this emotionally challenging and revealing episode, Joanne opens up about her struggles with sibling abuse and the severe impacts of rage/covert attacks.  She recounts a recent disturbing letter from her brother and discusses the impact of these familial relationships on her development of C-PTSI and the influence on her marital choice.  Literally, 50 years of off and on abuse.  Courts do not uphold restraining orders, despite brain injury.  Red Head stands up for herself, and all generations. Joined by a friend, Pam, they explore how their past experiences shaped their lives and relationships. Joanne also references insights from experts, discussing the implications of antisocial personality disorders. The conversation aims to offer understanding, support, and resources for those navigating similar paths.  It is important to Joanne that victims learn NOT to defend themselves, to the abuser, as that is the goal of the abuse.  Reactive abuse makes you look like an abuser, not a victim, and seals your fate in the offender’s mind.