Timothy Olson / Ruth Olson - Inspired by Brene Brown, Mel Robbins, Tony Robbins
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Is your trauma consuming you?
Are you tired of constantly having anxiety or depression?
Are you struggling to stop negative self talk?
Do you have past hurts that still haunts you?
Are you fighting about the same things over and over again in your relationship?
In this podcast, you will find tools and resources to help you better understand yourself and your relationships. You’ll learn how to manage or even eliminate the constant anxiety, negative self talk, and feelings of overwhelm that you’ve been experiencing. Our mission is to equip you to be healthy mentally and relationally and to bring healing to past trauma that might be still affecting you today. If you’re ready to say yes to being the best version of yourself, have fulfilling and healthy relationships, and have a better life, - then you are in the right place!
Hey, we’re Tim and Ruth! We’re licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts with over 30 years of combined experience. We’ve seen time and time again how people have tried to will themselves to be happy, muscle through it, and have ended up even worse off than when they began. We’ve noticed that people have experienced deep pain, whether it’s others who have hurt them or situations and the world just beating them down, and often they have turned that into an internal dialogue where they are mean...like really cruel in how they talk to themselves. They have anxiety, feel depressed and overwhelmed, all the while their self talk is telling them ”I’m not good enough, I’m a failure, I’m worthless, I’m not loveable, I cannot trust anyone, I am powerless, I’m not in control.” How emotionally exhausting! We’ve realized that people want to get out of that place, they just don’t know how. They feel lost, alone, and without hope. Mental health & recurring toxic relationships can feel like an uphill battle, but you are not alone in this, that’s where we come in! We offer specific steps, practical tools, strategies, and insights that will help you to overcome these ongoing battles and help you win the war! There is hope, and there certainly is healing! We can’t wait to share it with you!
If you are ready to finally find ways to overcome your anxiety, stop your negative self talk, stop feeling like a burden, break free from co-dependency and toxic relationships, and stop letting your past run the show... and if you’re looking for changes that can transform your life, like improved mood, increased confidence, healthier relationships, and healing from the past that has kept you stuck for too long - this podcast is for you!
Bring your drama and your trauma and lets get healing
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Is your trauma consuming you?
Are you tired of constantly having anxiety or depression?
Are you struggling to stop negative self talk?
Do you have past hurts that still haunts you?
Are you fighting about the same things over and over again in your relationship?
In this podcast, you will find tools and resources to help you better understand yourself and your relationships. You’ll learn how to manage or even eliminate the constant anxiety, negative self talk, and feelings of overwhelm that you’ve been experiencing. Our mission is to equip you to be healthy mentally and relationally and to bring healing to past trauma that might be still affecting you today. If you’re ready to say yes to being the best version of yourself, have fulfilling and healthy relationships, and have a better life, - then you are in the right place!
Hey, we’re Tim and Ruth! We’re licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts with over 30 years of combined experience. We’ve seen time and time again how people have tried to will themselves to be happy, muscle through it, and have ended up even worse off than when they began. We’ve noticed that people have experienced deep pain, whether it’s others who have hurt them or situations and the world just beating them down, and often they have turned that into an internal dialogue where they are mean...like really cruel in how they talk to themselves. They have anxiety, feel depressed and overwhelmed, all the while their self talk is telling them ”I’m not good enough, I’m a failure, I’m worthless, I’m not loveable, I cannot trust anyone, I am powerless, I’m not in control.” How emotionally exhausting! We’ve realized that people want to get out of that place, they just don’t know how. They feel lost, alone, and without hope. Mental health & recurring toxic relationships can feel like an uphill battle, but you are not alone in this, that’s where we come in! We offer specific steps, practical tools, strategies, and insights that will help you to overcome these ongoing battles and help you win the war! There is hope, and there certainly is healing! We can’t wait to share it with you!
If you are ready to finally find ways to overcome your anxiety, stop your negative self talk, stop feeling like a burden, break free from co-dependency and toxic relationships, and stop letting your past run the show... and if you’re looking for changes that can transform your life, like improved mood, increased confidence, healthier relationships, and healing from the past that has kept you stuck for too long - this podcast is for you!
Bring your drama and your trauma and lets get healing
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In this episode of the Mr. and Mrs. Therapy podcast, the hosts discuss the issue of changing one's words, behaviors, or values to please others. They explore various reasons for this tendency, such as childhood messages, trauma, societal pressures, and people-pleasing habits. The conversation includes a personal story about their daughter's experience with criticism while worshiping, emphasizing the importance of staying true to oneself and finding identity in Christ. The episode concludes with practical steps to embrace authenticity, including knowing oneself, identifying triggers, practicing honesty, affirming identity, setting boundaries, and surrounding oneself with supportive people.
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:38 Why We Change Ourselves
01:46 A Personal Story: Teaching Our Daughter
07:28 The Dangers of Changing Yourself
11:50 Embracing Your True Self
18:08 Practical Steps to Authenticity
19:56 Conclusion and Encouragement
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Join Tim and Ruth, licensed marriage and family therapists with a background in trauma therapy, as they introduce their self-guided EMDR program for overcoming trauma. This session explores the benefits of EMDR, including its ability to heal past trauma, improve brain function, and increase emotional resilience. They explain the science behind EMDR, how it addresses both emotional and physical danger, and the key role of the prefrontal cortex and amygdala. The episode also emphasizes the program's convenience, affordability, and effectiveness, while providing practical advice for success in the process. Listeners are encouraged to engage with the student community for support and questions.
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:08 Meet Tim and Ruth
00:31 Understanding EMDR Therapy
00:56 Benefits of EMDR
06:41 Self-Guided EMDR Program
10:09 Setting Yourself Up for Success
12:33 The Importance of Honesty and Grit
17:19 Understanding the Brain's Role in EMDR
23:24 Increasing Emotional Resilience
26:48 Community Support and Conclusion
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In this episode of the Mr. And Mrs Therapy podcast, the hosts tackle the modern myth of achieving perfect balance in life. They discuss how constantly striving for balance can leave individuals feeling exhausted, discouraged, and guilty. Instead, they advocate for a focus on priorities and being faithfully present in the season of life one is in. The episode covers practical tips such as redefining success, replacing balance with priorities, and building life rhythms. Scriptural references, like Ecclesiastes 3 and Colossians 3:23, provide a Christian perspective on seasonal living and prioritizing what truly matters.
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:08 The Myth of Balance
01:50 Cultural Narratives and Social Media
04:09 The Concept of Diminishing Returns
07:02 Biblical Perspective on Balance
11:39 Practical Tools for Faithful Presence
14:22 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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In this episode of the Mr. and Mrs. Therapy podcast, the hosts discuss the 'comparison trap' and how social media can distort self-worth. They explain how platforms highlight only the best moments of people's lives, leading to unfair comparisons and feelings of inadequacy. The episode explores the psychological and emotional impacts of these comparisons, including increased rates of depression and anxiety. Practical strategies to escape the comparison trap are shared, such as curating your social media feed intentionally, practicing daily gratitude, limiting screen time, focusing on your own gifts and abilities, and replacing comparison with celebration. The hosts also provide a biblical perspective on finding worth beyond social media validation and emphasize the positive potential of social media when used purposefully.
00:00 Introduction to the Comparison Trap
00:53 The Impact of Social Media on Self-Worth
05:12 Psychological Insights into Comparison
08:18 Biblical Perspective on Self-Worth
10:28 Practical Strategies to Escape the Comparison Trap
15:44 Conclusion and Positive Use of Social Media
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In this episode of Mr. And Mrs. Therapy podcast, the hosts explore the delicate balance between truth and love, discussing the nuances of healthy honesty, radical honesty, and avoidance. They provide insights into the psychology behind why people gravitate towards either extreme and offer practical advice for speaking truths in a manner that maintains emotional safety and relationship integrity. Key strategies discussed include understanding your goal, checking the timing, using a compliment sandwich, focusing on your experience rather than character, and being prepared to listen. Additionally, they draw on biblical principles to highlight the importance of gentle and loving communication.
00:00 Introduction to Honesty in Relationships
00:38 Defining Types of Honesty
01:10 Balancing Truth and Love
02:02 Practical Examples of Honesty
05:01 Understanding Extremes in Honesty
08:14 Psychology of Too Much Honesty
10:34 Framework for Speaking Truth in Love
13:32 Biblical Insights on Honesty
15:06 Conclusion and Practical Tips
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In this episode of the Mr. And Mrs. Therapy podcast, the hosts explore the concept of vulnerability as a crucial and often frightening relationship skill. They delve into what true vulnerability looks like, its significance for emotional connection, and how past wounds can obstruct our ability to be vulnerable. Listeners will gain practical advice on practicing safe vulnerability, starting with self-awareness, sharing slowly, naming feelings accurately, creating empathetic spaces, and managing emotional reactions. The episode concludes with a practical challenge to practice a small act of vulnerability in a key relationship.
00:00 Introduction to Vulnerability
00:58 Defining Vulnerability
01:29 Examples of Vulnerability
02:22 The Fear of Vulnerability
02:56 Overcoming Past Wounds
07:21 Building Safe Vulnerability
10:28 Practical Tips for Vulnerability
12:08 Conclusion and Challenge
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In this episode of the Mr. And Mrs Therapy podcast, the hosts discuss the myth of compatibility in marriage, emphasizing the importance of commitment over initial chemistry. They argue that compatibility and chemistry should not be the foundation of a lasting marriage, but rather commitment, shared values, and a covenant centered around Christ. They explore how culture has idolized the idea of a 'perfect match' and debunk misconceptions about destiny vs. free will in choosing a partner. The episode offers practical advice for rekindling intimacy and maintaining a strong marriage through intentional actions, loving choices, and healthy conflict resolution, even amidst life's adversities and changes.
00:00 Introduction: The Myth of Compatibility
00:40 Chemistry vs. Commitment
03:04 The Illusion of the Perfect Match
05:07 The Reality of Marriage Challenges
07:38 Building a Strong Foundation
09:46 Love as a Choice, Not a Feeling
12:05 Embracing Tension and Growth
14:48 Rekindling Intimacy
16:06 Practical Steps to Reconnect
16:41 Conclusion: Focus on Commitment and Christ
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In this episode, we delve into why some apologies fail and how to truly repair trust in relationships when 'I'm sorry' isn't enough. We explore the necessity of emotional validation and changed behavior to rebuild trust. Key points include understanding why a rushed or empathy-lacking apology falls flat, the importance of ownership and validation, and the significance of demonstrating change. Practical tips are provided for both giving and receiving effective apologies, highlighting three crucial elements: ownership, validation, and change. Additionally, we discuss actions to take when an apology from your partner is missing or insufficient.
00:00 Introduction: The Problem with Apologies
00:48 Why Basic Apologies Fail
05:52 The Three Elements of Real Repair
12:31 When You Need an Apology
14:08 Conclusion: Rebuilding Trust Over Time
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In this episode of the Mr. and Mrs. Therapy podcast, the hosts delve into the often confusing distinction between true healing and mere avoidance, especially following a traumatic experience. They discuss how trauma can make it difficult to distinguish between setting healthy boundaries and erecting 'trauma walls.' Key differences between healthy boundaries and avoidance behaviors are outlined, and the importance of self-reflection, clear communication, and emotional presence is emphasized. Reflection questions and actionable steps, including seeking therapy, are provided to help listeners move from avoidance to genuine healing and establish boundaries that foster both protection and connection.
00:00 Introduction to Healing vs. Avoidance
01:19 Understanding the Blurred Lines
02:13 Healthy Boundaries vs. Trauma Walls
08:35 Reflection Questions for Self-Assessment
13:41 Steps to Move from Avoidance to Healing
17:16 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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In this episode of the Mr. And Mrs. Therapy podcast, the hosts delve into the problematic nature of judgmental 'why' questions in relationships. They discuss how such questions, even when asked with genuine curiosity, can come across as accusatory and trigger defensive reactions. The episode explores the significance of tone, timing, and past traumas in how people respond to 'why' questions. The hosts provide actionable advice on reframing these questions to promote understanding and emotional safety, offering alternative ways to communicate that build connection rather than conflict. The insights shared are applicable to various relationships, including marriage, parenting, and self-talk.
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
01:11 The Impact of Judgmental 'Why' Questions
05:13 Key Factors: Tone, Timing, and Trauma Echoes
07:10 Alternatives to 'Why' Questions
11:40 Building New Communication Habits
14:51 Recap and Final Thoughts
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In this episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy podcast, the hosts delve into the phenomenon of experiencing a racing, jittery feeling and interpreting it as either excitement or anxiety. They discuss the physiological responses driven by the sympathetic nervous system and provide a self-check tool to help listeners distinguish between excitement and fear. The episode covers the role of perspective and inputs in shaping these feelings and offers techniques to reframe negative thoughts, including the concept of neuroplastic shift. The hosts conclude with a five-question self-check tool to help listeners rework their anxiety into excitement.
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast
00:07 Understanding the Racing Jittery Feeling
00:50 The Science Behind the Physiological Surge
01:36 Interpreting Excitement vs. Anxiety
03:19 The Role of Perspective and Inputs
05:11 Side-by-Side Comparison: Excitement vs. Anxiety
07:33 Reframing Anxiety into Excitement
10:17 Five Question Self-Check Tool
12:04 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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In this episode of the Mr. and Mrs. Therapy podcast, hosts Brian and Ruth discuss conflict styles in relationships and how they can either drive couples apart or bring them closer together. They explore the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument, which identifies five primary conflict styles: avoiding, accommodating, competing, compromising, and collaborating. Each style is examined in detail, including its root causes, physiological responses, strengths, and pitfalls. The hosts emphasize the importance of understanding one's own conflict style and that of their partner to improve communication and resolve conflicts effectively. Practical tools and strategies are shared to help listeners shift towards healthier conflict resolution patterns, ultimately fostering deeper connections in their relationships.
00:00 Introduction to Conflict Styles
00:26 Understanding the Thomas Kilman Conflict Mode Instrument
02:53 Avoiding Conflict: Pros and Cons
07:04 Accommodating Conflict: Balancing Cooperation and Assertiveness
09:56 Competing Conflict: The Win-Lose Approach
13:09 Compromising Conflict: Finding Middle Ground
16:10 Collaborating Conflict: Achieving Win-Win Solutions
19:23 Identifying Your Conflict Style
20:29 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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In this episode of the Mr. And Mrs. Therapy podcast, the hosts explore the Pygmalion Effect—an intriguing phenomenon where higher expectations can enhance performance and growth. They discuss its origins, mechanics, and applicability in various contexts such as education, parenting, marriage, and self-improvement. Personal anecdotes and actionable strategies are shared to help listeners leverage this principle effectively in their own lives. Key emphasis is placed on balancing high expectations with grace and realistic perspectives to foster positive outcomes and self-fulfilling prophecies.
00:00 Introduction to the Pygmalion Effect
00:32 Origins and Mechanics of the Pygmalion Effect
01:25 Personal Story: Rising to Expectations
02:34 Parental Perspectives on Expectations
05:30 Balancing High Expectations with Grace
06:07 Applications in Daily Life
18:11 Strategies to Leverage the Pygmalion Effect
21:45 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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In this episode of the Mr. And Mrs Therapy podcast, the hosts explore the concept of negativity bias, which is the tendency to focus more on negative experiences than positive ones. They discuss the evolutionary roots of this bias, its impact on our emotional well-being, and how it manifests in self-talk, relationships, and stress. The hosts then provide five practical tools to help shift towards a more balanced perspective: maintaining a three-to-one positivity ratio, implementing a bad day buffer ritual, practicing gratitude, asking reframing questions, and creating a positive data bank. These strategies aim to retrain the brain and improve overall mental health.
00:00 Introduction to Negativity Bias
01:02 The Science Behind Negativity Bias
02:22 Negativity Bias in Daily Life
04:53 Impact on Relationships
11:49 Tools to Combat Negativity Bias
17:12 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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In this episode of Mr. Services Therapy podcast, listeners are introduced to a simple yet effective parenting tool called the 'Three E's': empathize, expect, and empower. The hosts discuss how to transform daily power struggles with children into moments of connection by using empathy, setting clear expectations, and empowering children with choices. They provide detailed examples of how to implement each step in various scenarios, such as daily routines and homework time. Emphasizing empathy helps children feel seen, clear expectations eliminate confusion, and providing choices fosters autonomy and cooperation.
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In this episode, the we delve into the crucial topic of raising children who obey with a joyful heart, rather than begrudging compliance. They discuss the importance of attitude in fostering respect, self-control, and empathy in children. By addressing behaviors consistently and early, parents can minimize resentment and conflict, creating a harmonious home environment. The episode highlights the mantra 'right away, all the way, with a joyful heart,' and offers practical advice on encouraging compliance without arguments, completing tasks fully, and responding positively. The discussion also emphasizes the role of parents in modeling calm behavior and the significance of emotional contagion.
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Welcome to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy. Today, Tim and Ruth Olson, experienced marriage and family therapists specializing in trauma, explore the concept of emotional flooding - a state of overwhelming emotion where the logical brain takes a backseat. This episode is designed to help listeners recognize, understand, and manage the intense emotional responses often referred to as the 'amygdala hijack.'
The Olsons dive deep into the science behind emotional flooding, explaining how past trauma can trigger the body's survival mode, characterized by the fight-flight-freeze-or-fawn response. They discuss how the brain, despite knowing situations logically, often misinterprets non-threatening scenarios as danger due to past experiences.
Listeners will learn practical strategies for calming the nervous system, such as grounding techniques, deep breathing, and using the 5-4-3-2-1 method to bring oneself back to the present. The Olsons also cover the importance of stepping away and managing emotional states before attempting to resolve conflicts.
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your own emotions or noticed how they impact your relationships, this episode is filled with valuable insights on transforming emotional flooding into an opportunity for growth and understanding. Join the journey to heal from the past, foster better communication, and develop deeper, more fulfilling relationships.
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In this eye-opening episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, licensed marriage and family therapists Tim and Ruth Olson delve into the often misunderstood topic of divorce. With years of experience in trauma and mental health, the Olsons provide a compassionate and insightful perspective on why divorce might not be the solution many believe it to be.
The episode begins with an important caveat: while the discussion centers on the complexities of divorce, it acknowledges that in cases of abuse or unsafe relationships, separation is crucial. However, for many experiencing conflict, disconnection, or betrayal, divorce may offer a false sense of resolution.
Listeners will gain insights into the unspoken challenges that come with divorce, such as emotional hangovers, continued conflicts, especially in co-parenting, and how unresolved personal wounds can carry into future relationships. The Olsons bring to light the hidden costs of divorce, touching upon its financial and emotional toll, and how societal and familial pressures can impact both individuals and children.
Throughout the episode, Tim and Ruth stress the importance of personal growth and healing from past traumas as a means to improve current and future relationships. They discuss practical strategies like individual and couples therapy, learning to articulate personal needs, rebuilding trust, and the role of spirituality in enhancing relational bonds.
The episode wraps up with a message of hope, encouraging listeners to seek clarity and understanding before making life-altering decisions. Whether you are currently in a challenging marriage, contemplating divorce, or healing post-divorce, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice to foster healthier relationships and personal well-being.
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In this episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, both licensed marriage and family therapists, delve into the pervasive relationship challenge of expectation without communication. Many partners, families, and friends expect their loved ones to understand what they need without expressing it, leading to frustration and resentment. This episode focuses on debunking the myth of mind reading and explores practical strategies for openly expressing one's needs in relationships.
Tim and Ruth discuss how expecting someone to intuitively know your needs can harm relationships, perpetuate misunderstandings, and breed emotional distance. They emphasize the importance of healthy communication, kindness, and clarity when expressing needs. Listeners will gain insight into the significance of speaking up and the potential consequences of staying silent.
Through real-life examples and expert advice, the episode provides essential tools to help listeners identify their needs, use "I" statements, and choose the right timing for conversations. By offering sentence starters and highlighting the importance of staying open to dialogue, the Olsons aim to guide individuals towards creating meaningful connections with their loved ones. Listen as they unpack practical tips on how partnering and teamwork can aid in building enduring love and fulfilling relationships.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
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Welcome back to another episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy with your hosts, Tim and Ruth Olson. As licensed marriage and family therapists, we're here to empower you to transform life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. In this episode, we dive into the understated reality of healing - how it can often feel boring, predictable, or anticlimactic.
We challenge the cultural obsession with dramatic transformation stories and emphasize that real, lasting healing is a gradual, consistent process. It's not always about groundbreaking breakthroughs; sometimes, it's about choosing rest or saying no without guilt, actions that are powerful in their simplicity. We discuss the importance of these small, everyday victories.
Throughout the episode, we reframe what healing truly looks like, underscoring the power of mundane milestones like pausing before reacting, naming emotions, and setting silent boundaries. These acts are signs of profound progress and stabilization of your brain and nervous system.
Join us as we share practical tools to track and celebrate these 'boring' wins, from micro-win trackers to using visual reminders and anchor statements. We also address the importance of reframing expectations, acknowledging that healing is not linear and setbacks are part of the journey.
So whether you're stepping back from chaos or learning to value rest, remember that your journey towards a stable, grounded self is not boring—it's beautiful. Tune in to understand why these quiet triumphs are indeed the evidence of your healing power.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
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Is your trauma consuming you?
Are you tired of constantly having anxiety or depression?
Are you struggling to stop negative self talk?
Do you have past hurts that still haunts you?
Are you fighting about the same things over and over again in your relationship?
In this podcast, you will find tools and resources to help you better understand yourself and your relationships. You’ll learn how to manage or even eliminate the constant anxiety, negative self talk, and feelings of overwhelm that you’ve been experiencing. Our mission is to equip you to be healthy mentally and relationally and to bring healing to past trauma that might be still affecting you today. If you’re ready to say yes to being the best version of yourself, have fulfilling and healthy relationships, and have a better life, - then you are in the right place!
Hey, we’re Tim and Ruth! We’re licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts with over 30 years of combined experience. We’ve seen time and time again how people have tried to will themselves to be happy, muscle through it, and have ended up even worse off than when they began. We’ve noticed that people have experienced deep pain, whether it’s others who have hurt them or situations and the world just beating them down, and often they have turned that into an internal dialogue where they are mean...like really cruel in how they talk to themselves. They have anxiety, feel depressed and overwhelmed, all the while their self talk is telling them ”I’m not good enough, I’m a failure, I’m worthless, I’m not loveable, I cannot trust anyone, I am powerless, I’m not in control.” How emotionally exhausting! We’ve realized that people want to get out of that place, they just don’t know how. They feel lost, alone, and without hope. Mental health & recurring toxic relationships can feel like an uphill battle, but you are not alone in this, that’s where we come in! We offer specific steps, practical tools, strategies, and insights that will help you to overcome these ongoing battles and help you win the war! There is hope, and there certainly is healing! We can’t wait to share it with you!
If you are ready to finally find ways to overcome your anxiety, stop your negative self talk, stop feeling like a burden, break free from co-dependency and toxic relationships, and stop letting your past run the show... and if you’re looking for changes that can transform your life, like improved mood, increased confidence, healthier relationships, and healing from the past that has kept you stuck for too long - this podcast is for you!
Bring your drama and your trauma and lets get healing