The three experts in a mixed faith marriage talk about expectation.
In this episode we discuss expectations.
What were some of the expectations you had for your marriage? Were they realistic or not?
Many couples enter marriage assuming shared faith will always be part of their relationship. How does a faith transition affect those expectations?
What are some common unrealistic expectations in mixed faith relationships, and how can couples shift toward more flexible, supportive ones?
How do unspoken expectations impact our interactions with our spouse and family members, and what strategies can we use to navigate them?
What’s an expectation you’ve had to let go of, and how did that impact your relationship?
How do we know when it’s time to adjust, communicate, or let go of an expectation?
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The panel of experts meets again (Brooke Booth, Suzette Halterman and Chris Rich) to discuss Momon mixed faith marriages. Here we talk about GRIEF.
-Our own experience with grief
-How does grief manifest for your clients? What do they grieve? How do you help your clients work through their grief?
-How do you help clients process the grief of not sharing spiritual milestones, traditions, or beliefs with their partner?
-How do you help your clients cope with the loss of a shared spiritual vision for their future, family, or children?
-Have family or religious communities contributed to grief ?
-Do you think the grief of a mixed-faith marriage ever fully resolves, or is it something to continually navigate?
-What advice would you give to other mixed-faith couples navigating grief?
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The three experts in mixed faith marriage talk about parenting .
In this episode we discuss:
What are your thoughts about handling this weight that we experience as parents and living in this state of parent anxiety and fear of doing it wrong and messing up our kids? Especially when this journey is constantly changing as our kids are going through their own developmental processes?
What can we control? What can’t we control? What is our responsibility in this area as parents that IS under our control, and what are we trying to take responsibility for that is not actually ours to manage? How can we work on letting go of these things that really aren’t in our control?
Do we try to control the other parent as far as what they share, when they share it, how they share it, etc? What does that attempt at control do to the parent partnership and to the relationship?
How can we work on managing ourselves when our partner shares something that we don’t want them to or that we disagree with? Or if they aren’t as supportive of what we share as we would want them to be in our ideal world?
What about the kids being confused if they hear different things, different perspectives from their parents, opposing beliefs? What are your thoughts about this?
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In this panel discussion we tackle one of the basic relationship skills: communication.
We talk about:
Our struggles with communication
Why communication can be challenging
Common communication pitfalls in a mixed faith marriage
How to navigate conversations with deeply held beliefs
Strategies to implement when there is a fundamental disagreement
How to create a safe space for honest communication
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Here is part two of my serious on emotional awareness and its benefits in a mixed faith marriage.
Spiritual bypass is when one uses religion instead of doing emotional work (processing emotion, awareness of emotions, talking about emotions, allowing emotions, etc).
It is unfortunately common in a mixed faith marriage due to social programming.
There are VERY REAL impacts of spiritual bypass on a marriage.
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This month we tackle the topic of BAPTISM.
In this recording we cover:
- Our own memories from our baptisms
-How do you deal with a client or couple that is struggling with the idea as of choosing to get baptized v the social pressure to get baptized. How did you deal with this in your own families?
-Many post mormon parents I talk to like the idea of taking this day to celebrate this child and let it be a day to focus on the kid and in this culture that is done though the vehicle of baptism. And they struggle with the idea of supporting an organization like the church that has caused so much shame and hurt or teaching their kids to support this organization. How to deal with this?
-How to deal with the fact that their co-parent does not agree with the premise behind baptism but for them this is crucial to salvation and getting the gift of the holy ghost and other things like priesthood and temple ordinances?
-Sometimes the couple isn’t struggling with the decision so much as they are trying to appease extended family and ward family. How to make this very personal decision on a public stage?
-How do you deal with great to be 8 and all the hype around it? How to talk to your kid about baptism if you are not a believer and your spouse is? How to talk to your kid if you are a believer and your spouse is not?
I am doing a little series on developing emotional awareness and maturity in a marriage.
This skill helps those with good intensions also create a good impact. (Good intentions do not guaranty good impacts!).
In part one we are talking about gaslighting - really internalized gaslighting. The gaslighting you do to yourself!.
Gaslighting is the the act of invalidating one’s own, true experience.
Here I give:
-tons of examples of what it looks like
-reasons why we fall into this habit
-tips to consider if you want to change this behavior.
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Three experienced life coaches you specialize in mixed faith marriages get together to talk about how to speak up in your marriage. Brooke Booth, Chris Rich and Suzette Halterman discuss the following:
1. How can you initially broach a difficult topic and bring something up to your spouse when that feels scary to do, maybe because it’s scary to bring up something that you have never talked about, or because in the past it has led to conflict or not gone anywhere productive? What are your tips or strategies? What if your spouse is unwilling to work with you with you when you do speak up or your bring it up but it doesn’t go well? Any personal experiences?
how can you make requests as a way of speaking up and asking for things that you want in the relationship? What if your spouse does not honor your requests? Any tips, thoughts, or personal experiences about making requests?
3. What exactly does it mean to set a boundary? What are some tips for doing this? Do you have any examples from your mixed-faith marriage?
4. How can you speak up about what matters to you in ways that are productive? What might be an unproductive way to speak up about what matters to you? Any thoughts,tips or personal experiences?
5. One way to speak up is to be aware of whether you are beating around the bush, dropping hints, alluding to things, using body language instead of words to communicate etc. How can you translate those more passive approaches to very direct and clear communicating?
6. If you struggle with speaking up in your relationship, any thoughts on how to work on this?
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The election has come and gone.
How is your marriage?
A mixed faith marriage can often mean a mixed political marriage. This election cycle may have been challenging for you with either your spouse or your extended family.
In this podcast I give 4 principles to consider if you are in a mixed political relationship .
As always go to brookeboothcoaching.com to get a course to help your mixed faith marriage.
I have spoken in the past about the importance of preferences in communication. In this podcast I go a little deeper and explore one thing that can really prevent knowing and sharing your preferences and that is when you water them down before you even share then with yourself or with your spouse.
I also share what I think is the single most impactful antidote to watering down your preference and that is COURAGE.
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Three mixed faith marriage life coaches talk about sex and sexuality in this episode. Join myself, Chris Rich, and Suzette Halterman as we discuss how a faith transition can impact sex and one's relationship with their own sexuality. We discuss questions such as:
How to deal with a partner exploring their sexuality?
How to deal with masturbation or porn?
How to deal with different sexual drives?
How to talk to kids about sex?
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Weaponized incompetence has a real impact in a marriage. It can be exacerbated in a mixed faith marriage or it can be one more thing that strains a mixed faith marriage.
In this podcast I give some examples on weaponized incompetence in daily life and specific to a mixed faith marriage.
Weaponized incompetence that is going on unchecked can lead increase in resentment, a breakdown in communicate and eventually emotional disconnection.
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Blame is the topic of this month's panel discussion.
Each month three mixed faith marriage coaches gather to talk all things mixed faith marriages. In this episode we tackle blame. Here is what we cover:
- The human tendency to blame and why that happens
-How to deal with being the receipt of blame
- How to deal with being the one who is blaming others or things
We go pretty deep in this one!
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There can be anxiety when a marriage becomes a mixed faith marriage. Sometimes there is A LOT of anxiety.
In this episode I talk about anxious and avoidant attachment. Then talk more about how anxious attachment can show up in a mixed faith marriage.
Finally, I talk about the benefit of each adult taking care of their own emotional regulation and not outsourcing that to their spouse.
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When there has been hurt and pain in a mixed faith marriage there needs to be both apologies and trust building. But PLEASE note they are not the same thing!
An apology does not automatically restore trust and safety.
An apology is a start and an important first step to re establishing trust.
In this podcast I give an example of a great trust building practice to develop in your marriage.
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Chris Rich, Suzette Halterman and myself (Brooke Booth) meet again to discuss mixed faith marriages from both our personal and professional experience.
In this month's discussion we talk about Sunday. We cover:
-What has worked and not worked for us
-Why Sunday is a hard day
-How to manage things like
-Issues we see when a spouse stops attending
-What about when a kid wants to stay home or go to church
-How to support kids/spouses re talks, primary programs etc
-How to manage Sunday dress and getting the kids ready
-What about social activities and keeping the Sabbath day holy
As always it is a rich and varied discussion.
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Here I share three lessons I have learned as I have worked with countless individuals and couples as they navigate a mixed faith marriage.
The 3 lessons are :
1. Perfection is not the goal
2. Talk about the issues
3. You are Okay
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I have heard clients express frustration that their partner is not working as hard on the marriage as they are. They are not trying as hard. They are not investing as much. That hurts. A lot.
In this episode I explore what this kind of story tends to create in a marriage and offer some suggestions.
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In this month's mixed faith marriage panel discussion we talk about parenting.
As always we share our own wins and failures as well as the following:
-What are the pros and cons of being on the same page in parenting?
-How to deal with different parenting approaches to church activities, family prayer, and alcohol?
-How to manage when a child does not follow your faith footsteps?
-Tips on talking to your kids about the mixed faith marriage and faith transition.
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