These 4 behaviors are scientifically proven to result in the demise of your relationship. If you don't know what they are, you might be headed towards divorce without even knowing it.

The concept of Boundaries is not something we talk about in Sunday School. It's not a merit badge, or a young women's value. But without boundaries, our marriages will not flourish and thrive like we want them to. So, today we're going to give you an introduction into the concept of boundaries. What are they? How do they work? Why are they important? How do we set them? And how do we enforce them?

Did you know there are actually two types of conflict in marriage? Some conflict, like what to eat for dinner tonight, is resolvable conflict. The rest of our conflicts - 69% to be exact - are unresolvable conflicts, like what to do if you're an early riser, and I'm a night owl. Or if you're fastidious and I'm cluttery. If you try to solve an unsolvable problem, you're just going to get more upset and frustrated. (Each type of problem requires its own skillset.) So, today we're going to talk about those two types of conflict, and how to handle them differently.

How do you create a marriage that can withstand any trial? And let's be honest, we want to do more than merely survive... we want to THRIVE, even amidst the struggles of life. God didn't give us marriage to endure. It's to enjoy. And that's what we'll show you how to do today.

This episode is a recording of a live marriage preparation class Angilyn and I taught as part of our calling with the YSA Ward. This week's lesson was on the purpose of your marriage... ie: why we get married. The answer might not be what you think...

There are tons of really stupid, damaging marriage myths that we get told growing up. If we try to act out on those marriage myths as if they are true, they do SO much harm. Today we're going to talk about some of the more common marriage myths, and how to avoid falling into their trap.

We sit down with Dan Purcell, creator of the Intimately Us app, and talk about ways we can improve emotional and physical intimacy within our marriages... and how his awesome app can help!

Join us for another awesome conversation with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife! In this episode we delve into questions about exploring what arouses you, dealing with conflicting desires, and frustrations around female orgasm. We hope you enjoy the conversation!

"The noblest aim in life is to strive to live to make lives better and happier. The most worthy calling in life is that in which man can serve best his fellow man." - David O. McKay

We need to have more compassion and understanding in our marriages - for ourselves and for our partner. There are a lot of things that enter our relationships from our pasts. We need to realize that it is going to take some time to perfect this dance. Sometimes they’re going to step on your toes, and sometimes you will step on theirs. When we do that, let’s try to give each other some feedback and support. It can quickly turn to blame and anger - ‘you stepped on me and that really hurt!’ Most often there is not malicious intent, yet people still get injured. We get hurt and our expectations get betrayed. There is a lot of emotion and discomfort and fear. It’s here that we need to start from a place of, ‘my partner is probably doing their best even though they aren’t a great dance partner yet. Maybe I’m not a great dance partner yet either! I thought I had all the moves and I don’t. How can we learn how to dance together?’ — Dr. Cameron Staley

"Seldom are we broken. There’s just something we haven’t yet learned that would allow us to be more free. The courage to pursue a truer view is rewarded with the joy of living in greater truth." - Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

"I felt like the Lord was telling me, ‘I created you the way you are for a reason. You have these gifts and these desires and these skills because I put them there in you. It’s not wrong to follow those. In fact, it’s fulfilling the measure of your creation.’ I do believe that it is a parent’s (both a father’s and a mother’s) primary responsibility for the nurture of their children, and a huge part of that is finding nurturing opportunities for them. I’m the facilitator of the nurturing and the education that happens in my children’s life. I do not have to be the only one doing the nurturing." — Rachel Nielson

"An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure" - Benjamin Franklin "Why isn’t this something that more people do? They think they don’t need it. They say, 'Oh, we don’t have any problems.' It’s the stigma and mindset that counseling is only something you do when you’re screwed up. You don’t need to have problems to go to premarital counseling any more than you need to be stupid to go to college. A prevention mindset says 'Hey, I’d like to know what it is I don’t know.'" - Jonathan Sherman, LMFT

"Buried in your humanity is a jewel - a gift from God. It is the strongest force in your life. There is no stronger force that you could use for good in your life then this: Your human nature has one single motive - to fight for what it deems as normal. It will fight to a degree that you cannot win. So, what do you do? Simple. Redefine what’s normal. All of a sudden, your human nature will work FOR you, instead of against you. This idea of controlling and creating what is normal is everything." -Seth Ellsworth

“We often think of Christ’s life as the ultimate sacrifice - which it is - but we overlook that He practiced self care. He took time alone, He napped, He ate, He would be with people and then would take time away. We have to balance that. If we don’t invest time in developing our sense of self, we can’t be ‘self-less.’ We wouldn’t have anything to offer.” - Dr. Julie Hanks

“Resilience, in my mind, is found in eight simple words; Search inward, turn outward, look upward, press forward.” -Dave Schramm

"I had to learn to allow myself to simultaneously feel the gratitude, hope, and excitement of being pregnant and becoming a mom, while at the same time allowing myself to say, ‘This vomiting sucks,’ or, ‘I’m exhausted,’ or, ‘My body doesn’t feel like mine right now.’ It seems like it should be one or the other, but it’s totally okay to give space to both sides of the emotions at the same time." - Angilyn Bagley "Here’s what I wish someone would have told us before we got pregnant. I wish they would have to me to wake up every morning and say out loud, ‘You’re wife is pregnant, she has tons of hormones in her body, and she’s growing a baby. Be patient with her, and remind her that her only job is to eat food that will stay in her stomach and rest.’ I wish they would have told you that it’s okay if pregnancy does’t look like what you thought it would. You might not be miserable, but you might be miserable.... You might not get nauseous, but you might get nauseous... Don’t go into it expecting everything to be perfect." - Nate Bagley

"Some people long for a life that is simple and planned Tied with a ribbon Some people won't sail the sea 'cause they're safer on land To follow what's written But I'd follow you to the great unknown Off to a world we call our own Hand in my hand and we promised to never let go We're walking the tightrope high in the sky We can see the whole world down below We're walking the tightrope Never sure, never know how far we could fall But it's all an adventure That comes with a breathtaking view Walking the tightrope with you" - Tightrope, Michelle Williams

"The people that are most happily married have figured out a way to have enough security in their marriage to feel a sense of safety and trust, but allow it to continue growing. It’s a marriage that stops being validation based and allows growth within the context of the relationship. It’s willing to be honest enough with each other that the marriage stays alive and vital. Those are the most happily married people. A lot of marriages do this split where the couple makes it predictable and safe, yet stay validation based and not bring up or deal with hard things. It feels predictable, but dead. This is when they're more vulnerable to looking for life outside of the marriage, because they're afraid of bringing life into the marriage." - Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

"Viewing pornography is an emotional concern - NOT a sexual problem." - Dr. Cameron Staley