Struggling couples often wonder if it’s time to quit or if there’s still something worth fighting for. In this gentle yet practical episode, Michelle Hays walks you through four powerful conversations designed to bring clarity: naming the fears you avoid, exploring changing needs, releasing past hurts, and reimagining your future together. These talks won’t solve everything overnight, but they will uncover honesty, hope, and direction. If you’re in the messy middle, this episode is your guide to deciding with wisdom, not regret.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove 

He needs space to feel safe. She needs connection to feel safe. No wonder you keep missing each other. In this episode, Michelle Hays explores the nervous system wiring that fuels the chase-and-withdraw dance so many couples know too well. With real-life insight and practical tools, you’ll learn how to stop making each other the enemy and start finding connection even when your bodies speak different languages. 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove

Love without safety is love you have to perform for—and it will leave you lonely, even in the same room with your partner. In this episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hayes unpacks why emotional safety has become the modern must-have in marriage, what it really looks like, and three simple ways to start building it today.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove

What happens when you love your partner but don’t feel attracted to them anymore? In this episode of Monarch for Love, we peel back the shame and silence around fading desire. You’ll discover why loss of attraction is often about disconnection, not looks, and how rebuilding emotional safety, honesty, and curiosity can reignite intimacy. 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove  

In this week's episode, we are unpacking one of the most common myths I hear from couples: “We just fell out of love.” The truth? Love doesn’t vanish—it fades when we stop choosing it. I’ll share how unmet needs, unspoken resentments, and quiet disconnection slowly erode intimacy, and how the belief that love should always “feel” magical keeps us stuck. You’ll hear parts of my own journey, the mistakes I made, and the shift that changed everything: realizing love isn’t about performance—it’s about presence and choice.If your marriage feels distant, this is your reminder that love is always waiting for your return. You can start again. You can choose again. Because love isn’t just a feeling—it’s a decision, made one moment at a time. Website: www.monarchforlove.comBook: www.awakenedheartsbook.comInstagram: @monarchforlove

In this week's episode, I speak to the woman standing at the edge—the one who wonders if walking away is the only way forward. Before you make that decision, I invite you to pause and ask yourself four life-altering questions. I’ll share pieces of my own story—multiple marriages, mistakes, and hard-won lessons—so you can see that leaving isn’t always the freedom it promises.If your heart is aching and you’re tempted to give up, let this episode remind you: sometimes the bravest thing you can do is stop running and choose to look inward. Because love is not about perfect people—it’s about never giving up.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove  

In this heartfelt episode of Monarch for Love, I sit down with Psychiatrist, Dr. Mariana Martinasevic, to explore how alcohol and other substances can quietly reshape the fabric of a marriage. From social drinking to dependence, substance use often creates emotional distance, hidden stress, and unspoken blame between partners. Together, we unpack when “use” becomes “abuse,” the toll it takes on intimacy, and why blame rarely leads to change.If you or someone you love is facing this challenge, you’ll find both honesty and hope here. Dr. Martinasevich shares her insights from psychiatry, I share my personal experiences, and together we offer a way forward: protecting your emotional safety while supporting the one you love. You are not alone—healing and connection are possible.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove  

In this week’s episode, we’re naming something couples rarely admit out loud—feeling lonely in marriage. You said “I do,” you built a life together, and yet sometimes it feels like you’re miles apart under the same roof. Loneliness doesn’t mean your marriage is broken; it’s a signal that something needs attention.We unpack why loneliness sneaks into relationships—unspoken needs, distractions, fear of vulnerability, and misaligned expectations—and I share practical, heart-centered steps to bridge the gap. You’ll learn how to create daily “us” moments, spot each other’s loneliness triggers, pause with curiosity in conflict, and design rituals that bring you back together.Loneliness doesn’t have to be a life sentence. It can be the wake-up call that leads you and your spouse into a deeper connection. Because love isn’t automatic—it’s a choice.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove  

In this week’s episode, I’m stepping into a season many couples both dread and quietly anticipate—the empty nest. After decades of parenting, the kids are gone, the routines vanish, and the house suddenly feels too quiet. It’s a season that can stir grief, relief, confusion, and the unsettling question: What’s next for us? I will be sharing personal stories, practical steps, and simple rituals to help you and your spouse move from loneliness to renewal.Becoming empty nesters isn’t the end of your story—it’s the invitation to write a new chapter. One where you choose each other again, with fresh eyes and deeper love.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove  

Think sexy means lingerie and candlelight? Think again. In this feel-good episode, Michelle Hays and positivity powerhouse Instagram sensation Kelli Butterfly spill the tea on how playfulness, laughter, and choosing joy can supercharge your relationship. From cranky funks to contagious fun, we’re diving into why your energy matters more than your outfit—and how a little optimism can heat things up in and out of the bedroom. This episode is your invitation to flirt with life again.Because love is a choice—and positivity is foreplay. 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove 

In this heartfelt episode of Monarch for Love, host Michelle Hays gets personal and real about a common but often unnoticed relationship trap—the stories we tell ourselves. Whether it’s “He doesn’t care,” or “She never listens,” these inner narratives shape how we feel and respond in our marriage—but they’re not always true. Michelle shares candid examples from her own marriage, walks you through how to pause, reflect, and reframe those stories with love, and gives you practical tools to communicate your needs without blame. If you’ve ever felt unseen, overworked, or misunderstood, this episode will offer a powerful shift in perspective—and a loving reminder that love is a decision. 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove

In this empowering episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle sits down with Bradley Rausch, host of the Redefining Growth podcast, to explore what it really takes to move from emotional overwhelm to intentional change—especially in relationships. Bradley shares his signature frameworks for navigating life’s hardest moments, including the 3A’s of growth: Awareness, Acceptance, and Adaptability, and his CRAFT method for building emotional resilience. Together, they dive deep into radical responsibility, what people get wrong about the word “toxic,” and how to stop reacting from old patterns and start choosing new, more connected ways to love.Whether you’re stuck in emotional loops, struggling to speak your truth, or simply want deeper connection with your partner, this conversation is packed with insight, truth bombs, and tools you can use today. 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com 📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove

Let’s face it—talking about sex in marriage can feel awkward, vulnerable, and even risky. But avoiding the topic only creates distance.In this heartfelt episode, Michelle Hays gets real about the fears, miscommunications, and silent stories we often carry around intimacy. She shares her own personal journey with initiating these conversations, and offers practical, compassionate ways to start safe, honest, and connecting dialogue with your spouse.Whether you've felt rejected, unsure how to bring it up, or just want to feel closer again, this episode will give you the mindset shifts, conversation starters, and encouragement you need. Because love is a decision—and intimacy is part of that choice.Stay connected with Michelle: Website: www.monarchforlove.com Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @monarchforlove

In this lighthearted yet deeply insightful episode, Michelle Hays shares a personal story that every couple can relate to—when one partner needs to process out loud and the other retreats into silence.Through her real-life example with her husband Brian, Michelle unpacks the differences between internal and external processors, and how those differences can either create emotional distance or deeper connection.You’ll walk away with a new understanding of how to honor your partner’s style without taking it personally, and how to bridge the gap with curiosity instead of criticism.Stay connected with Michelle: Website: www.monarchforlove.com Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @monarchforlove

Are your thoughts heavy with resentment? Are you withholding forgiveness?In this week's episode, Michelle Hays talks about how forgiveness lifts the weight and brings hearts back together. Hurting each other is inevitable—but forgiveness is the bridge that reconnects our hearts and releases the heavy burden of resentment.Michelle explores how true forgiveness creates space for healing, growth, and deeper connection. She also shares the hidden dangers of holding on to unforgiveness, the myth that time alone heals, and practical steps to begin the process. You’ll also learn what forgiveness is not, so you can stop avoiding it and start using it as a tool for transformation in your relationship.Stay connected with Michelle: Website: www.monarchforlove.com Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @monarchforlove

This Week on Monarch for LoveMichelle Hays dives into one of the most misunderstood (and underused) relationship skills: validation. You'll learn what it really means to validate your partner—without surrendering your own perspective.Michelle explores why so many people avoid validating their spouse, how validation differs from agreement, and why creating emotional space is essential for healthy communication.If you want to feel more heard and more connected in your relationship, this episode is for you.Stay connected with Michelle: Website: www.monarchforlove.com Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @monarchforloveAsk ChatGPT

This Week on Monarch for LoveWe’re packing our bags—and maybe a little patience—as we dive into the world of travel and relationships. I’m honored to be joined by luxury travel planner Shari Kavalin, founder of Elegant Escapes Travel.Whether you’re a spontaneous adventurer or a meticulous planner, Shari shares how couples can navigate different travel styles, build stronger connections, and turn every getaway into a chance to grow together. She brings fun stories, helpful tips, and insight into how thoughtful planning (with a dash of flexibility) can make travel more meaningful and less stressful.Follow Shari on Instagram: @vacationshariLearn more about Monarch for Love: monarchforlove.com Check out Michelle's bestselling book: awakenedheartsbook.com Follow Michelle on Instagram: @monarchforlove

In this week's episode, Michelle Hays explores the six pillars of intimacy that keep love strong, connected, and enduring. From emotional safety to shared vulnerability, you'll discover how to nurture the kind of intimacy that deepens your bond and enriches your relationship. Love is a journey—and these timeless truths will help you invest in it daily, with intention and heart. Stay connected with Michelle: 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com 📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove

🦋 In this special episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hays welcomes her beloved Aunt Fran Robinson—91 years young and full of timeless wisdom.As a widow who spent decades in a devoted marriage, Aunt Fran opens up about love, loss, and what truly matters in a relationship. Her simple truths and heartfelt stories remind us that love is a decision we make every day—and that it’s never too late to learn how to love well.Whether you’re newly married, in a long-term relationship, or navigating the pain of grief, Aunt Fran’s reflections will warm your heart and inspire your soul.✨ Stay connected with Michelle: 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com 📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove

Do you ever feel like you're doing everything for everyone—hoping for love, recognition, or simply to belong? In this heartfelt episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hays is joined by special guest Sanaiyah Gurnamal, a Relationship Reinvention Coach, to explore the deep emotional patterns behind people pleasing and the transformative power of self-love.Together, they unpack why so many of us seek validation outside ourselves and how that impacts not just our marriages, but our sense of identity. If you’ve ever struggled with over-giving, emotional burnout, or feeling unseen, this conversation is a loving invitation back to yourself. Because real love starts within—and when you choose yourself, you create space for deeper, healthier relationships all around you.