In this episode of Modern Day Issues we Love To Ignore , we explore how the way we speak to ourselves shapes our confidence, resilience, and overall well-being. Host Nina Kelly is joined once again by clinical psychologist James Southwood and person-centered psychotherapist Angela Whitmore to discuss the transformative power of positive self-talk and why cultivating a sense of belonging is essential for mental health.
From quieting the inner critic to practicing realistic affirmations, and from celebrating small wins to finding our place in community, this conversation offers both practical tools and fresh insights. Whether you struggle with self-doubt or simply want to strengthen your self-esteem, this episode will encourage you to be kinder to yourself and remind you that you don’t have to walk through life alone.
Loneliness doesn’t just feel isolating — it can fuel anxiety, depression, andemotional struggles. In this episode, we sit down with clinical psychologistJames Southwood and person-centred psychotherapist Angela Whitmoreto explore practical ways to build stronger social connections, reduceloneliness, and nurture resilience.
From joining groups and volunteering, to cultivatinggratitude, hope, and self-compassion — our guests share simple, realistic stepsto improve mental well-being. Whether you’re seeking ways to manage lonelinessyourself or looking to support others, this conversation is full ofencouragement and practical takeaways.
Loneliness isn’t just uncomfortable — it has a real impact on our mental health. In this episode of Modern Day Issues We Love to Ignore, we sit down with clinical psychologist James and person-centred psychotherapist Angela Whitmore to unpack how loneliness feeds anxiety, depression, hopelessness and emotional dysregulation.
We talk about why loneliness creates such destructive cycles of self-criticism and fear of rejection, and why connection, belonging and acceptance are so important in finding a way forward.
It’s an eye-opening conversation — and next time, we’ll be looking at the practical steps we can take to break those cycles.
Loneliness isn’t just being alone — it’s the ache of not being understood. In this episode, Nina Kelly is joined by psychologist James Southwood and psychotherapist Angela Whitmore to explore why loneliness exists inside relationships, its impact on our mental health, and the 3 proven factors that can help us reconnect: hope, belonging, and meaningful social contact.
In this moving follow-up episode, host Nina Kelly continues her conversation with Dominic White from Andy’s Man Club, diving even deeper into the reality of men’s mental health.
Dominic opens up about his personal journey — from being the “problem solver” and “strong one” to hitting rock bottom after the death of his mum. In his raw and relatable story, we explore how grief, identity, and silence can shape a man’s life… and how a room full of strangers helped him rediscover who he really was.
We also unpack the five simple, but powerful questions used at Andy’s Man Club — and why laughter, biscuits and footballs are all part of the process.
💬 If you or someone you know is silently struggling — this one’s for you.
in this powerful episode of Modern Day Issues, We Love to Ignore, host Nina Kelly sits down with Dominic White from Andy’s Man Club, a leading UK men's suicide prevention charity.
Dominic shares the story behind the movement that started after the tragic loss of Andy Roberts at just 23. With over 300 support groups across the UK and 6000+ men talking every Monday night, Andy’s Man Club is breaking down stigma and encouraging open, honest conversations.
From understanding why so many men still struggle to open up, to the life-changing power of community and peer support, this episode is a heartfelt, eye-opening look into what it really means to say: “It’s OK to talk.”
Whether you’re a man, know a man, or love a man – this is an episode you won’t want to miss.
In this moving follow-up episode, Abba Abbaszadi the CEO and founder of Wilson Prize, returns to share the emotional story of losing his father during the COVID-19 pandemic. With the country in lockdown, hospitals overwhelmed, and loved ones isolated, Abba was left to grieve under extraordinary circumstances—while still holding his family, career, and mental health together.
He reflects on how this second bereavement tested his resilience, how he found healing in reflection and faith, and how it inspired him to create new avenues to give back to the community—uniting tech, charity, and mental health support.
A powerful story of courage, perspective, and turning pain into purpose.
In this powerful debut episode of season 5, we speak with Abba Abbaszadi about the silent struggle of grief—especially in a society that often avoids it. Abba shares the deeply personal story of losing his brother, the cultural differences in mourning, and how trauma shaped his resilience and mental health journey. From Iran to the UK, from isolation to strength, this is a raw and relatable conversation about love, loss, and learning to live again.
In this powerful debut episode of season 5, we speak with Abba Abbaszadi about the silent struggle of grief—especially in a society that often avoids it. Abba shares the deeply personal story of losing his brother, the cultural differences in mourning, and how trauma shaped his resilience and mental health journey. From Iran to the UK, from isolation to strength, this is a raw and relatable conversation about love, loss, and learning to live again.
Navigating Change and Connection.
In this episode, Makomberero Kasipo, a registrar in psychiatry, explores the impact of remote working post-pandemic, discussing how the convenience of online work can sometimes come at the cost of deeper and more meaningful professional relationships.
James Southwood, a clinical psychologist, examines the challenges of stepping out of our comfort zones and embracing life’s transitions. He emphasises the importance of moving forward in a safe and structured way, rather than resisting change or diving into the unknown without preparation.
Together, Mako and James share insights on building the courage to progress in both personal and professional life. They discuss the importance of reaching out to others, listening to our emotions, and rejecting the unrealistic expectation that happiness should be constant.
This episode is hosted by Nina Kelly, CEO of Safe New Futures, a charity dedicated to supporting individuals in overcoming mild to moderate mental health challenges and transitioning into employment, education, or training.
For more information about our charity, our programmes, and how we can support you, visit Safe New Futures - Safe New Futures Email communications @safe.org.uk
Phone 02380 179590
In this episode, Makomberero Kasipo, a registrar in psychiatry, and James Southwood, a clinical psychologist, explore practical ways to address loneliness and build meaningful connections.
Mako reflects on the experience of being part of someone else’s support network and the importance of recognising when people in our lives may be isolating themselves. James highlights that loneliness isn’t always visible—someone who appears successful and engaged can feel just as lonely as someone who is socially withdrawn. He emphasises the power of curiosity and avoiding assumptions when identifying those who may be struggling.
The discussion focuses on normalising loneliness—acknowledging it as a shared human experience rather than a personal failing. Mako stresses the importance of speaking openly about loneliness without shame, recognising that it does not define self-worth but is simply a challenge to be addressed.
James reinforces that loneliness is a natural part of life and that sharing personal experiences can foster deep connections. Mako shares how founding a writing group provided a powerful way to create meaningful relationships through shared interests and passions.
This episode is hosted by Nina Kelly, CEO of Safe New Futures, a charity dedicated to supporting individuals in overcoming mild to moderate mental health challenges and transitioning into employment, education, or training.
Join us in this ongoing conversation, and be part of the discussion on the Modern-Day Issues We Love to Ignore.
Links form Episode 4:
https://www.nhs.uk/every-mind-matters/lifes-challenges/loneliness/
Big life changes often bring disruption, and loneliness can emerge as a part of that shift. In this episode, James Southwood, Clinical Psychologist, explores how we can check in with ourselves to ensure we're leading healthy, balanced lives. He delves into key questions such as:
🔹 What is this loneliness trying to tell me?
🔹 How can discomfort move us toward growth?
🔹 What’s our tolerance level, and how can we form new social or work relationships to meet the demands of new circumstances?
While these answers vary from person to person, the essential part is asking the right questions.
Makomberero Kasipo, a registrar in psychiatry, discusses why women, in particular, are often more attuned to their feelings of loneliness, especially during significant life transitions like choosing to stay at home with children after work.
Hosted by Nina Kelly, CEO of Safe New Futures, this episode highlights the importance of addressing loneliness during life changes. Safe New Futures is a charity that helps individuals overcome mild to moderate mental health challenges and transition into Employment, Education, or Training.
Join us as we continue to explore and discuss the modern-day issues we often overlook.
Links from Episode 3:
Mental health and loneliness: the relationship across life stages - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk)
In this episode, clinical psychologist James Southwood and Makomberero Kasipo, a medical registrar specialising in psychiatry, explore the complex relationship between loneliness and mental health.
Mako examines the link between adverse health complications and loneliness—questioning whether loneliness is the cause or the effect. James delves into the vicious cycle between loss of motivation, depression, and loneliness, highlighting the importance of breaking isolation and rebuilding social connections.
The discussion also covers those most at risk—both the young and elderly—and the societal factors contributing to their loneliness. Drawing from her Zimbabwean background, Mako offers insights into how a more cohesive family culture contrasts with Western societal structures. Meanwhile, James explores the root causes of loneliness among young people, including the challenges of social media as a substitute for genuine friendships.
This episode is hosted by Nina Kelly, CEO of Safe New Futures, a charity dedicated to helping individuals overcome mild to moderate mental health challenges and transition into employment, education, or training.
Join us in this vital conversation, and be part of the discussion on the Modern-Day Issues We Love to Ignore.
Links form Episode 2:
Loneliness, Social Isolation, and Cardiovascular Health - PMC (nih.gov)
https://www.cdc.gov/aging/publications/features/lonely-older-adults.html
The fourth series of Modern-Day Issues We Love to Ignore begins with an exploration of loneliness, examining its physical and mental impact on both body and mind.
In this episode, James Southwood, clinical psychologist, and Makomberero Kasipo, a medical registrar specialising in psychiatry, discuss the stigma surrounding loneliness and why so many people are reluctant to talk about it.
James challenges the negative perception of loneliness, reframing it as a learning experience that can foster personal growth and development. Mako acknowledges the shame often associated with admitting to loneliness and highlights both its dangers and its benefits—arguing that recognising loneliness can serve as a crucial signal for lifestyle changes.
The conversation also delves into the challenge of finding a sense of belonging in modern Western culture. James emphasises the importance of identifying one’s “tribe” and building a supportive community, while also paying attention to the ways loneliness can manifest in physical and mental health. Acknowledging these signs, rather than ignoring them, is a crucial first step in addressing the issue.
This episode is hosted by Nina Kelly, CEO of Safe New Futures, a charity dedicated to supporting individuals in overcoming mild to moderate mental health challenges and transitioning into employment, education, or training.
In this powerful episode of Modern Day Issues We Love to Ignore, host Nina Kelly from Safe New Futures is joined by Professor Tim Wildschut, Professor of Psychology at the University of Southampton, to explore an unexpected remedy for loneliness: nostalgia. Discover how fond memories of the past can help us feel more socially connected, inspire optimism, and even motivate new relationships. From lockdown reflections to psychological insights on attachment styles, this episode sheds new light on how looking back can actually help us move forward.
#Loneliness #Nostalgia #MentalHealth #SocialConnection #SafeNewFuturesJourney
In the final episode of our powerful trilogy on adolescence, host Nina Kelly, CEO of Safe New Futures, reconnects with Oscar Thomas to dive deeper into the emotional world of young men.
Oscar talks openly about the pressure of “bro codes,” toxic expectations of masculinity, and the struggle to show vulnerability in a world that tells boys to “man up.” From broken friendships to healing after heartbreak, and from navigating social anxiety to rediscovering self-worth, Oscar’s wisdom shines through as he speaks from lived experience.
This is a must-listen for educators, parents, mental health professionals—or anyone seeking to understand and support the next generation of boys as they learn to become emotionally healthy men.
In this powerful follow-up episode, host Nina Kelly, CEO of Safe New Futures, sits down again with Oscar Thomas—a young man whose raw honesty and lived experience shed light on the struggles that many adolescents face today. From bullying, body image, and mental health to the pressure of relationships and navigating anger, Oscar opens up about his journey through the chaos of school life, the pain of being misunderstood, and how Safe New Futures life-changing programme helped him take control of his future.
Together, they discuss the unseen cry for help behind so-called “bad behaviour,” the harsh reality of school hierarchies, and the emotional toll of growing up without support. A must-listen for parents, educators, and anyone who cares about youth mental health.
🔊 Real talk. No filters. Just truth.
In the first episode of our new series on adolescence, host Nina Kelly sits down with Oscar Thomas, a young adult who opens up about overcoming debilitating anxiety, bullying, and social isolation. From living in fear to finding strength through doing our Safe New Futures youth programme, Oscar shares raw insights on school trauma, the pressure of social media, and the disconnection plaguing today’s youth. A powerful conversation about mental health, resilience, and the search for real-world connection.
In this raw and deeply moving episode, Safe New Futures CEO Nina Kelly sits down with Senior CAMHS Nurse Jenny Plasidi to confront the quiet devastation of ambiguous loss — the kind of grief that hits when someone is still physically present, but no longer the same. Jenny opens about the slow, painful journey of caring for her mother with vascular dementia, and the emotional toll of grieving someone who's still alive.
With unflinching honesty, she shares what it means to love through loss, hold on to faith through fading memories, and find resilience in the everyday heartbreak.
Navigating Life Beyond Ambiguous Loss"
When closure is impossible, how do we move forward?
In this deeply personal and thought-provoking episode, Nina shares her journey through ambiguous loss—a form of grief experienced when a loved one is physically absent but psychologically present, or physically present but emotionally unreachable. From the sudden disappearance of her parents in childhood to the decades-long search for healing, Nina opens up about navigating the pain, confusion, and hope that ambiguous loss brings.
We explore the profound impact this type of loss has on individuals and families, the limitations of traditional grief approaches, and the unique paths toward healing—through gratitude, truth-telling, and alternative therapies like EMDR and hypnotherapy.
Nina’s story offers a powerful reminder: even when goodbye isn’t possible, transformation is. Join us for an honest conversation about trauma, resilience, and reclaiming wholeness in a world without certainty.