Send JKO a Text Message Have you ever felt that twinge of pain on seeing a friend’s Facebook highlight? That is the twinge of comparison and though it shows up sometimes as jealousy or envy, we are talking about that twinge that makes us wonder if you’ve been forgotten. This episode explores how comparison steals our peace and distorts our worth, and reminds us that our worth was written long before the timeline we see online. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Comparison dra...

Send JKO a Text Message Have you learned to smile through the pain, to “forgive and move on,” to shrink your rage into something polite and acceptable? Repressed and unspoken anger turns inward but when purified by purpose, it can lead to advocacy, creativity, and healing. If you are a woman who knows what it feels like to seeth with that silent but simmering force that shows up in sarcasm, cynicism and irritability, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode ...

Send JKO a Text Message From the fear of rejection to the fear of being alone, from staying quiet to keep the peace to walking on eggshells for approval, we explore how fear shows up in the lives of women who’ve been overlooked, dismissed, or hurt. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode The voice of fear The difference between the fear that protects and fear that paralyzes.How fear shows up as “wisdom” or “self-preservation”How to heal from the fear that holds you downKey Scriptur...

Send JKO a Text Message Have you ever replayed a moment you wish you could undo over and over again? You may be teetering between conviction and condemnation. This episode explores the difference between guilt that convicts and guilt that condemns, and how guilt can become a path to improving our lives. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode The difference between helpful and harmful guilt The contrast between conviction and condemnation The psychology of guilt and how it affects our brains Three ...

Send JKO a Text Message Shame is one of life’s most painful and powerful emotions and it can destroy us if we allow it. In this episode, we explore how shame takes root, how it hides in our stories, why it silences us, and how we can break free from it. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode The effect of shame How shame attacks our identity and silences our potential How to counter shame’s lies The kryptonite that weakens shame Key Scriptures: Genesis 3, Isaiah 54:4, Romans 10:11 References Why G...

Send JKO a Text Message What if gratitude could literally change your brain? As Canadian Thanksgiving comes up, JKO explores the power of gratitude as a life-changing practice rooted in both neuroscience and scripture. If you’ve ever struggled to be thankful in the middle of pain, this episode will show you how gratitude can make a difference in life’s painful seasons. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Words change our brains Gratitude is an instruction fro...

Send JKO a Text Message Are you worrying about your marriage, finances, health, children, or even the unrest in our world? Then you know how anxiety can take hold and refuse to let go. This episode explores the scientific and spiritual reality of anxiety in our lives and how to uncover a path to peace that surpasses understanding. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode God recognizes your anxiety Science confirms the effect of anxiety God provides help for your anxiety Key scriptures: Philippians ...

Send JKO a Text Message If you’ve been wrestling with disappointment, unmet expectations, or regret, OR you’ve been holding tightly to the life you thought you’d have, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Your worth isn’t tied to the life you imagined Letting go is not weakness Letting go involves grief, and wrestling with fear and shame Faith is believing that God is faithful even when life doesn’t match your dreams Key scriptures: Ecclesiastes 3:11, Lamentations ...

Send JKO a Text Message This episode shares six powerful lessons from the life and legacy of Charlie Kirk. Whether or not you agreed with him, his story offers insights that can inspire women in the trenches of life. If you believe you are open to learning, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Define your mission and focus on itDon’t despise the little you have in your handCultivate kindness in every situationLive Your Faith Out Loud, every day, everywhere, and in every ...

Send JKO a Text Message For the woman in the “in-between”, still waiting for her turnaround, her answered prayer, her breakthrough. From Hannah’s waiting and the woman with the issue of blood, learn how faith, honesty, and community sustain us when we’re stuck in that long, slow wait. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode The In-Between from the pit to the promise is where your spiritual roots grow deeper The power that propels lies in your self-talk 3 practical tips to get through the weary in-b...

Send JKO a Text Message For women in the trenches: Discover the power of prayer in the trenches of life from the Washington Post, science and scripture. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Prayer may not always change your circumstances but it calms your body, anchors your worth, and reshapes your relationships Science shows that prayer reduces stress, anxiety, and improves resilience often more effectively than secular meditation Five-minute prayer strategies Key scriptures: Luke 22:42, ...

Send JKO a Text Message Do you find yourself always trying to earn love, safety, or belonging in relationships? Then, this episode is for you. Discover the signs of emotional hustle culture in relationships, its effects on mental and physical health, and how to heal and deal with it. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Links between hustling for love and health issues like insomnia, anxiety, and weight gain The standard for real love Practical healing tools and practices...

Send JKO a Text Message Have you ever heard or even believed that people like you should not be talking? That your challenges make you unworthy to add value to anyone’s life? Let’s uncover the truth from the stories of Rahab, Tamar and Annie Lobert, Hookers for Christ. God doesn’t wait for perfection before He uses us. He chooses you just the way you are. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode The surprising role of Rahab the harlot in God’s redemption story How Tamar’s bol...

Send JKO a Text Message Have you ever felt spiritually stuck? Do you feel as if your prayers are dry and your heart is distant? Is your self talk shame and guilt filled? This episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode What spiritual “stuckness” feels like The difference between performance and presence in your faith walk Encouragement and a prayer for women feeling numb, distant, or weary Key scriptures: Isaiah 43:2, Jeremiah 29:13, Psalm 46:10, Romans 8:35-39 Reference...

Send JKO a Text Message Back after an unplanned break. In the midst of loss and grief, faith can be hard and the fear of not being worthy can keep women from living out their purpose. This episode explores how to push through when overwhelm is pulling on you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Grief is strength, not weakness How fear drives our decisions and actions What faith looks like in the middle of pain A prayer for women grieving people, dreams, or seasons Key scripture: Psalm 34:...

Send JKO a Text Message In this follow-up to “The High Cost of Being Judgmental” JKO unpacks the danger of forming conclusions about someone based on a single story. When we reduce people to one chapter of one story they shared from their lives, we sabotage connection, trust, and compassion. If you’re a woman walking through the pain of judgment, this episode is for you. Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmess...

Send JKO a Text Message JKO gets honest about how hidden judgments are also shaping how we see ourselves, sabotaging our relationships, and sending energy that makes others feel unsafe around us, without us ever saying a word. If you're ready to stop letting judgment run your relationships and your spirit, this one is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Judgment is often a mirror of our fears, insecurities, or unhealed parts Even when we’re polite, the energy of judgment can be felt&nb...

Send JKO a Text Message JKO explores the deep impact of losing friends especially when they walk away without explanation. What is true friendship? Why does it hurt so much when people we once trusted choose to disappear? What is the mental toll of these losses? How do we heal? If you're a woman who's lost a friend and has been left confused, heartbroken, and wondering What happened? , this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode True friendship is beneficial to mental...

Send JKO a Text Message In this Mental Health Awareness Month episode, JKO shares how yelling cost her her singing voice but self-reflection helped her find peace, gentleness, and healing. She opens up about mental health stigma in faith spaces, the difference between reacting and responding, and her personal transformation through motherhood. If you're a woman navigating life’s messiness and craving some peace, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Self...

Send JKO a Text Message On her 54th birthday hike, JKO reflects on how the West and Africa value their natural resources—and what that contrast revealed about self-worth, comparison, and recognizing the hidden gifts within. If you often doubt your value, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom from this episode You are not less valuable because your gifts are hidden or different. Like Africa’s untapped and unprotected resources, are you overlooking your gifts? ...