Hosts Adam and Mary, both therapists, provide advice on setting realistic expectations, managing reactions, and creating exit strategies during family gatherings, especially when facing challenging relatives. They also suggest embracing solitude with self-care practices and forming new traditions, such as Friendsgiving, if one is unable to be with family. Additionally, tips for those working through the holidays or feeling lonely are shared, emphasizing proactive mental health care and community connection. The episode aims to offer practical guidance to enjoy the holidays while maintaining mental well-being.   DM or reach out for more info about working with us or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    and Adam at adamboardmanmft.com and @adamboardmanmft   Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary Barbour and Adam Boardman discuss George Mumford's book 'The Mindful Athlete,' which connects mindfulness techniques with peak sports performance and personal growth. Mumford, a mindfulness coach for elite athletes like Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant, shares how mindfulness can manage stress, improve focus, and unlock full potential in sports and life. Adam, specializing in athlete mental health, finds the book a valuable, accessible resource for athletes. Both hosts share personal experiences with mindfulness and its practical applications, highlighting the book's relevance to broader aspects of life beyond sports. They recommend the book for its insights into performance psychology and mindfulness. DM or reach out for more info about working with us or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    and Adam at adamboardmanmft.com and @adamboardmanmft   Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

In this episode of the Mental State podcast, hosts Mary and Adam discuss the book 'Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents' by Lindsay Gibson. They delve into the book's insights on how emotionally immature parents affect their children's adulthood, leading to feelings of anger, loneliness, and confusion. The conversation covers the book's structure, including the different types of emotionally immature parents and the importance of understanding one's true self. They also compare it to related resources and emphasize the crucial lessons of boundary-setting and self-discovery. Adam and Mary share personal impressions and clinical applications while recommending the book for clients and general readers interested in emotional healing and personal growth.   DM or reach out for more info about working with us or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    and Adam at adamboardmanmft.com and @adamboardmanmft   Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.  

In this podcast episode, hosts Mary Barbour and Adam Boardman discuss the movie Inside Out 2, the sequel to Inside Out which focuses on the emotions inside a teenager's brain. Riley, the protagonist from the first movie, now faces puberty and the introduction of new emotions like anxiety. The hosts appreciate how the movie visualizes complex emotional development and cognitive beliefs, emphasizing the transition from a binary self-concept to a more nuanced understanding of self. They highlight the portrayal of new emotions such as embarrassment, envy, and nostalgia, and discuss the rising anxiety levels in teenagers due to factors like technology and social media. The conversation transitions into using the movie as a tool for self-understanding and therapy, recognizing that unprocessed teenage emotions can manifest in adulthood. They conclude by recommending the movie to help understand and manage anxiety and insecurities, and hope for future installments to explore deeper emotional and somatic experiences. DM or reach out for more info about working with us or media opportunities.  Mary -->  marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Adam --> adamboardmanmft.com and @adamboardmanmft   Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.  

In this podcast episode of 'Mental State,' hosts Mary Barbour and Adam Boardman discuss the mental health challenges athletes face when retiring or dealing with career-ending injuries. Adam, a former college track and field athlete, shares his personal experiences and insights into the difficulties of transitioning from a life centered around sports. They explore the identity loss, grief, and depression that athletes commonly experience, highlighting the importance of support systems and resources like AthleteSoul. The conversation emphasizes the need for community, career counseling, and maintaining physical activity to help athletes navigate this significant life change.   DM or reach out for more info about working with us or media opportunities.  Mary -->  marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Adam --> adamboardmanmft.com and @adamboardmanmft   Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Today we are discussing athlete mental health in anticipation of the Olympics coming up.    DM or reach out for more info about working with us or media opportunities.  Mary -->  marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Adam --> adamboardmanmft.com and @adamboardmanmft    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Today Adam and I are discussing how to find a therapist that works for you. We talk about our own experiences of looking for a therapist and share our recommendations and tips on your own journey in searching for the right therapeutic fit.   DM or reach out for more info about working with us or media opportunities.  Mary -->  marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Adam --> adamboardmanmft.com and @adamboardmanmft    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Today I've invited Adam Boardman, LMFT to come on the show to talk about dating, communication, and how honesty accelerates relationships.    DM or reach out for more info about working with us or media opportunities.  Mary -->  marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Adam --> adamboardmanmft.com and @adamboardmanmft    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Today my guest is Sadie Smith whose practice, Crescendo Counselling, focuses on the needs of queer, kinky, and polyamorous  communities.  Listen to our discussion about the concept of deconstructing monogamy. You can find out more about Sadie and her work at Crescendo Counseling.   DM or reach out for more info mental health, working with me, or media opportunities. Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Today on my show I am talking with Dr Nicole O’Barto-Trainer who focuses on integrative mental health at her practice Native Clinics, Nicole has advanced skills in mindfulness interventions, HeartMath biofeedback, and functional approaches to depression and anxiety, encompassing nutrition, micronutrient therapy, and amino acid therapy. To learn more about Nicole you can go to her website nativeclinics.com.   DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities. Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.  

Mary talks to Tanya Cole-Lesnick, the creator of the Activate Coaching Program, about the power of healing in groups. Learn about Tanya's unique style of coaching and how she helps her clients clear their energetic clutter and move through life in a more healthy and balanced way. Learn more about Tanya here - https://www.tanyacole-lesnick.com/   DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities. Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Valentine's day is here. Jin Mary on this solocast as she explores the history of Valentine's Day and how attachment styles handles this Hallmark holiday.   DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities. Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary interviews relationship expert Dr. Joli Hamilton who discusses her personal experiences with polyamory. Joli has over 20 years of working with couples outside of the cis-het-normative world who want to explore alternative relationship experiences. Joli shares how to navigate jealousy and communication, leaving you with a deeper understanding of yourself within the confines of any relationship.   Are you ready to open up your relationship. Take the quiz at jolihamilton.com/quiz and learn more about Joli Hamilton here.   Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines. She is a research psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT (pronounced ay-sect) certified sex educator. Joli also co-hosts the Playing with Fire podcast with her anchor partner, Ken. Joli’s been featured in The New York Times, NPR, and Vogue.   DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities. Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.    

Mary talks about dating in 2024. She talks about getting clear on your own values, communication and building trust in the relationship, red flags and what to look for in a longterm relationship. Learn how to create an interdependent relationship. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary gives the rundown on the five types of narcissism, each with distinct characteristics, and how to potentially spot them - grandiose, vulnerable, communal, malignant and covert. Take a listen to this mini episode to learn more about narcissism and what to look for.    DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

I talk with Che Johnson, astro coach and psychotherapist. Che has over 30 years in the field of astrology and he breaks down what is coming down the planetary pipeline in 2024. Learn what Mercury in retrograde really means and what you might expect in romance and relationships for the new year. For a deeper dive into your personal chart contact Che Johnson at chejohnson.net Caroline Casey - https://coyotenetworknews.com/bio/ Colin Bedell Astrologer - https://www.instagram.com/queercosmos/   DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.   Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.              

Ever wonder what a matchmaker does? I talk to matchmaker Sarah Powell from MacLynn International.  She walks us through the mysterious process of matchmaking.   Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy      Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.  

Holidays often bring up attachment issues as they emphasize the importance of connection and relationships. For individuals with anxious attachment styles, the fear of abandonment can intensify during these times, leading to heightened anxiety and a strong desire for reassurance from loved ones. On the other hand, those with avoidant attachment styles may feel overwhelmed by the increased social demands and may retreat further, potentially creating distance in their relationships. Attachment issues can manifest as increased insecurity, jealousy, or difficulty managing emotions, as the holiday season highlights the need for emotional connection and support, which may challenge the established patterns of attachment in one's relationships. Ultimately, the holiday season can serve as a magnifying glass, exposing and intensifying attachment-related issues for individuals, requiring self-awareness and effective coping strategies to navigate these challenges. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary and her friend Jaqueline talk with body language expert Linda Clemons who spills the tea about body language and dating. Linda shares some juicy tips on how you can become more aware of your own body language and how it can affect the way you attract a mate. Want to learn more? Take Linda's Body Language for Dating and Attraction course and follow her on Instagram. You can also check out her ebooks to learn more about body language. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

We interview therapist Theodora Blanchfield who shares her adoption story and how it relates to her attachment style. Theodora shares her highs and lows of how being adopted has influenced her relationship choices and how developing a more secure relationship with herself is helping her make better choices. Learn more about Theodora on her website or through her socials. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.