Ari tears down the outdated idea of “getting good” with women through a just and honest path to genuine connection.
This episode is a guide to turning inward, understanding the roots of self-sabotage, and building a relationship life that’s rooted in values, not surface tricks.
Whether you’re frustrated with dating apps, tired of the ghosting and failed relationships, or simply want to stop overthinking about every text you send - this episode gives you the deeper framework to shift from shame and confusion to clarity and confidence.
Topics Discussed:
Why “getting good with women” is the wrong goal
What makes some men naturally magnetic (and why it’s not what you think)
The danger of manosphere content and the "high value man" narrative
Ari’s early journey in the dating world, the book that started it all and why was it different
The 3 essential steps to changing your dating life from the inside out:
1. How to find women who align with your values (and why this matters more than chemistry)
2. Breaking comfort-seeking dating loops that lead to pain
3. Healing inner shame and self-judgment so you can show up fully and freely
And then some.... for instance:
Why cold approaches and dating apps often reinforce your anxiety
The power of “creating a well” - places and communities where connection is natural
How to stop being self-conscious by becoming self-aware in a different way
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The show is back after a long hiatus - hopefully for good this time.
I feel like I want to provide explanations to why I disappeared... I want to be honest about what happened because burnout, as I've come to see and experience, a real thing.
Apart from what has been going on with me personally and professionally, I have many different and exciting things planned for the show.
It's important for me to say that I want to do things differently from now on, firstly for myself, but also for my audience.
I believe I need to give my best, and I want you all to get it.
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Transforming Lives and Legacies: A Conversation with Johannes Kuella
In this episode of Man's Search for Meaning, Ari converses with Johannes Kuella, a versatile athlete, coach, and sober alcoholic. Johannes discusses his journey from being an alcoholic to becoming a kettlebell world champion and how he transformed his life by renouncing his fear of loss and speaking his truth. He shares insights into his unique parenting approach, emphasizing emotional safety, connection, and the absence of punishment. Johannes also covers his experiences with open relationships, self-worth challenges, and the transformative power of psychedelics. The episode dives deep into personal growth, effective communication, and the importance of taking responsibility for one's needs.
WHERE TO FIND Johannes
https://www.youtube.com/user/johanneskwella?themeRefresh=1
https://www.instagram.com/johanneskwella
WHERE TO FIND ARI
Instagram: @strengthinrelationships
https://www. strengthinrelationships.com
Apply for 1 on 1 coaching with Ari:
https://calendly.com/liftheavygrowbeards/30-min-mano-e-mano-clone-1?month=2024-11
TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Introduction to Johannes Kuella
01:22 Parenting Philosophy and Approach
04:46 Handling Misbehavior and Setting Boundaries
14:42 Living as Co-Parents After Separation
21:54 Navigating Open Relationships
47:44 Struggles with Alcoholism and Seeking Help
55:44 Struggles with Addiction and Therapy
56:51 The Emotional Roots of Addiction
58:42 The Feminine Nature of Alcohol
59:11 Plant Medicine and Alcohol
01:00:35 The Teachings of Don Juan
01:04:10 The Importance of Setting Intentions
01:06:43 Emotional Awareness and Parenting
01:07:40 Breaking Generational Cycles
01:14:48 The Power of Communication
01:24:00 Understanding ADHD and Self-Acceptance
01:37:44 The Role of Psychedelics in Healing
01:47:01 Final Thoughts and Resources
Understanding Your Inner Kingdom: The Three Archetypal Kings
In this solo episode of Man's Search for Meaning, Ari delves into a concept he's been developing over time—the idea of the 'inner kingdom' and the three types of kings that govern it. Using examples from myths, ancient stories, and literature, Ari explains the importance of recognizing and understanding the archetype that rules one's inner realm. He discusses the 'tyrant king', the 'passive king', and the 'benevolent king', showing how each manifests in our thoughts and behaviors. This episode aims to offer listeners new perspectives on their inner rhetoric and how adopting a benevolent king archetype can lead to a flourishing mental state. Ari also touches on the role of myths and archetypal stories in human development and the importance of listening to one's inner intuition or 'still small voice'. Join Ari for a deep dive into better understanding yourself and cultivating a thriving inner kingdom.
WHERE TO FIND ARI
Instagram: @strengthinrelationships
https://www. strengthinrelationships.com
Apply for 1 on 1 coaching with Ari:
https://calendly.com/liftheavygrowbeards/30-min-mano-e-mano-clone-1?month=2024-11
TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Introduction to the Inner Kingdom
02:47 The Power of Myths and Stories
07:54 Understanding Archetypes
11:09 The Concept of the Inner King
27:57 Exploring the Three Kings
29:18 The Tyrant King
33:37 The Passive King
38:03 The Benevolent King
44:36 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Embracing Vulnerability and Exploring Tantra
In this podcast episode, Ari reconnects with a facilitator from a transformative retreat and delves into a deep conversation about vulnerability, intuition, the power of retreats, and the essence of Tantra. They discuss personal experiences, the integration of sexuality and spirituality, understanding and setting boundaries, and the importance of physical safety and honesty in relationships. This episode provides profound insights into balancing head, heart, and sexual energies, and explores the challenges and rewards of being fully present and vulnerable in both personal and professional life.
WHERE TO FIND KARLIJN
Instagram: @withkabira
WHERE TO FIND ARI
https://www.instagram.com/strengthinrelationships
https://strengthinrelationships.com/
Apply for 1 on 1 coaching with Ari:
https://calendly.com/liftheavygrowbeards/30-min-mano-e-mano-clone-1?month=2024-11
TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Reconnecting After the Retreat
03:29 The Power of Intuition
04:09 Facilitating Transformative Retreats
05:44 Facing Vulnerability and Shame
07:38 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies
13:18 Judgment and Compassion
29:12 Navigating Social Media and Self-Worth
33:41 Understanding and Setting Boundaries
47:20 The Importance of Polarity in Relationships
50:59 Exploring Polarity in Relationships
52:42 The Role of Hormones and Chakras
54:42 Masculine and Feminine Energies
57:17 The Importance of Sexuality and Nudity
59:04 Grounded Masculinity and Honest Communication
01:08:27 Navigating Attraction and Intimidation
01:21:43 Balancing Head, Heart, and Sexuality
01:31:11 Understanding Tantra and Sexuality
01:35:12 Final Thoughts and Advice
Max Planer's Journey: From Olympic Glory to Personal Mastery
In this insightful episode of Man’s Search for Meaning, Ari chats with Max Planer, a former Olympic rower and world champion turned high-performance coach. They bond over their love for personal growth as they dive into topics like marriage, dealing with setbacks, and their spiritual journeys. Max shares his experiences, from his unique wedding to finding himself after his sports career. Join and listen in to this light-hearted conversation, packed with wisdom on relationships, self-improvement, and finding joy in life’s ups and downs.
WHERE TO FIND MAX:
https://www.instagram.com/maxplaner/
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/gamechanger-mindset-eines-weltmeisters/id1486763343
WHERE TO FIND ARI:
https://www.instagram.com/strengthinrelationships
https://www. strengthinrelationships.com
Apply for 1 on 1 coaching with Ari:
https://calendly.com/liftheavygrowbeards/30-min-mano-e-mano-clone-1?month=2024-11
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Introduction
01:10 Max's Wedding Experience
04:19 Technical Difficulties 🫣
05:26 The Decision to Propose
07:14 Spiritual Journeys and Personal Growth
28:16 The Meaning of Marriage
38:53 Understanding Masculine and Feminine Energy in Relationships
39:13 The Importance of Holding Space
39:33 Reflecting on Past Relationships
40:37 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies
43:09 The Role of Mission and Purpose in Relationships
43:32 Rediscovering Self-Identity
45:01 Healing and Growth Through Challenges
49:39 Emotional Moments and Reflections
54:24 Overcoming Physical Setbacks
01:15:01 Advice for Men at Rock Bottom
01:17:43 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
In this episode, Ari engages in a conversation with his friend and transformational thought leader Cari Merriam. Cari shares her insights as a yoga and meditation teacher, breathwork healer, and coach with over 14 years of experience. The discussion delves into dating, spirituality, masculine and feminine energies, and personal development.
Ari and Cari explore the dynamics of empowered individuals in relationships, addressing the concepts of inner King and Queen energies, Cari’s path to empowerment, and the importance of clarity and communication in fostering meaningful connections. Listeners will gain valuable wisdom on navigating emotional landscapes and maintaining healthy, fulfilling relationships.
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Where to find Cari: https://www.instagram.com/cari_merriam/?hl=en
Where to find Ari:
https://www.instagram.com/strengthinrelationships/
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00:00 Introduction to Cari Merriam
01:26 Starting the Conversation
02:12 Balancing Personal and Professional Life
04:47 Masculine and Feminine Dynamics
14:43 Navigating Emotional Triggers
19:51 Cari's Journey to Coaching
28:00 Following the Breadcrumbs of Bliss
35:43 Empowered Women and Inner Archetypes
43:46 Breaking the Cycle: Starting with the Masculine
44:15 Intellectual Understanding and Awareness
46:25 Inner Prince vs. Inner King Behaviors
49:09 Dating Dynamics and Attachment Patterns
51:48 Clarity and Communication in Relationships
59:59 Providership and Masculine Leadership
01:05:33 Effective Communication in Dating
01:17:35 Advice for Men Feeling Lost
01:19:33 Connecting with Carrie
01:22:52 Final Thoughts and Farewell
Ari engages in an insightful conversation with Emmanuel Pascari, a two-time strongman world champion. Emmanuel discusses various topics including religion, family, relationships, his strongman career, and coping with injuries. He emphasizes the importance of humility, kindness, and faith in his life and career. Emmanuel provides thoughtful perspectives on dealing with setbacks and maintaining a positive outlook.
This episode offers valuable lessons on balancing personal ambition with humility and finding meaning through service to others.
Where to find Ari:
https://www.instagram.com/strengthinrelationships
Where to find Emanuel:
https://www.instagram.com/emanuelpescari
00:00 Introduction to Emmanuel Pascari 01:29 The Importance of Humility and Kindness 05:19 Balancing Kindness and Self-Respect 10:51 Finding Meaning Through Faith 27:05 Lessons from a Failed Marriage 43:59 Navigating Relationship Challenges 45:36 Christianity vs. Judaism: A Comparative Insight 46:36 The Complexity of Religious Dogma 47:37 Breaking Free from Dogma 50:52 Introduction to Strongman 52:12 Journey to Strength: Early Beginnings 59:18 Overcoming Health Challenges 01:01:05 The Importance of Mental Health 01:07:05 Returning to Competition 01:08:44 Dealing with Injuries and Setbacks 01:19:58 Finding Purpose and Moving Forward 01:23:15 Conclusion and Reflections
What does it mean to be a man in the 2020s?
Welcome to Man’s Search for Meaning, a podcast dedicated to exploring the true essence of healthy masculinity in the modern age. Join Ari as he sits down with extraordinary guests—leaders in their fields, educators, and inspiring voices who share their unique stories and insights.
In the first episode, Ari gives you a glimpse of the journey ahead and the topics he will dive into — from psychology, philosophy, relationships, and self-development to mental and physical health.
Today specifically will be a little “promo” to the rest of the podcast: what’s coming, who will be coming on, what to expect… and sprinkled with a little bit of wisdom from Ari’s latest learnings.
Join us if you're a person seeking inspiration, growth, a deeper understanding of self, better relationships or a deeper dating experience!
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00:00-03:20 - Introduction
3:20- 7:55 - Who is this podcast for?
7:55-9:35 - who will be on the podcast?
9:41 - consciousness and the course of the sun
19:17 - Problems, Trauma and neuroticism
21:38 - How to solve our problems
26:59 - Summary
What does it mean to be a man in the 2020s?
Welcome to Man’s Search for Meaning, a podcast dedicated to exploring the true essence of healthy masculinity in the modern age. Join us Ari as he sits down with extraordinary guests—leaders in their fields, educators, and inspiring voices who share their unique stories and insights.
In this trailer, Ari gives you a glimpse of the journey ahead and the topics he will dive into — from psychology, philosophy, relationships, and self-development to mental and physical health.
If you're seeking inspiration, growth, and a deeper understanding of yourself, this podcast is for you.
Tune in and start your search for meaning with us!