Many of us have a harsh inner critic. We tend to judge our thoughts, feelings, and actions in a negative way that beats us down and does not motivate us to grow or learn. This can lead to chronic anxiety, imposter syndrome, and depression. In this episode, I discuss how to shift from judgment to evaluation. It is important to shift the focus from a negative attack on ourselves to a supportive assessment that allows us to learn and grow.

Do you struggle with saying no?  People pleasing and outside validation seeking can lead to this struggle.  But also not knowing when to even say no!  In this episode, I revisit the pitfalls of people pleasing and outside validation seeking.  But I also explain how your identity, vision, and core values guide you on when to say no and give you confidence in that decision.

Everyone struggles.  This is a fact of life.  And yet so often when we struggle, we self-isolate, judge and criticize ourselves, dismiss our experience, and refuse to ask for help.  This only serves to increase our suffering. In this episode, I discuss how connecting to our common humanity, that second element of self-compassion, can provide support and comfort in those times of struggle.  You are not alone.

You hear about “core values” a lot in the self-development and wellness industries.  But what are core values and how can we use them to benefit our lives? This week, I discuss the basics of core values as well as how to use them as guideposts for your daily life. A good foundation of core values can be used to enhance your life, provide clarity in decision making, and decrease stress.  Listen now to learn more.

These beliefs can be used to support and guide you, to move you closer to your goals, and even to enhance your enjoyment of life. But many times, we use our thoughts about who we are as just another method of self-judgment and constant inner criticism.  In this episode, I discuss how we often use our identity as a tool for self-judgment as well as a different way to think about and use our identity.  Check out this episode to learn more about how to use your identity as a tool that serves you and not another tool for self-judgment.

The mindset or belief that we can do hard things is very beneficial for us when facing challenges and setting and achieving goals.  In this episode, we notice how dismissing the times we have done hard things and our achievements is a disservice to ourselves and undermines our belief in our abilities. Imposter syndrome, anyone?  I also discuss how celebration and self-compassion help us to support ourselves and build a mindset that we can do anything, including hard things!

The mindset or belief that we can do hard things is very beneficial for us when facing challenges and setting and achieving goals.  In the next two episodes, I’m discussing how to cultivate this helpful mindset.  Starting with noticing when we are “shoulding on” ourselves and our abilities with the thought, “This should be easy.”  We will dig into how this thought undermines our belief that we can do hard things.

In this episode, I’m discussing what it means to “overthink.”  And how your thoughts about overthinking affect your overall mindset which impacts your ability to take action. I am also sharing a tool to help you combat overthinking and analyze things in a more helpful way. Let’s do this!

In this episode, I’m breaking down the 2 common ways of thinking about finding balance in your life are unhelpful. I explain how they negatively affect your efforts to create a sense of balance, and how to regularly check in with yourself to maintain your balance. Let’s dive right in!

In this episode, I’m discussing managing expectations, how expectations affect your outlook on life, when having expectations may become a problem, and how to build an awareness of your expectations. Let’s dive in!

In this episode, I dig into the topic of stress. I discuss the long term practices you can develop to reduce stress in your life. And I give you a couple of quick tools to help manage stress in the moment.

In this episode, I’m discussing how to use your growing knowledge of dopamine to work with your brain by connecting that dopamine release to activities that serve you. Having an understanding of what’s going on in your brain and body can help you live a higher quality of life.

In this episode, I’m discussing how dopamine plays a role in your mental health and daily life. I’m also sharing a gem tip to help keep your dopamine levels consistent so that you don’t have to keep chasing that high! Understanding how dopamine works is an important part of awareness and learning to work with your brain.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the good news about failure and frustration, how failing and feeling frustrated are natural parts of the learning process, and how they are actually good signs.

In this episode, I’m discussing how to find what fits YOU, how mindset plays a key role in adopting new techniques, and how to be the scientist of your life.

In this episode, we’re breaking down the importance of the thoughts you have behind the habits you’re wanting to build. We’ll use my recent experience of incorporating yoga into my daily self-care practice and how I realized that my old mindset and thoughts were affecting me.

It’s normal for all of us, in our day-to-day lives, to experience a moment of annoyance. It could be for a number of reasons - be it an inconvenience you’ve faced, an encounter with someone that didn’t feel right, or maybe even the thoughts in your head.   In Lisa’s case, her struggle with anxiety and ADHD can sometimes manifest in irritability. Whether you find yourself feeling aggravated, angry, or quick-tempered, this episode is for you as Lisa shares a quick and simple tool to help you alleviate annoyances. The small exercise that she shares in this short and sweet episode is a great way to mitigate the annoyances that you might be feeling so that they don’t fester and linger on throughout your day.   Connect with Lisa: Visit the Website  Schedule a Connection Call with Lisa Join the Anxiety Support Facebook Group Follow Lisa on Instagram    

Have you ever thought to yourself: “Why am I so lazy?” “Why can’t I stick to my routine?” “Why can’t I get started with this habit?” This is a common dilemma. In this episode, Lisa is sharing some quick tips for mastering your daily habits. Inspired by the book “Atomic Habits” by James Clear, Lisa shares the most poignant piece of advice she gained from the book. She talks about the importance of showing up for yourself and turning that into practice. At the end of the day, habits are daily practices of our life. If you struggle with developing and mastering your daily habits, this episode is for you. Tune in as Lisa shares her quick tips, takeaways, and real-life examples of how she’s able to develop healthy habits. Connect with Lisa: Visit the Website  Schedule a Connection Call with Lisa Join the Anxiety Support Facebook Group Follow Lisa on Instagram  

In case you missed it, Lisa sat down with Coach Mark Christopher Neff in last week’s episode. During their conversation, the quote “don’t expect yourself in other people” that Mark mentioned really stuck out and resonated with Lisa.   So in today’s episode, Lisa is getting vulnerable as she shares real-life examples of how she practices the coaching tools and techniques she teaches. She discusses the process of acceptance and recognition of other people’s differences and how you can honor that while avoiding tension. She shares examples from her real-life application of these coaching tools and techniques in instances with her family. But more importantly, she shows by example that practicing these tools and techniques is not about perfection, but consistent progress.   This episode is a great reminder that you aren’t alone in your journey, no matter how tough it might feel right now. Connect with Lisa: Visit the Website  Schedule a Connection Call with Lisa Join the Anxiety Support Facebook Group Follow Lisa on Instagram  

Today’s episode is a special treat since Lisa is interviewing her very first guest on Love This B!tch. Mark Christopher Neff is a life coach and author of the book “Diving Into Darkness to Find Light”.   In this conversation, Mark shares his journey through life, including the obstacles he’s faced in regard to his sexual identity, addiction, cancer, grief, career burnout, and mental health. Lisa and Mark discuss the lifelong practice of meditation and self-betterment, taking power back and making a change in your life, and why being more open and vulnerable allows you more freedom to be yourself.   If you’re looking for inspiration to truly honor your journey while building a healthy relationship with yourself, this episode is for you. Tune in to hear Mark’s incredible story and learn how to honor and have more compassion for the path you’re on. Connect with Lisa: Visit the Website  Schedule a Connection Call with Lisa Join the Anxiety Support Facebook Group Follow Lisa on Instagram Connect with Mark: Find Your Light Now Facebook Group   Diving Into Darkness to Find Light: Poetry and Vignettes on Life's Journey to Authenticity