He was polite... and poison. On paper, he was kind, thoughtful, and said all the right things. But somewhere between the compliments and the check, I realized: niceness isn't the same as emotionally healthy. In this episode, I'm breaking down the date that looked great from the outside but left me feeling confused and disconnected. Let's talk about why charm can't replace accountability, and why being "nice" isn't enough. This one's for anyone who's ever second-guessed their gut because someone seemed too polite to be a problem.
The talking stage is cute... until you realize you've never talked about anything real. In this episode, we're diving into the conversations you need to have early on — before the feelings get deep and the red flags get harder to ignore. Fromparenting styles to credit scores, conflict resolution to sexual expectations... we're covering it all. This is your dating blueprint for building real connection with clarity.
Today — cue the confetti — is my birthday! Yep, another year around the sun, still single in my late thirties, and guess what? I love my life.
Society loves to act like being single past a certain age is some kind of tragic plot twist, but I see it as an open-ended adventure — one where I get to write the rules. So in this episode, we're diving into how to romanticize the single life at any age, how to stop waiting for a plus-one to start living fully, and why your solo era might just be your magical one yet.
Last year's dating escapades were a ride — from the unexpected reunion with Elevator Guy to receiving the most... creative (read: cardboard) bouquet I've ever laid eyes on. But with every wild, awkward, and hilarious moment came a lesson (or ten) and I'm spilling them all in this episode.
Join me as I reflect on what worked, what absolutely didn't, and why I'm feeling so ready for a fresh start this year. New energy, new perspective — let's go!
Join Tracey as she discusses the powerful way betting on yourself and doing things scared can lead to a transformative life.
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Join Tracey as she discusses traveling to Peru, experiencing first class, and hiking the Inca Trail — including why the toilets in Peru are different and the beautiful insights she gained from the 4 day hike.
Join Tracey as she prepares to set off for Peru on a solo adventure and shares her fears about hiking the Inca Trail. Listen in as she discusses the importance of doing things scared and leaning into courage over confidence.
In this empowering episode, we explore the transformative power of self-advocacy and how choosing ourselves cultivates self love and confidence. Listen in as Tracey shares personal experiences that has challenged her to use the power of her voice to speak up for herself.
In this episode, we dive into the art of self-advocacy and how it plays a crucial role in preventing burnout and resentment. Join Tracey as we explore practical tips and real-life stories about setting boundaries, communicating needs effectively, and finding balance in both personal and professional life.
Join us as we kick off our "Self-Care Summer" series, dedicated to helping you invest in yourself and embrace the season of sunshine and growth. In this introductory episode, we'll explore the essential pillars of self-care, self-love, self-wellness, and self-confidence.
Discover practical tips and inspiring stories on how to nurture your mind, body, and soul throughout the summer. From mindfulness practices and wellness routines to boosting your self-esteem and finding joy in everyday moments, we've got you covered.
Don't miss out on this transformative series—make sure to follow and join us for a radiant Self-Care Summer!
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We're a month late, but let's chat about Mental Health! We're not alone when it comes to mental health and it is not a topic we have to be ashamed of. Join Tracey as she dives into her story about her mental health struggles and why it's such an important topic to be open about.
Listen in as Tracey finally gets closure on elevator guy and analyzes what she thinks actually happened between the two of them.
Listen in as Tracey catches up on the latest with elevator guy — and why we think he might have an avoidant attachment style. In this episode, we discuss the different attachment styles and how they can show up in your relationships.
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In this episode Tracey recounts the latest with "elevator guy" and discusses the power of trusting your gut + learning to choose yourself. She dives into the surprising findings from the Attachment Style Quiz and the new audiobook she's listening to.
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Listen in to this episode to hear more about anxious attachment styles in the early phases of dating and how to treat dating like a job interview.
In this episode, we delve into the misconception of searching for "the spark" in relationships, advocating instead for the value of effort. Join Tracey as she discusses an upcoming date, why she's excited for it, and the reasons why Love Is Blind cast members were looking for the wrong things in the pod.